I was really hoping that baby daddy and op would fall in love. But no, he still has feelings for his cheating lying ex who only came back to cheat and lie to him again. He's so stupid. I'm actually shocked that the baby daddy's parents are even letting him humor the idea of getting back with the ex considering she's broken their son's heart so many times AT THE FAMILY CHRISTMAS PARTY NO LESS. I can understand if he's just not into OP, but going back to the ex? How much stupid can you get?
I agree but when it comes to the parents, technically they don’t really have a say in him staying with her. They just don’t have to let her come to their home or any of the family gatherings. If someone hurt my son like that, you damn right I would tell him to never bring her around me again. You don’t get to hurt my son and then be accepted as family. Especially considering the circumstances. Hell naw!
To sneak someone into your partners parents house for a “quickie” is gross especially after being taken back for cheating with the person you snuck in. So disrespectful. Also cheater girl knew the parents and the boyfriend for 10 years so bringing her cheating partner into their home on a holiday makes her a disgusting person with severe disrespect for everyone
Quick correction, PCOS is polycystic ovarian syndrome which occurs when you as a woman produce an excess of testosterone, so you don’t ovulate normally. The egg is normally pushed into the ovarian wall, developed by estrogen and progesterone, and then the wall of the ovary ruptures and this releases the egg into the fallopian tube. In people with pcos, they don’t produce enough estrogen and progesterone to develop the egg, so it kinda just dies and becomes a cyst on the ovary.
That's a good explanation. I want to add that it causes infertility, weight gain, and male pattern hair development (above lip, on chin, on chest, etc). If a woman with PCOS is lucky enough to get pregnant naturally, she should keep it. The odds are very much against her having another chance later on.
@@Karamarika yeah, didn’t wanna get into that side of it because it didn’t seem story relevant. It also can affect mental health, as well as the health of the whole body on a physical practical level
I have PCOS and all my hormones are in normal ranges, it's sometimes the ratios being incorrect. Luteinizing hormone and follicle stimulating hormone levels are flipped for me, I don't have most of the symptoms, but that was enough for diagnosis, along with a TVU of my ovaries, showing them to be polycystic. Also to add, lots of women with PCOS actually have higher levels of estrogen and estrogen dominance is quite a common thing with it.
@@UsandEveryoneWeKnow I also have pcos and that’s super interesting, I had no idea. Most of my knowledge is from first hand experience and what I’ve come to understand from what my doctors have explained… I’ve been diagnosed by 4 different doctors if you include the both the family medicine doc and the OBGYNs
“Just (baby’s) mom” is such an awful thing to say. Like, even if she isn’t family, she’s THE BABYS family. She did the literal labor to bring him into the world.
@gostavoadolfos2023 and on the opposite, someone who is never loved can never learn to love themselves. She literally said she was used to being insulted by her family and didn't mind it. This woman has been put down all her life, of course she struggles to respect herself!
@@gostavoadolfos2023 I have love for people who don't love or respect themselves, you'd have to be cruel to use someone's weakneses against them (unless they are horrible people).
They’re definitely different. Not sure if y’all are use to southern accents or not.. but the brothers is a bit thicker and sounds a little different. Sounds a little older.. if that makes sense? Riley is losing a bit of his accent bc he’s not around southerners every day and bc he’s in Cali. That tends to happen unfortunately. Southern accents always get thicker when you’re around other southerners with thick accents. Just thought I’d throw this in here 😂😂
…. *_WHAT?!_* That’s not what happened??? They hooked up, dude wanted to move on with his life, moved on with his life, and then when found out he was gonna have a baby, immediately became a father to that child.
@@MegaMyown he ghosted her when we came back with the ex and after they hooked up... It was only because she went to his place and was pregnant that he talked to her again because he wasn't answering her
@@gelitalo yea, and he has no obligation to answer her??? He explained why he didn’t wanna talk to her, he was respectful about it, but you don’t need any reason to anyone as to why you’re moving on with your life. This is the thing with society nowadays, the excuses and actions of women are never needed to be further validated or explained further. But men have to further offer explanations or some sort of access to himself for her? Women don’t get told, “oh you should’ve told so and so more.” They get told constantly they never have to explain themselves or educate or elaborate on anything they do.
Omg, I do want you all to take a sex ex/pregnancy education course. It pains me every time pregnancy comes up in a story and none of you know. I’ve studied it personally but do feel it should be part of basic sex education.
@@scarlettg.5772 I think he is speaking out of childhood trauma, half black half white kids are rejected by the white side of their heritage and work hard to prove themselves to be black to be accepted by the black community, half white/half Asian kids gets the privilege of claiming both heritages and identities, half black/half Asian kids have the same situation as the half black half white. it is a very traumatic for biracial kids with a black parent taking root in Anti blackness and makes their blackness their coping mechanism with it. my BFF is half white half black and when he went to his father home town in Scotland he made a post with pics of the ruins of a castle related to his ancestors with a caption explaining it with pride of his Scottish heritage and he was heavily bullied and ridiculed in the comment section. 11 years later and he still can't talk about it.
@@gostavoadolfos2023typically they’re rejected by both communities. I’ve seen lots of stories of black people being rejected for being black by the black community. Hell, they don’t even like light-skin black people. It’s not just white people rejecting them.
@@fairyteez yea, I’ve watched all of their episodes, Sophia is worse. She does the same thing at a higher _frequency._ We just see Sam more on the channel so it seems like he does it more _frequently_
Hey guys! Trauma bond is not bonding over trauma. It's complicated but basically it's the person that broke you, fixes you. It feels like love but it's not. Please look up more info. Anyone feel free to add up my comment
If you find your partner having an affair or cheating for two years that’s your clue to not take them back. They are not going to change. If you find your self being in a relationship with someone who was cheating expect them to cheat on you to. It’s rare for a cheater to actually change.
Lol it’s always nice to hear a fellow southerner with that thick southern accent. It’s sad and unfortunate that southern accents (in some areas) are slowly dying out. I mean… definitely not here in Alabama 😂😂 but in a not of other southern states it is. Texas is one of those states. But yea.. Riley’s bro is clearly a tried and true southerner.
John a good analogy for the first story when she moved in is if you got mugged and the person who mugged you broke your leg in five places and you said well since you broke my leg now I have to stay with you so you can help me heal
You are spot on.. it’s heartbreaking. But from my own personal experience, when you’re parents do show you enough love or how important you are as a child, you don’t really have a good example of what love actually looks like. You don’t know what “normal” is. So you’re going to just accept anything and be desperate to keep that. It’s really sad. It causes you to have low self esteem, low self worth, and you’re an easy target for partners with selfish intentions. You’re easier to manipulate. It took me 10 years and 3 horrible, abusive relationships back to back to back.. almost losing my life in the last one.. to finally realize my worth. I was subconsciously choosing the same type of men that I was raised with. Including my father who mostly avoided me. When I finally saw the light, I took the time to heal, build my self esteem, figure out who I am, and grew as a person, the right man found me. We’ve been together for 8 years now and things have never been better. You can’t make people see their worth. You can’t convince them that they deserve better. They have to figure that out on their own. I will never judge people for being like this. It’s such a horrible life to live and it breaks my heart that parents could do this to their kids. As a mother myself, I could NEVER be like my mother. I constantly try to show my kids just how important they are. It’s not hard to do.. it’s just a shame people can be so selfish.
46:25 This story… 😭I honestly would’ve terminated… Now she has to deal with the possibility of her baby’s dad getting back together with his dirty X. Imagine having the dirty X as her baby’s step mother😕. I’m so sad for the baby and any baby that can’t have both parents together
@@sockpuppet1 No you can’t avoid all but you can definitely avoid that situation. I would have; doesn’t mean I’m shaming her by commenting what I would’ve done.
19:19 Dear John, she wasn't saying she thought she may be attention seeking. She said she didn't want the guy to think she was or accuse her of attention seeking. The reason being, she's still so early in the pregnancy, there's a high chance of miscarriage, so if that happens he may think she was nerver actually pregnant in the 1st place and had lied for attention. Shes saying she doesn't think he'll believe her if she ends up having miscarried. That being said, she could just get a document from her doctor providing irrefutable proof of pregnancy.
On the last story, I have a family anecdote related to that. My great-grandparents, my grandma's parents, were both half and half, half black half white and both had brown skin. They had 8 children, of which 6 had a skintone close to theirs but 2 didn't. One had very dark skin, almost completely black, dark and curly hair, and the other had completely white skin and blond wavy, almost straight hair (my grandma). It's funny because until my generation it was very clear to see who were the children and grandchildren of each of the two sisters in family reunions, lol. But the youngest generation has no noticeable difference anymore. Also, me and my sister look absolutely nothing alike, and people very frequently will not make the connection that we are sisters unless our parents are with us. Because with our parents with us it becomes very clear that we both look like both of our parents, we just happen to have inherited completely different parts of them lol Edit: correcing the autocorrect
It is very normal for babies to have those kinds of problems when so premature. It definitely is scary but makes sense unfortunately. My twin twisted her umbilical cord and that caused us to be 6-weeks premature. We stayed in the hospital for a while to be in the nicu and my sister was there longer since she has more complications and was developed slightly less because of the umbilical cord being twisted. So happy OPs baby is healthy
Pcos: It is cysts on the ovaries more so than in utero. It is leading cause of infertility in the US. Causes non regular periods or non at all. It causes insulin resistance and can make it impossible to lose weight. It is a severe hormonal unbalance that causes tons of symptoms such as extremely low vitamin d, low liver function, hair loss, male pattern hair growth and more. I know women who have 2 periods a month from it. Some can bleed for more than a month. It's allot.
OP in first story sounds like she really bonded with him and his family through multiple traumas and experiences. His mom was being the mom she no longer had and he was even supporting her financially and they were living together. All of this is very much like how a romantic relationship would play out even though there was no intent for it to be this way. It kind of sounded like she started having hope of them being together and playing family for real. And I can imagine it was beyond hurtful at the mother's day barbecue to hear that being said about her from him and his family. How could she not with everything playing out that way. Then it gave her a reality check like, oh yeah, they're not my family, he's not my romantic partner and I need to reinforce boundaries to protect what's left for my child's sake. I just feel bad for her the most because that's a lot of trauma, let down, etc from almost everyone involved in this towards her. While I secretly ship OP and baby daddy and hope they can come back to this dynamic for real, I do hope she's able to heal from everything and live a life true to herself and the life she deserves ❤ And fuck her family! They don't deserve to be in her and the baby's life.
Ayo to everyone complaining about them not keeping up w the plot, go away!!!!!! The confusion/tangents make it all so much funnier 😂😂😂😂 #hatersgonnahate #begonelikeokop 😂 Edit: all right, all right... I guess they could get a whiteboard to try to keep up w the stories... I like the messy way much better haha
First story: How can you be surprised how you got pregnant. When you didn't use protection, lol. Also, the fact that her family disowned her is horrible.
My family knew a mixed couple years ago, they had two children, 1 or 2 years apart. The boy was black, but more milkchocolate, with curly hair and the girl was as white as her dad with red curly hair. You could never guess she has a black mother. Because red heads can have that frizzy curly hair too. It's just science
Theres some articles that suggest that PCOS and childhood trauma can be correlated. so from this story and this leads me to believe the parents are shitty AF
32:03 as a mom of two premature babies who spent time in the NICU I love that the dad’s mom was a nurse with NICU experience and that she was there for mama when her own mother had disowned her. It’s a very difficult and traumatizing experience to be a NICU mom and that’s so amazing for her. My daughter was in the NICU for 3 weeks and my son was in for 100 days exactly. You absolutely blame yourself over and over again, you end up with PTSD (or at least I did - I’m bawling at this story) - it’s so hard. They don’t want you to spend 24/7 there even though you want to because you have to take care of yourself too - but I cried in the car before driving home so many times. And the health issues that arise too from premature babies - my son had two brain surgeries and will have long term developmental problems - it makes it that much harder. I am honestly so happy for her to have this woman’s support. I hate her family for disowning her. And I feel for her so much having actually walked in her shoes twice over. 35:12 NO NO NO!! You disowned her for being pregnant - you are NOT entitled to time with that baby and you need to EFF OFF!!!
Idk how i didn't notice before but it feels like everyone is trying to make the video last longer than it has to...not sure why but theres so much commentary but yet John doesn't understand whats going on? Why did he talk to much then 😂
I hope there is an updated story, because I want to know two things. Does she have a happy ending, raising her son on her own. Away from her parents, proceed to see their grandchild. Does the baby daddy end with relationship, with his cheating ex girlfriend. And still being a good parent to his child.
37:45 the only way they can file for grandparents rights is if the child is in a dangerous environment. Other than that there is no such a thing as a grandparents visitation rights
It makes me so angry when parents disown their children for getting pregnant and then AFTER the baby is born they insist on being able to see them. Like NO
I was born with a full head of jet black hair and my eyes stayed blue long enough everyone thought I’d have my grandmas dark blue eyes. All my hair fell out and it grew in blonde. It darkened again as I got older. My eyes also became dark brown around this time which eventually lightened to golden when I was a kid. Genetics are weird. My dad has blue eyes mom has hazel. Statistically we had a fairly high chance of green but both my brother and I ended up brown.
Soooo what happened in the first story ? Like is there another update ? I want to know if OP has settled down and is happy now while co parenting with D
I have two sisters, me and one of my sisters were born blonde and my youngest sister was born with the shock of dark hair ( my dad was delighted, the blonde comes from mums side and he was happy one of us took after him a little more) but it lightened to blonde within a few months. It happens.
I'm white and when I was born, I had fuzzy jet black hair and then it fell out and grew in like a light blondish brown. That can happen when a baby is new/young.
She has a high risk pregnancy. They don’t need to live together permanently, but it makes sense to be living together right before giving birth and also the first 6 months or so (the mother needing to breast feed etc)
When I was born I had a full head of black hair. However when it started to grow, it grew in pale blonde. My mother said it looked like someone had died it and was growing out. She was very disappointed as she hoped I would take after her, but nope. Blond like my dad. lol
29:07 it’s not that complicated. She stayed with baby daddy so she was close to the hospital in the case of an emergency since she had gestational diabetes and other complications. Easier to move in with him temporarily rather that get an air bnb or hotel closer to the hospital.
My cousin was born with black hair that continuously got lighter over time by 1 he was a dirty blond. Then in what seemed like no time at all he was plantnium blond. My sister was born blond then her hair went strawberry blond for a few years then back to blond then darked to light brown. My husband also was born with black hair and was plantium blond at 1yr old, now hes got dark brown hair.
There is such thing of grandparents trying to get custody of the grandkids, that usually fail all the time as the always in favor the child’s parents. As I don’t see a OP parents winning the custody of her grandchild. Since her parents have no solid proof, she’s putting her baby in any danger or not caring for her child. Just think OP parents are just a piece of crap and didn’t care for her, when she was pregnant and going through her pregnancy on her own. And worse they kicked her out, when she was pregnant with another man’s baby. When she has a baby, now all the sudden. Her parent wants to see her child. Well, it’s their loss. They threw her out for you when she was pregnant, now they’re lost your chance to see their grandchild. Tough luck to her parents, this should have been there instead of throwing her out. When she needed them, she’s needed their helps and support.
PCOS is Polycystic Overian Syndrome your eggs become cysts in your ovaries causing things like hormone imbalances, severe cramping, painful spicy sleep, Hemorrhaging, Prolonged bleeding, skipped cycles, an inability to ovulate etc.
When my daughter was born she had dark hair. After that she lost the dark hairs and got light blond hair. Now that she is older it has turned to dark blond hair. So yes it is possible that baby gets born with dark hair and loses it and has blond hair.
