Thank you for sharing. You must feel exhausted just in sharing the information. I believe it will help others, some don't know what the signs are and sometimes it helps to just know people can function well even if they do have a problem. The brain is amazing and can compensate for so many things when taught how. I like your self talk.
You are brave you are beautiful. It took a lot of courage to share this. The next time you feel like that Please Try remember that everything is going to be OK. I know that easier said than done. But things will be OK, and you are not any less beautiful of a person because you go through something like this. Also know that you are not alone. If it comes time that you think medication would help you that’s OK But it’s OK not to use it if you don’t need it. Medication for mental illness can be helpful, but you have to find the right Doctor if you choose to use it. And you have to keep looking To find the right doctor.If you don’t need it that’s really great, but I don’t want you To Feel like you can’t use it because to do so would be a weakness. Anyone who told you that would be in need of a reality check. You do you and keep being strong
Aww sweetie this takes a lot to open up like this .. I only have a glimpse into what you go through by seeing my son with autism has to have things in routine and certain ways .. I wish people took more time to focus on mental illness .. it’s not a joke or something that can be controlled or stop .. I wish so much I could understand what’s going through my child’s mind because at 3 year olds he only says maybe about 15 words .. took us forever to get the services he needed (long story ) but now that he is getting them it’s helping
Proms go to the end of June. Given the fact that you just took care of an elementary and high school one, what preparations were Most helpful and what ones were Mostly a waste of your time. What scents do you consider celebratory?
Hi! Loved your video! It was very helpful☺ If you don't mind me asking, what are some more of the questions that you ask yourself besides "is this logical?" and "what's the other person's perspective?"
Hey Girl, Sorry when I watched the playback I too thought that I could have been more clear on this part. When I was mentioning scheduling reactions I should have been more clear about in times of conflict or disagreements. Here are a list of questions I ask myself when I am scheduling my reactions vs a list of questions I ask to "self talk" my way out of a manic episode. 1) Does this require an immediate response? Cause 9/10 times my response or reaction is going to be much more level headed if I give myself time to think rationally and chill out. 2) Have you considered the other person's perspective? Whether it be their version of the truth, their feelings what have you, I try to put myself in their shoes and see the disagreement from their perspective. Or say I feel they have done me wrong, or they've offended me somehow, instead of flying off the handle (which I used to do ALOT) I try to think "did they mean it that way", "could they've been being sarcastic, or joking" etc 3) Once given time to contemplate my response I always ask myself, is this as good as it gets? Am I going to be satisfied with this response? Is my response or reaction going to effect myself or anyone else negatively? Is this the best version of myself if I can do better, whether it be in terms of compromise or what have you what can I do to change the outcome of the situation? Most importantly am I trying to force my opinions or my beliefs on anyone? As well as it has taken me a very long time to realize that in times of conflict I can't save the world, I can only be accountable for my own actions and I spend far too much time worrying or stressing or trying to "fix" things. I have come to realize I can only control me, myself, my reactions and my involvement in conflict, can't change or fix whomever I'm at odds with:P The second portion of this really long answer (sorry) is the self talk I use to prevent or get myself out of a manic state. I try to start the self talk early in hopes of preventing a six week meltdown.... but not always successful 1) What if anything (sometimes there is no cause or reason) has occurred that has spawned these feelings? 2) Is there a way of better dealing with that person or situation aside from avoidance? 3) ALWAYS: How is this affecting or how may it affect the children? ( In a perfect world I could say it doesn't but it totally does!!!! If I'm not leaving the house the kids miss out on play dates, sunsets at the beach, walking to the store for ice cream whatever.... even the little things count) 4) Who c an I call? ( At times when I am manic I shut everyone out, close friends and family know when I don't answer my phone they will give me space for the first week but then they start leaving messages like "Answer your phone or I am driving out there!!!") Its important for me to stay social, make plans with people and keep them. Anyone who is close to me will vouch for the fact my most common request from them is to "Tell me something fabulous". I always want to know what is happening in their lives, not just the good stuff, the bad stuff too. I find if I get into their worlds, it gets me out of my own head even if just for a 20 min phone call. 5) When engaged in a ritualistic behavior a common question I ask is what else could I be going that would relax me as well as be productive? I like crocheting (its repetitious, involves numbers and makes BEAUTIFUL Christmas gifts) LMFAO. Or scrapbooking, now starting to journal etc or painting. Going out to my shop and working helps relax me which is great cause I paint furniture for a living but when I am manic cause I am pressed for an important deadline its the worst!!! There have been times I have a customer coming to pick up their piece in 48hrs and I haven't even started it!!! Instead I am painting a random Batman or superhero thing cause I felt "inspired". Classic stress avoidance, leads to procrastination, paint Batman or three of the Pokemon dudes, organize my paints by date scrub the studio floor, go to the store and look at brushes and start the piece 18rs before the customer is set to arrive and not sleep for two days:P M-A-N-I-C CITY!!!!!!!! I have found keeping a large calenfer in my work space helps with this and working on things well in advance. I've also learnt to book "manic time" into my schedule in case this happens. If all goes well customers love it when I call them a week early instead:D 6) "What day is it now? When did it start? Is it time to make an appointment?" I always keep track of when the feelings or behaviors flare up and in the last three months decided that anything longer than two weeks means I check in with my doctors. They obviously are supportive of me wanting to manage this as holistically as possible but they decided to get me back into therapy. I am just way too busy now to have six week hermit phases. I have three kids now, one being really little and dependent on me as well as running my own business. I am expanding this fall and I just can't afford to take time out like that anymore. Plus looking back on it now I'm a little pissy that OCD has stolen as many years as it has.... if that makes sense:/ Sorry this was so dang long:P But I hope this better explains it.... in the video its kinda lumped together and confusing:D
Sweet Scents from the Dollhouse Oh thanks so much for explaining! It means SO much! It's great how your explaining this and how it affects you helps me to understand myself and others a little better! :)
