34 years of secrets, lies, abandonment, talk of divorce and now I'm enduring religious abuse and more abandonment from friends/family/pastors - their well-intentioned advice is like layers of toxic, heavy lava smothering what little life is left in me ... and to date is THE worst, gut-wrenching experience besides finding out the double life my husband has lived. Lysa, Jim and Joel, I cannot thank you enough for bringing these topics to light where God can do HIS healing in me. Through your podcasts, I feel like I can see a Promised Land. I am finding the courage to walk into my healing. Keep going, you are making a difference in the church! I'm so deeply grateful. Shalom
I’m so sorry for your experience of rejection! Elevation Church online was a huge help to me. As well as Lysa! It does get better. A new beginning but the ending hurts!❤️❤️🩹
Thank you for this. I have been struggling tremendously. My husband left me on Christmas due to his drug use, didn’t talk to me for weeks until he needed money. My “friends” told me I didn’t have any biblical ground for divorce and said if I did get a divorce I couldn’t be in ministry or get remarried. Broke my heart into even more pieces. 2023 was a year from hell because of his addiction. I have been listening to this everyday to help me move forward with this divorce.
I am sitting in a situation where my husband has an emotional affair to the extend that her needs comes before mine😢. We are separated but he still lives at home, sleeping in the lounge. 2023 since November I also went through tremendous agony and drew closer to God, He alone kept me sane.
This episode is saving lives. After 3 years of separation I suffered through emotional and verbal abuse because I felt soo guilty to give up. I filed finally today. I wish our church studied this deep into the hebrew wording or that text. Thank you Lysa .
God be with you and hold you up. God does not endorse the mistreatment of his children, even in marriage. I just left a marriage over the last year and it’s challenging but God is faithful. The process changes you, but trusting in Him the change is more into His Image. 🙏🏾
@@ThingsILike12 pain does certainly change you .So many times I believed I was supposed to suffer and to take abuse to look more like Jesus. So much misconception can be taken with the title " marriage is a covenant not a contract" it CAN keep u bound to the enemies prison . NOW I just learned the Lord was teaching me where I had some healing to do. My weak spots. BUT Gods word has taught us that he gives us the power to trample on serpents and scorpions. We naturally let our guard down with our " believer " spouse. Thinking we are safe. Which we should be. But none of us are exempt from the sneaky ways of the enemy to kill steal and destroy. We all will think we are wise in our own eyes but Gods word says " perfect Love drives out All fear". I realized we BOTH were operating and arguing out of fear. He wanted to control with bully tactics to feel safe and I wanted to feel in control with a victim mentality. Glad there is a part 2 they are doing on this subject. Praise God for Revelation and his unfailing word. Alot of scripture along with self reflection is needed to be talked about in these times we are living in.
I've been separated for almost 3 years and been fighting for my marriage this whole time. My husband wants a divorce and I have struggled to accept because of my beliefs. He's moved on and I started dating someone and feel so hurt over all of it.
The part about celebrating and getting to know yourself is so important. I went to Barbados to celebrate my 60th on my own. God provided everything I needed, and He took me on another part of my healing journey. He is a good, good Father.
Thank you for clarifying, I have allowed myself to be held captive with the understanding divorce is not allowed. My husband is a minister/ narcissist, he uses the Bible/ scripture as a weapon to keep me in this marriage. The lies, gaslighting, manipulation, has been consistent for 4 years. I believe there is healing for me. I have detached myself from this marriage, Because I know that he will not take responsibility for anything that brought this marriage to a place of destruction.
Man you just literally described my whole life but mines not a minister. It’s really a journey a hard journey everyday feel like i take 2 steps forward and 2 steps backs.
@@helen9412 I’m sorry to hear about that. 😢. We are not to blame, we have unhealed trauma that directed our decisions. I feel the same way, two steps forward and two steps back. I don’t live with him, but just the thought of him or his presence is what triggers me. That’s not a good feeling, I understand you. We have to learn how love ourselves, heal our childhood trauma, reparent ourselves, and turn to God everyday and thanks him for healing, he is the Lord of all healing.
Currently going through divorce and this video speaks to my heart so much. It was never my desire to go through this, even after he committed adultery I was willing to work on us and the marriage. But he chose her over me and our two young children. My heart hurts still but God is good, even in the valley.
God bless you and your little children. God will lead the way. Hope you are staying strong and although you'll have bad days know that God is by your side and will get you through it. 🙏🏼
My Christian husband divorced me over 30 years ago to find better sex. As I've gotten older I've run out of close friendships, and now I'm feeling so out of touch with life. I really want to be in an intimate forever relationship, but there are no candidates for that either. If I were to find one, how could I have him vetted without having friends for him to meet?
Thank you for this; it has helped me with some of the “guilt of divorce” and sure others too. At age 60 after 36 years of marriage, I was presented with divorce papers and obviously stunned. Yet a year later as I’m now healing and choosing to move across the country to be close to family and live alone, I see how God has been protecting/ guiding me all along. I know God has a plan for me as He has for you; He will never leave me. Thank you for your work.
I could have written your exact post. I’m same age, move across the country, etc.. you’re not alone. I’m walking this same road with you at the same time. I pray for peace and healing for us both 🥺❤️🩹
I'm 57 .32 yrs of marriage. I've stayed but over the years I have many nights of crying myself to sleep. I've always been the one to apologize 1st. I've always said I love you first , then my husband says it on reprat(even after intamacy) we have 3kids 2 grandkids & my husband has always treated our son hard. Now our son in his late 20's STILL is trying to have a relationship w. Dad but my husband just argues about everything & my son now stands up But I can't stand how my husband treats him(husband outloud to us will say. Go run to mommy..,so degrading. & has said if you weren't my wife I wouldn't choose you as a friend, told my son the same)My husband got a large sum inheretance & has NOT discussed the amount after 2 yrs or where the $ is(I know though the amount but he keeps it to himself because he knows if I leave, non is shared w. Me. He's putting $ in stocks WHEN in our marriage previous, this was an area of a lie, 15 yrs ago he put $ in and I kept saying take the $ out. We don't have $ to loose. We'll he lied & we lost it in the stock drop. And I know he's putting it in again.yes I have my faults & I give the silent treatment ..but I can't handle how my kids are treated. Even though they are adults.Our 26 yr.old daughter says Mom. Dad is not an example of a man I'd marry. Yes. We are Christians and go to church(I grew up in a VERY conservstive Christian home,graduated from a christian college) we attend church i'm involved, he goes but doesnt get involved. I feel like I'm at the end of my rope w.all the arguing,nothing we enjoy togather. I'm ready to leave I'm Just tired.
@@Smag-wm4bx I’m so sorry you are having such a difficult time in your marriage. Praying now for you and mine own marriage. I need a miracle myself. I trust the Lord to move in our circumstances. Hugs. 🌸
Hello there, New viewer here. I am so glad I found your channel. My husband just divorced me after 35 yrs. & I have been struggling with Divorce because of my Beliefs. I Thank you so much for your research & sharing your guidance. My husband made me believe all of it was my fault but your show opened my EYES!!! God Bless!!!
My heart breaks for you. This too shall pass! I'm going through a divorce right now and my husband has made me feel the same way but actually he failed to love me. We both played a role in our dysfunction. The difference is I wanted to make it work and he gave up. But I'm learning to accept it and learn more about myself. God bless ❤
Prayers for you. My ex narcissistic husband walked out on me after 26 years and wouldn’t stay in counseling. After allowing him back home nothing changed and he let me know he didn’t want the marriage any longer. So it ended. God be with you. Don’t feel so bad. God sees all.
Wow such an eye opener 👏 conversations, we usually stay too long, so comes alot of grief and regrets 💔, and also how to exit in a toxic relationship, thinking about one's stability and how to navigate through, when we leave, but the truth of the matter is there is no formula in leaving a bad or unhealthy marriage, reach out to family and loved ones and God will surely make a way, where there seems to be no way.
Oh taste and see that the Lord is good. I was so desperate in need of a conversation like this, so I would know, I'm not the crazy one. And Abba sent you Lisa across my feed. I've been around some form of recovery almost my whole life. Mental Health has been my circle since 16 years of age and now 66 years old. Lisa you are so blessed to have these 2 beautiful men in your life. Thank you all so much. I will continue to be bold and loving liken unto a Lion and a Lamb. Being single doesn't allow for a male and female relationship, at least in the last 23 years it hasn't happened for me...Females quite complicated but loving once you understand the spirit of that person and keep healthy boundaries. Blessings
Grief for the death 💔of a dream of what we were both hoping for; at the wedding decades ago. Seeing glimpses of gratitude and grace, as the Lord heals my family’s losses. 🕊 Father God is soooo Faithful & True. Working diligently to heal my own picker or attachment styles and to truly know my own heart and blind spots. Praying always… 🙏🏻
I have done the work!! All of it!!! I do want love again one day. A Godly Man who loves Jesus !!! But as for now I'm with Jesus and he makes me whole!!!!
Praise God for this teaching. Yes I stayed too long with that teaching divorce is not an option! Too many affairs so I finally filed and going through divorce! What freedom you are helping us get to!!!!
WOW I just found this thank you. My husband and I have been separated for 4 years. He has filed for divorce but has been sitting on it and not moving forward. I was a homemaker for 15 years. I don't know what to do. We both have faults and God was not our foundation.. we have two teenagers who live with him. I took these 5 years to heal emotionally mentally physically and most importantly SPIRITUALLY!! I fell in Love with Jesus.. I am all in for my Lord and Savior ❤️ I am now a true follow of our Lord Jesus Christ... My children are actively and loving the church they attend with me on Wednesdays. Glory to God!! My son just went through deliverance on Monday after I took him and his sister to see . He is 16 she is 14 . There was lots of abuse emotional verbal ECT... He still is very prideful and will not take responsibility for is wrongful doings. I have taken full responsibility for my own actions. He says he forgives me but blames me because I got an injection against him. I had to, to save my life he is in total denial.. I have released him and broke the soul tie between us. Now it is between him and God. I truly want the Lord to heal his heart.. We fall under everyone of the broken 💔 covenants of Marriage. What do I do?? I am completely healed emotionally mentally physically I am healthy !! I have a wonderful church family and I am living out my true calling and finding who I am in Christ Jesus!!! How long am I supposed to wait is he going to ever repent and want healing??? That's what I am praying for Not for me or us but for my husband's spiritual freedom!!!!
Thank you so much for this series. My situation is quite similar to Lysa's...after 30 years of marriage at the age of 52, I am now divorced. Not what I wanted, but after finding his emails to other women, there was no repentance, no interest in change, he left the church...there was no other option - The emotional, mental and physical abandonment that I had felt for years was now complete. My parent's in-law sent me a letter about how much I had sinned, and needed to repent and of course, quoted Malachi - having no idea of what happened or where I was at. I am so incredibly thankful for the support and counselling I received from my church pastors and staff. These sessions are spot on!
Thank you with my whole heart! This helps infinitely. I was counseled to expect about a year of healing for every 5 years in the marriage. It’s been fairly accurate for me, although I realize it’s not meant to be set as the standard for everybody. Saying a prayer for everyone here to find true peace and power through our Lord and Savior, who protects and saves the humble. All glory to Him for continued hope and healing.
Again, another practical episode full of understanding the true heart of the Father toward His daughters. And the protection He placed for us in marriage. Thank you so much.
I too am so grateful I came across therapy and theology!! I was listening to this particular one while I was driving today and almost had to pull over because the tears. I'm so grateful you said what you did about addiction and how it affects our marriages. That's what I'm going through right now for the third time. Let's just suffice it to say I am exhausted and I don't know if this battle is worth it anymore. I will continue to listen to you three. I learned so much today like you said. Lisa, you give us a lot to think about! 🙏🏻🙏🏼🙏🏻
My divorce finalized in 2022, after two years separated and 15 years together. It was devastating for man reasons. We both failed each other but I carried all of the guilt for so long but hearing this validated that the emotional disconnect and abandonment is not taken lightly by God. We all deserve to feel seen, heard and understood.
Thank yall for this! Im getting ready to file for a divorce after holding on for years. My husband is an alcoholic, emotionally, verbal abusive,& doesn't believe in God. He tries to pull me away from Christ. I thought if i tried hard enough that i could lead him to Christ but i cant let him pull me down with him any longer. 😢
🙏 Going through same. Made the call to an attorney today after 38 years of marriage. Can’t take it anymore. Silent treatment for months. Doing his own thing. Sad and Praying for years. Now is the time.
Thanks for that Jim. “I grieve but not as those who have no hope”. I am in post marriage regret headed through the divorce process. Thanks Lysa for sharing your grief process. Only 10 months in and it feels like this will take forever. And at this stage I do not trust myself to EVER date again. Thanks Joel for your Old Testament exposition. I needed to hear that God instituted financial penalties for marital unfaithfulness. Not a command but an allowance for remarriage. Very Biblically sound.
I just stumbled upon your channel, what a blessing! You have answered so many questions and reinforced my understanding and belief in the Word. I was married to a narcissist for 27 years, I stayed because like Lysa I did not want to be a divorced woman. Now I have no desire to ever marry again because my faith in Christ has grown so much!
So so so helpful!! Thank you all! Lysa- I am sorry for your pain- but know that God is using you and your message for a great purpose!! You have no idea how much I needed this message!! Just about every single word. Bless you all!❤
Thank you for this conversation! 4 years out of an abusive marriage after 10 years…and I wish I had this advice and knowledge 4 years ago! This is so healing to me, thank you!
I was so sorry to hear about your divorce but love finding out now how you are moving on as a healed and whole person. Lisa, you need to write another book about this experience.
New subscriber here. I’m a Christian woman in an abusive marriage with lots of infidelity issues over the past 15 years and I’m struggling with the idea of filing for divorce. Thank you so much for helping me with these videos. God bless I only wish I could meet and talk to Lisa! Please 🙏 lol I feel called to write a book also ❤
This is such a wonderful platform, thank you for your teaching. As I was following through the conversation, I noticed this, Paul indicates if the woman’s husband dies and not necessarily divorce, “A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39 NIV “A wife is bound [to her husband by law] as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry whomever she wishes, only [provided that he too is] in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39 AMP “The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39 KJV
weird how i relate to what she is saying regarding her experiences. The devil is a master of self-blame, have women ignore all the hurtful things that GOD DID NOT CREATE US TO ENDURE, ESPECIALLY NOT IN MARRIAGE and stay until we are worn out emotionally and suicidal
Hello, I am a new viewer. I have been seperated (not divorced) from my husband 2 years ago. I just recently found out he has been in a full blown intimate relationship with someone we both know and went to church with. I came across this episode and it really touched my heart.
Oh dear! Take heart. Allow the Lord to help you handle this matter if not you may produce more problems than solutions. We are living in a broken world; thank God for Jesus who is there to put the pieces together for us. Shalom
just a beautiful conversation, as I am listening I am so encouraged at the wisdom, sensitivity and relevance to this very challenging topic. It is like water to my soul, refreshing!
Yesss-I’ve gone through a 36 year divorce marriage-3 years ago. My brokenness came from the fact that -“God we tore your marriage apart”. ( I say this based on my testimony) But I had a lot of characteristics that needed to change. Especially” the culture” of where I came from played a key part in my marriage. But all the topics are REALLY an unspoken desire I have as well as questions. Should I remarry and am I healed enough? Do I love being single enough to stay this way? I fell like my motive needs to be a priority-because not wanting to share my decision with another person-isn’t a good motive. I’ve decided I need to work at being in a marriage with the Lord first. And I believe A marriage with another person will come easy. Because if I just can’t be walking out an Ephesians way of marriage. I won’t be ready or able.
Incredible message. Yes let God make us whole and ready to trust our future to Him. I'm so thankful so much great information for folks who need hope and encouragement and truth. How blessed we are. Lisa you are a great example of using your heartbreak for helping others find hope. God bless each of you!
Please pray for me and my children as we go thru a season of hardship bc of marital problems. Pray that they would be protected from all attacks from the enemy!
I ended my 26-year marriage after a devastating season and after getting sound Christian counseling. Four plus years later, I am living a life dependent on God, not man. He shows his goodness to me day after day.
Thank you. 7 years since I caught my ex cheating and then him turning on me... trying to please God through it had been confusing. This has brought me a lot of clarity ✝️💕🌻
Grieving what my future will be without him? Alone, single -provided for? How will I do it? Will it hurt my family- will see heir hurt in it… ministry effect ? Just get older and die alone? All the negative thoughts hit
Wonderful podcast. I so needed to hear I can just be alone with myself before moving on with another relationship. I'm 53 and have a similar type of ending to my marriage of 25 years.
I found freedom in the first six minutes of this message. In my heart, I knew this was God‘s truth but I did not have any confirmation of it until now. You’re right! My theology cannot overshadow my reality. Isn’t that what Jesus’ Holy Spirit came to do, provide us real time solutions to navigate man’s ever evolving folly.
I divorced recently! I tried for 10 years, even though I knew the marriage didn't work out early time but kept my ritual thinking that God hates it. I decided when I enlightened that life , especially my spirituality, devastated from time to time to the level of extremely low. I'm convinced that divorce is not optional, but in some cases of home, it is a mandatory act to save the individuals in case of abandonment, addiction adultery, and abuse! But I can tell you that the journey is deadly, especially if there are children! Let God have mercy for all of us! Thanks for sharing this episode!
I had a friend who said I shouldn't date until I got my "chooser tuned"- her version of what you called a "picker". I love your channel, but I also wish you'd indicated more strongly that remarriage is only a wise possibility IF the divorce was for biblical reasons. Jim mentioned "working your way out" but the reason for choosing to divorce/separate is a big distinction in Scripture as I read it. Leaving a marriage for reasons of discomfort does not free the "leaving" spouse to remarry. That's to protect everyone involved.
@@kathymanley8711 -Yes, but He sets standards that guide us too. It's quite clear when it's considered logically. I'm concerned that too many want to start over with a new someone rather than grow through their current situation.
Thank you so much for doing this podcast! This episode, in particular, is incredibly LIFE GIVING to me at a much needed time in my life. May God continue to bless your ministry. ♥️
I’m struggling to follow Joel’s exposition of 1 Corinthians 7. A plain reading of the text suggests Paul’s bias is towards singleness over marriage not the other way around. And verses 39-40 seem pretty clear there is only one chance for marriage.
All so true. I never ever dreamed that I was going to get a divorce. I was so committed to my marriage. My Ex was not. It takes two to make a marriage work. He broke his vows to me and was unfaithful. He committed adultery. He abandoned me for a married Woman on our street. He drank a lot and emotionally abused me. He banged down on the bible with his fist and said “as long as you believe Leona my heart is black”. He wanted the divorce 😢. He continues his affair. Been away from my home now since November 13 2020. It’s a painful healing journey.
I just now asked about those verses, too. Let's keep praying for God's clarity & Light on it -- "the mind of Jesus Christ" -- & the Holy Spirit's "leading us into all truth" over it, in the meantime! Blessings!
Dr. Joel addressed how remarriage is a possibility for the woman who's husband divorces her, but what about for the spouse who divorces unjustly. I believe Jesus himself said that if a spouse divorces a faithful spouse unjustly and remarries another, they are committing adultery (implying that God doesn't recognize an unjust divorce even if it can be obtained legally).
In light of all sin as devastating, that question, can i go on? Is enormous. God forgives through jesus chrst but can i be reunstated as valuable, can i serve as remade and renewed in His purposes? Even tiday after 52 years if walking with Jesus, the consequences if the past are entangling and grossly affecting my life and my children's lives . Isaiah 43:18 forget the firmer things, do not dwell on the past, see i am doing a new thing. Now, it springs up. Do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness.
I'm sure many women don't want to divorce because men sometimes remarry easily after divorce, but the statistics are much lower for women over a certain age.
It’s weird to me that people in a bad marriage automatically worry about getting out of it and going on to meet their next spouse. Like, stay single for while and get healthy first.
Right? I can't imagine getting married again if I ever get divorced or widowed. Once burned twice shy, as the saying goes. I realize that after a while I may feel differently, but it seems unlikely.
What do you do when your spouse has mental illness that he won’t get treatment for? It really plays into the dynamics of the marriage in a very real way.
Pray, pray, pray. Most of the pills just cloak the problem or problems so it's never really dealt with or healed. I know because I had PTSD and was diagnosed with schizophrenia which God delivered me from because the schizophrenia was actually Demonic Oppression. Remember what Love really is. Love is kind, long-suffering etc. Prayer changes things. I'm tellin ya my hubby is free of porn addiction due to people praying and this after almost 22 going on 23 yrs of marriage. God told me to stay and pray. Not everyone gets that from the Lord. While I was praying for him God changed me.
Praying for you regarding this very, very hard situation. Bible-based, trained therapist can really help you sort your own self out regarding what to do. There are no easy, one-size-fits-all answers. ❤❤❤
Mine was diagnosed with covert narcissistic personality disorder. I prayed and did novenas and dedicated so much of my time praying for a change and acceptance of the diagnosis. It never happened. Instead, I believe God was giving me the graces and strength to be able to leave when I’m ready. It’s one thing to have an I’ll was and be willing to fix it and another when the person knows it and is too selfish to get help when it affects loved ones.
I love this! I also just lefted my husband of a little over 20years of alcoholism. It's only been 2 months. But how do you start getting to know yourself, especially if you been on autopilot with 3 kids and ine being autistic. I'm trying, but if feels overwhelming 😢
I just got divorced in June 2024. My husband kicked me out of the bedroom and told me it was easier to be alone and have sex with himself. He blamed it on me as I had put on some weight, I wasn't even considered obese by the medical standards. I also had cancer and my kids had to feed me as he wouldn't lift a finger to help when I was on chemo and so sick. Secondly, he was emotionally abusive, vacant and unyielding in getting help till I told him I wanted a divorce after 32 yrs. I regret getting the divorce bc I'm not financially set but that is the only reason. This is so very helpful and makes me feel like I am still loved by God
Do you have an episode specifically on marriage with addictions and mental health issues? Especially when the spouse has a victim mentality and hasn’t made much strides in wanting healing.
My husband divorcing me, mediation scheduled May 28th, he chooses his quadriplegic friends, pastor and wife of pastor and church friends over our marriage 💑.. He believes he's priorities are this peoples over me his wife. His counselor says he's in a witchcraft, this pastor teaching are off, not from God. Now he left me not once but 2x over this peoples. He listened to them over his own family and marriage 💑. Sad but I been like this for 10 years going through. He protect, depend this peoples over me his wife. Its painful to know a husband protect others than his own marriage and family.
What can a disabled woman do if she believes she is ready for divorce from a toxic marriage (that could be making her disability worse), but has no financial means, it feels impossible, we have young children and my disability does not qualify for assistance, I feel stuck.
What about a case where your husband has divorced you, wishes now to reconcile and work to restoration, but yet it's still not truly saved and wanting Christ? In my heart I believe that God could still work out salvation for him and restoration of our marriage but it's still confusing for me to know whether or not I should try when he has yet to turn to the Lord. There is a brokenness there but not to repentance yet
I just thought of a Scripture, when reading your comment, so just take it for what you will, with God's blessing & the Holy Spirit's counsel, dear sister. The Scripture is, "For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death." 2 Cor.7:10 kjv (:For godly sorrow produces repentance to salvation, not to be regretted; but the sorrow of the world produces death." 2 Cor.7:10 nkjv) I know when I was in the situation like what you've described, I went back (basically thinking he'd "get Christ Jesus THROUGH me"... which, come to think of it, made as much sense as Sarah thinking Abraham could "get THEIR son through Hagar". (groan!)), & it ended up causing us all a whole lot way worse problems, big time! But that was my experience. ☹
Women are taught to be "nice". Never offend. Keep unpleasantries to yourself. The growth i started to see in my unhealthy relationship was some cold, hard, cutting facts that stung and made him perk up and LISTEN! All the touchy feely nice "language" we're instructed to use doesn't slap most people (especially men) in the face like they need. The changes I've made and recall are when people have been brutally honest and I THANK them. Biblically we also see honest and sometimes harsh [seeming] language which I think is severely lacking in our society. The Bible doesn't coddle and cradle emotions it says to do this or that....and I'm speaking of how the Bible speaks of sinners. "Stop that now ! Repent!" (Paraphrasing) while of course the Bible is very sweet and compassionate to the brokenhearted. What I'm saying is, we can and should be blunt with our spouses who are in sin. The consequences of their actions could lead them to hell.
I have questions you haven’t touched much on. Sexual intimacy and Financial abandonment. Please. Please help. My husband does not make love to me at all. I beg him for it. Also, he lost his job 2 1/2 years ago and is now out of money. We’ve only been married under 4 years. I have a good job, but I was not planning for my husband to not be ambitious enough to find a new job. I’m very perplexed.
Your husband is in sin in both of those areas mentioned. Withholding sex from your spouse is wrong, and the male is supposed to provide for his household according to scripture. I think 1st or 2nd Corinthians discusses the matter of our bodies/intimacy. And then 1 Timothy 5:8 discusses the matter of the man not providing.
