Got my first bra in 5th grade. Some girls develop sooner than others. Parents, never deny your child a basic necessity. Woah I got a lot of replies. Looks like everyone starts at very different times. I think genes and other factors play into that. No matter how young or old you were when you needed a bra, it’s a human right. Like buying underwear, you can’t deny your kid or teen that.
@@rwminzing I wouldn't say bad parenting is say "neglectful parenting" in the sense that this either is neglecting her child's need to shower, and the need for the same child to feel safe in school.
@@Jiayingchua14 “Asian parents “ is not a type or something to flaunt. It shows toxic and uneducated parents. My parents are Asian too but they are the most understanding and kindest parents. They understand me like I am a person of their own age. That’s how normal parents should be.
I relate to this REALLY hard. I think I started 'developing' at 11? But it was only after I turned 18 that my mom and grandma even thought of buying a bra for me. My grandma actually wanted me to wear the smallest size (which would not fit me at all). Then my mom argued about wearing the correct size, then got me a basic bra (32 B) with no padding. My family is really overprotective too. Little did they know, I stole their old bras to wear to school! I only wore it occasionally though, so that my family wouldn't suspect it. My bestie in college was horrified to learn that I don't wear bras lol. She was the one who advised me to wear bras regularly, instead of just a slip/tank top under my regular clothes. I don't get why some families can't even talk about a bra. Your little girl isn't growing up too fast, she needs to have proper support for her developing body.
Same my mom gave me a bra really late she thought i was to young for a bra. But my older sister let me use her old ones. But its just a secret beetween me and my sister
Okay you want to sound like my mom. I got my first bra with pad at 17. I think it was cuz of me. I was kind of awkward whatever my mom picks up the subject of buy ing one. I wear a sports bra. Not a regular one. Because it's way more comfortable and softer for me.
I started developing when I was 8. It’s early for some of you but some started around my age. This was the first step of my puberty stage. I needed a bra since 4th grade but got it at 5th because that’s when I actually really, really needed it. And no, my parents did not make me just suffer and not get a bra. My mom noticed and told me to get a bra when we were at a store. I just got a flat training bra to start with
I started wearing a bra in 5th grade, girls may develop earlier but it still should be a necessity for a bra even if your child doesn't ask for one. Another thing is that in the beginning of this video the girls in the locker room where making fun of her for not having a bra, I don't know what grade this is supposed to be but let me tell you I'm a sophomore in highschool and a lot of girls don't wear bras for many reasons and no other girl makes fun of her for it. Also as a plus size girl i use the stalls to change because of some self esteem issues and some girls just prefer to use the stall to change. Never be ashamed if you don't have a bra on or anything, your human and your body is natural.
in my middle school the teachers don't allow us to get changed in the stall (prob because they don't want the 6th graders being nervous and just having a big line)
@@allision9222 when I was in middle school (from 2014-2017), my gym teachers didn't either. I thought it was to make the stalls empty for people who needed to actually use the bathroom.
I’m 25, and believe me in the early 2010s not wearing a bra in high school was definitely something you’d get a LOT of judgement for. Even bralettes only became popular in the mid 2010s, before that even wearing an unpadded bra was ‘embarrassing’. Things have changed so much, the stigma then was literally so dumb.
I believe I got my very first bra when I was a middle schooler so I was 12 years old, I only wash my bras on delicate cycle, I hang them up to air dry and that’s why I don’t put them in the dryer. My mom doesn’t allow me to go outside the house without a bra on because she would be mad at me. Although she does order bras online for me
This my dad's account btw I can relate so much my mom has forced me to where them since third grade she always asks me if i am wearing a bra she will get mad if I am not wearing one
Just letting you know if she always seems to make you wear bras all day there are more comfortable bras called pajama bras. They’re incredibly comfortable to wear. Just an fyi
Well, why wouldn’t it be? I have sensory issues and am in constant pain if I wear a bra. Nobody should have to live their whole life in pain when it can be so easily stopped. Not everyone’s life and experience is the same as yours. You shouldn’t judge or assume what’s right for you is right for everyone.
I got my first bra at 10😂 it was just a training bra then in 5th grade I got a lightly padded one and then at 8th I got a real bra, I’m honestly so thankful my mom was supportive and never made me feel uncomfortable. So I am so sorry to the people who related so much to this video..
Damn I wanted to cry so bad! I felt so bad for her. I had a strict mom that I'm still seeking approval from for some odd reason and she was like this with me. She wouldn't buy me a real bra, only a sports bra cuz she thought lil girls ves were inappropriate. But of course my baby sister got her way and she got a real bra when it was her time. Totally uncool and unfair
Yeah, I’m 13 now but when I was 11 my mom thought I was too flat for a bra, so my bestie handed me down like 10 bras (she’s 2 years older and way more developed now) and it saved my life in 6th grade 😢
My mum is extremely strict too. She got me my first sports bra at 12 when I was a c cup, now I am 13, a d cup and she still buys me sports bras because I am skinny and she says it would look weird and inappropriate on me
omg my mom is the complete opposite she bought me the most inapropriate cupped lingerie ginormous bra when i was 11 instead of the sports bra i wanted. she said it was because tight ones are bad for your growth and breathing. i am a v ery sporty person so yah
Oh no girl, I have worn bras from age 12 to age 56. I always hated them, especially in summer when you sweat. Then I was in a car accident and suffered a chest wall contusion and bruised ribs and physically couldn't wear a bra for a few weeks because it was too painful. So I wore camisoles under my shirts instead, and it feels so much better! I will never put on a bra again.
You should try a sports bras they feel so much better. When I say sports bras I mean like a light sports bra or even a bralette. Most bras don't actually give you any support unless it's a sports bra though and wearing a bra won't prevent your boobs from sagging as you age.
This is like not letting your daughter wear pads/tampons because it’s “inappropriate”. It’s not inappropriate, it’s a need and the fact that parents like this actually exist is so sad…
If you ever get bullied for not wearing a bra ( like my little sister ) just say "first of all why you looking down there" and my mom literally walked in my room one day and threw bras on my bed and walked away 💀 Edit: and why the heck would you bully someone for what bra they wear💀 I wore lululemon , athleta and target bras and I don't see the problem with a thiftshop bra
@@JenniferSteil28I think it’s only nasty for underwear, bra’s are fine as long as you wash it first because not liquids or anything come out of b0obs unless you have a baby . It’s like handing down a tank top
@@JenniferSteil28true but what if someone tried on a bra in a store and put it back because they didn't want it and you took it home without washing it because it is new
I'm so thankful my family helped with my daughter . I was a single parent and I'm so thankful to everyone who helped me. I'm thankful I listened to my daughter and helped every way I could.
I got my first bra in 4th grade. Girls are girls, they develop differently. I hope parents never do this to a child. Even if your child doesn’t ask for one, you should talk to them about it. If they don’t want one, don’t get one for them. But that’s only because that just shows your embarrassed for your own daughter. If they want one, GIRL, GO TO A GOOD STORE, GET A GOOD BRA, AND LET THE CHILD PICK IT.
I have a mother like this. Safe to say, we have no relationship whatsoever anymore. She is a vile woman. My sister was treated completely different 😔 These episodes trigger me so bad
I totally relate to this when ever I wanted to get a nice bra or nice underwear to make myself feel good my mum would always think it was because I wanted to do the naughty...
My mom won’t let me wear bras so during gym I always change in the stalls or say bras are uncomfortable so I don’t wear them. I don’t even own sports bras and just last year she let me wear tank tops toward the end of the year. Every single person has one. :(
That's ridiculous. Even if your boobs are really small you still need a sports bra for gym class. You should tell her they won't let you participate in gym or that your chest hurts when you have to run so maybe she'll get the sports bra
Strict parents literally set themselves up for failure by being strict. If you chill out a little bit and let your child express them selves (morally I’m not saying to let your 13 year old out in short shorts and a tube top) you will have a much better time on both ends
I was 12 when I finally got my 1st ones because my dad refused to get me one so the first year I got to go school clothes shopping (always at Walmart) without him watching what I was getting (he went to the hunting department) I used part of my $100 spending limit to get bras and hid them in the cart and when we got to the front and the lady was ringing them up and dad was to embarrassed to tell her that we "didn't need them" and I was still in budget so I got them but also got in a ton of trouble for getting them without his permission.
I got my first bra in 3rd grade. I was 9. Some girl mature and develop sooner than others. My mom definitely was not happy to see me grow up but she still accepted it and got me a bra.
Lord, my daughter was in a DD in 6th grade! Our trouble has always been finding bras that actually fit her! Shes 17 now and weve ordered them online a lot. A 34ddd isnt always easy to find in stores!😬
@@jclyntoledo she was really too young, she’s grown a lot since then lol. My little sister was the same way though and hers shrunk after having kids for some reason
My mom advocated for me to wear bras she asks me pretty often if I wore one she gets me all the ones I want and I appreciate that so much it’s really crazy to think a mother wouldn’t want her daughter to be covered up more and it’s not like anyone can see the bra or the underwear I don’t see the problem
i started developing at maybe like 10-11 and my mom started making me wear a bra at 8 and it’s crazy how some moms/guardians don’t let people wear bras!
Bruh i started wearing one at nine, this mother needs to get her parenting in line, like. Fourteen and not being allowed to wear a bra, she isnt allowed to shave, wear costumed that reveal just as much as her clothes, shop at victorias secret, only thrift stores, gets in trouble when trying to buy a item thats “inappropriate “ , support should not be inappropriate, not to mention she CUT HER HAIR for getting completely normal things,
My mom made me start wearing a bra because I developed a lot quicker than the other girls. It's sad that there's parents that don't allow their kids basic needs like that.
eek when she got the black bra from Victoria’s Secret, I was so scared because she should have got a white bra so when her mom asked she could say it was the one from the thrift store!!!
Bro Fr and in the beginning she’s over here saying just to where a tank top and tank top do kinda show but I think it is appropriate if you atleast where a bra
I got my first bra in 8th grade, nothing to be ashamed of tbh. At that time all my friends were already wearing bras too, some girls just develop faster than others.
I don’t know why it’s not okay to wear a bra, the mom wears it so Ana can’t? I had to wear one in 4th so it’s not embarrassing. Also you shouldn’t shame people for going to a thrift store because it’s not their fault.
I have the opposite issue with my girls. I have twin 13 year olds who REFUSE to wear a bra. I buy them and encourage it nicely, but it isn’t something that I’m going to force. Their body their choice… right?
The fact some parents think it’s inappropriate for their teenagers to wear bras that are actually nice quality and nice quality underwear it’s ridiculous
I got a training bra when I was 9 cause I started developing a bit early and my mom wanted me to start wearing them. I’d say the best age is when they begin to develop
why would a mom just try to make their kid uncomfortable? I aint never deal with this shit my mom always gave me what I need and didn't make me uncomfortable
This was literally my life when I was in 6th grade just not to this degree. My mom wouldn’t let be wear crop tops/ low cut tops and pretty bikinis. She did not understand what the other girls were wearing she would see my friends and be super horrified. I also wasn’t allowed to have Snapchat until 8th grade and I didn’t get TikTok until college because I “didn’t need it” and that was the same excuse for me not being allowed to wear consealer
I developed kind of late. My mom finally broke down and bought me a few when I was 12. They were styled for a little girl for sure and she tried to buy me small ones like that even as a teenager. I was soo excited to go to Victoria Secert for the first time when I was 18. Now that I'm 27 though I understand not wanting to spend that much money on underwear they're just going to grow out of. Thank God my mom didn't buy second hand and saw I probably needed one.
No one is too young for a bra. I personally got my first bra in 3rd grade. Every girl is different, some girl’s breasts start developing earlier than others, and others start developing later.
I got my first real bra in 5th grade. I didn’t force it but I was wearing a nice outfit and my mom was like” ok girl we’re gonna need to get you smth other than a sports bra for that outfit” so we went to Victoria’s Secret and got a basic bra and I wore that sucker so much that it broke so I showed my mom and later that day she went to the mall and got me two new ones. I love my mom
I started wearing one in either 4th or 5th grade. (most likely 4th) Girls, if you have not developed yet, DO NOT USE LAVENDER. Soap, stuffed animals with the scent, etc. That will make you go through it faster. (that’s what it did to me) After you are done with puberty, you may use lavender. If you don’t have a bra yet, don’t let bullies get to you. Back in the day there were no bras !
My mother also didn’t want to buy me a bra till we were shopping for her and I just tried on a bra. I already had a B cup but she didn’t think it’s necessary for a 13 year old to wear a bra.
I started developing around the age of 8 and didnt start wearing bras untill i started middle school because my mother refused to buy me one. And even when i did start wearing them i had to wear the same 2 training bras for almost a year and then a few of my family members with older kids gave me some bras that ACTUALLY FIT.
Fun Fact: Bras are supposed to be weared since the beginning of breast development, because they are made to support back to prevent problems in later years. Which means it is perfectly normal to start waring bra by 11 years or around that age.
@@TheCoolACwell see that’s the thing is when people like be have big boobs sometimes sports bras don’t really work or support much so we sometimes where cupped bras and I also do as well I’m 13
Bru I been goin to a opps school since 3rd grade we don't even have a locker room fr XD we don't wear uniforms just our regular clothes fr so I ain't gotta worry bout all dat XD