Looking arrogant is not my business it is you the beholder who interprets me that way, you stupid. Arrogance is in your talk. "You look arrogant is a stupid sentence." Rather one behaves and talks arrogantly.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You needn't cross your legs to look confident Just sit up straight and look them in the eye...that's how you display confidence without looking arrogant or cocky
@@deniseneumann Indians are first-grade hypocrites. That's why they cannot find the difference between confidence and arrogance. Being an Indian, I face so much hostility for embracing chivalry and self-esteem every day.
You equate females with having poor posture, lacking confidence, limp bodies, lowered heads and performing self soothing mannerisms as their usual body language? This just isn't factual. Confidence doesn't belong to only one sex.
Well you can have both 😉 besides a poor posture is unhealthy and won't bring you very far in life..if you get further in live you also get the ressources to help more people and then your heart is even "more clean"
fundamentally it’s the other way around, whenever you are confident in a moment, your body language more often than not reflects it. even shy people or people who have an inward body language that makes them look unfairly incapable or untalented etc; even shy people exude confidence in certain moments when in their element. of course it’s a good tip especially in you twenties to kinda fake it till you make it. put on the confident persona to then hopefully gain confidence in the topic and hopefully not need to “put it on” for much longer afterwards.
My children's judo club is huge (400+) and over the past 20yrs I've seen many timid, unathletic young kids transform very quickly because of new confidence. Even the grade schools teachers told me that they noticed that the kids who started judo (especially the more introverted ones where the change was easy to spot) would eventually behave differently not because they could defend themselves but in how they interacted with older, more vocal and dominant personalities... in other words, they didn't allow themselves to be bullied by words. The teachers would notice it in how they sat, talked and participated in class. All because they are more confident.
When I see someone sitting in the "first confident position" I don't see confidence, I see arrogance and someone ready to be confrontational. In turn, I ready myself for a fight.
For me too. IMHO For some reason that I can't fully explain, I find the postures she suggests to avoid more appealing. The other posture conveys that she is more confident in herself but also, at least in my opinion, that she is more arrogant and less approachable.
same here however I try to go by the situation... when i need to assure the person that I'm listing to them i try to have Eye contact and let the person have the hand in the conversetion... so i would be in a comfortable posture
Just focus on being the best at work and the rest will follow. Honestly, people can sniff very easily if you are good at what you do or not, and the respect will follow accordingly.
@@ezequielmartinez3582 you got me. In fact I find myself faking body language all the time and crumbling under pressure. But typing I’m strong made me feel good.
The fact you're writing about it on RU-vid suggests you're extremely self conscious and need to anonymously tell people you're confident in order to feel better
False. It’s called “body language” for a reason. She’s telling people what these postures mean to others do people can choose to say, with their bodies, what they intend. You’re basically saying that if you’re thinking good thoughts, people will know it, no matter what you say. And that’s not his language works.
One of the biggest mistakes a person can make in their professional, romantic, and social lives is failing to differentiate confidence from competence.
This is one of the (hundreds) of things stunning and brave wahmern-ists will never get. They get to play dress up like men- but QUICK to call “time out” when the smoke comes smmfh
@Kelly M it actually isn’t. I’m a Jiu Jitsu / grappling / mma hobbyist and I sweat a lot when I train. In fact, there’s this running joke at my gym that I’m the sweatiest person alive and it’s impossible to get a hold of me. Many people think I have hyper hydrosis or something. They started calling me WAT after that cardi B song as an acronym for “Wet Ass Taylor” (my first name). It’s kind of embarrassing because it’s gross to a lot of people. So, as an attempt to be endearing, I embraced the nickname WAT and that’s how everyone at my gym knows me. We all have fun nicknames and we all bag on each other in harmless ways. So, my belt, some of my gi’s and my bags all have the tagline Slippery When WAT on them. It’s just a fun play on words. Nothing perverted about it.
Its called body language because it's your body's way of communicating how its feeling on the inside, so instead of working on faking the appearance of confidance and happiness we could actually work on being those things and really feeling happy and confident and our body will show that naturally. ✌️😊
Exactly. Don't act. Don't learn. Don't pretend. Make the changes in your life so that your body language actually reflect the pride you have in yourself.
@@nephastgweiz1022 I can't imagine a person who usually sits like in the first example (with their head and expression like that) to be able to sit in that "better" position without feeling way more exposed and self-conscious, and even less confident.
No, highly insecure people boasts how great they are to others, they need the constant validation , while the ones admitting they have some issues, are faking it, they don’t know they are faking it, because they don’t fit the norm, they believe society they’re not good enough, however to be able to point out your shortcomings is a huge sign of confidence, because you’re not afraid of confronting the flaw in yourself. However take a narcissist and tell them they’re imperfect, and they’ll either redirect the judgment back to you, or they’ll double down on how great they are. Perfection is fragile because any chip in the visage will challenge the reality of a narcissistic person. Whilst any good human being already know they got limitations, and that’s alright. So next time someone tells you they got insecurities, call out their lies, and tell them how confidence they truly are. Confidence is about looking at the mess of the world, and take care of what needs attention. People confused narcissism with confidence, and self awareness with insecurity.
@@ellasmith731 Ella and Liam, you two need to be friends you’re likeminded. Keep a little insecurity for yourself it can be quite charming to others. If you’re human we all have it. Otherwise try being kind, it works sometimes. ;-)
When I sit down I just wanna sit not make people think if I’m weak or powerful, I know what I bring to the table without having to prove that through sitting lol
Exactly. According to this lady, I look weak. But yet, I perform way better and have more energy than my coworkers. So, I'm confused. Am I weak or am I strong?
While this is true, it's easy to say "just be confident". I think, just making somebody aware of what kind of message they are giving with their body language goes a long way. There is a reason why women often get paid less - they are often just not as confident in job interviews. So advice like this can be very helpful.
This is upside down. You dont COMMUNICATE confidence; you have it. When you are confident, your body language changes just by itself. And also when you are confident, the need to _communicate_ it fades away. You just dont care.
Right...but this is more of a fake it til you make it video. We all know having confidence is ideal but that doesn't mean everyone can just magically turn it on. However, they still want the job even if they have insecurities.
I’m so tired of social media telling people how i should act or what to think. If someone is insecure let them be insecure. There would be nothing more awkward than approach someone based on their body language and then be called a sexist with toxic masculinity because someone was faking their posture to look a certain way instead of being who they are.
@@eenchantress5113 we live in a day and age that if you are a stronger, secure person, and you see, or are around someone that isn't...you simply just be a good person, just simply be a good fellow human being to them. There is nothing more important than simply doing just that!!! It actually shouldn't be necessary for anyone to explain that. Then if everyone is just good to one another, then possibly no one would have to be insecure about themselves. You can disagree all you want, that's perfectly fine....
Your on the internet. In the comment section. Telling people what your sick of. As if, 1. The world is your pen pal 2. No one made you watch the video 3. Question if your confidence level is so high that you feel that everybody should hear your opinion, then aren't you trying to straighten everyone out like RU-vid🤔 if you look in the mirror and see a 🤪🐓🍭, dont get mad at the mirror 🎭
I've found that as my confidence grew, I automatically adopted a more relaxed position in general. One thing in this vein that helped me was looking at myself in a full body mirror and standing how I normally stood, with my shoulders forward and down. Then I pulled my shoulders back, like Superman but with my arms still at my sides, and I saw a surprising difference in the energy I appeared to exhibit. Doing this did get me into the habit of keeping my shoulders back, and I think that has had a positive effect on how people responded to me, which in turn had a positive effect on how I felt both in public and after being in public.
Thank you Sonya for ratifying my body posture. I've had it since I was a child because that's how I've always felt, I'm the owner of myself and my environment. Always respectful and with a team mentality.
those "confidence" postures are mimicked from "strong men" in movies which aren't real men. they are fictionalized representations to sell you something idealized. a good seating position in any situation is just having good posture with good eye contact and paying attention.
Good point. ..cannot judge so easy on appearances. ..even in sports like boxing. ..people like beterbiev /inoue /pacqiauo /ggg are killers yet they act like public educated nerds
@Margaret Christian Yes, maybe he is thinking of Elon Musk but he is very wrong. Elon Musk is not powerful. He is just very rich and he can get things done for his companies. He bought Twitter. So what? Others did put up their claims decades ago. Power is something very different. Power is ruling the world like Gilly Bates. He bought all newspapers worldwide, all international organizations and every organization that is involved in medical needs. He changed so many things that no longer governments have power in their own countries. All members of world health organization will have a lockdown if he tells them. It is his private organization. It is paid by member countries and by him but it is his private company. Trump refused to pay millions of US American tax money to WHO. He canceled the contract. Stupid chancelor Angela Merkel of Germany made up for the missing money from USA. She took the millions from German taxpayers and gave it to her best buddy Gilly Bates. He proudly stated he had her private number on speed dial. She is a very stupid and naive woman. Grew up on the country side in the poorest region of Eastern Germany. She was asked about her strongest side. Her answer was that she was good in being obedient. This is very bad. The head of a country must be strong. She never ruled. She was ruled by Gilly Bates.
Actually psychology research shows that body gestures tells your brain how one feels. So they say if you want to be happy more, smile and your body tells your brain that you are happy. The same goes with confidence. Science.
Fake confidence literally is confidence. Studies show if you fake confidence (with bodylanguage) it sends signals to your brain, causing you to get more confident🤷🏼
@@ravza1379no it doesnt. Confidence is KNOWING youre able to do something. It comes only and ONLY from experience. Years of proving yo yourself that youre able to do something. No amount of moving or not moving or whatever position will give you confidence. All it does is give you some momentarily motivation to establish yourself. Confidence is earned. Theres no shortcuts you lazy fuck do the work
@@Letthy_oliverr what rubbish u talking about? I didn't say that you will become a confidence person suddenly. İt is just first step becoming it. Your behaviours are just result of your habits. So if you repat the same behaviours consistenly it is gonna become a habit. Realize how powerful your brain is. Don't fake it till you make it fake it till you become it. I reccommend listening to that ted talk.
You need to read some Anthony Robbins. Personally he kind of bugs me but the one thing I got from him that proved to be infallible was that mind and emotion conforms to posture. It may work the other way to some extent but what she is demonstrating here is fundamental and very important.
And even send or build an energy positive in the environment you at or to the one or the group a front of you subconsciously . Vladimir Putin doesn’t have any fucking language not even a clear smile . The whole fucking world it stuck with him now
You’ll do what you feel. Don’t fake how you don’t feel. That’ll always come off wrong. Start with confidence and body language FOLLOWS. There’s no “fake it till you make it” here…they’ll know as soon as you open your mouth, or fail to…
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So what happened? Half were obnoxious, taking up way too much room (potentially with stinky feet - what are those? Socks? Put your shoes back on...) so maybe there was a throw down. Meanwhile the other half did the megalomaniac steepled finger thing, scamming for their fav donut, and then threw down when someone inevitably lost out. This channel's a potential wrecking ball.
I mean tbh, real confidence is something that exudes out regardless of what position you take. I think the fact that you try to “appear” more confident is already based on insecurity
What I learn in my life is, just be as you are. Be well versed with your subject that you want to deliver and be confident. Posture comes naturally. If you self doubt then, whatever uou do your posture will convey nervousness.
@@wintertontoday lmao yeah :D I think this works at least with teachers. The teacher whose body language appears more relaxed and confident keeps my attention longer and makes me (with an anxiety disorder) feel more at ease too. It's cool how big of a difference body language can make.
It depends on your goals and job, and industry. Some people have a situation where they don't have to care what others think about the way they sit. Others do not have that luxury, or have goals in a setting where those objectives are influenced by your visual and physical factors. Just the way some things are in some lifestyles, settings, and job industries.
@@missmayflower Be yourself in a job interview. Not only does it show what you're employer is hiring it also shows you if the company is good enough for you. Unless you're just desperate for a job.
That’s literally what all of us do already.. this is a video on how to appear more confident.. which you won’t if you’re hunched over and rubbing yourself ect 😂 if we were all naturally confident we wouldn’t be watching this video
I can't possibly fake confidence. No matter how I consciously sit, my real feeling are gonna come out sooner or later without my awareness. I just catch myself soothing. People make me uncomfortable, I struggle to change that.
Sounds like you’re very anxious and overthinking. The best thing you can do is take a deep breathe and continuously tell yourself to relax, breathe, and you’ll gradually feel more comfortable. It’s a process, also dealing with whatever trauma you went thru.
The only good gesture in this was the hand movement while you talk. Other than that the only gesture you need is the middle finger and a taser gun or bear mace.
