Mum Demands That The Wedding Dress Hide The Bride’s Figure | Say Yes To The Dress: Atlanta 

Lol older women hate hips. Younger women don't because they have learned most men like them.

​@@peachygal4153Very true. My 65 year old mom hates her wide hips because of how much attention she gets because of them

The bride has a much better figure than her mom ever had and Mom just can't stand that.

@@peachygal4153 Grandma sure knew what men like!

I thought I was the only one rhinking this jealoussssss

I thought the mom's comment was funny to begin with and then when they showed them walking out and the daughter is wearing a top that really emphasizes her hips, I wondered if the mom has any idea at all about who her daughter is.

If this gorgeous lady has ever been insecure about her hips, it's 100% due to the mother's toxic attitude. Absolutely insufferable!

I think Toxic Mom is JEALOUS!

​@@patmccoy8758 I agree, jealous of her shape

The mom is gaslighting and projecting her own insecurities on her daughter.

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Wedding is probably in a conservative church. She should have come from another angle though

@@MsJubjubbird nothing says conservative than a parent telling the bride not to show everything especially if they want it in a church not the bride

@@sailorathena17 if the bride has picked the family church, then those are the rules.

Yep

Right? I was like, "Amen, sister!"

I'm really chesty and my Nonna always says "flaunt it while you got it". I get insecure sometimes, cause it's really hard for me to find tops that are flattering

Grandma knows...she knows

Horrible behaviour of the mother,,,

@@ashleymarks3726don’t worry about it! I’m 13 and here’s a tip for you to think abt when ur feeling insecure:)) “everyone has insecurity’s to why think about people looking at you and “judging you” they’re focusing on their own insecurity’s so why would they be thinking about yours? Your beautiful the way you are ❤😊

I would have said " no you don't because it's MY BODY!"

​@@amidthephantomsrosewith toxic mothers you can never win. I once had a headache and I felt hungry..... So I ate. My mother was so angry at me coz I ate. She thinks that if you feel sick, you should fast, shouldn't eat. I explained, It is just a headache and my body is signaling to me that I must eat. She then went on a rant about how she knows better if I should eat or not and that she is more "competent" in medical stuff than I am, and she wants only the best for me. I replied that I am more competent on what my body feels coz it is my body and there is no way she could feel what my body feels, and I feel that I need to eat coz other ways I will not only have a headache, but I will also start fainting coz of lack of energy coz I hadn't eaten that day. My mom went into a violent rage coz I dared to stand up to her and she started to throw random stuff at my head (I don't know where she got the idea that hitting my head with random objects will help heall my headache. No competent person in medical issues will dare to do that... That is how she wants the best for me, bullshit). I then called my friend to get me strong ibuprofen and to evacuate me. That was the last time my mother ever saw me. Went no contact, cold turkey, coz I was tired of her constant emotional and physical abuse.

That comment took me out!!! 😤

The bride has a fabulous figure and sexy hips. Mom is a mess with a big fat mouth and no empathy nor taste.

Wanted to see if mom had those same hips!

​@@joywebster2678Mom WISHED she still had hips like that!!

I love her grandmother’s support. Mom is talking about hide what you don’t want everyone to see…. THEY ARE JUST HIPS! Good lord MOM! And they are “covered” she’s not walking out in a full sheer dress showing her butt crack and vajayjay. It’s terrible that she has to conform to her moms wants for HER big day. Mom’s selfishness resulted in her walking away without a dress and I bet mom could care less.

Her hips WERE covered in all the dresses. She wasn't walking naked to the showroom floor.

I agree! It was the most flattering and beautiful as well.

Yes, absolutely true 😢

Agree on the second dress the first was too form fitting those styles are ok for girls who are thin everywhere plus looks like it would be hard to move around in...just my 2 cents lol

It's called Narcissism

i so agree. That "i can say no" business was totally out of line. Shameful.

Mom ain't happy. My aunt was the same way with my cousin. Her daughter was happy and getting attention. Mom was miserable and vying for attention. She was worse on her daughter's wedding day. We all rolled our eyes, kept the daughter in the dark about her mom's behavior and just had fun. Which was a win win for me. I can't stand my aunt and seeing her miserable because everyone was having fun was just icing on the wedding cake 😅

Wedding is probably in a conservative church. Some women also use their daughters for some self worth. She's also 23 and every 23 year old wants to be sexy. She might change her mind about her choice in ten years time

@@MsJubjubbird the church couldn't be THAT conservative. The daughter would have had that in mind. It's not like she wanted to show off too much skin or make her bust a focal point. It was just her curves she wanted to embrace. And as for her being 23 and wanting to be "sexy", there are women literally double her age who want to show the same or even more. Age has nothing to do with it. She, like many other brides, wanted to feel confident in their own body and ultimately their dress. Mom was destroying her confidence. More than likely because she had little to no say about her own dress. Misery loves company. Especially when that company is starting to show confidence.

Yeah, gaslighting much

I hope she always feels beautiful in her body, because she's beautiful.

So agree!

Amen sista!

yes exactly. If my mother pulled this crap on me then I would have said (in the store) Thanks for the offer to buy my dress but I didn't realise it would mean you also choosing the dress I wear to my own wedding. I will buy my own dress.

@@ktwashere5637 I do not understand how your daughter is old enough to marry and yet is not old enough to choose her dress. If she has to be told what to wear, she is too young to marry. What the girl should have done is called off the wedding and eloped. Then her mother couldn't participate at all. That would have really pissed her off and I for one would have stood there and laughed, just for spite. I really hate seeing mothers act like this.

100% correct

Apparently, that's all mom sees.

And that's horrible because her shape is super attractive. A really conventionally drop dead gorgeous figure.❤

She probably already does secretly since I doubt this is the first time the mom said that to her

I let my daughter pick as well. I gave her a budget, and she went over a bit, but worth it for a dress she loved. My problem was she looked gorgeous in every dress she tried on, so there was no tears from me. I was just there to support her and pay.

​@pamtanner516 same with my daughter. My main question was, "Do you feel beautiful?" I was there to support, and pay.

@@cecedubois5147 the one thing I will tell you is she chose a dress with sleeves and back coverage. Once she turned 18 she choose to get her fair share of tattoos. I don’t/didn’t approve. So thankfully her dress hid all of those.

@@cecedubois5147 my hubby paid for the dress.

I was just thinking that... A child shouldn't have to worry about seeking their mother's approval for things like this.

Do never scream at narcissists, they feed on your rage. Ignore them.

Totally agree! The second dress was gorgeous on her!!

Compromise is not in momma dearest's vocabulary. You do what she wants or she makes you miserable. Your first in many lessons about boundaries, my dear.

My wedding dress was candlelight. The only comment I got from my mom was that, “It isn’t white!” 😳

And she's allowing her mommie to body shame her daughters. Two pigs in a pod.

Well I saw that the moms OTHER daughter got married in a mermaid dress like the first daughter wanted! Wonder why she let the younger daughter have a mermaid dress. 🤷

I am so sorry to hear this. I don't think Mother's have to be with the bride when she buys her dress. Since I was paying for everything, I went dress shopping on my own. When Mom finally saw the dress, she and Dad loved it.

😱 I’m sorry that happened to you

i’m so sorry that happened to you. back when i got married i had a students mom tell me to tell me what i wanted and she would design the pattern and make it. my mom came with me to get the material she was all support and no stress- she was a dear!

I’m so sorry you were forced into doing that. I hope your mom isn’t still trying to force her will on you. This is why some daughters have to move far away from their parents. I hope your marriage is full of joy.

I hope you moved far away from her...

It was the opposite dynamic with my mother, I would say I thought a dress made me look too big in the hips and my mother would say, women have hips! They're supposed to have curves. 💗💗💗 Love my Mom

I wonder this a lot when watching this show.

Part of it is traditional. Moms always want their daughters to wear what they wore or if not, they offer to pay. Almost a symbol of the last time you dress your child. That being said, many do pay for a dress themselves and mom still has control. Because Mom has brought up their child(ren) to be so co-dependent on mom. Making decisions without moms ok makes them feel guilty. That's some severe brain washing while growing up.

Same here.

I had to agree with the mom; all I saw was her hip area.

@@laurellane1721 I get you're that mom's and too, right? When we grew up being super skinny and poker straight was the look you were supposed to have. Now? The younger generations love the bigger hips and booties.

If you have ever looked through historical fashion books or magazines you will know that throughout history different body shapes and therefore clothing styles were popular. During many times of the 19th century (between 1800 and 1899) the hourglass figures with a hoop skirt of various sizes was fashionable. During the roaring 1920s the fashion style was to look like a woman did not have any curves at all. During the 1930s and 1940s because of the depression and World War Two it was considered prudent to conserve fabric and live within your means. The large full bell shaped skirts and dresses during the 1950s was a symbol to the world that the American people were so wealthy (compared to people in other countries) that they could afford to use ten or more yards (nine or more meters) for one casual everyday dress.

@@laurellane1721that’s what happens when u are curvy and wear a fitted dress, you wouldn’t say the same thing if that was worn by a skinny girl

I’m sorry for the loss of your daughter.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mum recently. I cannot imagine your grief, but I'm sending solidarity hugs. x

@@CleoS-vx5pd thank you so very much 🤗

she should elope and not take one penny from that awful woman.

When I first read this I thought it said “paid for your groom” and I thought, this comment is about to get juicy 😅😅

You thought you sensed a soap opera story here 🤣😂🤣😂🤣