Modern Family Gets Therapized 

One thing I like is that Phills dislike for his kids having sex is equal. He also isn't thrilled when Luke starts to become active. So it is not a gendered thing with Phil. Which it often is for others like "No my daughters can't have sex and oh cool go ahead son have sex!"

Therapy is so beneficial, especially for families. I love how Alex actually sought out therapy herself when she's going through a stressful time, leading for Phil to remark that she's a "Self Cleaning Oven." Most sitcoms wouldn't even entertain the notion of getting professional help.

my dad slapped me in the face four times when he found out i had lost my virginity. a few weeks later, i told my aunt that i wasn't a virgin anymore and her first question was if my boyfriend was respectful, then if we used protection and then she told me that i could always count on her if i ever needed anything. i cried so much when she told me those things. i had never gotten that kind of support. punishing me didn't stop me from having sex again, it only added a lot of guilt, shame and complicated my relationship with sex.

"I trust you" might be the single most positively impactfull thing a parent can say. Phil might be a doofus (and ye gawds, there are some glaring issues with the dumb dad trope), he is a good man. He is the middle aged guy version of Rose from Golden girls

I love how emotionally intelligent Haley is. She can be really dumb but she was so in sync with phill

One of the BEST talks I got about sex was from my dad when I was 14 (this is 2001 when there was still a HUGE taboo around talking about it, and either subconscious or *very* conscious pushes for abstinence, and when fathers were a lot less willing to have these convos with daughters). My dad said to me to make sure I’m ready and make sure the only reason is because I want to, BUT to not mix “wanting to” with “feeling like I have to.” He told me it should be “biological urges” (which at the time made me go “ew Dad!”) and not because I think it will make someone like me, or I’m afraid my partner is gonna dump me, or because all my friends are doing it, things like that. And of course to use protection and respect boundaries. To this day, that is still the best sex talk I think I’ve EVER heard from anyone, and something I want to emulate when I have children.

With my parents, sex is like Bruno. We don’t talk about it.

You should do dating, relationships, and "the one" with "How I Met Your Mother". Each character is a whole lot of therapy.

I think I learned more about sex from the internet than I did from any people 🤣 Even to this day talking about it is extremely uncomfortable unless I'm talking to my partner

I don’t think I ever had ‘the talk’ from my parents or at least I can’t remember having one but when my dad found out he asked if we were being safe and asked about if I’d looked at different forms of protection and even asked if I wanted him to come with me when I got my implant put in. It was actually quite a relief because it felt like I can go to my parents to talk about anything without being worried

Virginity is an over rated social construct. Are you fundamentally different after you eat a new food for the first time? No…just more experienced. Same thing with sex.

My grandmother started educating me early about sex and she always said, “You can talk to me when you become sexually active.” However, when that time came, she cried, she guilted me and made a huge deal about it. I was nineteen and honestly her thoughts about sex, especially for women, were very backwards and outdated. Her ideas about sex were not at all inline with what I experienced.

My parents were always super open about every kind of topics and I’m so grateful for that. When I lost my virginity I was 19 and I told my parents the next day. My dad just said “did you use protection? Was he respectful?” And my mom said “welcome to the club. We’re gonna go the doctor later” 😂. I’m glad and grateful to have a good relationship with them ❤️

Im 26 and I constantly want to know how parenting should be done. I do not have kids but videos like this burn hope in me that there are good, understanding, caring people out there

My school mostly talked to me about sx. My mom didn't have the best basis to talk to me about it but she really really tried. And she was always open and honest with me. She wasn't taught about her period so she researched and brought me library books and talked me through absolutely everything she could because she wanted me to have the least confusing experience with navigating my body that she could facilitate. She never tried to shame me for anything that happened to me or for anything I chose to do or not do. When I moved, my mom helped me pack all of my books and did not question my sxual health collection. Just packed them into boxes like there wasn't anything educational or graphic there. She is loving and accepting and really tried her best with me.

This is such a great show. My comfort show. My mom and I talked a lot about this subject when I was a teenager. I could talk to her about anything. My dad a little, because I was his little girl it was different. He heard stories from other dads about there 14 or 16 years old having sex. The one thing my parents told me, be with someone you love. I also knew about contraception, got the birth control pil and my boyfriend got condoms and talked to him mom about it. We had gotten to know each others bodies before sex. It was very natural and well thought out for our first time ever. I had a very good experience. My dad and I had a high five moment when I told him: "I am almost 3 years older then you when I lost my virginity". He laughed, we high fived. He was happy. Why you may ask, my dad was 22 when he lost his virginity and I was almost 25😄👍

"No, she's broken." I know that line is supposed to be over the top and funny, but it hit me so hard. My dad alienated me when he heard that I spent the night with a guy and decided that I was no longer a virgin (which I was). Although he "got over it" and we're on good terms now, we never had a healthy conversation about it and I have no indication that he doesn't still believe that I'm broken. Knowing that the person who used to be proud of you, who you used to trust your life with, believes that your broken, or dirty, or irreversibly ruined; it's really hard to ever feel safe with that person again, and my relationship with my dad has never been the same. Parents, your kids may disappont you, but please be careful what you say in the heat of the moment. Even if things get smoothed over they may never move past a few spoken words that you've long forgotten.

My dad said the exact same thing right before I turned 18 and he really respected it

7:00 I agree with this. I grew up in a country where sex is often discouraged and always portrayed as a sin. So, when I hit puberty, I learned sex education on my own which did not start well.

My 6yo son just got super curious about it and asked his dad a lot of detailed questions about how babies are made. So he ended up explaining it fully, and my son just laughed and asked me "Do you like it, mom? I wanna try!"😂 I just love that he can be so comfortable with the topic! His 8 yo sister has been happy with a more abstract explanation for now, I think it’s very individual what they are ready to hear. But keeping that conversation open is so valuable! I wish I had that growing up.

This made me cry. When my dad found out about me becoming sexually active he ignored me for weeks.

I didn’t get a talk.. when my parents found out, they didn’t speak to me for a week straight.. I now know what to do with my children. I will not make them feel ashamed for doing something that is normal and something that is part of life.

I'm a mother of 3 girls. We adopted our oldest at 13 lived with us mostly since she was 9. Her mom got pregnant at 15. She was way more "worldly" so to speak then my younger daughter. I knew I needed to head off any issues that could come. So I had multiple conversations with them together and sperate. I wanted them to not be shamed but knowledgeable. As a single mom at the time it was hard. Now me and my husband have a young daughter (6), and just answer any questions at her level and will continue to remind her that even hard questions can be brought to me or Daddy.

Great video! Since you guys are in the therapizing sitcom families mode, can I suggest Boy Meets World if you've seen that? I feel like the way that the show portrays attachment issues as a result of past trauma in some episodes surrounding Shawn's character resonated with a lot of people . Another route would be to look at Cory and Topanga's relationship - people kind of herald it as a gold standard for relationships but I always wondered if they were really as healthy as people made them out to be.

This is so important! I want to add though that part of "the talk" should include that it's equally ok to be asexual (not experience sexual attraction). It can be really hard getting through the sex talk when you don't experience that type of attraction and are navigating whether or not you are interested in becoming sexually active.

thank you. I like the idea of not just "the talk" but several age appropriate talks as a young person matures. Never happened for me and I'm single and nearly 60

I did the same thing as your dad. I started slowly every few years talk to my daughter about sex and bodies..and I also got "Eww", and "Ok, thanks mom, you can stop now" =) When she started dating in her older teenage years, I walked up to her with a condom...and told her to never be without one. I didn't think I was a cool mom...I was just a scared mom. How could I keep her safe? That was foremost my thought. If she could realize that I would talk about anything and it wouldn't faze me, and that hopefully she would come to me. But I wasn't dumb. At her age I was sexually active...but I didn't have a condom in my pocket.

I unfortunately grew up in a single mom Christian home. So I learned everything from the internet and the school bus. I watched a lot of porn in my younger years, got caught and was told “it’s wrong, don’t do that” but NEVER got the sex talk. Surprisingly I still didn’t have sex for the first time until I was 18. I use to want to wait until marriage but I know that’s only cause that’s what the church wanted us to believe in. I do think I’d have been better off if my mom would have talked to me about sex and periods at a younger age. I was so unprepared for it all. She still did her best though.

I wish my mom could hear your advice when I was a teen

As a former teen mom, I have been talking about this pretty early with my kid. I also took a human sexuality course in college and was surprised how much kids know and try to discover at early ages. Every year I would expand a little more based on what was age appropriate. Thankfully my teen’s HS had a really good health program and not only did they discuss sex Ed but also body autonomy, consent and healthy v toxic relationships (either romantic or not). I’ve never said that waiting til marriage is something I believe in but if it happens great (they may not even get married who knows) but I said you should have this experience when your mind and body are truly ready and should strive for your partner to be the same. I’ve always explained that sex can be complicated as far as mentally and physically but it’s normal and if they are ever in trouble I would want to be the first person they came to. That’s the best we can do.

Yeah, my mom did EVERYTHING wrong when it came to discussing sex. Her only thoughts on the subject were don't do it until marriage. I (female) wasn't allowed to date or have any kind of social life until college, and when I got my first boyfriend, my mom started calling me a slut even before we started having sex. Not to mention she always invaded my privacy by opening my mail, listening in on my phone calls, & going thru my room. I never could trust her or wanted to confide in her after all that, but she didn't comprehend why.

My parents were very much like yours where we had appropriate but open discussions about sexuality. I knew I could come to them with questions and not feel judged. The benefit of this went far beyond just giving me an accurate and healthy view of relationships because, when the worst possible thing happened and I was sexually assaulted, I was able to spill everything to my parents despite the fear & shame the assault left me with. I knew I had a safe and loving support system who helped me through the trauma because they built that foundation of trust.

My dad vandalized my stuff, forced me to take a pregnancy test and shut shamed me. Pretty sure he still stands by it. No apology. I wonder why I don't like my parents?

My mom was perfect in our communication about sex, but I was still assaulted and abused by my first boyfriend anyways. I waited a long time to tell her everything because it was difficult for me to process and I knew she’d take it personally, saying things that would hurt me while I was still trying to heal. Sometimes I feel guilty for that

As a member of the curch who chose tô bem baptized at 24th, This is amazing, is mercy, love, Trust, respect, all with Quality information and a healthy aproach. Bravo!

I'm a biology teacher in Germany and we give quite good sex education here I think. I believe that it is okay to be not so comfortable in having long conversations about sex with your children. I believe that you can also tell them where they get further information after you told the basics.

Yea!!!!! I'm so happy to hear that someone was able to talk to their parent, especially their father, about sex as they got older. I think is so terrible that people avoid doing that.

My parents never talked to me about it. I'm 23, and I remember that I had a lot of shame and guilt because I didn't understand what was happening. All the information I had was from school, the internet, and other kids...I eventually felt more comfortable with it, but I still have issues I am trying to confront. It is an uncomfortable topic, but you have to talk about it. Don't let your kid go through something that is completely natural, but also scary if you dont know what it is, alone.

When I was 10 years old my mom talked with me about the subject, openly and freely any question I had. Because my dad is not a person you can talk with, and in school we had sexual education but they didn't allow us to ask questions. As if this subject is something shameful and it's not. Shameful and horrific is to do something with anyone in force. That is what my mom always told me iron rule- Any sexual act is okay to do only when your partner agree to it, no means no. And I guarded on the rule anytime I came in contact with a girl in my life. I will keep doing so as long as I can do something. And I will say these words to my kids "free will only." I will not be like my father, my kids will be able to talk with me.

I was also incredibly lucky to have a parent that was completely open for any discussion regarding sex. And from a very young age, she always referred to body parts by their given name and not some goofy slang.

My dad used to volunteer for a children helpline. They had always brochures lying around and he would bring them home. I learned everything about contraception, sexual orientation, peer pressure, drugs and STDs from there. They were especially for kids/teenagers. Some were made up as a comic or as a diary so they weren't boring. I especially appreciated the "everybody has their own pace" message. I think I prefered them to to talking with my parents. I was very well informed for my age.

That episode always been my favorite. It shows a beautiful relationship between Phil and his kids

i told my dad the day after that i had sex for the first time. We had several talks about sex before hand and his main thing was to tell me 1: Dont let anyone make you feel like you have to do anything you dont want to do and 2: If you are going to have sex with a partner who can impregnate you use a condom. When I told him I had sex with my boyfriend at the time he asked ne if I used protection. I told him yes and he gave me a fist bump lol. My dad never made me feel like having sex was a bad thing he just wanted me to be safe.

I wish we could shift the language we use, and talk about our "sexual debut," rather than "losing one's virginity."

I get so sad when I see kids who have parents that are "don't tell them anything about sex, including how their reproductive systems work, and they won't have sex". Hint to these parents: most of the time it doesn't end the way you think it will. These are biological drives, and ignoring them isn't the answer. Educating them early in an age appropriate way, laying out the facts, including, whether you believe in it or not--birth control, while backing it up with your values. All the cards need to be on the table. Trust that you have raised them well.

I mean most cases were finding out parents (men and women) know little about sexual health and relationships even from what they were taught from their parents or peers and school. So I found yes it’s good to start talking with them about these things early but some parents aren’t even educated in some states with proper sex Ed and continuing to this day it’s still happening so we can’t all rely on that. If parents would work with their doctors, and school boards to get proper sex Ed. Even for themselves to help their families it would all trickle down to be a healthier place. You can def see this in real time watching doctor mama jones watch a live stream of a school board about her videos being shown in sex Ed, looking at the comment of the parents in the stream is just astounding of not just the ignorance but willing ignorance for better sexual education. That’s why kids turn to videos on RU-vid bc school, parents, and peers fail them. It’s just sad.

My grandma basically told us as soon as we could ask. She just never told us any other story. This was in Germany though. So basically I knew how sex works when I was 5 at least the basics. As did most kids my age. I think making such a big deal out of sex is a very American thing. It didn’t hurt us. We learned all the details about safer sex and stuff obviously later in school when we were 12. I will do the same when I get kids, why make up stories when you can just tell the truth.

I don't think my parents discussed sex with any of us kids. I know most of what I learned I got from the internet, but I'm also asexual (and aromantic). I'm lucky enough to have discovered these terms in my early teenage years and when I found out what they meant, everything clicked into place. My parents have 6 kids including me. I genuinely cannot guess which one of us is gonna give them a grandkids first (it sure as heck isn't gonna be me 😆)

My parents were very standoffish about sex, they didn't like talking about it at all, the only sex talk I got was a book literally called "where babies come from". I came to my mum in my late teens to ask her about a medical issue related to sex and just got shamed for even trying which messed me up a lot. However! I made sure that my younger brother always felt comfortable coming to ask me questions about sex and relationships so he wasn't in the same position I was.

My mother shamed the hell out of me when she caught me with a girl

I had the similar talk with my mum at 8 or 9. But this early one ended up being super important because it's not just about sex with another person...but what changes are happening in your body. Because I very unexpectedly got my period before I hit puberty at 10...I freaked out but I had already had the talk...and I knew it was normal even if it was happening at the wrong time (for my body...some people this is totally normal). Not only did I have an idea of what was happening...through sudden weight gain, debilitating pain and just my body deciding 'yeh nah you're,just gonna bleed from now on. Be careful going swimming cause you can't use tampons. Cool that you just learned to climb a tree to ride a bike...should learned those at 8 cause you're an adult now'. (It's just what it felt like at the time). My mum talked me through every insecurity, there for me through every painful period and trip to the hospital...she was amazing. But yeh the basics was such an important talk and the ongoing support stopped me from absolutely spiralling

Can u get therapized the modern family episode where Hayley starts dating a way older guy!!! please it will be so interesting to see your take on it

My dad recently admitted that he didn't even like me anymore when he found out I was having sex with my boyfriend of the time... I'm still processing that confession. I don't know if my relationship with my dad will ever be as good as it was before... Honestly, the person I always went to about sex, or even issues with my (female) body, and the person I went to first, was my my best friend. She's always been there for me on a level my parents may never be.

I led a pretty sheltred life and when I went to college one the classes I had to take was sexual humanities. Our textbook was "The Guide to Getting It On." It wasn't the Encycopedia Britannica but damn was that a hell of an introduction into sexuality lol.

I never talked to my parents about sex (or drugs or alcohol), it just didn't come up, I also think she always trusted me to do the right thing, I know that because there are things she didn't trust me to do right and she would not keep quiet about those, still doesn't and I'm 38. I learned about in sex ed class, which my mom signed off on when I was in middle school, and also from my older siblings.

I'm just waiting to hear the deed has been done any day now, but in the mean time... I've talked to my children from a young age about their own bodies, self pleasure, exploration, consent, and all that stuff because they're vulnerable and the more they know about what is right and wrong means they can better protect themselves and feel hopefully comfortable to come to me for help. My 11yo daughter randomly asked me about breastmilk this week which lead me down the sex talk and STD and condom road. Interesting before bed chat anyway

It’s very important for parents to be open about it, because it’s a very important part of life. You can’t have an honest relationship with your children without being able to talk about sex. My mom and I always talked about things, but when I started dating I also started to hide things from her because she got scared and treated me differently. Later, I came back home from an exchange and I told her I had sex with someone, she was very understanding and we could have trust again. If you don’t have trust then something could be up about their sex health or life and they would be all alone not knowing what to do because they can’t talk to you about it and seek help.

When you are from a place where being sexually active, let alone be talking about sex is seen as if you are a characterless person and doesn't deserve anything good, this episode made me cry so much. It was so beautiful to watch how Phil dealt with it. He is an amazing dad

We need more Modern Family on this chanel😍

"who goes to their parents with sex questions?" Me, or not questions, but i needed to share with my mom that i went thrugh some shit and needed to go a professional because i cant have it physically anymore.. i felt it a hughe burden to go thrugh it alone, so i talked with her about it..

Question for you. What if my values are different from my husbands? Husband grew up in a Christian household. I did not. We waited until marriage because i loved him, but i don't want to tell my two girls that they also have to wait. Husband on the other hand - wants them to wait and is kind of pushing it onto my older one. HELP

My mom was always uncomfortable with having those conversations with me and my dad was definitely not one to feel comfortable having those conversations. I definitely got my information from other sources, but I waited until I was 17 (although it was not a good experience) and I think a few months after I told my mom. She reacted I think the best way she could, which was “thank you for telling me, yes we can get you into the doctor and get you birth control”. We didn’t really talk about it after that, but knowing she knew gave me a lot of relief. I don’t know when my dad found out I was sexually active or if he just assumed I was after moving in with my now husband. I will say that I wish I had an adult to talk to about it with before hand and I hope that I can be that for my kids when they’re older.

My dad also gave me the talk when I had my first bf, super casual while we were driving somewhere. It ended with "as long as your safe" - that I feel is a good sentiment.

I don't understand why people don't want to talk about sex with their parents. I was not able to talk to mine about it, because they did not want to talk about the subject. But I have being talking to my daughter about sex since she is about 10 years old. I like to think she would ask me anything if she needs to. I think that is part of a healthy relationship.

I wish they didn't use that term 'virginity'.. It's a really small thing probably, and I know this is a pretty old show, but still, it just bothers me. Other than this, I just love the characters! 🌸

My mom kicked me out when I was 19 when she found out I was sexually active, (and called me a lot of terrible names)... it damaged our relationship. I'm. 41, and we still haven't fully recovered. I'm still working through the deep abandonment wounds from that ordeal. And she's never taken responsibility for her actions, so I struggle to forgive.

Loved this and would love for you to react to Burt and Kurt from glee having the talk season 2, episode 15. Throughout glee, their dynamic is amazing.

I LOVE that you encourage parents to talk to their kids from early ages on! :) It's so important!

Please do one on oitnb there is so much to unpack

The phrase "they need to not be shamed" hits hard just remembering how my mom shamed me and forced me to tell my dad to his face 🤦

I never needed to get that talk because I'm asexual and I was never interested in that but I am having fun reading the comments.

Can you do Marshall and Lily from HIMYM please? :D

Phil is one of my favorite fictional guy characters. ❤❤❤

As someone who is about to become a parent but was raised in a very religious household where, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" was the extent of the emotional discussion about intercourse. My parents were great at explaining mechanics but very shame filled when it comes to the emotional side. It lead to me staying in unhealthy relationships because I worried no one else would want me. I want to try to do better with my kid but admittedly freeze and get very embarrassed at talks about sex. Going to do what I can to work through it so my kid can be powered to make healthy choices.

Something I do wonder is like is there a sex performance class? Like what the hell do you actually do during sex? 😭😭 I know that sounds like the craziest question but really like wth

My mom found out because the cat took the condom out of the garbage can and tried to eat it. She was about to get mad at me and then I told her that I had gotten on birth control and had STI test. Got the HPV vaccine and I used a condom. She took a big breath and said God damn it. I was hoping to be mad at you. Well, I'm happy you're being safe next time make sure the cat doesn't get the condom. That's not how I want her to go

Yessss! Finally Modern Family ☺️ So excited! It's such a gold mine, that you could probably do a tone of videos on them (and I really hope you do haha). Thanks for this reaction! Brilliant, thoughtful and educational as always!

My dad slammed me into a wall when I was 18 and demanded to know if I knew what spermicide was (even though it isn't that effective and isn't great for women's health), then told me that if I had sex, I could leave the house. I am 27 and terrified of intimacy, as I am now financially reliant on my family (long story) and can't afford to lose my home.

I was very open about my sex life with my mom as well, because she always made it known that I could just like your father. I knew many friends that didn’t have that open relationship with their parents and kept so many secrets from them. I realized how Lucky I was to be able to have the closeness I had with my mom

My mom was always really good about talking about periods and pregnancy, but when it came to sex she was horrible. My mom’s beliefs about sex were bizarre, and she caused a lot of trauma. I sometimes wonder if she had some kind of innocence fetish, since she would freak out if I knew anything about sex, and would pretend she didn’t even know the most basic things until after she got married. She would act like I was dirty, or like I had some sort of forbidden knowledge that a good girl wouldn’t have just because I did have that basic knowledge that I had learned about in sex education classes at school. I had sex for the first time in my late teens, and I lived in constant terror that she would find out. She would have eaten me alive. I didn’t tell a living soul about it for years, not even my best friend. That sexual relationship was so complicated and I could have really used some help and advice, but my mother’s beliefs and behavior around sex was too off the rails for me to risk her ever finding out.

Love the video, I also feel like Alex is really relatable. Curious, if we could get a valuation of jinxs mental health from arcane

My parents never talked to me and my siblings about anything. I had no idea how to or not to get pregnant. I lived in a tiny town with no resources. I listened to my boyfriend and got pregnant at 17. I didn't believe in abortion and ended up keeping my daughter. I was a good mom even being young. I had my daughter at Planned Parenthood at 15 when I found out she was sexually active. I ended up not getting married until almost 30 and my daughter was 14 when I had my second child.

Jono, you need to react to Dr. Jean Milburne, Gillian Anderson's character on Sex Education! Such a good show, and it really does a sweet job of normalizing talking about all things regarding sexuality

ok seriously why we are talking about sex right now since I been through a sexual child abused when I was a teenager while my parents are married back in Hamilton to Fort Erie & I wish i could tell u the hold story right now but it is too inappropriate to talk about it while u are doing a RU-vid video & upload it on RU-vid & true story that my stepfather family hate me because I’m different than anyone else due of my last name because I have autism & life disability & I keep thinking about myself that I don’t belong to my family anymore & I should be in a foster home instead of being in a family that don’t care about dealing with autism & disability kids & young adult like me & my gender is half girl & half boy due of my parents marriage & now I’m 22 year old that have autism & disability & have no family trust issues

PLEASE react to Meredith or Cristina's story in Grey's anatomy. Or any character of the show. I'm obsessed with your videos, thank you for existing.

My grandmother was always very open about sex. About everything. So I was always able to go to her about anything and she talked about it like it was nothing to be ashamed about. It’s important to have someone like that in your life. And I still talk to my grandma about sex all the time. It’s a natural thing. And I’m glad she was there for me always 💜

Okay . . . although I've barely watched Modern Family, I do get the sense that Phill is well-intentioned, and parents have had reactions that were much worse than his--as some of the other comments illustrate. But seriously, could we leave our Puritan baggage behind and move the hell into the twenty-first century already? Having a daydream that his daughter's doll (i.e. his daughter herself) is "broken" because she has lost her virginity? Jesus Christ. They need some feminism in their lives. Edit: Okay, just watched the rest of it. Glad that Jonathan doesn't endorse this attitude.

please please do one video about the relationship of the main character of the edge of seveteen and her best friend

Thank you for this episode. I think there was at least a bit of healing for me thanks to your words.

My mom sex talk with me was, "Don't do it before marriage." She was Catholic and her older daughter(my older sister) got pregnant at 16, so when I was about 14-15, she just told me to not have sex before marriage. That's it. No other explanation. Just don't do it before you get marry. So I had to learn about it from friends at school and sex education in high school.

My parents' strategy was to give me 5 books about the topic (I read a lot). They said it was important I looked into those and feel free to ask them any questions if I had them. I didn't have any questions. I understood my period when it came and knew exactly what to do. Our public school system is also very clear and thorough at explaining this topic every year in science class. My family doctor also kept an eye out for my puberty and our public Healthcare system has a full program to advise teens on this. I am a fully grown woman now, sex is a great and important part of my life, I have zero complexes and no issues with it on any front. Education is key.

Modern family is great! Do more if possible 🙂

My mum was surprisingly chill about me loosing my virginity, I remember I told her me and my boyfriend at the time were gonna do it because I was so nervous. She was obviously shocked and worried because I was 16 BUT one day she went out and brought me some condoms. At the time I was like "omg why did you do that, that's so embarrassing!" but I was so thankful because that was her way of accepting, protecting and looking out for me. Not once did she judge or shout at me. I'll forever remember that. My dad on the other hand still doesn't know and i'm now 21 HAHAHA.

Different but related topic. This isn't a show I normally watch but it was just on in the background. It was the oldest daughter unexpectedly getting pregnant and it was Jay helping Phil come to terms with that. It was shortly after I had my unexpected pregnancy. It was so random yet helpful.

Virginity is a social construct and can be damaging. I was sexually assaulted a lot when I was growing up. From 18 months old to 8 or nine years old. My father was one of them. I thought that I wasn't worth as much, as a partner who was a virgin. It wasn't my fault that it happened and I felt that it forever decreased my value. The idea of virginity, devalues people whose first experience was sexual assault and that isn't ok or healthy at all. I didn't have anyone who I could talk to about sex. I learned a lot about birth control from my mother, because she gave birth to 6 children. 4 of which were unplanned pregnancies and she told which method of birth control failure resulted in each of my siblings and me. I may learned about birth control from my mother, but that was the only good thing that her over sharing taught me. I was 6 years old and my sister sexually assaulted me, my mother though that it was hilarious. If she found out that I'd had a sexual experience, she wanted as much detail as possible and she would ask, " what it felt like." After I moved out of my parents home at 18 years old, I made an appointment at Planned Parenthood for birth control. All the the options were explained to me. I was also able to get free condoms. I was the one that my younger brothers came to advice on birth control and condoms. They couldn't let my mother know that they were sexually active, with out giving up thier privacy completely. My mother often said that my youngest brother was a virgin and that it was something that she valued. Virginity as a concept is extremely damaging and I wish that it didn't exist.

Speaking of... could you do some episodes about the series Sex Education? It'd be awesome. Thank you so much, I love your channels!

I always wondered if you’d ever consider watching Elliot and Diane from horizons monsters cause they are VERY open about it

My parents talking about sex: "No" Me: learning about it from all the wrong places They were Silent Generation. Aptly named now that I think about it.

Please react to comedians talking about mental health, Taylor Tomlinson has bipolar and she talks a lot about this

So first off, it’s highly disgusting. He talk to you about that at nine years old. But secondly, this is coming from a guy who NEVER got the talk. I’ve got 10 million siblings as far as I know NONE of us got to talk guys or girls. It just wasn’t something you discussed. The only thing that was ever taught is you don’t do it before marriage! so I knew literally nothing about it. I was going to a new church and the youth leader trying to be this new cool guy. Had these play, scripts written out about the story of Joseph and because it was Baptist Church everything had to be alliterated. So I don’t remember the other sayings, it was not so safe XYNZ but because it was alliterated, we get down to the part of potiphar‘s wife he used the phrase “not so safe sex” which meant LITERALLY nothing to me. That word meant absolutely zero to me. I just thought it was a cool play script. I’ve got 10 million siblings. We always put on various plays and skits because we’ve got the kids for it so I gathered up a bunch of copies and brought it home and was showing it around. My mom wanted to see it, she looked at it. She absolutely flipped out screaming and everything. How dare they be teaching that at church? How dare they blah blah blah blah blah blah blah that is not the church place! Admit literally nothing to me. We ended up leaving the church because of that, but still we never got the explanation of what the heck she was talking about. All we knew was that it was EVIL to use that word. So since it meant nothing to me over the next couple years whenever I would see that word pop up at some grocery store, magazine or something it would immediately catch my attention! And then, eventually, the Internet comes around and becomes popular/affordable enough that we could afford it, so I discovered, I decided to search that word and boy Howdy did I discover THAT word! And before too long, I wasn’t searching that word for the education factor eventually I discovered porn and man that was cool! And before you know it, I am ADDICTED to pornography all because they refused to give us the talk them self. The next step in my discovery to debauchery was yeah I had a lot of fun watching the porn, and it was definitely fascinating, but I hadn’t discovered masturbating. How did I discover that you might ask? (I don’t know who the hell would.) I discovered it because instead of giving us the talk, they made us read literature, such as this guy who wrote two books, I kissed dating goodbye and boy meets girl or something like that. Because I wanted to learn all that I could since they never did give me the talk nor was I allowed to take sex ed because I was homeschooled. I did read the literature because I wanted to learn everything I could. But in one of those books he has a chapter talking about How he and his friend discovered their dad‘s dirty magazines and took them up to their treehouse, and how they learned, exploring masturbating together! Not with each other, but they were both learning it simultaneously. And he was so descriptive and graphic in “ Christian book” he actually taught me how to masturbate! Who knows what life would’ve been like if my mother had not flipped out after seeing that word, or making me read a book that was teaching me how to masturbate in order to keep us pure. how absurd!