Murder of Daughters to Punish Husband | Christy Sheats Case Analysis 

It's hard to understand how you could reach the stage where the hatred of your spouse outweighed the love you have for your children.

When denied a conceal and carry permit in Texas, you know there is a problem.

My friend's husband killed their adult son, an only child, to punish her because she had just filed for divorce. People who do this are beyond cruel.

I’ve come to find, those who boast how amazing their lives are on social media 9/10 times are completely full of it. The happiest people I know have little to no social media presence.

So ironic how she cared so much about her image, but single-handedly ruined it by being evil.

I have a mother like Christy. From the sounds of it, similar to my mother, she mostly loves having lives/ppl she feels she can control more than anything else. She loves the attention being a "good mom" brings her on social media & in conversation. They never tell YOU (their own child) they cherish you above all else - they only say that kind of thing to strangers in order to inflate their own social image & get praise.

That’s exactly why after I split with my ex, I moved across the country and limited all contact to be solely through my lawyer. I had a gut feeling I was going to end up dead that just kept getting stronger and I listened to it. My life and my mental health have greatly improved since leaving that toxicity.

Let this be your sign to get out of that on again off again and/or toxic relationship today. There is no reward for you in bearing the toxic person.

I was with a narcissist for 6 years and was a wreck when I finally pulled myself away for good. I got dragged back several times as she would enlist my family, friends, colleagues to “tell me how sorry she was” but after several years... people around me started to understand. I can’t describe the confusion and roller coaster of ups and downs but getting out proved to me that it was the right decision. We had a daughter together... so the first thing my ex did was tear up the visitation order and disappear. It was 9 years before I saw my child again. The problem was always a lack of information. I didn’t know about cluster b disorders or codependency or narcissistic rage or borderline personality disorder. It took years of study, therapy and classes at colleges. My heart hurts when I imagine how this guy feels. She killed his children and deliberately left him alone. That’s not crazy. That’s plain evil.

Great analysis! As a mother of two daughters, I have difficulty grasping how a mother can kill the children she carried and raised to punish anyone.

the one thing that bothered me is how you covered the father's reaction - 'he may have thought the best option was just to flee' ... in other articles and videos i saw on this, the father was heard on the 911 desperately begging christy to shoot him instead, and when she started shooting, he was guiding his daughters out. he went back and forth between the daughters' bodies (witnessed by neighbor who was calling 911) trying to save them and again, beg christy for mercy i was surprised by your reporting on the father because i always had thought he was very valiant and tried so hard to save his daughters

The part about the husband telling her to use the gun on herself reminds me of another case. A young man's girlfriend broke up with him and the guy couldn't get over the loss. He was despondent. I don't remember the name or exact details, but he was hanging out with his brother and maybe his brother's wife one day, crying again about the breakup, saying he wanted to die because couldn't live without her, etc. His brother, in a horrible moment of exasperation, gave him a shotgun and said fine, go ahead if you really mean it (intending to prove he didn't actually want to die so he could finally start moving on.) But his brother actually shot and killed himself right then an there. The 911 call is one of the saddest and most disturbing I've ever heard. I had to stop listening to true crime related media for a long time after that.

It's possible Christy threatened suicide many times in a melodramatic and manipulative fashion. Her husband may have been expecting that and been sick of the histrionics and become sarcastic. I had a messed up mother and after years of scenes I just got jaded.

This is one of the most horrific cases I've heard about.

Apart from the drinking this sounds like my ex-wife. I tried to accommodate her lows but I couldn't tolerate the aggression towards the children when she was angry at me for whatever reason she'd concocted while I was away at work or in class. She disappeared and then showed up at the children's schools to pull them out mid-day. The teachers stated that she was belligerent and that they didn't feel comfortable releasing the children to her. I applied for emergency custody and divorced her. The court granted me custody but insisted on giving her visitation despite documented mental health issues. The court agreement forbade from me from asking them anything about their visitations with their mother. When I spoke to a social worker at childrens protective services about my belief that the mother was abusing the children I was advised that if the a case of abuse was substantiated the children would be removed from both of our care because I failed to prevent the abuse. Due to shared legal custody i required her permission to have the children see therapists. She told me and the children she was "afraid of what they might say about me" in therapy.The children told me as adults that she continued to abuse them while in her care. If I'd allowed the children to live with her I'm sure it would have been much worse. If you can't convince your spouse to seek help you have to leave them for the sake of the children.

I don’t understand how a mother could look at her children and murder them.

That half-cocked "bullet points" pun is going to trigger a lot of people.

Depression and anxiety doesn’t cause someone to murder. She was a Histrionic with psychopathy.

This is so crazy ...iv been depressed and I have anxiety but I would never hurt my babies this story blows my mind I can't understand how someone could do that

Not a psychologist, but from experience I think Christy may have had narcissistic traits or Borderline Personality Disorder due to her unstable relationships with the people around her and how her former employer believed she was disingenuous.

Doctor Grande, I know you're channel has evolved more toward analyses of these kinds of case stories-and they are very interesting-but I'm wondering if you'd be willing to do a special episode one day about de-escalation of potentially dangerous / deadly situations. For example, if Jason could not have closed the gap between himself and Christy and had to use conversation only, what would have been better things for him to say? Or how can one recognise when a situation like this has already gone past conversation and it's time to either fight or run? As always, thanks so much for your videos and your diligent work each day!

From my personal experience of dealing with major depression, anxiety and PTSD, I can say that at times, every day is a battle to live. I've worked hard to find joy with counseling, medication and other treatments to moderate its tyranny on me. Sometimes, every hour is a struggle not to end my pain and I hide it as best I can. Normal" people don't get it. Please show compassion and thank you Dr G, for your insights.

I wish mental health were treated with the same importance as physical health since many physical ailments stem from mental and emotional ones. Unfortunately paradigm shifts like this take a tragically long time. However, maybe we’re getting there through people like Dr. G, speaking up about the significance of mental health and being educated about it. ❤️

What's scary is there's lots of people like this lady. That barely skate by without being detected.

Having been raised by a narcissistic mother…I suspect the upcoming wedding tipped her over the edge…it was a stark contrast with how her own relationship was going. My mother’s response to me saying we were planning to get married was “oh great, me and my boyfriend can too, maybe a double wedding?” 🤦🏻‍♀️ And that was 20 yrs ago, have not spoken to her since…for another reason (using my SSN and racking up $50k in tax bills). Just saying…that detail was super pertinent…poor girls. How is the ex doing? (Cruel to tell her to kill herself!)

Anxious to see your analysis. As a mother I can't imagine how this woman could have done such a thing other than wanting to hurt her husband. How selfish!

As soon as “bullet points” came out of his mouth, I knew where this was going.

Being suicidal twists the way you see everything. I have children I love with my whole heart. When I was extremely depressed I attempted suicide & I thought of also killing my children. Not because I hated them .. because I *LOVED* them. My twisted thinking went like this: This world is awful. All they will do is suffer throughout their entire life. I love them too much to let that happen. I want to *save* them from having to be in this cruel world. If I can help them be in a much better place, that is my duty because I want what's best for them. See? she didn't have to hate her kids to do this. She could have also been thinking this horrid way. Btw, I can't believe I was that *sick* once. My children were never touched & they never knew what I was thinking. I'm so sorry I was so disturbed. But, when you are, you don't know it.

I served in the military, we are constantly training to the point when gun shots are fired our reaction is almost robotic, that is, we may be fearful but the training is so instilled in us we can still address the treat as we should. Some call it bravery, to an extent it is, but really our mind go into like autopilot that allow us to immediately do what we've been condition to do. I say this to say to all saying what this man could have done in hindsight, while sitting safely in their homes, they have no idea how paralyzing fear & confusion can take over a person who has not been trained when a gun is introduced to a situation, especially unexpectedly. The man very well could have just been overtaken by sheer confusion as to what to do in that initial moment & it is in that initial moment you have no time to think, hence military consistently training the troops so we don't waste time trying to gather our thoughts, to be ready within seconds to respond. I won't judge nor question the father in this case because I understand without training nor ever experiencing a situation like that absolute & total confusion as to what to do can easily take over any untrained person. Could I rush a person with a gun about to kill my child? Probably yes, but only because I've received some training to just respond without thinking. But of course even I can't say with certainty what I would do being, thankfully, I've never been in a situation to kill people I know.

Most people with the same mental health issues would never harm anybody, let alone their family. Some people are just evil, although that's a word that has gone out of fashion.

It’s so sick for someone to think others need to feel their pain in order to understand it. True love for one’s family should make a person grateful that they don’t feel the same pain.

Wow, I consider myself so very lucky, I had two very unstable parents and a sister who was paranoid schizophrenic, there were numerous guns in the house. I remember the one time my mother trying to attack one of my sisters and I stepped between them. Such a volatile life luckily no one ever use the guns. Nonetheless, the local police were always worried and would always come by very quickly if there was any trouble they were called to. I never understood it, but the local police for decades were very lenient on my parents, except for the time my mother try to attack an officer, but still she only got probation.

Thank you for a good analysis on Christy. As a mother of three adult children myself, I can not comprehend how this woman could kill her two daughters. I know a lady that had three sons, the eldest two sons were conceived by her ex husband. She had remarried and had a third son. The ex-husband came to collect his two sons, as he did every other weekend. Tragically for his children, he murdered his two young sons and himself, by connecting a hosepipe to the car exhaust pipe. It materialised that he had killed his children to “get revenge on his ex-wife for leaving him. I remember feeling so much hate towards this man. His sons were human beings in their own right, as was Christy’s Daughters. I am glad the police shot her dead.

If your partner insists on getting a gun against your wishes, you might be the reason for the gun.

Even for those of us who grew up before social media. There's always families in the neighborhood you think are perfect. Then its discovered decades later they were hiding some type of weirdness.

11:36 "He had invited Christy to use the gun on herself." So elegantly put, I aint even mad at that request. 😁

I appreciate the commentary on the nature of a depressive disorder, particularly in conjunction with using alcohol to numb the pain. I would offer the additional perspective that sometimes family members are forced to withdraw from such untreated individual for their own safety and well being. It isn’t just a matter of not understanding or viewing the relapse (depression or alcohol use) as a failure; it could be that when in the depressive state, the person with the illness inflicts severe emotional harm on the people closest to them. In this way, I view depression as having a secondary effect on other family members. If the depressive refuses to seek help or comply with treatment then loved ones may have no choice but to leave for self-preservation as well as to avoid enabling dysfunctional coping strategies.

Dr G!! You are almost 900,000! Love seeing this channel grow!

*People who have severe/ongoing mental health issues such as this woman; should not only NOT be allowed to carry concealed, but not allowed to own **_any_** gun, period! This would be a small step in the effort to curb gun violence!*

"Christy had a few bullet points to cover.". Dr. Grande, you have a macabre sense of humor.

In Sweden only criminals and hunters have firearms. There are strict laws how to have the hunting weapon in a locked cabinet and the ammunition in an other cabinet. 🇸🇪

This case has stayed with me since I heard about it for the first time. What a terrible and inconceivable thing to do to your children. Thank you once again Dr. Grande, for your assessment

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This was so viscious and so sad. I can't imagine being that vengeful. I hope he's doing alright.

She had to hate her children and motherhood secretly in the first place, for sure. Being depressed does not mean you want to hurt others, there is a lot more at play with being agressive than "having mood changes".

about Jason's failure to disarm Christy: "it's easy to judge in leisure what others had to do in haste."

Hello, Dr Grande. Going through some of your videos. I have to say you handled this Analysis with professionalism, and empathy. There were No Winners in this situation. I don't see how anyone could blame the Husband. He did what he thought was best, no matter how it turned out. One never knows what will happen when dealing with a depressed and emotional individual. Very Professional, as usual. 👌

I had a friend who fought like hell in a custody suit during a very messy divorce for the dog that her husband absolutely adored. After spending thousands of dollars and a couple of years in court, she was awarded custody of the dog. She probably had him put down to spite her ex-husband. He was devastated. I don’t put it past her that she would’ve done the same thing if they had had children. Absolutely despicable. I never spoke to her again

As someone raised by a mentally unstable mother, I immediately recognized the “crazy” in Christy’s pictures. Her poor daughters. That flat shine of inner madness is apparent in every picture; their gaze reminds me of that cult leader Applewhite.

I love when people say “I would have ___”. Until you have been through a situation you don’t know what your reaction will be. You will probably freeze. I was in a situation like that where I froze not that severe nobody died but I never would’ve thought for a moment I would have froze until it happened. That’s why we have fire drills. That’s why more places should have live shooter and other types of emergency drills

Very good analysis, mental illnesses are very difficult to carry or even survive.This is a tragic case of a person who obviously has suffered a lot and too much.Thank you, Dr. Grande

Thank you for the spot on explanation on how terrible depression can be and is, and it’s misunderstanding among friends and family of the depressed person. I have lived with this for years and have always be so misunderstood by family and friends. Seems nobody can get it unless they walk in the depressed person’s shoes. They only know how it affects them as family members and it can be very difficult. It’s a very painful illness. Hopefully your audience will “hear” this and gain more insight and understanding. Sad for everyone involved.

The way you described having MDD and the way others view a person with MDD nearly made me cry. I’ve been in a low now for about 8 weeks, and everyone probably thinks I just suck. I started an additional medication to assist my existing medication, but it seems to just be getting worse. I’m not violent and I’ve held the same job for 5 years, don’t worry.

Yep-the comments made about the family not understanding the depressive’s issues. Got that. So many folks look at mental health issues as a ‘failing’ or a lack of will power of the afflicted individual. As if the person ‘does this on purpose’. You know, Dr. G…why is it if we break a bone friends and family rush us to the hospital, etc, but have a ‘broken brain’ …oftentimes no help or understanding at all. Education-is so lacking and necessary in this country….

Dr.Grande is bright, intuitive and makes so much sense. He also has a fantastic dry sense of humor

Jordan Peterson says to be who you are behind closed doors out in the real world. In modern times, because of social media's effect on one's psychology, people often portrays being complete and happy while hiding deep within themselves their inner shadow. Which never comes out unless some form of external release presents itself. Running from pain by seeking pleasure or by inflicting harm on others. Socialization in these times is in a sense, a finite example of mutually assured destruction. If someone else sinks the rest must sink as well.

A huge problem in this country is that after a patient receives inpatient mental health treatment, they often don’t get set up with ongoing therapy sessions. Someone who is struggling enough to end up in an inpatient facility cannot set that up on their own. Hospitals should be coordinating this for their patients but for whatever reason, they don’t.

This case has blown my mind for years

One point you made Dr Grande, I'd like reiterate regarding depression being seen a failure because it returns. I have depression that brings some real lows. I take medication and have a great doctor I've seen for years. I have had to explain more than once that it is an illness that happens to be in my head that cannot be cured. It is managed. I can draw a parallel to type 1 diabetes in that it isn't cured, it's managed. Sometimes it clicks, sometimes not so much. Obviously, tragically, this was not the case with Mrs. Sheets.

People who have never experienced that kind of mental distress, often don't understand the one who does. If they can see a physical problem, they are sympathetic and kind,. But emotional pain is often ''just in their head'. Thank you for your thoughts on this tragedy.

Thank you for lightening the mood for a few moments

I appreciate your videos so much, Dr. Grande! Interesting stories that I can listen to in the background while I work. :) Loving the red shirt, by the way!

Thank you for a very clear explanation about depression and anxiety disorder and how it affects people. I learn something from you everyday, Dr. Grande.

Thank you Dr. Grande. I hope many people watch this to learn and to understand things they may be going through or went through. This extreme case is shocking but there are still signs and opportunities to be learned

Dr grande when are you going to do the peculiar case of Cindy James?? You gotta do that one, it’s such a case study!

Your getting so close to one million subs;, Dr. Grande. Its so exciting and so well deserved. I can't wait till you hit that sweet spot.

Hello Dr. Grande❤️ Thanks for the new video! They're always much appreciated.

I credit you for keeping strong doing these kind of cases man. 🙏

I think Mrs Sheats knew she was losing control over at least her oldest daughter with her impending marriage. People who need such tight control would rather die than give that up.

I would be very curious to see the results of an examination of Christy Sheat's brain post mortem, though I doubt an autopsy was performed since the cause of death was known. I'm just reminded of the case of Charles Whitman, the mass shooter whose personality completely changed due to a tumor pressing on his amygdala. How else does a seemingly loving mother gun down her daughters? Then again, alcohol is a hell of a drug. ☹

Really good point at the close there, Dr. Grande. It is incredibly refreshing to hear an honest attempt of conveying that type of perspective. As usual, you are on point.❤️

I’m happy that you have these videos from several months ago! Have a nice evening Dr. Grande, good night.

OMG! What a horrible crime! Murdering your children for any reason is horrible! What could Jason have been guilty of in her mind? How does murder fix anything? Thanks Doc, this is so painful!

Thank you, very compassionate analysis. 🌺

I love how Dr grande is compassionate toward the mentally ill but also doesn't make excuses for them. Good balance.

So glad you did this video. Dr Grande videos matter to me.

Please make a video about Nicole Johnson, Baltimore aunt whom was found with her niece's and her nephew's bodies in a car.

For the Dad I think if someone I loved had a gun pointing at me and people I loved I would be overwhelmed and just utterly shocked. It probably happened so fast and unexpectedly. This is why people get post traumatic stress disorder because these events are surreal and devastating.

Amazing analysis. Dr. Grande you have succeeded in showing us the case through the shooter's perspective and helped us understand how she got to this point. I hope people start noticing the mental health struggles a loved one is going through and get them help at the earliest.

Been waiting a long time for this one. Thanks, Doc.

Why did the husband allow her to keep the gun? She was denied a concealed carrier’s license? Surly he could inform police/ psychiatrist that she wasn’t stable enough to own a gun. Am amazed anyone with that kind of mental history can own a gun? It was a disaster just waiting to happen. Just incredibly sad.

I wonder what she looked like without full face and eye makeup. Seems she spent a lot of time on her personal appearance. You mentioned her wanting to make it appear as though she was well-adjusted and had an ideal life; is the cosmetics over-usage part of that desire of appearance of perfection?

That’s a great analysis. I had not heard that her husband told Christy that before Christy began firing. This makes me feel much more suspicious about him. That’s a terrible thing to say to someone who has been suicidal & hospitalized for it. I do realize that I can’t know how bad the situation was. IMO marriages are the most difficult of things to assess. Marriage is a deeply intricate relationship. I have always used caution when I’m asked my view or advice related to a married couple. I’ve been married for 28 years & it’s just a very personal dynamic in all ways. And I certainly don’t want to come off as if I’m justifying any of Christy’s actions that fateful day. I can’t help but consider what her husband said though. It’s all so very sad. I truly feel sad for all involved, ultimately.

This is heartbretaking.Thank you Dr. Grande for the compassionate analysis.😉I hope Jason is doing ok.

'she had a few bullet points to cover' Yikes, that's rough.

Dr Grande, I just finished watching an older video you made of a really good role play of a counselling session with a woman who was contemplating suicide and as you interviewed her it became more and more clear that she really didn't care about anything or anybody and didn't think anyone cared about her and felt hopeless and worthless and ultimately suicidal. In a way you can see this same dip happening here where a woman who once was very aware of the love she had for her children, slipped so far into a deep depression that it enabled her to carry out a callous murder of two people who she probably still loved but the depression had just wiped out any feelings she had for them or herself. She was truly out of her mind in my opinion but it seems to have built up over years. A very sad story.

Dr., I think this may be the best analysis I've heard from you yet. I am still a new subscriber, so keep in mind I am still watching your productions. Thank you for these.

The cacti arrangement in this upload is fantastic

Yay !!!! it's Dr Grande time again.

Thank you as always. I think the multiple personalities case on Netflix would be interesting to analyze - Billy Milligan.

I'm new to your channel, it's very good! I watch a variety of true crime content as do some of my friends and I'll definitely recommend and binge watch! Thanks for the hard work!

Dr Grande ❤️ I'm recently finding your channel and I enjoy ALL the above......

Jason probably is punishing himself for what happen. He’s in his own life sentence. Great analysis Dr Grande!! Hope you are having great day!!

Ultimate narcissist - you can see it in all the photos of her; trying to overshadow her daughters in them!

Hello Dr. Grande. Your analysis is very helpful always. Watching from the Philippines!

Thank you I was waiting for this 🙏

Doc, really appreciate your insight into this story. Her pain must have been so deep and profound, so many years. Just awful. Thanks again for your dedication, love as always 🐈🐾❤️❤️

I didn’t realize that you could inherit guns. That is wild. If I inherit any guns I will get rid of them immediately, as I have a history of mental health concerns. I can’t imagine a more horrible outcome for jason. I hope he can heal.

This is one of yours best analysis, Dr. Grande. Everything you said about her is true, in my opinion. Thank you

Your videos often make me realize how much worse things can be. My own problems seem small and benign compared to these extreme cases. And you’re right about both alcohol and firearms-they’re a bad mix and too often lead to tragic outcomes.