The real tragedy is that I’m pretty sure they are what you call “trauma-bonded”. For fucks sake they found their happy go lucky pure hearted friend in the gym closet sobbing uncontrollably with his pants around his ankles. You didn’t think it was weird they followed him to a high school that the story says “is far away from home” ? That’s definitely not normal as I’m pretty sure even in Japan all-boys academies are rare and likely expensive. The story hasn’t talked about it in depth but the truth is there was actually three victims that day. I can’t even fucking imagine that horror finding your friend that way.
I'm not there yet in the video, but I'm looking forward to see tsubasa be told off. for her to victim blame tsubasa was really disgusting. and it hurts too, cause kaede took that blame too. it hurt to see. this manga is powerful stuff
Remember that some people don't know how to deal with their emotions properly. Some people lash out in anger or in stressful situations everyone has their own emotions and in this people who are able to let out their emotions like this are Strong and not victim blaming
@@endgamemega8388 theres a difference between having no control of your emotions and having no control over your actions. Instead of talking to him about these emotions, being physically repulsed by him, and saying words that borderline is victim blaming such as he’s a man he probably enjoyed it is an action you can very much control. If you believe she has no fault during that then for the love of christ seek mental help. She has a lot of fault. Limiting it to borderline just her emotions wouldnt even encompass half of the issue here. She made it about her, and victim blamed. Wrong is still wrong.
Then I would shun society, as well as make it regret its horrible life choices. Also, everyone that is in this story is a complete and utter dumpster fire and they all need therapy and Jesus, and woe be to anyone that says otherwise on the matter. Come on, say otherwise and see what happens to you, I dare you! (I play Jim Johnson's "Protection" to further drive home the point).
No. They are trauma-bonded. Basically they were victimized vicariously by being the ones to discover their best friend crying and shaking uncontrollably with his pants around his ankles with clear signs of rape. It’s not normal to follow your middle school friend to a far away probably expensive boys high school. They were traumatized too they probably just don’t know it. Not saying they aren’t “brothers” but it’s definitely more than what really close friends would call blood brothers.
@@virtueofabsolution7641 Dude it's no different than being in the army together and going through something awful together and for some reason none of you really talk about it but you are somehow always there when one of you breaks down and helps keep it from getting worse. I've seen stuff like this and it seems necessary for humans to move forward. Some guys I know weren't even in the same squads or units or even divisions and yet they hang out together all the time now that they are out. I know better than to ask after some of what I've seen. It doesn't surprise me to see horrible things outside of military service having the same impact.
@@spaceman6693 Yep. Everyone says that men should be able to cry too, because not crying is toxic masculinity, but when the man does cry, when he does show vunerability. Suddenly the girls are less interested in him. Unlike with women, no one gives a shit a about a man's hurt and trauma. That's just the hard truth.
That femc friend is way off, she really said well he trauma dumped but the femc is the one who escalated it by confronting him about the rumors from middle school. Tbh what she said to him was absolutely horrific, if i was his friend i would have stopped by to and told her to delete his number and never speak him again too
@@RaeontheLeft yeah I was pretty pissed too. Tbf tho I don’t think she knew that her friend had questioned him about it in the first place so I don’t blame her honestly Ok after finishing the video yeah, her friend didn’t know
I'm proud of Kaede speaking up. I know if I was ever assaulted like that I'd take it to my grave and/or respond with very illegal and immoral methods. Being able to admit you were hurt..... It's a superpower for real😞😞😞
@@paxhumana2015 Well she was punished in the manga. But what I meant was doing the same thing to get back wouldn't make me less hurt. I just hurt added more hurt. If that makes sense?
I’m glad the comment section turned into somewhat of a safe space. No matter the gender or person, being sexually assaulted is never ok and for the ones who’s done such things to innocent people………your day will come I can assure you of that.
Mitsuki really is a relationships expert. bro noticed Kaede's change and speaking from his experiences. Asahi and Izumi are really what call Bros for Life or True Homies. Sahara speaking facts right there.
Not gonna lie, I’m surprised how well written this manga is, especially cause it’s not really shown or talked about a lot in media about male rape/sexual assault victims and the traumas.
Hope this never happens to you guys, it sucks bro. You’ll feel like crying when trying to touch a woman, or you’ll immediately decline being asked out. Happened to me I told my bro, I was drinking by myself in my shack cause I didn’t wanna bother my family with my drunkenness later on in night my sisters friend came in since she heard my music. She started talking to me, and I blacked out woke up in my room I felt weird like my chest was hurting. Next day, she came to visit again it felt off and I was playing games in my room. She came in talking casual, asked if she wanted some snacks she said yeah, in moanful way. my body froze up, in my mind I was thinking I should push her away from me. The memories came flooding back to me I felt sick, she left my room I almost cried out because I remember saying no out loud, people even heard me say it…. I just.. I don’t know bro. Y’all stay safe man.
I actually didn't mind mines as much. Maybe cause she wasn't an adult she was just a lot older. Maybe im just in denial but it was a full grown adult before i even realized. How wrong it was. Its so wierd when i see her (family friend). I would never tell anyone tho. Only saying this now cause this is the internet and you were brave enough to pour it all out so thought maybe some solidarity would help.
@@soldierbreedit’s just good you know what she did was wrong. Even if you don’t tell your family, I still think you should put your story out there because it’s guys like you that go unnoticed, giving people the impression men barely get SA’d when in reality they just are more likely to not report😢
I normally don't comment on these but I really respect the author for this one. Not very far in but this is a fairly realistic depiction of that kind of thing.
Finally, a story that shows anyone can be a victim. The premise of him dating after that and building his confidence up throughout the story is amazing. 10/10
She ran into him outside the market then blamed him for something she did like tf you ruined your own life stop tryna push the blame on him just because you SA’d him and tsubasa is frightened because she got stabbed like she took it has some form of atonement for hurting kaede like I don’t feel sorry for you at all even if you did save him
I don't understand her criticism that he pushed her away first. She just said some really awful things like "maybe you liked it". After blaming the victim, is the victim expected to embrace her and welcome her in? That's why i don't understand how all the characters walked away saying "oh good point" when it's entirely false.
Imma spoil everyone. After thag chapter is the last of kaede and tsubasa's love story. The author concluded it. Men i was expecting a redemption arc for them to be back together, my delusional mind are now crumbled as they both still carry trauma. 😢
Honestly no matter how you look at it, its better for them to be apart They both felt 'off' after the mutual trauma dump, signaling to the reality that they cant properly carry another persons problems while they still have theirs. but the reaction of the FMC after she got the full picture of MC's actual trauma she felt disgusted not to the culprit, but the victim himself, burning any bridge of trust and comfort the MC could of had. Once you experience such a thing you know you cant easily go back to such a person as there will just be a fresh fear of worry that anything you vent about will make you blamed or get em upset again, which creates a toxic relationship for one party of the relationship if not both parties
That's how trauma works. You will always carry it. You just get better to keep it away. You can never un-break a shattered vase, just mend it, possibly even stronger than before it broke. But the cracks remain forever.
I was assaulted growing up but never had issues like he has but how dare she treat him like that saying just because hes a guy he essentially wanted it. Thats a sick way to think and if she felt that way she couldve broken up with him why say that to a victims face.
Same for me, got assaulted by my flesh and blood, didn't have any issues, but I'm afraid to tell my parents, mainly because I'm in a country that shuns men for showing weakness
This was a wonderful story that brought a tear to my eye. Everyone would be truly blessed by having two such friends as that of the protagonist. Thank you very much!
To be honest.. i am intrested in these stories or mangas, sorry if i sound weird, but its really intresting to learn the mind of these people, it teaches you to: report, how to act, and what to do, and read what there thinking, the mind is quite intresting, :the childs mind is not that old, its memory will always remember it, due to the mind always remembering what causes your life to 180 TURN.this is the edit: people who suffered such acts are forced (most of the time), children are not that old enough to know what there thinking of, like gaslighting, lies, or tricks to get closer, teachers have AUTHORITY of there students, they cannot just ignore it, like in school, you must listen. If you see this, get therapy or help and sort out on your emotions.
Same I was sa victim as a child twice. And even though parents should tell you about stranger danger they fail to warn you about predators inside the home or family friends which is what happened to me. The manga Bitter Virgin helped me overcome my trauma and if you find it it's from the 90s it has an incredible story I think youd like. It's about a popular guy who is a womanizer who accidentally over heard the confession of a girl he writes off as a prude only to find out that her stepfather had been sa her since she was a child.its dark but is very healing especially for those who have trauma
yells about him rejecting her when she was the one that ran away from him. you cant force someone to have a mental break then claim you were rejected.You dont activley seek to know someones past and then throwup because of it wtf
1:03:57 her friend is such a gaslighting 🐍 YOU TOLD HER TO ASK HIM MORE ABOUT HIS PAST. Even in fiction they always gotta find a way to victim blame the male 🤦🏾♂️
It’s not his fault it’s not. She was an adult and he was a kid. She was a disgusting human being, who took vantage of a kid she’s so disgusting. He’s a kid and she’s an adult and then the other teacher said that he was lucky he’s disgusting to that is nasty he was a kid, and that impacted his life and he was a victim and the girl who blamed him he should feel she should feel ashamed of herself because he didn’t consent to it and she’s going to blame him. He didn’t consent to it at all that lady assaulted him. I hope he goes on a healing journey. I know he did but he needs to go more, because I don’t think that trauma went away so he needs to heal mentally and physically. And talk to your therapist get all of it out of your system don’t let her take. Any thing else just heal. Don’t let her take anything. Don’t let her take nothing
The fact that this actually happens irl and people justify women taking advantage of kids saying “well boys are stronger than women they can overpower them any time plus this is their dream.” angers me. Its as if they see the opposite gender as an NPC they can exploit and not a real human being.
Yeahhh idk I think honestly there's no point when it comes to dating in highschool because ultimately, it's a custom that's supposed to lead to marriage. When you're dating, you should already have your shit together mentally and financially. And a lot of it feels more like a job, a responsibility than it is something that's actually fun. Like, I do find girls attractive but I just feel a lot better alone. And when I'm frustrated about those bad thoughts in my head, the best thing that helps me is just going to the gym. Idk why but just lately, I love breaking prs and listening to heavy metal while lifting. Makes me feel so good afterwards.
I thought that blonde girl from his middle school was about to be the cliché bitchy type, but after watching the whole video Thats my girl, i like her alot 😌
Society is weird today if some kid gets raped by a OLDER woman or his own teacher society would say a male child would have raped a full grown teacher and he would get threats insults everyday of his life and be in hell.
These narratives are so important and they need to be told! There is a surprising amount of depth, insight and compassion in this manga. Not only from the point of view of the survivor, but also from their friends and prospective romantic partners. Even the fact that they show his girlfriend feeling irrational jealousy towards his abuser is so important! I wish there were more cases of this extensive insight in western media. Yes, tales of assault are often told, but it is usually very clear how the audience is intended to react. That is certainly not the case here.
@@nootsmthin that's just because isekaing is the best solution to any problem that has ever existed/exists/will exist and besides, most people just have a skewed view of how things work and make counterintuitive decisions. It's really only you who knows what exactly you need to do to get rid of your problems. I'm not denying that you can't learn skills from others/take advices about how to approach certain things but in the end no one will know better about your scenario than you.
I really like this manga. It's super respectful about the experiences of others with sexual assault. It was also super enjoyable to read (I read it after watching it here.). 9/10 manga for sure.
to the people saying he's gay it's not his fault he's Pure unlike most teenagers and you dont kno how anyone will handle sexual assault he's pure and that's nothing to be ashamed of so stop saying he's "gay" its better than being a wild party im a virgin and a proud one at that so stop making it seem like being assaulted by a woman is no big deal and a good thing and there's nothing wrong with being a virgin i would rather be a virgin than be a wild party like most teenager's also this story hit different i actually felt everything.
Especially with whats happening now.. There is a huge rise of female pdf files doing stuff to not only boys but girls in public schools aswell. Its getting bad..
This is golden cause its very rare, wish it would get anime, showing sexual assault and trauma and challenges men face, and how society downplays it when it happems to boy child unlike girl child At the very least, he had these bros... Many males, domt have though, someone to talk to, someone to sympathize and empathize
Bro dont tell her, she'll get the ick .😭😭😭😭 Edit: Aaannnd she got sad about it and got disgusted LMFAOOOO so fucking selfish and weird for that. Keep that trauma with the bros and your male teacher bra.
I know this story is about children but it’s really not “for” children. You should go back to reading Naruto and One Piece. This author is spot on and real. People can’t always control their feelings and even sometimes unknowingly walk into situations they aren’t equipped to handle. Nobody in this story did anything wrong. Tsabasa is incredibly sheltered. The story even makes a point to contrast her feelings from reading perfect-romance innocent love stories her whole life. Honestly she strikes me as the kind of girl who doesn’t even know that boys have a penis and not just balls. This criticism of the character is wild kid.
@@virtueofabsolution7641 I know this is super irrelevant but one piece (specifically the manga) is not for kids in the dressrosa arc doflamingo was having a a non-consensual sexual relationship and much more
MangaCapped be honest with us man, this is a horror Manga isn't it? because it's giving off that vibe.😰 Never mind I searched it up and oh my God I feel sorry for him 😭
I really love this Manga because it is showing Awarness to the Male victims who got rape by Females and how our so called Society laugh when they hear a Man gets Rape.They say he is lucky or that I wish it was me but Rape is not something where a victim not just feels pain but gets traumatised and victim feels his innerself shattered and then these so called Society either laugh at him or blame him. I am not denying that Females are getting rape but what I am saying even Males are also not immune to this things.
At the risk of repeating other people - Those friends...they are definitely brothers. Defending him like that was real. Victim blaming was crazy and Aya made sure that was known, mad respect. This is written mighty well, I'mma have to go read the actual manga now.
Huh. I read foreward a bit. This is actually an anthology manga, and this story arc is almost over. Wierd that the narrator cut it off so close to the actual finish. Anyway, boy meets the girl again, then the teacher shows up, attacks him, says he liked it, boy says he didn't, and him standing up to his assaulter gives him more courate to live his life, or something, I just skimmed it, so I don't know for sure. Close enough for me.
this is actually where Kaede's arc mostly ends, there's a lil bit more after this where he runs into the FMC again, they reconcile but don't get back together and after that his story ends but the manga does still continue beyond this, as it starts to now focus on his 2 friends instead while Kaede is relegated to a side/background character now, it seems the writer wants to give each of em an arc of their own, currently the manga is still ongoing so it's unknown if the narrative will shift back to Kaede in the future or not
L so L on the main girls friends part she said he trama dumped on her witch is so wrong, first off she asked blatantly after being told by her friend too, and she knows nothing on the haps unless she was told off camera like she was a minecraft youtuber doing some off camera mining she wasn't there wasn't told and doesn't deserve to talk on the situation because she was left out of most Knowlege on the subject, and it makes me mad that both the guys silently agree cause i thought they would show her a piece of his mind because his friend was hurt but no, this author was cooking until then, i am only 1:05:00 minutes in so i hope i go's back too cooking to prove me wrong.
1:28:26 YOOO wtf… it’s almost like I relate to this guy it’s unsettling. Knowing from the back of your head that it's morally wrong to be in a romantic relationship with an older woman but then suddenly her soft-spoken words and feminine personality convinces you and you started to get mixed feelings basically second guessing on whether what you did was the right thing or not let alone if its messed up to catch feelings for her in the first place. God damn the human mind is so complex, yet so weird.
I'm really happy that one of the female characters was startled by the fact that she blamed his trauma on him (1:29:47). I know multiple people in the story said it in different ways, but it's not common for a female to straight up blatantly call someone out for blaming a male victim. usually they are all just "yes men suck" or "he probably enjoyed it".
I relate to this manga a lot and how the way many people treat me because of my trauma. Some help and comfort me and some blame it on me. Honestly this world needs help because this story is so realistic and so many people don't care or understand that.
So this comprises of multiple interconnected story after the seto (and seto and sonohara don't become a couple but now they understand each other ) the next one is about seto friend the guy with black hair with the former idol girl name kanon hope at least one couple get together
So basically women liked him at beggining that was to old and then he just uno reverses at the end and likes older people when hes still in highschool?! this goofy ah plot
Its kind of like stockhome syndrome where people have actually fallen for their abuser but a bit different in this situation from what i can tell He started to respect older comforting figures once he met the all boys counciler(since it seems like he didnt like any adult due to the middle school male teachers response to his situation), but he still has the trauma of girls which got made worse by the FMC after their encounter, possibly causing his brain to cope as hes trying to push himself into the idea of normal, and his only other experience is with a older woman which may of triggered his 'love' of her as a coping mechanism of "i have experienced this, surely this is the norm then?"
