NTA that's what happens when you hijack your daughter's wedding. She should've respected her daughter's wishes instead of acting like it was her wedding.
Textbook narcissism right there. OP's wife is no doubt a narcissist. Narcissists tend to see their children as basically an extension of themselves, so the wife must've seen Emma's wedding as being HER day too
Repeat after me parents: "My children aren't an extension of myself." Should help whenever your child makes a non-toxic decision that differs from what you would have done. From the moment a child is born, you should slowly work towards making them healthy, independent people instead of thinking of them as little dolls or action figures. Less trauma all around for both parties.
Keep being a good dad and support your daughter's boundaries. Your wife needs to go into therapy to figure out why she can't respect her daughter's autonomy.
You understand your children will grow into their own person with their own values and goals. They will have their own autonomy and being a good dad is veing their support on the side as they do their own thing
My grandpa was one of 13. This☝️ behavior is why they eloped. Grandma was even the youngest of 3 and the only girl. Eloping was still better then all grandpas sisters chiming in
NTA Mia is comfortable in her own self. She chose her own thing. As long as she's happy it's the main thing. Your wife should realize this. I know it's hard for your wife, she should understand. I hope your wife will eventually understand.
My mum jokes if she goes mumzilla during the planning of mine when I do get married, she permits me to elope to whoever I marry. She doesn't want another wedding disaster like hers and my adopted dad's was.
Don't apologize you did what you thought was right for your child. I don't understand why everybody when it comes to weddings pushes ideas of what a wedding should and shouldn't be. Every wedding deserves to be as unique as the bride and groom. And it is their choice, it is their choice how they want the wedding and where they want the wedding not anybody else's. You did great.
stand up for your daughter your wife needs to get over it because it’s not her life. Your wife wants to live her life through your daughters. That’s why she wants the big wedding. Obviously, she doesn’t care about what your daughter wants so keep it pushing!
Grow a spine and tell your wife to get over it. After 18, you can't expect to call the shots anymore. Your wife needs to grow up! - Parent of a 26 yo w/tats
I don't know why but plenty of mums/caregivers want to help with their daughters wedding but sometimes they forget that their children want to do it their way which is how it should be. But for some reason mom's/caregivers try to make the wedding the way they want it and it never ends well. I'm just glad that my daughter and I have a very open relationship so I can give her ideas that she may like and she can tell me what she likes and dislikes, another thing is taking it personally doesn't help anyone
Absolutely dont you dare apologize for standing up for your daughter. She told her Mother she didn't want a big showy wedding and that should have been the end of it. Your daughter is her own person and should have what she likes. Good on her for doing it her way. And I hope is your wife doesn't come around that you fly to Louisiana and show your daughter you stand with her. Your wife is being a baby because you didn't back her whiny way.
id say it depends. If she is paying the wedding herself, she can do whatever the heck she wants. If someone else is paying, they have a mssive say in it!
No, don‘t apologize. It‘s your daughter who has to like it not your wife. Your daughter went away because she couldn‘t accept that. She missed out because she was to pushy, it‘s her fault so no need for apologies, although you should have stood up for your daughter earlier.
I said keep spoiling your daughter. It’s her choice not your wife’s choice to see this or was her choice to have her get a wedding I don’t know what I’m saying right now.
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