I really hate that people feel like they have to "come out" in this day and age. It's mostly due to the parents lack ot communication skills. My brother came out to me first and I had to let him know, I don't give a damn lol. "I don't see you any different and I love you the same. Your sexual preference is none of my business so be happy." Long as yall ain't hurting nobody I really don't see the need of coming out to anybody. Family and friends should respect who you like or move around. Life is way too short to let someone else feeling stop you from being happy.
you are correct but it does get annoying when you have people mainly family always asking at functions where is your gf, when are bringing one around, you getting married to a girl anytime soon and having kids sooner or later you have to shut them up 😅 or stop showing up to the functions
@Igivegdparent So true I had an older cousin joke about how I'm gonna pick up girls in college but I was so uncomfortable bc I'm gay 😅 And I felt like I couldn't tell the ppl in the room
Im 15 and bi, i came out to my dad on accident. I wasnt ready for it and he was like your confused and like you wasnt around it and its social media. I had my phone stricted away from me and all. Im still sayin im straight when im really not. And its depressing and hard to keep it in for the people who talkin stuff about people and even my dad wont support me. I was so depressed and still kinda is but this video made me believe i can be what i wanna be. But when im at the age when i get my own place imma be me. Happy you can live in your true feelings and colors.
From a big brother to a lil brother ,it's okay to be you im 41 and I just recently started to become open with my sexuality. It's ok to be who you are ..Love your life and forget what people have to say..Even when it comes down to your parents .. It don't even matter what they say either at this point ..Sometimes parents want you to live the life THEY want you to live .But do what makes YOU happy ❤️..I promise you will be OK.LIVE LIFE
I almost typed out my whole story but that was to much to read but long story short never trust anyone with your secrets, and always make sure you have a backup plan in case things go left. I’m here if you need someone to talk to bc I already know how it can be. Just know that when you finally do come out your smile is your best asset 🩷 and that you’re truly at peace with yourself. Btw I was outted my 11th grade year of high school and I just stopped going and eventually got withdrawn from school. I came back when school started back and made up all of my work for both 11th and 12th grade and graduated with my class. You can do this tho 💕
@@jdg7515 umm respectfully NO. at the the end of the day whatever term he is comfortable with he should definitely use. However using “coming out” indirectly suggests something is wrong with him and it’s not. Lastly what your NOT about to do is come under MY comment and ruin a moment that suppose to be encouraging and lifting him up. Everything don’t need to be a discussion or argument… simply make your own comment and leave mines alone. Thank you
@@jdg7515 I’m really not … not only was I calm I was still respectful in letting you know your commentary wasn’t needed under MY comment cause your shifting the energy. I’m queer as well so your point exactly? 🙄Anyway have a nice day sir
Congratulations!! Although I don’t personally know you, being a black gay man I am incredibly proud that you have found the courage and who you are. Go out and conquer life.✊🏽❤️
@@dabigd1860 This is so true, just when we thought it was getting better it has changed. People really like to brush over it, but being a black gay man is very difficult. We have it coming from every directions. What saddens me the most is that a large portion of the Black community will turn their backs, when these young men need support on so many levels. Our Black men from day one should feel whole and maneuver in life without fear. Love to all my Gay Black Brothers and Sisters.❤️🏳️🌈✊🏽
As an older gay dude I'm so happy for you. I stand on the shoulders of LGBT+ people who came before me and you can do the same. Just by being you, you can help young people to "come out" to their full and complete selves. As a black man it's important to hear black gay voices in a community that is not always supportive of queer sexuality. You rock, here's to your best life!!
As an older person in my 30s, let me tell you young brutha, this was a GREAT time to let people know what it is, I spent a GREAT deal of my 20s still hiding & sneakin, and worried about what I’d “loose” and that is time you will NEVER get bck! I’m happy that u won’t have to go thru that, you can actually have a relationship (if you so choose) and not be romantically stifled like so many of us that grew up in a time where you literally couldn’t survive if you “came out” I know you’ll be jus fine
Listen I just said the same thing. He’s so courages to do this at 21. Especially being a masculine male. Im the same way, played football hang with the guys an all. I’ve wasted my entire life not being who I am out of fear. An here I am at 31 still haven’t lived, or loved smh no one should be mentally imprisoned like this. It’s so exhausting. I honestly don’t even kno how I continue to go on.
Glad you're being yourself. I felt the same pressure when it came to coming out and truly being myself, but honestly, you just gotta live and be yourself. I love that for you homie, hope you keep your head up and enjoy life. ❤🙌🏾
Much respect to you man. It’s such a relief when you can be yourself unapologetically. For me, it’s been 5 years and I would never change a thing. I have so much peace within myself. Ofc you get hate but the positive outweighs the negative bc you can help others too. Cheers to being you 🩷🤝🏽
It's good that you were able to find yourself this time in life and you being able to tell us and make an announcement just shows how strong you really are and I promise you life is gon get 10x better so proud of you❤!!
I love that you made this video fr. I’ve been following you on social media for a while and I’m glad that decided to acknowledge your true self and not live for no one else’s validation but your own💪🏽💯. This can inspire others. Excited to see what’s next. 🙏🏽
You’re not “losing” anything if people decide to exit your life because of how you choose to live your life. Says way more about them than it does about you. Don’t feel any rush to come out asap, because this is YOUR journey. If your concern is with your parents accepting you, understand that if your parents truly do love you and if they are truly good parents, they wouldn’t abandon their role as parents because of your choices. And please be patient with them while they process the news… it’s really not a bad thing. They had this ideation of your traditional future for so long and certain things may go a different direction than they thought, but good parents will understand that their kid won’t always grow up to follow the same paths as them. You will know inside you when you’re ready to tell people, and I hope this message serves you well ❤️ best of luck to you
Good luck. I used to feel the same way but now I don’t really care whether people view me differently or not. You only have one life, might as well spend it doing what makes you happy. I would try to make friends with people in the lgbt community if you haven’t already. It gets a lot easier to accept yourself when you’re surrounded by people who you can relate to.
That relief is everything man…once you tell who you feel you need that validation from, Shidd nobody else matters. I’m proud of you bro❤ Live it to the fullest ✊🏾
One thing I really admire about you is your confidence and how you carry yourself. Trust me, there are people much older than you who wish they could be that sure of themselves. I'm very happy that you took this step, are helping others who might be struggling with the same thing, and, most of all, that you're still here. Nothing but love being sent your way, man. ❤️
@chatwithyoo Yes! Especially @ "how you carry yourself." I feel that the LGBTQ community is losing a bit of decorum. Actually a lot of decorum, tbh. I hope this beautiful young black man continues to "carry himself" just like he does now. #KEEPITMASC
The way I relate to this so much took 18 whole years for me to be honest with myself and seeing you be happy with who you are makes me so happy you keep doing what you’re doing king 👑👏🏾
So much love to you brother! Its not easy hiding yourself to people because you feel like people will love you less. I've still only shared with a few people I truly trust and im older than you. Much respect ✊🏿
Its good to see other masc presenting man tell their stories and b4 y’all attack me ion have nothing against fems its just so exciting to see someone represent you.
@jay-jl7ee Brother, i am right there with you on this. I don't know why those of us that admire, love, support and desire a more traditional presentation of masculinity seem to be so under attack right now. If i wanted or desired anything effeminate or feminine, then i will go after and pursue THE REAL THING. And trust me i can pull em. But i am a MAN that is attracted to MEN. Sometimes i feel like the space for us men that love other men is becoming smaller and smaller. Like everything is about flamboyance and effeminacy now.
I was randomly scrolling and wanted to stop and watch your video. I don’t know you personally but I’m so incredibly proud of you. I’m glad you’re happy and In a good space. So happy for you luv. ☺️
congratulations on coming out, i consider one of the masculine factors of real men are being their true selves no matter what. You achieved just that!💪🏾🌟
Subscribed, this story touched my whole heart, I'm so proud of you, an now it's time to live your life to the fullest and fill it up with nothing but happiness, protect yourself out here, I'll be waiting for your next vid 🌈
I came out when I was 20 years old my father and mother they were very supportive. They really was happy for me that I figured out my sexuality. Rest in peace, mother and father. Love you.
Yesss! I'm so happy for you and I can hear the relief and see it! It's really only up from here, and you have so much greatness ahead of you. Enjoy your 20s being you every single day ❤❤❤
hey congrats!!! Coming out is very scary and not at all easy to do. You definitely are gonna over think your situation but as soon as you say those words to someone your gonna feel so relieved and proud of yourself. I came out at 9 years old and now im 16, life gets better
mannn this dude needs to be around the world bc he explains himself is in he explained who he is and it’s soo hard for ppl to do that in todays society and i really just found my new bsf he is a representation of “greatness” and for the ppl who dont support him and bring him down…take a look in the mirror and look at yourself then look at him…two different ppl🤷🏾♂️ ive been watching you since the first video and i love you with all my heart no matta who u are i hope u find someone that will be the luv of ya life❤
I don't know how I ended up here, but since I'm here, thank you for being your authentic self. I feel your heart and it is a wonderful feeling. Wow, and you're so handsome too. Take good care and may the force be with you! 💌
Congratulations baby!!! I know you don’t know me personally but I love your spirit and your energy. Looking forward to witnessing your greatness and impact on this world. God bless honey 😘😘😘❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing your story - it's such a strong and powerful message that everyone needs to hear. It took me over 30 years to come out and I relate to everything you said. The pain - the fear - but once it's done your whole life changes for the better. You can now be your real self and true love and support will find you and carry you to heights you once thought you would never get to. I wish you all the best for the future. A big hug (and much love and respect) from an old gay man in Australia.
I did mine when i was 27, i felt like it was the right time. You know yourself better than anyone else. All those things you said, were the exact things going through my mind. Your a great attractive guy. Wish you luck, happy i found this video today.❤
I’m a young male and all I can say is I love you bro don’t let nobody judge you because of who you are bump what other people think of you ain’t nobody in this world perfect 💯 be yourself and live your life
Yes I love this, coming out and living your truth really dose make you glow and I’m so happy for you. I felt the same way when I came out and introduced my Bf to my fam.
Thank you for telling you're story. I came out to my sister's and brother in law and they totally support me. I never told my mother and grandmother cause they are Christians and they don't except that kind of stuff. My mom found out and my sister actually gathered us together to have telhe convo. My mom said she would never except it but at the end of the day, I'm her son and she would protect me if ANYONE comes across me wrong for being gay. I'm trying to be proud of myself and who I am. Im trying to stip caring what others think. I told my close friends as well. They support me and I have a small circle of friends as well. I always keep my circlr small. But, I'm proud of you. ❤ Edit: I'm also 21. Also I'm new here. You fine btw sorry I had to add that in there 😂❤
Don't know you. I was just strolling through on RU-vid. You almost look like someone I knew. Lol Look young man. I'm so proud of you for being honest to yourself and not worry what people think of you. They do them you do you and live your life to the fullest be the best you could be. Congratulations on your new journey 👏
Congratulations king! I support you! I am also apart of the community and will be following your journey. Keep up the good work and do what makes you happy. Bless you ✊🏽👑♥️
I love how you love. You are a King 👑. Thank you for sharing. You are amazing, & helping those to make a difference in their lives. You have my Love always 😘. Timing Is Everything 💯.
you're such a sweet guy. wish nothin but blessing for you on your journey. i just came out in my late 30s. coming out to yourself on your timetable frees the world up in a magical way. TIMING IS EVERYTHING!
Thank you for your transparency, you are helping others do the same! Although we shouldnt have to b put in this position, it shows the amout of respect and integrity you embody when it comes to your own wellbeing- yass kinggggg lol
Glad you getting support from your fam and friends. That’s all that’s important fr. And that u living authentically. Stay up we here for you and jus know everything is sm freer
Thats whats up!! Congratulations!! 💪🏾💯💯 I came out right after the pandemic!! Dont worry you will be alright!! you gotta live your life the way you wanna live your life!! I just subscribed to your channel jawn!! Keep doin your thing💪🏾💪🏾💯💯 God Bless you🙏🏾🙏🏾
I’m happy you’re still here man. I’m 29, and came out to my circle of 5, 7 years ago. I lost 3 folks I considered family but still had 2 riding with me. And that really hurt and kept me even more guarded. Now, I’m at the age where I don’t hide who I am if somebody were to ask; but at the same time I don’t fully anticipate coming out on anything like social media until I get into a serious relationship. I used to be brainwashed and ashamed to be gay, but I love myself more today then 18 year old me ever could’ve imagined.
It’s better to come out than being trapped and angry with yourself‼️ You made the BEST choice‼️… You’ve got only ONE life to live and it’s no one’s business…. You can be a true masculine man and be gay at the same time….
I hear you and this is why all people need to never judge anyone because at some point in life, they will be that unique person. Then they will then know what it feels like to not be accepted, respected or validated. If someone is ignorant enough to not accept you, then keep it moving because why remain miserable for someone else's satisfaction.
I love this and i definitely know the feeling and you will definitely know when the time is right I came out to my family by making a post on Facebook and when I say it felt like weights were lifted off me I felt so good about it and never regretted it at all and the love I got from family and friends were absolutely amazing and beautiful. Love you bro keep ya head up and continue being yourself. 💙❤️💙❤️
Thank you for sharing this. I have been sharing coming-out RU-vid videos every day on Twitter as Oct 11th is coming-out day. Just came across yours which I plan to share tomorrow. As I didn't see a Twitter handle for you I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story with us.
It’s okay it was hard coming out at the time but now that I look back it feels like it was more so easy after I now have the mindset of not everyone is going to fw you and there’s people who truly love you the love outweighs the hate
