My Child Does Not Listen, is Hyper and Out of Control! 

Take him outside. Boys with high energy do wonderful in sports. Fresh air and sunshine will help this mom a lot. He may still be too young to diagnosis but sounds like he probably has ADHD. Don’t force him to sit in the library. Go outside and let him play!

With my first child I faced all these problems. I gave her good food, good care, outside time, park time, everything on time, even woke up at night to take care of her.. but she behaved very badly... Nobody was there to help. Even in the preschool (3yrs old) they suggested to check with a doctor... I googled and found they meant about autism.. I cried out to my Lord Jesus. Suddenly I heard someone telling in my mind to stop the screen time. I didn't know what happens after stopping the screen and also didn't know how to manage her without screen.. but obeyed. After one month the teacher told me, that my daughter have changed a lot and asked what did u do? I told about the whole thing, then she emailed to everyone about the impacts of more screen time and gadgets. After that only I came to know the bad part of screen and gadgets.. I now realised I didn't take care of her as much God wants to. So I submitted myself to bring up with his advice... So I stopped all the screen time (only half an hour for super book, not all days)... Started to talk to her daily even though she didn't listen me.. telling bible stories, lot more things . It was not at all easy at first. But prayers and his words strengthen me to overcome everything.. Now she is 7 years old, the most lovable kid and cares for everyone, and a prayerful kid who prays for the country... Thank you Jesus for leading me in right way!!

I would say NO screens at all. Even the national pediatric groups says no screens till 7 years old.

Gold advice! Very practical. 1. Routines 2. Limit screen time. 3. Natural consequences. 4. Bonding and connection. Thank you Jade!

My heart really goes out to the woman who wrote that email to you. I used to be her but my child was a little bit less extreme. I understand the pain and I empathize with her so much. We are just now starting to get out of this extreme place with my daughter and it's been 3 years of working hard. It's going to take time and consistency. It's going to take years but it will be worth it and the most rewarding thing you can do.

Gr8 video as always :) Thank you Jade :D . If you are reading this comment and you are having a hard time remember ! Nothing is forever even the hard moments will have an end ;)

YES! Connection is key! This is often left out of discussions on behavior. I’ve had foster children who were out the box and once I spent time playing with them, letting them know I care, being attentive and actively listening to them, the behaviors stopped very quickly.

Tell her we can be friends because my son is the same it’s like she wrote my story out ! It’s always other people kids and then theirs mine. We are remembered everywhere we go !

You need to be watching super nanny! She has helped me tremendously with discipline in my home. And you also need to be burning your sons energy. Lots of play time and work his brain out with puzzles, sensory play, etc etc.

this video is example how RU-vid is helping so many people regarding so many queries in there head❤

This poor mom!!! I can somewhat relate although its not as intense. When you brought up the screen time my heart dropped because, I know how much of an impact that has on a child and I know it's not good. I feel guilty with screen time but I am a work from home mom 8-5pm trying to homeschool and it is so hard. We are working very hard in transitioning so that I can be a fulltime SAHM to homeschool but Miami is soooo expensive to depend off of one income. I wish there were more tips lol because your are amazing. You were the first homeschool mom I ever watched and seeing your bond with your children really won me. I hope to soon be able to start my journey... Honestly I look forward to it everyday!!! Thank you so much for your videos!🥰

1.make routine 2.limit the screen 3.every action has a consequence 4.create bonding Thank you soo much mam... ✨🙏

Such great advice! I love that routine is number 1! Routine is so so SOOOOOO important! ❤ many prayers to this sweet momma and her son!

Thank you for this video! I have two young boys that I homeschool and have felt at a loss with thier behavior and not listening to me in general. At times I do want to give up but, I come back around and keep going. We have seen a difference as we have put boundaries on screen time as well!! We also get them out the house for a while most days. What you said in the video really hit home for me. Thank you and I hope this helps someone else too.

It sounds like this child doesn't understand who is in authority. This mom needs to take her authority back and follow through with consequences. You might have heard this bible verse from Proverbs,"Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them." God left us instructions but most of us always seek answers elsewhere or follow what culture says is appropriate. My best advice for this mama is to go to the Bible first. There is a very good book about biblical discipline by Ted Tripp called Shepherding a Child's Heart I totally recommend it.

Limiting screens is huge as well. Great advice Jady as always💖💛

Great video Jade. Someone also mentioned that a good protein diet esp for breakfast goes a long way to affect a child’s behavior positively. Not just in a day or two but with time. I also learnt from experience that every moment something happens brings an opportunity to teach. Keep teaching even if same behavior is repeated over and over again and apply consequences as well. I catch my 5 year old telling her toys in a pretend play all that I keep repeating. With time I see changes. You’re not alone. We’re all learning to make things better.

I have a verrrry active 3.5 yo. I am so glad u uploaded this. I hate when people tell me to beat him. Or they look at me crazy for talking it out with him. I grew up being spanked a lot and it’s something I remember to this day. I refuse to do that to him. I will try your tips thank you so much!

My daughter and I are binge watching your channel today, Your parenting and schooling advice is so practical and loving. Thank you for sharing your gift..

I recently subscribed to your channel! I'm a young mom of 3 and doing this on my own! I can definitely say the story of the lady with the little one resonates! My 5 year old is exactly like this but I can be transparent and admit I am guilty of allowing an over abundant amount of screen time for her and her sisters! I've definitely had the "pleasure" of dealing with the "out of control" behaviors and where I've been the most stuck at is being able to affectively assert boundaries and being able to correct them in a healthy way! I didn't come from a stable home environment my own self and boundaries, respect and self control / discipline was non-existent so stepping into motherhood I was definitely very unprepared but so determined to learn! Thank you so much for your advice and I'm currently going through your video archive to wise up some! You are so appreciated! Please continue with these types of videos!!

Love this! I have to get better with following through when my 6 year old is getting out of hand and definitely limiting screen time! Thanks for sharing this info.

Every word is gold. Yes. I love how clear, concise, and applicable these tips are. THANK YOU for this video.

All this is great advice and things I am currently using with my high energy son. Schedule, outdoor time twice a day and play freely home. Creating an environment for children to explore and play without you getting upset over things they "shouldn't touch" is the best advice for high energy children.

Yesssss my kid loves outside. My kid is really really antsy, it’s almost like ants are under his skin and sitting down for any length of time causes him to itch ( literally) he starts scratching. So sometimes we take school outside and he’s able to focus better and listen to me somewhat better. I’m learning day by day what works for him. Definitely trial and error. Praying for moms all around.❤

Yes very well said the first thing first.... Daily set routine plays very powerful impact on kids and makes parents life easier too

Thank you for this!!! Perfect timing and I will try the recommendations you gave.

Great advice! as the mother of a now 32-year-old young man I wish that I could go back in time and put him in a learning environment that was hands and activity focused!! With high energy, it definitely takes more mental & physical energy to parent but there is light at the end of the tunnel!🙏🙏💕

@Jady A. Can I just say, we need people/mothers like you in this world to help us other mamas who are struggling. You're an amazing mother i am in absolute awe with all of your videos. And even all of the content and resources you have created to help us. May god guide you and bless you and your offspring ameen.

I was to add a comment to this, it takes TIME. Building that play time together takes time. Because the child wants that screen time, they don't want to play with you. It will take time to model the behavior you want. You have to sit and play and let them join you. It will take time for them to join you but it will happen. Also allow them to play with you without giving them directions on how to play which means you don't lead the playtime. Let them lead. ❤️ Hope this helps! I learned this the hard way, my son was exactly the same way. I decreased screen time to 1 hour and it took time to get him to engage with me because I was not as fun as the screen. This all builds your relationship with them!

You are a role model when it comes to parenting jady. I struggled so much with my first born. I was so naive when it came to parenting also i had to do my medical residency at that time and my kids was mostly with his kind grandparents. There was so much going wrong with his upbringing on my part. And then i realized it when he turned two. I left my training and started spending my time with him. Still i made little progress then i listened to u and i learned alot. Although i m not even near ur level i always get back to ur videos when i want guidance.

Thank you thank you thank you! I really need this video...such a great reminder 🙏❤️

Great advice!! I came across this video and I really nee😢to hear this. I’m going through some bad behavior with my son every time we go out to the store,he wants a toy.He always starts crying,I don’t give in no more.I just walk out of the store and go home.But I’m getting tired of the same thing all the time. I’m going to start implementing some of your advice. Once again thank you for this advice it came to me at the right moment.

Thank you Jady.

Thank you for your useful advice, my daughter 8 years old, has a same behaviour problem, and I am really suffering with her. Your video is very encouraging to me .😊

Routine Limit screens consequences and boundaries Bonding and connection. Thank you

Really good set of advices, I think it's better to mention as the first thing "Bonding ,connection and LOVE "as the most powerful force in the world is love.

Hi to the mama who wrote this email. First I would like to say you are in the right track, you have come to seek help and that is a good thing. We all need help. Take a deep breath and know what it will be alright at the end. I just would like to say from my personal experience that when you are starting a new thing for your child make sure to communicate that to your kid a head of time to prepare him for what is to come. For example for the limitation of screen time. Go face to face and communicate to him the changes on screen time. Sudden changes to what they are so used to could fire back. Always tell him you love him but they are rules and boundaries that needs to be followed. Even us parents too..... 😀 hats off to all the mama's trying and holding on! You are not alone!!! We got this!!

you are a true blessing for me & my kids ❣️

My 5 yo son is somewhat like him except screentime. Doesn’t listen to us and always rebel.strong willed boy is sooooooooo hard to raise, especially when we couple are old parents with poor health. Thank you sooooo much for your tips.. love your channel

There is a book titled One Two Three Magic. It can help with children like this child. The book has many example scenarios. You would be surprised thinking your child is the worse and actually may not be when you read these examples. With this book you will be able to stop the behavior and feel much better especially when in public. The child will not behave that way because they know that when number 3 is reached they have run out of time to self regulate. It is an easy way to get them to understand their actions are not acceptable and they need to stop what they are doing.

thank you so much my dear ❤God bless you all the way

This video is so helpful. Thank you so much Jady. Bless you

Thank you sis... For giving valuable information 👍

Great video Jady it is very useful for mother's.My male kid is also a hyper active child.Thank you for valuable information.

It sounds like way too much screen time. Get him outside and make sure he has plenty of free play time.

I have a 4 year old and these are great advice. It's hard work for us mamas, i have been there but we do all these things Jada has mentioned and his behavior had improved. I'm not going to lie, consistency is key. Kids are very intelligent and they push boundaries and test us mamas. It's important to hold our ground. I have lost it before many times but when I look at my child and explain and be consistent in my boundaries I see it pay off. It's so so hard. We work, we're tired, get home and still have to serve dinner and handle things. I've cried many times but I am a big believer in these things Jada mentioned. It has worked for our family I do agree with another comment, if they have special needs or hyper, library may not be their thing. I've had to observe my son and study his behavior, attitude towards things, what he likes, enjoys, gets his attention most. It's constant but it's so worth it. My anger has disappeared and I can enjoy and love on my toddler now. Good luck mamas.

Absolutely love that your emphasized the bonding and connection! As a foster/adoptive parent I have seen first hand how big of a role this connection plays in a child’s behavior. So, so important for development.

Thank you Jady. Love the advice

Oh wow! thanks for share with us, im a new mom in your community, following this channel.

I’m so grateful for you ! It’s stressful asking for advice and the only thing you can get is popping or whooping the child. 😒

Routines and limited screen time helped me get over this phase.

These are exactly my words I am working woman , and i get stressed out and i have to shout and hit my girl sometimes .. I know it's not right but sometimes I cant just handle her not listening to me. This will help me surely.. Thank you 🙏

I was a kid like that and my parents were clueless so all they knew what to do was yell, hit, threaten and so on.. it had a terrible impact and i spent alot of years healing from that so my suggestion to all parents is “patience, compassion, understanding” if your kid is wild put them into an activity that would drain their energy like playing outside or sports & so on.. for learning, make it fun and interesting.. its okay if u make mistakes, keep learning and doing ur best..

I am suffering from my daughter's behaviors..(.the very same behaviors you mentioned)...thank you for the video

Ladies and gentlemen, please check your pantry and read the labels. Don’t give your children “the kid snacks” with artificial colors because those cause hyperactivity. No store bought juice boxes, no gold fish snacks, don’t have it at home at all, no frozen foods that go in a microwave (microwaved food kills white blood cells and makes everything not nutritious but unhealthy and toxic to the body)Make food at home, if kids don’t want to eat, it clearly means they are not hungry yet, don’t give in with junk food, set an example by eating healthy. If for example you give a heroin to an individual, don’t expect them to function like everybody else in the society. Kids bombarded with toxins from food can’t control hyperactivity. Include kids in meal preparation, have them peel fruits and vegetables, include them in smoothie making, show them how to make a soup or cook an egg. Every minute is a learning experience. Ask them what they want to eat and come up with a grocery list to make it, have them pick the things at the grocery store and give suggestions why would you pick one brand over the other, read the labels together and you can even make this activity into a budgeting activity. Good luck people ❤️

Very helpful. Thank you

Thank you for this video! I have a four an half year old boy. He does good at times but he at times especially at stores he screams, cry's, stratchs, hits. Im crying before I even get him to the car. I have recently found out that if I take red 40 out of his diet, schedule, and only two hours of screen time he seems to be getting better. I'm hoping continuing this it will help. I had tried everything on the consequences but nothing helps. He's very strong willed. I'm just glad I'm not alone. I feel at a loss at time.

I was at the airport two days ago and my son just wanted to run all the time and give me hard time while passing through the TSA checkpoint, everyone was judging me

Increasing iron into your child’s diet can also really help with hyperactivity 😊

💜💜💜 thank you

Great advice!

I love watching your videos... You're amazing! Thanks..

Yes to the everything Jady said but wanted to talk about 1 big thing she missed . Ok I see someone else said about going outside /physical activity but this is HUGGGEEE! We moved to 5 acres and my son literally runs for HOURS! Sometimes he ll be in the house causing trouble/fighting with his 3 other siblings . We say go outside but he won’t at times until I or my husband have to stop what we are doing and say ok let’s go outside together. The bonding is huge ! And my doc was hesitant at 5 to give us a diagnosis but at 6 we did a questionnaire and got the adhd diagnosis. This sounds just like my son. So I would def get a second opinion. Also started listening to the adhd podcast called distraction and it was a game changer !! Also turns out I also have adhd . In women it’s more commonly missed but essentially it’s the same thing . Our minds our constantly being distracted. Adhd can be debilitating but also a super power . Any child that is seen as hyper is just bored . They need tools (all that jady said plus outdoors/physical activity) to harness their hyperactive thoughts/actions into productive ones and wow it’s amazing what they can do !!! My son even learned how to operate a excavator!!! He’s 6!

very very informative session. I’m really glad I played this video. ❤

Stomach and brain are connected, it has to do a lot of the child behavior.

Ohh wow! A new video from you Jady

Empathy to the mom who I am sure is at her wits end & I Sincerely Wish & Pray for Radical Change. This can be exhausting & challenge the most patient, loving mother. I agree with Jady - Routine esp. Sleep, Less TV, Bonding through Play, Hugging & Loving Language & Positive reinforcement - loads of encouragement & "I see you trying to Improve" or "Good job you Improved!". Another TIP that I can Add that might speed up change in my professional and personal experience as a teacher and health advocate is to Exercise More Outdoors with a hyperactive kid or go to the zoo or a science centre vs. library. MY Next Suggestion that May or May not be a Lifestyle Change for your family is: No Simple Sugars or Processed Packaged Snacks or Processed Meats. Add calcium and probiotics in the form of coconut milk yogurt, or goat yogurt or sheep yogurt and drizzle salads or raw fresh veggie sticks with apple cider vinegar and olive oil mixture, skip sugary or creamy dressings. Last but very IMPT daily intake are essential fatty acids- Omega 3s and 6s to your child's diet like salmon, cod, sardines, flax seeds, olive oil. daily. Good to get a book or video on vegetarian children recipes. Also look into, if you have not, the connection between sugar and children's behaviour.

Jady's "Rules, Boundaries and Consequences" video is also a great tool to refer back to! I encourage this sweet momma to check that one out as well! Changed our lives! Glory to God! ❤ Does anyone have a few simple examples of Consequences to use when a child does not respond immediately to simple instructions such as clean up, get dressed, don't touch, come here etc.? Sometimes I find it difficult to find the right practical Consequences for these things 😬 any suggestions would be so greatly appreciated! ❤

She isn’t alone at all!

My 7 year old daughter is like this so bloody much thank you jady A

Thank you for this video. I have 5 children and 1 on the way but I have been struggling with my 4 year old son. We dont really do much screen time maybe 1 hour or less a day, I am going to try these things out

Pray over him sister!

I just want to say i appreciate your videos

My 2 & 3 yr old boys hit each other. I break them up, I tell the 3yr old to move away & to not just stand there allowing the 2 yr old to hit, pinch, bite,etc. I tell them to stop, tell them to use their words to say no, leave me alone, I don’t like that, or to say I’m telling mom. The 3 yr old throws a tantrum, cries, hits the 2yr old when he takes a toy away from him or if he starts playing with one of his fave toys. It’s a constant cycle everyday. Time out, redirecting isn’t working😩I cry inside. My mom says if I leave them with her she will get them right 😳 I guess she’s referring to spanking/popping…therefore I don’t trust anyone to watch my kids and I’m exhausted. I need super nanny

Thank you for saying this is not a boy thing! I would love to know what kind of discipline she is using? Positive reinforcement is the best kind to use, which is very hard, but the pay off is worth it. Your kids adapt to the absence of screens better than you think. I noticed my son stopped reading when he was getting too much screen time. I removed the screen time and he cried for a couple of days, but he is back to reading his books. It's funny because my kids occupy themselves better without screens versus using them. I also want to tell her that my boys also have bad days too. I've left things in a cart and just walked out of stores before. I know it feels like you're the only one, but you aren't and any good person would never judge you. I'd say, keep trying, keep giving him opportunities to see other kids model appropriate behaviors. Maybe try and involve him in some kind of sport, ninja classes, etc.

you are exceptional ❤️🤗

My child does not listen either. In some scenarios, she gets what she wants because I can't take anything away, physically move her or leave the situation. So frustrating. Example. On a recent Uber ride, she would not sit down or stop interrupting my discussion with the driver.

Thank you

This video is awesome.

I would recommend the book Boundaries with Kids by Dr. Henry Cloud. It’s so good and follows really well with Jady’s advice

Great advice! I would add adjust that child's diet. If you're feeding him carbs (bread, fruits, beverages, pastas, rice, etc) then you should expect him to bounce off the walls. #keto

What if the father of the child wants the child to watch to or phone all the time and doesn’t want to set any routine and doesn’t want to take the baby out because he wants to go out alone and enjoy his life and start blaming the mother for baby’s misbehaviour 😢😢😢

Schedule is a good suggestion, but what happens when the child resists the schedule so much that you can not even have one anymore.

Try the 1-2-3 Magic rule. My six year old son doesn't listen to me. But when I start counting 1, 2.before I say 3 he will do what I say because he understands there will be a consequence if I say three.

We take screens away period all Summer long. It's too beautiful out to be inside on screens. I don't believe we will give them back very much when Winter comes around. Much better behaviors without screens.

I have a crazy girl she's 3 going on 4 and I've been told by some people that it's the environment she's in...... I believe that our environment isn't the best all the time but it isn't bad either so it's a hard one I definitely need the advice

Same here 😏 thank u for ur advise.

These are really good suggestions!! One thing I would recommend is getting the Walsh protocol done…. This is a blood draw that tests the level of vitamins a child has. Most of the time in this situation it is high copper and a lack of other vitamins. I got this done at the same time as my child that had meltdowns all the time and found his copper was higher than mine and I was feeling pretty rough myself so I knew he was feeling worse than I was. Also there is a program called brain balance. If you want to know the just of the program read disconnected kid be Robert Melilo. The program is very expensive but super helpful.

4 to 5 hours of TV a day are you freaking kidding me …wow that poor kid. No wonder he has issues.

Well done Jady A, we need to first understand our children before they understand us. Commenting from Uganda East Africa.

I will like to see more of this.

SAME FOR MY SON ALSO JADY

My daughter is 9yrs old and has been a nightmare from day one 😢 she is so active and hyper always running around doing her thing. Doesn't listen unless it's something she wants to hear lol she even lies a lot and has stolen things from friends houses. Oh wrecked friends bedrooms too it's just a daily nightmare for me. Luckily she is back at school now as the last 3yrs I was homeschooling her but that was such hard work too as she never wanted to do much of it and just play all the time... wrecking our house and leaving stuff on the floor everywhere..... just a right nightmare 😢 I'm sure she has Adhd.... oh another thing is she always breaks things and makes a mess it's horrible. We have tried all types of consequences with her and not much works as she just smiles and doesn't seem to care either?????

My son is the exactly the same way. We also did the same thing with too much TV for a "break". It's counter productive and actually does the opposite bc they don't pay attention to it anyway. The only thing that worked for me is being very strict. Anytime we do anything fun I have him do a chore beforehand. "Before you eat, wash your hands" "Before we go outside put your socks, shoes, jacket on" "before you watch tv, clean your room." If he's playing inappropriately with toys, I have him clean it up and bring it to me himself. I pretty much think before I do this for you, you need to do something for me. It's not my ideal parenting style but unfortunately my child is very manipulating and can easily turn into the example mentioned. I also have him do chores around the house and vacuum or sweep if he makes a mess. He has a lot of energy so nothing I have him do will slow him down. Of course we go outside, have dance parties, play gross motor games to try to get the energy out too. Plus my son is an extrovert and loves being around kids. He loves going to school and so homeschooling would be difficult for him. I do plan on going the direction at some point when he's older though. It's definitely not how I thought parenting would go. I was a very easy kid and I wanted to homeschool my kids and not be so strict. I do what I think is best for my kids though.

These are good. Now as mom/teacher/cook/cleaner, how do you handle yourself during overwhelm. People tell me I’m so patient with my 5 yo and 3 yo twins. I try to be consistent as much as possible… but I get overwhelmed especially when everyone wants something at the same time and now! Or when I’ve been patient about getting dressed and loading up and then outta nowhere I explode bc it’s been x amount of time and kids are having meltdown or whiny behavior (they take it after me, you see?) but how do you handle “yourself”. I need that video next 😃 please 😆

I second what another person said about getting your high energy kids outside and playing often. I'd say daily. No screens and lots of activities and opened ended toys. Screens seem to aggravate high energy minds. I also want to add, stay off your phones!!!! When your high energy child wants to get your attention and you are constantly checking social media etc this breaks the connection between child and parent, they will not be able to follow any rules if they can't bond with you personally. I'd leave the phone far away in this case.

I run a classroom of 9 and during circle time, all the children are seated except this one child that feels she can run around and play when she should be sitting. And I DO NOT let her run around and play because then the others feel they can do the same thing which will lead to a domino effect. I have spoken to her parents about her behavior and what i have done to help her stay seated. It has helped, but I am constantly talking to her and letting her know that everyone is sitting including myself. She cries and cries, and I let her cry until she understands that she must stay seated during circle time. She's a loving child and loves hugs, so I give those to her to let her know she's OK at the end of our circle time.

Thanks

I would not rule out a nutritional deficiency. Try Flintstones vitamin for a few weeks and/or magnesium and note any improvement. Is he getting enough sleep? Lack of sleep will result in hyperactivity and misbehavior.

She’s not alone I was there and still am there