Moving to a Trans Sanctuary - Everything You Need To Know 

My go to line is that I just want breathing to not be illegal for me. That's the direction we are going. We lower suicide rates by insane metrics and get told existing should be illegal

the night club shooter was a moslem, not a convservative though.

@@mentalalchemysubliminals number 1, as if conservativism is confined to just being a white American and the same types of people. The solution to many of my problems would then be to just leave. Second, yeah the shooter was Muslim but that was once 8 years ago. Since then, conservatives have been on the fucking warpath against not only lgbt rights and other minority rights, but pretty much anything that makes life for anyone not extremely wealthy not miserable. I think I know which one is the bigger problem.

​@@mentalalchemysubliminalshas to be one or the other? Can't be both?

@@endor8witch It's usually "the one" all over the world...

why did this make me think of a bunch of lesbian geese flying to oregen 😭

I’d f*cking love to live in Oregon 😔

@@sleepygyro hope you can join us here someday! ☺️

It's pretty rad

What's the name of the museum?

We are a scape goat for the right to control everyone with hate

On my mama

Not for no reason in their minds. Conservatives are so deluded that they think they're fighting some kind of battle

There is actually a reason. It's because dark desert cultures are using their u.v. influence to move death pressure from their skin color to sex organs. Anyone who questions "gender by sex" is a threat to that.

I think some people can't find a thing to fight for so they kinda make up a problem to solve.

I feel like it's so rare for detrans people to be given a voice (and then transphobes like to take it in all the worst ways) so I'm glad that you're here and vocal. The way laws are changing in the US is bad for everyone, not just those who are trans or used to be trans, but also cis people who don't "look" cis. I'm lucky to live in Europe, but I have trans friends who live in US red states, and everytime more news come out, I get more worried. I wish there was something I could do to help from overseas.

@@vickypedia1308 You're right that a lot of people want to censor and ignore detrans people. A lot of trans people and supposed supporters of trans people have dismissed me as transphobic. I've attempted to be diplomatic and extend the olive branch but even that wasn't good enough to reach more people for my trans and detrans support group. Even Ty Turner made a salty sarcastic comment dismissing the suffering of a detrans woman whose video went viral. People are actively prejudiced against detrans people and frankly I think they're the anti- trans bigots. They don't accept any trans experience that falls outside of their aggressively forced positive worldview. They will censor and walk all over you if you don't fit their narrative. People like me, even when I was still trans, are rejected from the toxic forced positive mainstream LGBT culture.

@@anewagora detrans people, like intersex people, seem to be used more as a gotcha in arguments than actual human beings with lived experiences. I don't know why you chose to detransition, and it's not in my right to pry. But it feels like a lot of outsiders like to act like they know detrans or intersex people and their struggles oh so well, when everything they have are rumors and anecdotes. I don't claim to know what it's like to be American, or trans, or both of those things because I'm not either. Everything I say is based on assumptions and the limited pool of trans Americans I personally know. So why would I or anyone claim to know the reason for every detransitioner's choice? At least I know trans people, but I have no personal knowledge about detrans people! There may be statistics about most of you doing it out of family/peer pressure, but it would be stupid to assume that that's always the case. Humans are too nuanced for there to only be one possible reason. And yet, many of us actively disregard evidence of people doing it for other reasons, because it doesn't fit our argument when we're trying to "gotcha" the bigots. I personally like to think that gender isn't wholly static. That you can be trans, and love being trans, and yet still choose to detransition later in life and be happy with *that* choice as well. I mean, we all (I sure hope it's all) accept genderfluid people in the community, so this concept doesn't seem all that foreign to me. So, if you're happy with your choice, don't let other people tell you they know you better than yourself. And if you're unhappy and were forced into it... I want you to know that I and many others are fighting for a world where that will never have to happen again.

That’s why we plan on teaching “Gracefully Grayson,” a middle school novel. We just need to get the school board to approve it. 🏳️‍⚧️

hey thanks for sharing your detrans experience and still being on our side. i hope that eventually your experiences stop being used as a Gotcha and more folks who share your experiences can feel comfortable sharing and also not turn to bigotry.

There is no hate like Christian love.

@@TheAsvarduilProject as a Christian trans girl, real. Its being massively misused. The bible does not support these actions.

If it doesn't make sense maybe it's bc it's not true.

@@he.5865 It's not true. I am a vegan atheist who never found acceptance on the left. They treat me like garbage and tell me to kill myself. The Christians are my besties. I have literally a dozen very close friends who are all Christians. Yall really do love and accept different people, in my experience at least.

lol ever heard of islam? death sentence

I am trans and disabled too. I hope things turn out ok for you.

also disabled and yeah, they cut the programs for those of us below the poverty level and dependent on care first. They dont care about us, we cant move if we have family here that helps us, no other country will take us either (ive done the research and talked to many people in other countries) because we cost too much and they dont see us as a benefit to their country. who gets voted in (not like either candidate is a good choice) will really matter to us because trump wants to cut everything that doesnt benefit white, hetero, cis male, able-bodied christian nationalists. I can't work. I need a lot of medication, injections, infusions, therapy.... I barely get by on what they give disabled people. im so scared.

Trans disabled thread, yay

Exactly and the cowards that leave because they have wealth just abandon everyone else to suffer. While the state gets worse and deeper red

As a fellow disabled trans person, my thoughts are with you and I can only hope that the situation in America gets better

commenting to boost because this is 100% accurate. Canada is NOT a utopia, we are a slightly less shitty version of the US. some conservative are talking about banning trans healthcare, banning abortion, scary shit like that. the clinic i was going to for gender affirming care/gynaecology stuff closed down prolly cause our public healthcare system is being defunded. if you’re thinking of moving here know that we are only a couple steps behind the US. while you might be *safer* here, truly *safe* doesn’t exist on this continent

Thank you for posting! I had thought about moving to Canada but now I’ll have to rethink. This shit is so exhausting.

@@duncanneal5278 You're welcome here in MN, we're kinda Canada-lite, only, we've become more and more tolerant lately (thank all that is good in this world). We do get a bad rap for being "Minnesota Nice" (ie, passive aggressive), but that's towards everyone, not just marganalized communities. We're also rec legal if 420 is your thing, with legal dispensaries for the non-medical folks opening next year. I personally make a habit of complimenting strangers when I'm out of the house (which is rare), to combat the negative stereotype.

The federal government is still progressive. It's the opposition and some provincial governments that suck. I live in Alberta and where I am from is very orange. Which means further left than democrats.

I live in one of the red states that more affordable and food and housing is comparable or more than you mentioned. Everything is high everywhere right now.

It's even worse when they talk about leaving the country. America has a long, proud history of exporting fascism, even under liberal presidents, and living outside of America means you might be subject to its foreign policy.

Yes to all that and also there are totally "average" life circumstances where people can't move! Right now I'm stuck in a red state because my fiancé's ex wife is here and doesn't want to move, at least not anytime soon. Their 3 kids deserve both parents around, so we stuck around. Friends, families, schooling, and loved ones being sick, disabled, or on hospice are only a few reasons for someone to stay. The "just move" argument has always pissed me off. It's dismissive and ignorant. I would love to move my entire support system somewhere with me to a more accepting place, but that's literally not possible.

You also make a valid point. Im so worried about where the USA is going with all this.

Best comment on this video. Fantastic points. There’s so much to think about. The safety of the person choosing to move is so valid and yet it feels funny🥴 bc when they leave they’re giving the transphobes exactly what they want, leaving the other trans people fewer and fewer to make change. Ugh

perhaps we could get them to pay for that by making an organization which "removes transgenders from the area" (by paying them the money needed for them to escape the hell they put them through) Just make it sound evil and mean, but in reality they cove the costs of transportation and perhaps the first month or two of rent in a new location.

Me too dude. It’s especially scary as a minor who cannot afford to move.

@@_dazai_soukoku im a adult who transagender > trans male (alot to explain), neurodivergent and disabled. despite being in a trans sanctuary i have like one of the worst living conditions. i barely make any income and cant afford to move anywhere. i cant really tell my real story of being trans to my family bc they will not understand why. sending love too

@@kcio3erene307 I’m also neurodivergent! Not disabled but I can understand the struggle. Hang in there man. We’ll make it out one day.

​@@Wheels36H3WMNo they can't? Where are you getting that from? It's called terf island by other trans people who live there. Just because they aren't rounding them up doesn't mean it's safe at all.

​@@Wheels36H3WM That's a lie told by the transphobes, and deliberately spread by JKR to make it seem like "gender ideology is going wild". :/ It's untrue that people would be arrested for mis-gendering. Instead "gender critical beliefs" are protected in law as a "belief". They have just outright banned puberty blockers for all under 18s and politicians have been openly transphobic in both major political parties. It's... not great right now.

that one, "you're an atheists because of trauma" is particularly funny to me, and by funny i mean outrageous. putting aside the stupid idea that atheists can't be real or that atheism can't be a legitimate intellectual position on its own, don't they think it's a little messed up that *their* religion traumatized you and me and so many people? they are admitting that they are traumatizing people away from their cult! "you're just traumatized" ok bitch, fix your goddamn religion then, it's hurting people, is this what your god wants? why are you putting the blame on me?

That's certainly understandable. Conservative Christians have a habit of scaring certain people away and causing harm. I am so glad I am Jewish and an atheist. The two largest branches of Judaism in the US; Reform and Conservative, are LGBT accepting. Not to mention Judaism being more open to atheism than Christianity.

A tip for dealing with the "bless your heart" types... Tell the you plan to pray for them, that you're sorry to see they have so much hate in their hearts and will pray god will help them find wisdom and kindness. Alternatively, as some will find that icky for trauma or belief reasons, tell them you'll be praying for them to Cthulu or whatever deity you feel like calling upon. Either of these options *usually* shut them up. People suck.

@@LifeSeekingTruth That would be The Church of the FSM for me. I'm an ordained minister. 😈

I'm not an atheist because of trauma, rather organized religion is too ridiculous to be believed. My own trauma came from elsewhere.

wow! great job getting out. congrats on the place soon, you deserve it!

My gf who is also trans is in Florida and she loves it there and I'm in Canada and I've had multiple problems trying to pass even though I'm 9 years on T it's hard to know a safer place I wish there was a place that she would enjoy too but she doesn't want to leave Florida

1) I believe in you, stay strong 2) i am bit tired so for a secomd i thought "bottom surgery" means that you want to be bottom in Bed and not that you want to transition. Im sorry that i had to share this but it sounded so weord i had to. Stay strong my Brother or Sister :D

My gf who is also trans loves Florida and had no issues currently. What have your experiences been in Florida I can't find much of anything that only showed anti trans bills for minors instead of adults I'm in Canada and I've been outed just by my arm scar and not being able to pass well even though I'm 9 years on T

Consider that some states you move to may have better job markets and better pay. That was my experience moving from Western NC to NH a number of years ago. In NC it was months getting called back just for retail and warehouse positions. In NH I had a job in 48 hours in my industry that my degree is in. So scope out options that could offer you this. One step back, two steps forward.

Finding a bottom surgeon in florida is so irritating and scary :(

We just moved to FL, I'm disgusted with the politics and them taking away healthcare. Believe me, a lot of new residents are fighting for you! Hope for a blue (or at least purple) wave this next election, I'm now a registered voter in FL.

So glad you managed to escape 🏳️‍⚧️

Congrats, the city of lights is wonderful 😊

You need to register to vote oppose Le Pen if you can though.

We miss you, of course. Sorry we lost you.

Unfortunately the far right is growing in France too, make sure to keep yourself safe! 🏳️‍⚧️

Where are you at sweetie, I used to live in Santa Fe, miss it a lot. Would kill to get back, being here in Good Old Texas 🤮

Yeah, id love to get out of Texas too 😭

I fled Texas to New Mexico a couple years ago. I’m probably never looking back even though I do love my home and my city

Leaving Florida for NYC but Albuquerque was high on the list of places we considered

​@@jessicatymczak5852whyd you go to Texas?

Wa state is one of the top accepting states if not the top one. I am trans and I live here. Trump won’t win btw. Hugs!

@@KJDogluv Yep! WA and OR are two of THE SAFEST places for trans people and the whole of LGBTQIA. I feel our sibling states will be okay.

Hell, yea! PNW for the win! ❤🎉

As a Washington resident as well, I'd feel safe if we weren't directly bordering conservative states. But hey, as soon as I can I'm fleeing to Sweden

@@Brain-dead-gamer i plan on norway, personally. living in washington now, unfortunately surrounded by unsupportive ppl

There's something about people insisting they aren't discriminatory that rubs the wrong way every. single. time.

I am from the Bay Area. Born in Hayward, raised in Livermore, hat bottom surgery in San Francisco. Unfortunately you find bigots everywhere.

​@@jan_MasewinYea. You wouldn't have to say that you aren't a bigot unless there is a reason someone might think you are a bigot.

“Are you not embarrawsed?”

​@@jennoscura2381I love your avatar. It's beyond cute.

The people of Illinois here welcome you, I pray safe travels for your journey.

I'm a fellow Hoosier that's luckily in a fairly progressive city, so I'm keeping an eye on where things are going for the state while I save up some money to get away from here. I know Illinois is close by, but I don't think I'm ready to live near Chicago (where it's more progressive), so I'd like to save up to move to Minnesota. To those living in Indiana, please know there are some cities still here that are accommodating for trans people. If you can't afford to leave the state, it might be still possible to at least move to a safer city!

@@syrup_n_waffles I live in one of the safer cities in Indiana. I am disabled, nuerodivergent, and trans and I would be fucked if I was a county over even. I watch state and local politics because my life depends on it. I had someone recently tell me to run for office becuase I would be of great benefit not only to my communiyt but the state as a whole. It really validated how I feel about needing and wanting to make a change in my city/state. I can't even get married without losing my benefits, I can't change my name because of the benefits and the immense hassle it will be. Being nuerodivergent I also have a lot of programs to facilitate daily living. And transferring all of that would be a nightmare. But at least in this city/county I feel safe. I feel safe enough to move my partner here from Georgia to protect her.

Know any you can share? If it's close enough it might be doable, because I certainly don't have the money to move to Illinois. ​@@syrup_n_waffles

Im considering Chicago ❤

I hope things work out for you. Stay safe!

@@WournosFromTwitch comment made me smile, i will!!

Things will work out, I'm in the same situation but luckily I live in Europe, my parents are very Muslim and would probably kill me if they ever found out I was LGBT. We just have to survive until adulthood, internet stranger and we'll be free

@@chatdonut You stay safe too! There are way too many people throwing around "they will kill me", but in your case I wouldn't doubt it. I'm so sick of violence in name of 'honour'.

Stay safe kido, its scary out here when we are just trying to be our self's, i would recommend trying to find community so you dont have to deal with everything alone I hope things get better

Say more

where to start ... theres the smaller things like making crude jokes about black people or being upset about seeing too many black people in a TV show, or just belittling and sometimes even confronting people they find to deviate from the gender norms too much the fundamentalists that I grew up with would regularly defend slavery, usually the classic: "they learned valuable skills" line. I've met multitudes of holocaust deniers. Theres quite a few of them i've met that believe in debunked 1900s race science studies, or sometimes they would try to use the Bible to claim they're "Gods chosen race" or something to that effect ...

I stopped because I didn't wanna risk my comment being nuked, but I could really keep going ...

@@moffichu9150 What the hell.. and that's "casual racism" ??? In my country this kind of stuff is said by the most extreme far right people here, and denying holocaust could get you IN JAIL, or having a big fine to pay if you start saying that on media.

@@sorane8910 germany?

I’m born and raised in oklahoma and would love to end up somewhere like that. Well done getting to a place that makes you feel safe, and I’m sorry for all the loss and grief you must have had to experience. You give me hope.

Fellow trans refugee in Washington here. Glad you made it, and hope you are able to thrive.

Similar story, and I recently moved to WA myself!

Born and raised in Washington state here. I’m so glad ya’ll have gotten here safe and hope that life will get better.

I grew up in Washington! It's definitely a great place to land after fleeing a red State. My family just had to run from Florida, but we settled on NJ. I feel so much rage, sadness, and longing after leaving, but the safety and friendliness here is helping.

The risk is there for most rural areas.

same thing over here in western washington. and eastern washington is another place entirely and is completely red.

ive had several POC and white people that have lived in Oregon for years or their whole life tell me that racism is very prevalent in Oregon. Have you found that to be the case?

@@hotwaterisspicy i made a trip to Oregon recently and the first person i met just outside of the airport was some guy complaining about mexicans. so, i do believe racism is prevalent in Oregon. haven't heard anything else though

I'm planning to move to Oregon, and I spoke to a real-estate agent who specializes in helping LGBTQ people. She advised me to stay away from rural areas.

This needs to be bumped up to the top, people need this.

yes bump this up

Any tips for someone who might want to start something similar?

@@shedidntthinkthisthrough I would reach out to the Trans Continental Pipeline in Denver and get their take. I’m sure they have some great lessons learned from starting their group.

🧐 Your biological father is still your father, because he’s a man. Mothers don’t produce semen, because mothers are female.

how many moms do you have? also, how do you respond to "your mom" jokes now? (i mean this only half-jokingly)

​@@SpikeyBagel someone i know in a similar situation says "which one?" and it's hilarious

Now THAT is a drama worth making a show over! But really, im happy for you 🩷

Bruno Riquelme de la Mora??

unfortunately they don't abide by the simple christian rule of loving thy neighbor as they do themselves, so it's really up there if they would be included

I've always said "If heaven is full of people like these, then I would prefer hell any day." No amount of physical torture can compare to having to live with these evil monsters.

It's sad that we gotta deal with this, even in our own LGBTQ+ community

Some gay folk think they're safe from all this, because they already got theirs. Got gay marriage, got a modest general public acceptance. I assume they think those basic consolation prizes somehow put them in the in-group, that the bigots have them off their radar now. But none of that is actually safe. I don't recall, and I don't trust google enough to look it up any more, but I believe it was already reported a few times that the nutjobs on the supreme court have been planning to do to gay marriage what they did to abortion, which just makes the conservative or transphobic gays seem even more insane. Bigotry doesn't stop, even when the last out-group is destroyed, since there's always more differences to scrutinize, more reasons for the bigoted to hate, more lines to draw in the sand. I wish more people could realize that all bigotry, no matter who it's directed at or dealt by, takes root from the same rotten core, and absolutely none of it should be tolerated, because none of us are safe until all of us are, straight and/or cis people included.

Here in Germany , a lot o lgbgq people get assaulted by non western immigrants. Hit in the face, harassed in the train, etc. Its horrible.

I lived in Amsterdam for a few months and have some Dutch friends. The culture there was exactly the mind-your-business personal responsibility that Americans love to pretend they’re into. It was refreshing to see everyone being polite and respectful.

Wishing the best for you from a fellow Oklahomo. I would love to leave but have found some community here too. I hope it gets better for you.

As a Kansan, I hear you

as a fellow oklahoman, please know there are many of us organizing and working to build community spaces and grasswork networks to uplift and protect each other. our liberation will never come from our legal system, it will come from our radical love and support for each other. we will always, ALWAYS be here.

Minnesota, surgery is part of the state health. Think about it.

​@@taskrabb1t YES. THIS. 💪 Fleeing FL to start one in a safer place in a couple months!

Immigration is harder but it is possible, especially with a strong passport like the British or the US one.

this is so true! im genuinely thinking of moving away to denmark or netherlands but i am young and have little money or autonomy. i know it is scary. we have to stick together. stay safe bro.

There is the common travel area with Ireland. Not ideal, but better than nothing.

Interesting, aren't all the Nordic countries good when it comes to LGBTQI people? Especially Sweden & Norway.? Iceland, too. We'd like to have you back here in California, but it's not even safe here if these radicalized republicons win the 2024 election. Their Project 2024 is another Mein Kampf plan. So, for your safety, stay in Europe!

Saving this for when I need it. Thx!

and NOAHFINNCE!!

​@@madalynnjagla5147I just noticed! This is great :D

Both smug groomers.

Both lovely folks. Watching their stuff is hard for me though because of how depressing things have been lately.

@@nobody.of.importance That's rough, I hope things improve for you. You can get through this!

Oh boy

Jesus…

Which countries are on your list? Unfortunately the right wing is gaining power in Europe too.

@@demoncorejunior Saint Kitts and Nevis. It may not be better, but at least there are no white nationalists

is still OK to shit in the bushes. but you do you

​​@@leosullivan9228 Have you ever lived in a van in the desert? The gold claims? Be careful which tailings pile you investigate. You might find some of my shit.

i'm ftm as well and have lived my whole life in north idaho, and i 100% agree and sympathize. me and my partner are both disabled so it's incredibly hard for us to keep jobs, let alone move away. the disability help here is also basically nonexistent. it's getting pretty scary, especially after the patriot front incident at CDA pride. i hope you're able to get out. hang in there, we're in this together!

hello fellow idaho ftm sibling i see you

@UTTPW Weird behavior

Hi, can you explain a little about how life in the UK got worse as a trans person? Thanks, I would appreciate it. I live in Germany. I always wondered how it was to got to Ireland but I heard that they hardly have trans health care and that some ppl even come here to get the operations done.

The UK has gotten a lot worse in the last five years. Back in 2018 we were on the cusp of having self-ID, but once Boris Johnson's government came in they began listening to a lot of very nasty gender-critical lobby groups. Since then, they banned puberty blockers for kids (it happened in 2020, got overturned by the courts, then happened again), are trying ban teaching about trans issues in schools, banned the development of new gender neutral toilets in public (i.e. governmental) buildings, are repressing scientific research into gender and sex, and want to remove anti-discrimination protections for trans people from our Equality Act. That's not to mention their chronic neglect of NHS gender clinics, which often have waiting lists of 7+ years

@@jayw.5810 the two current main political parties have both passed laws and bans the trans community here in the UK,restricting access almost totally for young trans people,they are changing the equalities act to ban trans people from single sex spaces,they refuse to ban conversion therapy for trans people.They blocked a new law which would have made it easier to change our birth certificates and passports etc.Teachers are forced to out trans kids to their parents and there is a version of the bathroom bill passed in America also in operation here in the UK.They want to ban trans women nurses from cis female hospital wards and ban trans male nurses from cis male wards,force them to use the wrong bathrooms and trans patients will be placed on wards of their assigned birth.A trans male MP was forced to out himself because he was being blackmailed,Trans people are banned from all sport in the UK. A recent government commissioned report is now being twisted to justify passing further bans and restrictions on the trans community in the UK including prohibiting anyone accessing trans health care untill a person turns 25.They are forcing young people to de-transition or stopping them from transitioning in the first place,so that there are less trans adults in the future.they are talking about banning trans people from being able to adopt or foster children,they have now made it illegal for families of young trans people to access private trans health care or to go to other countries to get access to trans health care.The government in the UK is also trying to change being trans gender from being a recognised medical condition back to being seen as a mental health conditions that can be cured which is why they won't ban conversion therapy. it's a general election in the UK very soon (July 4th) and all political parties are targeting the trans community.They are mirroring what is happening to the trans community in America and determined to do the same in the UK. There is talk of a trans genocide on the U.S but there is talk of it here in the UK,the press and media also demonize and dehumanize the trans community in the UK spurred on by both main political parties in the UK doing the same thing,and of course sadly JK Rowling is British and also fuelling the anti trans rhetoric in the UK (Matt)

​@@jayw.5810 one person. JK Rowling. She started to get really vocal about her hatred for trans people a few years ago and because of that, people in the UK got bolder with their hate and then the politicians got bolder with their hate. It's probably a lot more that's started the snowball effect but jk Rowling is absolutely one of the people who kicked the snowball that's now becoming a snow boulder

JK Rowling has also done a whole lot of other shit. She's a blatant Holocaust denier, she hangs out with neo Nazis and if you call her out for her Holocaust denial in the UK she will SUE YOU.

I'm also in Canada did you move out of Canada or are you still in Canada?

May I ask which rural area you moved to? I'm very curious in studying rural areas that are seemingly paradoxically progressive. I go to college in upstate, bumfuck New York, but the town surrounding my college is quite progressive. We even have a coffee shop run by a local gay couple that the queer locals love to attend. It's a really nice combo to be in a beautiful, gorgeous nature-filled area and have a community of queer and allied folks.

@@itaraaah I am north of you. Honestly and literally. In 'gay friendly' cities people have expectations of you and they want to own your transition. In small towns they don't really want to know and I do know several gay and trans people who live out this area because there is less pressure and you can be lived for being you and not your transition or sexuality. I live stealth and I like it. I suspect my coworkers know but I don't raise the issue and so they don't either. I work hard and smart and that is what matters to them. Kevin O'learly's company Stream is also up this area and there were around 5 trans people working there and there is a military base and several more trans people there.

@@psychette8846 That's incredibly interesting. I'm always of the belief that no identity is a monolith. Some marginalized folk don't see their identity as a huge part of them, while others do. I fully respect the desire to live stealth. For me, that kind of lifestyle would be suffocating, as I love talking about my identity with those who relate to me.

@itaraaah Early on I did share, but people will use what they know about you to hurt you. I didn't just lose a job, I lost a career. Even 5 years after losing my job people would destroy new opportunities for me. Transition is like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get. Times are different now, but I just continue with what works.

Best of luck 🤗 my gf who is in Florida loves it there and she didn't have any problems currently 🤔 but I'm in Canada and I've had several problems because I don't pass well even though I'm 9 years on T. If it's ok to ask what are your experiences in Florida? What was the scariest parts of living there

If you're near any of the Trillium Health or University of Rochester facilities should go there for treatment. Good activists that'll get you treatment quick.

If you're anywhere near Syracuse or Oneida, I go to college there :-) I've only had good experiences! I paradoxically go to a really rural college with a super progressive community. It's awesome. I wish you the best in moving

Thank you 😭

How is this comment from a day ago 💀

@@GDRhythmic Probably was unlisted and was gotten to through a membership of some kind.

Yes it reminded me of getting a massage and there was a lesbian woman that run this massage place and she was saying transphobic comments.i thought poor trans women and everybody could hear even though we couldn't see her from behind all these curtains where people having massages she was very vocal

@@Phobiaph0bic ohhhh that makes sense. Thanks!

California will be happy to have you! It's awesome here 😊

They dont see trans people as human, thats why

same. i was born here and i love it mostly but it’s gotten prohibitively expensive and i’m tired of it being the only “safe” place around. unfortunately, seems everywhere else that’s “safe” to go are also prohibitively expensive. Shit sucks

I'm near Austin but do not feel safe anymore after someone was murdered in a hate crime close to where I live. I am not trans, but my sibling is. I am bisexual. Neither of us are safe.

I’m near round rock; we have a combination of SUPER far right old people / boomers, and queer people. But I almost always see queer people accompanied by parents, or in big groups. Of course I can’t assume anyone is queer or not, but still. The amount of anti small-talk I hear all the time about queer people is awful. I’m closeted gay and I hate having to serve far right wingers

If you ever need a trans CO contact, I'm inkynewt everywhere ♡

I'm in Kansas too, but I can't afford to move.

Wishing you all the best. I also love my animals. Good luck my friend.❤

Minneapolis.

A year? In Australia? It must be getting worse lately. I wouldn't be waiting. In your position, I'd be asking the gymrats where they get their stuff from. I waited less than 3 months for E. Even then, I paid over $100 to take a one month shortcut.

Nope, that's the law here, unfortunately & just because I haven't changed my utube name to my real name now doesn't make me any less a man. 😊🇦🇺

Informed Consent isn't a thing in Austrailia?

@@KonekoNyan .. It only takes a 5 minute appointment with a psychiatrist, for them to say "yep, you're of sound mind to know what you're getting into". The problem is having to wait a million years to score an appointment.

you're not trans, therefore youre safe

Do you feel threatened in GA? It’s a conservative place that is in transition and becoming more and more democratic. But I feel even the liberals in GA have conservative perspectives.

I grew up there. Not a lot of diversity but a lot of left-leaning people. Not much to do either unless you're in the twin cities.

@@elaexplorer There’s literally nothing to do where I am so it’s a pretty big upgrade regardless.

I'm curious about the Minnesota as well! I am not trans, but my sibling is, and I am a bisexual cis woman. We live in Texas, one of the most hostile states for LGBT+ people. Last year, a lesbian woman was murdered in a hate crime close to where I live, and that was the last straw for me. We're in a more progressive area of the state, but that was not enough to prevent this young woman's death. I am hoping to get myself and my sibling somewhere safe. Another couple of pluses of Minnesota for me would be colder weather (I dislike the heat,) and a chance to get in touch more with my Norwegian heritage. No place is perfect, of course, but Minnesota as a state has been going out of its way to become an LGBT+ sanctuary.

Why minnesota

It is, and this coming election will decide America's fate

dude, the next step for trans people is banning their healthcare and most likely genocide, from either the government or the civilians, if i were you id round up everyone you can and leave the US before the shit hits the fan

Your heart is in the right place By joining your friends in friendly states, you help ensure those states remain hospitable. It’s not your job to convert NC into a sane state with sane policies

America is a scam.

FReEdoM fOr mE aND NoT fOR tHeE!

Virginia is still a red state. They have lots of bad laws and will continue to and might have worse ones again. Find a safer place please!

As a Michigander, I’ve only had bad experiences by chance when I visit the U.P., and I think that’s where all the bad juju is coming from. (Seriously though, the people up there are REALLY weird and my mom’s side lives up there. The last time we visited was strange as hell, and I do sort of have a genuine feeling that there’s people up there holding back Michigan from being a safe spot.)

Wow I didn't know they could ban hrt for adults 😱