Looking arrogant is not my business it is you the beholder who interprets me that way, you stupid. Arrogance is in your talk. "You look arrogant is a stupid sentence." Rather one behaves and talks arrogantly.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You needn't cross your legs to look confident Just sit up straight and look them in the eye...that's how you display confidence without looking arrogant or cocky
@@deniseneumann Indians are first-grade hypocrites. That's why they cannot find the difference between confidence and arrogance. Being an Indian, I face so much hostility for embracing chivalry and self-esteem every day.
This is upside down. You dont COMMUNICATE confidence; you have it. When you are confident, your body language changes just by itself. And also when you are confident, the need to _communicate_ it fades away. You just dont care.
Right...but this is more of a fake it til you make it video. We all know having confidence is ideal but that doesn't mean everyone can just magically turn it on. However, they still want the job even if they have insecurities.
False. It’s called “body language” for a reason. She’s telling people what these postures mean to others do people can choose to say, with their bodies, what they intend. You’re basically saying that if you’re thinking good thoughts, people will know it, no matter what you say. And that’s not his language works.
No, highly insecure people boasts how great they are to others, they need the constant validation , while the ones admitting they have some issues, are faking it, they don’t know they are faking it, because they don’t fit the norm, they believe society they’re not good enough, however to be able to point out your shortcomings is a huge sign of confidence, because you’re not afraid of confronting the flaw in yourself. However take a narcissist and tell them they’re imperfect, and they’ll either redirect the judgment back to you, or they’ll double down on how great they are. Perfection is fragile because any chip in the visage will challenge the reality of a narcissistic person. Whilst any good human being already know they got limitations, and that’s alright. So next time someone tells you they got insecurities, call out their lies, and tell them how confidence they truly are. Confidence is about looking at the mess of the world, and take care of what needs attention. People confused narcissism with confidence, and self awareness with insecurity.
@@ellasmith731 Ella and Liam, you two need to be friends you’re likeminded. Keep a little insecurity for yourself it can be quite charming to others. If you’re human we all have it. Otherwise try being kind, it works sometimes. ;-)
What these body language "trainers" don't understand is that you can't fake body language. It is primal and associated with your limbic brain, which makes it so authentic and powerful in the first place. If your mind is not feeling confident, you won't be able to assume this "power pose" for long, and it will do more harm than good (during interviews and such)
Its called body language because it's your body's way of communicating how its feeling on the inside, so instead of working on faking the appearance of confidance and happiness we could actually work on being those things and really feeling happy and confident and our body will show that naturally. ✌️😊
Exactly. Don't act. Don't learn. Don't pretend. Make the changes in your life so that your body language actually reflect the pride you have in yourself.
@@nephastgweiz1022 I can't imagine a person who usually sits like in the first example (with their head and expression like that) to be able to sit in that "better" position without feeling way more exposed and self-conscious, and even less confident.
I’m so tired of social media telling people how i should act or what to think. If someone is insecure let them be insecure. There would be nothing more awkward than approach someone based on their body language and then be called a sexist with toxic masculinity because someone was faking their posture to look a certain way instead of being who they are.
@@eenchantress5113 we live in a day and age that if you are a stronger, secure person, and you see, or are around someone that isn't...you simply just be a good person, just simply be a good fellow human being to them. There is nothing more important than simply doing just that!!! It actually shouldn't be necessary for anyone to explain that. Then if everyone is just good to one another, then possibly no one would have to be insecure about themselves. You can disagree all you want, that's perfectly fine....
Your on the internet. In the comment section. Telling people what your sick of. As if, 1. The world is your pen pal 2. No one made you watch the video 3. Question if your confidence level is so high that you feel that everybody should hear your opinion, then aren't you trying to straighten everyone out like RU-vid🤔 if you look in the mirror and see a 🤪🐓🍭, dont get mad at the mirror 🎭
Well you can have both 😉 besides a poor posture is unhealthy and won't bring you very far in life..if you get further in live you also get the ressources to help more people and then your heart is even "more clean"
You need to read some Anthony Robbins. Personally he kind of bugs me but the one thing I got from him that proved to be infallible was that mind and emotion conforms to posture. It may work the other way to some extent but what she is demonstrating here is fundamental and very important.
And even send or build an energy positive in the environment you at or to the one or the group a front of you subconsciously . Vladimir Putin doesn’t have any fucking language not even a clear smile . The whole fucking world it stuck with him now
You’ll do what you feel. Don’t fake how you don’t feel. That’ll always come off wrong. Start with confidence and body language FOLLOWS. There’s no “fake it till you make it” here…they’ll know as soon as you open your mouth, or fail to…
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@@ravza1379no it doesnt. Confidence is KNOWING youre able to do something. It comes only and ONLY from experience. Years of proving yo yourself that youre able to do something. No amount of moving or not moving or whatever position will give you confidence. All it does is give you some momentarily motivation to establish yourself. Confidence is earned. Theres no shortcuts you lazy fuck do the work
@@Letthy_oliverr what rubbish u talking about? I didn't say that you will become a confidence person suddenly. İt is just first step becoming it. Your behaviours are just result of your habits. So if you repat the same behaviours consistenly it is gonna become a habit. Realize how powerful your brain is. Don't fake it till you make it fake it till you become it. I reccommend listening to that ted talk.
That's being cocky imo. In no job interviews, the panel endorses anyone who boots their leg up. Keep your feet firmly on the ground. Be respectful, sit straight, and put on a smile. That's it.
They didn't even say anything about a job interview. These postures are proven to help boost your confidence. Because when you sit with that kind of confidence, your insecurities seem to take a back seat
@@ninamarise237 It's not just job interviews, my dear. No sane person with an ample amount of social awareness would do this publicity stunt in the name of confidence... unless it is a familiar surrounding with familiar faces or if that person has the immense work ethic to justify his/her ego. Come on...let's be honest here, this gesture when executed simply for a confidence boost is lame.
@@mr.chelsea_1116 what's your problem? You sound sooo insecure of yourself. I would totally sit this way at a work meeting or conference, it shows confidence and strong personality. If it makes someone feel intimidated then that's their own insecurities 🤣🤣
Male or female alike. There's a difference between perceived projected confidence and just being naturally confident. You don't need to be arrogant with it. You could call it self assured or just being openly comfortable. Same thing.
@sub R0cky true story. I'm quite happy rocking around a town in shorts , t shirt and flip flops. I'm 40. I don't need to impress anybody. Once you're not trying to impress anyone and just do your own thing , life gets so much better.
So what happened? Half were obnoxious, taking up way too much room (potentially with stinky feet - what are those? Socks? Put your shoes back on...) so maybe there was a throw down. Meanwhile the other half did the megalomaniac steepled finger thing, scamming for their fav donut, and then threw down when someone inevitably lost out. This channel's a potential wrecking ball.
@@Frugal637 yeah and if your mind is not genuinely confident but « i gotta look confident » Thats what your body will project, fake confidence and insecurity Confidence is earned, not learned.
@@Frugal637 People fake body language nowadays, its all they do in public. Try hiding true confidence with less confident body language, its such a learning experience.
That’s literally what all of us do already.. this is a video on how to appear more confident.. which you won’t if you’re hunched over and rubbing yourself ect 😂 if we were all naturally confident we wouldn’t be watching this video
I’d like to say if you appear to “confident”, it come off narcissistically, such as prideful, to cocky. Not having emotion concerned more about appearance, can be very “vain”. I’d say do what you feel is appropriate for YOU, body language is good, but I’ll tell you, usually it’s always one doing the speculation on another, usually in negative relationships behaviors, interrogation, court etc. anyways peace ☮️ & ❤ to you all 😊
@@wintertontoday lmao yeah :D I think this works at least with teachers. The teacher whose body language appears more relaxed and confident keeps my attention longer and makes me (with an anxiety disorder) feel more at ease too. It's cool how big of a difference body language can make.
Just focus on being the best at work and the rest will follow. Honestly, people can sniff very easily if you are good at what you do or not, and the respect will follow accordingly.
I have to agree with this. Same for men. The best thing is holding your head high with your shoulders back. It exudes confidence. Bad posture is a clear sign of doubt.
The only good gesture in this was the hand movement while you talk. Other than that the only gesture you need is the middle finger and a taser gun or bear mace.
I can't possibly fake confidence. No matter how I consciously sit, my real feeling are gonna come out sooner or later without my awareness. I just catch myself soothing. People make me uncomfortable, I struggle to change that.
Sounds like you’re very anxious and overthinking. The best thing you can do is take a deep breathe and continuously tell yourself to relax, breathe, and you’ll gradually feel more comfortable. It’s a process, also dealing with whatever trauma you went thru.
This is an interesting take. I work as a engineering manager for research and development in a major defense company; I see plenty of behaviors during meetings similar to this but I feel it's important that people understand the root cause behind while different people sit in different ways, otherwise this advice is really the tail wagging the dog. The "unconfident" poses typically happen to the younger, newer engineers who are worried about how the people in the room perceive them rather than how they perceive their work/opinions. The people who are in those "confident" positions typically have no idea about how they're sitting, they're just highly focused in the subject matter and it's obvious by their eagerness to engage in the discussion. So in my humble opinion, good observations, use them to check yourself, but really, just focus on your work, not people's opinions of you.
sometimes you have to portray confidence. If you were presenting for world leaders, you may not be so confident. In that case you control your body language. But yes triangle finger thing is just for show and a bad look.
It's not the sitting posture that needs to be learned...its the mind..the ability to learn to be confident in yourself and the way to sit with confidence will be automatic.
You're definitely spot on with the passive looking gestures, but alot of the "confidence" posturing actually comes off as very arrogant. If I walked into a room to talk to someone and saw a person sitting like that, I'd want to smack them upside the head. The people I think of as confident usually maintain eye contact, speak clearly and are very concise, also they usually have a body posture that seems inviting (like they subconsciously make you feel like you want to in their presence.)
I really don't put too much confidence in body language since it's way too easy to get or send the wrong message. I have arthritis so I'm often crossing my arms simply because my arms and shoulders hurt. I also have hearing loss and I sometimes lean in to be able to hear; it's not a come on. Being tired, or having various medical conditions can cause a person to change their stance, gestures and posture. These things can also affect eye contact, frowning, squinting, teeth grinding even smiling.
If you're not literally feel yourself when you try to get into a powerful personality type, quit. Quit on try to adapt that personality. Rather than just try to get comfortable wherever you are. However just always try to be comfortable and don't over push yourself to behave confident or attractive. Always stay in your skin and try to feel calm and enough. After that, you can try to make balance in what you want to doand what people want you to do. It's not always "I'm gonna do everything that people want from me so that they like me more." Or "I'm gonna do whatever I like and won't give a damn about what people think or say or do." Trust me, the true right line doesn't exist but you can always try to create a balance in things, for that's all what life about. Your efforts will make you achieve whatever you deserve. Life isn't always fair but if someone really try and work on everything that's necessary, situation changes. I am an introvert, anti-social and after trying so many times with all the things I learned, i still find it hard to connect or communicate when I'm not ready or where I don't want to but situation demands. But that's okay, I can make things better, I have lifetime, will never stop trying.
Confidence is 💯 percent on you and how you present it. Too much can be arrogant. Too little is not enough. Sit straight like you have manners, and look the person dead in the eyes
Self soothing can be endering. We don't all have to be confident at all times. Just be yourself and surround yourself with people who want the best for u❤
It doesn't matter whether the first or the second one is better. What matters is that whether it is expressed naturally because all girls are unique in their own ways. So be yourself and don't let anyone change who you are.
Body language is the manifestation of your inner state. Because I have a very strong personality, I automatically exude confidence and power in how carry and project myself. But for those people who are not and try to act like like their opposite inner state, they appear awkward and unsettled. This comes out automatically.
I have been told that the most dominant approach to posture in meetings is to stand on top of the table/desk and stare directly into the eyes of the person with the highest position/rank.
@@smokeymcpot69 OH SHIT I forgot about that one!!!! Yes , studies also reveal that kicking the CEO in the balls will immediately rocket you to the top of his promotion list !
Here's a better secret: work out for a good hard five minutes before going in... SCORE! Or.. if you can't, but can sing out loud on your way there... Sing powerful songs. Or.. if you can't do either, pull yourself inwards and meditate the desired outcome. And tell yourself praises. You can do this walking. Eyes open. It's like talking to yourself but without the thinking... It's an inner peace and acknowledgement. Feel your breath and feel your inner body, blood movement and muscles... YOU GOT THIS!!
fundamentally it’s the other way around, whenever you are confident in a moment, your body language more often than not reflects it. even shy people or people who have an inward body language that makes them look unfairly incapable or untalented etc; even shy people exude confidence in certain moments when in their element. of course it’s a good tip especially in you twenties to kinda fake it till you make it. put on the confident persona to then hopefully gain confidence in the topic and hopefully not need to “put it on” for much longer afterwards.
My children's judo club is huge (400+) and over the past 20yrs I've seen many timid, unathletic young kids transform very quickly because of new confidence. Even the grade schools teachers told me that they noticed that the kids who started judo (especially the more introverted ones where the change was easy to spot) would eventually behave differently not because they could defend themselves but in how they interacted with older, more vocal and dominant personalities... in other words, they didn't allow themselves to be bullied by words. The teachers would notice it in how they sat, talked and participated in class. All because they are more confident.
Allot of people are attracted to people with value, if you have value, you have a vision, knowledge/understanding, you’re confident in that. You don’t need to act confident or display it bc ppl can see past your façade. Instead learn, apply and become actually confident in your abilities and your motives.
Key words “Appear more confident” If you can’t do this naturally without thought you’re only fooling yourself and it will eventually come to light. Don’t front, it’s okay to feel uncomfortable and nervous in certain situations
If you really look like powerful... Fo something and before do, you need good thinking... Then it doesn't matter how you appear... Your body language will reflect it automatically...
