Alternate Ending: Girl: I like you Guy: are you serious *with a bright face* Girl: lol I was just kidding you are so weird Guy: 😐 *procedes to never trust a girl again*
Agreed, i hate that alot of girls do this but they do it cause they want to boost their ego by reaffirming the thought that they can get any guy they want. Of course not all but alot of girls do this.
@@thatoneguy4701 we are screwed either way. If someone hints, we have to play dumb. If someone is direct, our fate is in the hands of the woman. We really can't control what happens unless we initiate.
Male thought process: 1. Was that a hint? 2. I'm just gonna pretend like it wasn't a hint because I don't want to misinterpret and fuck up the conversation/relationship, plus, I'm like the least attractive person(unless they ego huge) 3. Is she hinting more or ish she just naturally flirtatious? 4. You know what, I bet this is a hint? *Flirts back* Girl: eww, you creep. 5. Welp, never doing that again
That, and the fact a lot of guys dont handle rejection well if it happens, or were too scared to do anything because we dont wanna seem all weird and desperate, or dont think were even in the girl's league when she could be with someone better.
What pisses me off about some of these "Kicking myself for not getting it" ones about sexual situations is that a lot of them can easily be twisted to where the guy is taking advantage of the girl.
@@MAJmufin That's why it's best to only meddle with girls who don't know you and you don't know them. Girls you know have too much information about you to screw you over.
What people don't understand isn't that guys "don't get hints", it's that they're absolutely terrified to misunderstand things and end up looking like a creep and possibly get in troubles, so please drop the the whole hint thing, helps both the sides.
I really wish that more people would put themselves in these men's shoes so they can understand what said men are up against. There's a lot at stake for these men, especially given the current social climate and the meager job market caused by the pandemic.
Well i learned to be terrified of women. I could see a royal 10/10 girl in town, and i would be petrified to approach her, in fear of her eating me alive or something similar. Second degree excuses for human beings, like me, does not deserve a girl by his side. She deserves better.
You literally just sit there deleting and retyping your sentence over and over and over again. Then you start to go through each and every scenario. Your mind won’t let you think about literally anything else too
This man understands the satanic and saddistic suffering we go through. My brains accelerates faster than a Bugatti Chiron, racing the fastest it can in the highest gear, speeding through one imaginary disastrous result, after another. My brains only allow to imagine the absolutely worst possible outcome. Not one nice outcome is possible in my brains. I dont understand why people say that the general idea of love, and being in love is such a great feeling, when its working just awful to me. Thats why i just came to terms with life and gave up on women. I do not stand a chance, even if i just chatted up a girl in town, completely casually. One single fatal wrong move, and i would be dumped and ghosted. And she would litterally just wait for it to happen. By "she" im referring to litterally any woman ever, walking on this rotten earth.
Guys aren’t just this other side of the species that are dumb and can’t catch hints. Most of the time from what I’ve gathered, it’s that women shoot their shot in a way that has plausible deniability just in case they get shot down. Lots of women aren’t used to asking someone out as socially that’s always been the man’s job, and so they may not even realize they’re doing this. The guy then understands it is most likely a hint but the risks of a man misinterpreting a hint is far, far worse than pretending to not get it.
Yeah that is a good take on it. Another would be that the hint actually was understood but the guy simply wasn't interested in the chick. Most females seem to think all guys want them, so if a guy ignores their "hints" he must have just not understood they were coming on to him lol
@@TheRandomVaper More true than you know. I’ve had multiple women call me gay because I wasn’t interested in fucking them. Truth is, their personalities were so fucking hideous it just turned me all the way off.
So me and my boyfriend had been best friends for almost 3 years before we started dating. He is terrible and I mean terrible at picking up on signs from women. Well I had a crush on him from the get go. I told him basically immediately, he told me he didn’t feel the same. So I just never mentioned it after that. Come to find out right after we started dating that once he got to know me he started to develop feelings and never said anything because he thought I was over it. You see I could pick up on some signs, but I thought I was just looking too much into it, literally all our friends knew we liked each other and that it was just a matter of time before we’d end up dating.
@@aria5572 maybe he could be, but come on is frustrating af this hint thing, we are practical creatures by nature. i tell my girl she is goofy almost everyday because she didnt had the balls (eggs in this case) to just ask me out lol. the fear of rejection is one of women's worst nightmares, and truly hurts when a girl throw hints just to reject guys too.
@Eric Yoder they weren’t even “bitching” there’s a difference between saying “hey person who asked this specific question here’s my specific incident” and “yea this stupid idiot man completely missed the whole hint” (
Men are beaten down in so many ways through past experience, have their self esteen torn down so much, Society's devaluation of men as a whole, and a whole lot of other shit that it honestly would not be surprising if some men genuinely get confused and scared if a woman is direct about her liking him. After all, she's out of his league, he's a loser, he's ugly, he's inadequate, all this shit being exposed and persistent to them has warped their mindset so as to never process the idea of a woman liking them.
15:54 Like he said, as a guy we're put in a bad position. If we misread the situation we're seen as a creep. It's much easier to just be gentlemanly and oblivious, than risk being labeled as a creep.
Ladies, just tell the guy EXACTLY what you want from them and what's on your mind. A lot of guys do get the hint, but they choose not to act out on them because they don't want to ruin their lives with a bunch of sexual assault charges slapped onto their records. Plus, I'm sure you've heard of men with very low self-esteem, especially if some of them escaped very abusive relationships with their exes. If I have to choose getting bitched at (playing it safe) and being charged with sexual assault, I'd choose getting bitched at. Odds are, I might have dodged a huge artillery.
There is one that always replays in my head. It was the last month before Highschool graduation. I was sitting next to a cutie who I have known since elementary school. During first period physics, she whispered to me, “you know I thought since we shared the same birthday we would get together.” I just sat there and thought, “hm I guess I missed an opportunity.” It could be just something she wanted to share.
Dropping hints is hilariously idiotic. When in grade 11, a new girl came into class. Every boy thought she was pretty. So me and another guy jokingly/laughingly made a pact to see whoever could get to her first. It was not serious and I never did any sort of move towards her. I fancied her, but was too much of a chicken. Well, unbeknownst to me, a girl who didn't like me much overheard my "pact" with the guy and went and told the girl. I suppose it was to get petty revenge on me over some immature remarks I'd made to her in the past. So, new girl starts shooting me looks all of a sudden and went on to write me an actual love/confession letter that she fancied me. I was extremely skeptical and thought it was a nasty joke, but couldn't be sure. So I confronted her. She refused to speak to me face to face and revealed the farce via FB texts. Never spoke to her again. She was as much a victim as I in this story, but also kinda a shit person for doing that. Instead of making the letter public, I threw it away. And never trust any sort of hint, even really obvious ones, ever again.
Dudes really get too much shit for not pursuing the girl giving the hints. A lot of times these hints put the guy in a bad situation where he pretty much has to guess whether or not she actually means it or not
Here is the thing. All women are playing. They only act interested in us, to look out for a new victim to wreck beyond repair. Its what women do. Its nothing personal, they just want to shatter our hearts and bury our confidence 2 meters below.
I did have hints thrown at me only three times in my life. Three times I followed them only to find out the girls were leading me on and actually mocking me. Then later I was the initiator twice, once with a girl I would date for three years (until she cheated on my and discarded me like trash), and once with a one night stand. And in those two cases I the only reason I dared to make a move was the fact that I was horribly depressed and didn't care if I was called a creep or even accused and jailed, I was contemplating the neckrope anyways and didn't matter if I did it at home or in a jail cell. Nowadays, thanks to being fooled and even cheated on I would most likely ignore any hints because I have serious trust issues from all that.
it was obvious on both sides (im a girl ignore the miles thing for a second), but we were both oblivious to the fact that we liked each other. he moved schools, so i am now sad and regret not telling him when i had the stupid chance..
@@maximillianford9301 if guys dont get it they are not since every person has the ability to understand words but if the word has a sercet meaning behind it, how are men suppossed to find that sercet without the women telling the men "i am trying to tell you something find it".
@@vusilaris bro I’m with you, I was in a situation last week where I was trying to get a straight yes or no out of a chick and she wouldn’t fucking give me a straight answer. But some of these are more due to the guys’ thickness rather than the girl being cagey. Not saying they all are or even most of them, but some of them were definitely straightforward
Dumbass me was told by everyone that my crush had a crush on me but didn't believe it since she was so out of my league. 4 years later I finally had the courage to ask if she really did have a crush on me, she said yes but gave up 2 years before. Now she goes to a different school.
I must ask did everyone also told her that you had a crush on her if they all told you she had a crush on you? But do not feel bad about it, if she gave up without asking you then find someone who will bother asking you like a normal person and not try to drop a million hints that will probably fly over your head because girls just think that people will get it. I'm a girl, and I am honestly annoyed at other girls dropping hints instead of being direct, cause god knows how it's easy to misinterpret things today and no guy wants to be the one who misunderstood. I feel for you dude. I also got some hints by a guy once and never catched on until his sister (my best friend) and his mom told me about it, later we dated for 2 years before breaking up. We tried and it didn't work but not the end of the world. Wish you luck in finding love again.
@@HH-ru4bj I mean you're not wrong. Weirdest thing I ever got was in highschool with a girl complimenting my eyes. yeah probably a 'hint' or lacking any self esteem for that you assume they're making fun of you or messing around.
@@RealCryptoTest Trust me bro, this won't help, women can't seem to agree on what is a hint and what isn't, there was one story I remember, where the guy had two experiences, the first girl literally got naked and he ignored it, turns out that was a hint. The second girl got naked and told the guy to get naked, and he started making his move, turns out that wasn't a hint and was just how her family lived. TL;DR, don't bother trying to understand hints, you're more likely to beat a Gorilla in hand to hand combat
They're*. No, im a guy but i gave up on hints, the idea of love, relationships, the idea of kindness, geniunity, and the entire female gender, in all capacity. The world is foul, and only want to hurt us man.
As someone who's self-esteem is literally non-existent, girls need to understand that not all guys have the confidence to act.... You can drop all the hints in the world, if the guy you are targeting them at is anything like me, they are going to just play it off cause we feel we are not worth it. That or we don't want to come across as creepy, desperate or needy if we do.... Or worse completely misread the situation. It sucks but that's the world we live in now, guys have to be so freaking careful.... We are literally playing Russian roulette when it comes to dating/flirting except it's a gun with only 2 chambers and one bullet, and we're the only one playing.
Nah I'm tellin yall now, We just wanna be happy and play CoD and Destiny. Way I see it, its worth putting more time into those things than something that'll last a week
15:55 This shows why I hate it when I see some people call men dumb, stupid or oblivious in the situations we read about here. In the current social climate, what man wants to get himself in some shit? Being labeled a creep can follow a man because people are so quick to put you on blast. I wish the people who are so quick to insult the men who missed hints would put themselves in said men's shoes. Some of us men almost never get that type of attention from women and might not know the proper way to follow up and that causes some men to tense up a bit. There are more things that go into this dynamic than many people realize.
This just makes me even more confused. And in all seriousness, I don't feel like even trying anymore due to fear of being tagged as a creep. Im okay at being rejected btw I don't believe in myself so people saying no to me is a regular tuesday when it comes to self confidence. #ImGoingToBeAloneForeverQ_Q
Sometimes a guy actually gets the hints but he's just not interested. I've had girls drop major obvious hints that they were interested in me, but for one reason or another I wasn't interested in them that way. I'm sure they left thinking I was oblivious.
at my high school there were two girls who hanged a tarp over a rope tied between two trees to make a tent, as I was walking by one of them made a kissing noise to get my attention and asked if I wanted to sit in their tent with them and I said no because I had an arrangement to go to and walked off. to this day I still wonder whether or not they were flirting or not.
So many of these I've personally seen be not "hints" guys have every reason to avoid situations like these like the plague. Girls either like to mess with you or don't realize how bad it is for the guys
True, the cons far outweigh the pros in this situation, the only pro is that we get a girlfriend or at the very least a date. The possible cons? Let's see: -getting socially outcast from your social group and being branded as a creep for the rest of your life -a sexual harassment accusation, possible criminal record, or even jail time -getting humiliated in front of everyone because you were getting led on and fell for it like an idiot And they still expect us to take the risk, Hell. Fucking. No.
@@justinpatterson5291 lmao your comment is perfectly representative of why. Pretty sure people who care about you disagree, i don't have a positive opinion of people in general, but simply existing is enough for some to find meaning in you. Keep fighting!
@@BygoneT Been fighting it for 25 long-ass years. I don't intend on going away any time soon. Despite what my mind keeps throwing at me. But, thank you. Stay safe D4 C.
What I get from these "Hints that guys never get/ignore" videos is that men aren't as sex-crazed as society thinks, may actually want to be gentleman, and/or are afraid to misinterpret/go forward with the hint and risk being called a creep, getting charged, etc., because unfortunately women have it over men in today's society if we're being honest. Women on the other hand, can be pretty dirty-minded and many of them just can't seem to say stuff directly to help a man be sure what he's getting into, they'd rather play mindgames.
Guys the whole misunderstanding thing is is relatable but if yall are just straight forward with what you understood you'll get your answer. Honesty has hurt me a lot but i appreciate them the most 💯
I just realized that a conversation I had with a lady friend a couple years ago was a hint from her. We were talking about dating in general terms but then she says “yea it’s been a while for me too, and I’m really in need of some d-“, my dumbass thought she was just telling me about her wanting someone to hook up with and instead told her that I thought she was an amazing person that deserves to be with a guy who doesn’t see her as just a fling. Not only did I unintentionally friend zone someone, but I also made it seem like I had zero interest in someone I had a crush on 🤦. I also didn’t realize this for at least 4 years now.
A lot of times the hints are ambiguous, so the one who drops the hint can pretend he/she did not mean it when he/she wants to back out immediately for whatever reason.
I can think of two or three seperate times where two seperate women were into me in high school and college, and I was such a dense idiot too stuck in my own head that I didn't figure it out until years after I could do anything about it. They were beautiful and really great people too. It be that way, tho...
I think here's the best advice for somebody in his 30s stop playing the mind games ladies if you want to access out or you want to do things with us just say it cuz that way you save yourself the time and you save me the time from trying to figure out what you want because a lot of dudes like myself catch on pretty quick I just like making y'all look stupid because you can't talk you have a mouth use it for real and this is for the ladies that's trying to date still and get married be direct like I said because you're going to waste every bit of your time and I know many of you like myself that's going to go wow she really think I'm that stupid so stop the mind game say what you want and you have a 50% chance of getting it okay I don't want to hear no creepy I don't want to hear it he tried to do things to me all because of your mind games
And we always only craft the worst disastrous scenes in our heads, refusing to believe a result of something actually nice could be an possible outcome.
I'm not only dense as a singularity, but also overthink things, especially when people are nice to me, since that doesn't happens very often. So whenever a girl makes a compliment, or is generally nice, brain kicks into overdrive: Trying to decide whether or not she's flirting or just being polite. Is she interested? Why would she? I'm avg looking and a shortie. Is she friendly like that with everyone she meets? Nah, she's not into me, no girl is... But what if *she* is?! What if she's not and I'm misinterpreting? Oh shit, do I ask her her number? Do I ask her on a date? What if she says no? What if she says yes?! What should we do on a date? So on so forth. If it happens two or three times I already start considering how to provide for this lady in the future. Sometimes I wish I could trade some Intelligence points and put them on Charisma...
Holy shit, the touch my bruise high on the thigh happened to me. She got hit in the leg with a softball and said touch it it feels weird. I said oh yeah it does. Hearing this story in this video made me think of it. 15 years later I realize I missed a hint..... 16:33 also this is the real answer if any ladies comes across this. Be direct. No guy wants to be labeled as a creep or a harasser.
I’m like the first guy. A girl liked me. I kinda did but I kinda didn’t. She still had a bf and was trying to get with me. I’m not about to let her cheat on her bf. I was and still and am single. Even though it would be nice to be in a relationship I wasn’t gonna do that
