To be fair… if my sister or friends give birth and struggle with houscleaning i would clean maybe 1-3 times if asked kindly…. But i wouldnt take of work for it… i find a lot of this argument really depends on how the sister asked and how OP worded things
Sometimes it's hard to understand people who have gone through extensive conflict to get what they want. We should approach life with compassion and try to see where people are coming from by giving them the benefit of doubt. In this situation a private conversation with boundaries was all that was needed.
@@WaitingForYukiOnna and if that doesn't work and OP seems more like a ass to the family then the sister is a brat I understand that pregnancy and wanting a child badly can provoke someone to act like the sister but not every conversation can be about her baby and she didn't have to cancel the parents honey moon so they could watch the baby I understand parents need a break but cancelling a honey moon over her kid (unless it's a emergency) was entitled in my eyes and a brat move
Im a grandma and Sick and tired of hearing about the new baby and how wonderful they are and the struggle of raising them. Just do it. Every child is a miracle and a burden. JUST DO THE JOB OF PARENTING.
She's the one who wants the kid, she alone should deal w it. I always hate it when married couples or young parents expect their younger siblings/family/friend (who are childless or single or career oriented) to prioritise them just cause they have a kid. DUDE. Your kid, your problem. People can help you every now and then but dont act like theyre your on-call help.
Someone shouldn't have to raise the kid alone-- children need community, and parents need a little time for themselves-- but yeah, this is very excessive entitlement here.
no it doesn't. i was born to a mom who was told she couldnt have kids and then hada miscarriage before me. yeah in my early life her answer to "does she have any siblings?" or "are you going to give her any siblings" was "she's my rainbow baby.. im not sure if i could give her other siblings but now she doesn't do that, sh just says"they an only child and I'm 56, pushing 60."
If she's going to be a stay at home mother, she needs to get control of herself. Unless she is physically disabled, she can do her own housecleaning, shopping and child care. Billions of women have figured this out. Where is the father in all of this?
I understand... but if there's something that my mother always told me is that:-honey, there are ways and ways of delivering a massage!! You need to choose the best way of saying what you needed to say with out cousin emotional damage.... because your sister went through a lot!!😅😅😅
The exitement is perfectly understandble… the entitlement is not. But it is also ok to ask your family for help if you are struggeling. It really depends on how the sister phrased the questions… if my sister was struggeling with childcare after a birth i would clean her house once or twice in the beginning to help her if asked… if it was phrased as a demand its a different story…. And yes screaming at your sister because she is sharing the most important moment of her life with you, does sound a bit like jealousy…. Ive never not wanted my friends who have children to share their stories with me… so a lot of this depends on exactly how the sister phrased it and how OP responded…. But all around this is a bit of a childish argument
my cousin was the exact say way to my aunt who mind you has had 6 kids and my cousin acted like her own mom couldn't understand childbirth and the struggles. lmao
A baby is a baby. You want one or you dont but no one wants 24/7 baby talk or get called out of nowhere randomly morning, noon, night to help with a baby they never wanted to coparent.
"She even forced our parents to give up their anniversary," but later, the parents are defending the sister? Seems like the rest of the family were not bothered. I think OP should just focus on themself. Despite all the complaining, op didn't name one bad thing their sister actually did to them.
Bro why the seal standing- also the sister is being an entitled B in my family we suffer miscarriages and fertility issues. I was born prematurely and my brother is rainbow baby. The sister is just expecting everyone to bow to her son which will make her son into a brat.
everyone calling the sister a brat and whatever, what I think is that she's traumatized. It doesn't excuse her other behavior, but OP needs to encourage her to go to therapy, not just tell her to shut up.
Nta. There comes a point where she is abusing it. I would be done to if they get what they want but don’t realize people also have their own lives that don’t revolve around your family.
Nope your not wrong. Lots of people have troubles conceiving and its exciting when it comes to true but why did your parents have to cancel their celebration for her? She wanted the baby so much but now needs extended help to care for the baby? And shes not the only one to go through what she did. I'm glad you said what you did. And who cares if your mom is mad or anyone else. Why do you have to help clean her house and the rest? Sounds like the fun as worn off for her.
YOU HAVE INCREDIBLE REPLIES. HAVE HER READ THEM ALL. JUST WATCH OUT, HOW SHE RAISES THE CHILD, BECAUSE HE MAY BECOME A NARCISSIST LIKE SHE IS. CALL HER, "EVE"
I get it that she only talks about the baby and bla bla bla.. … but the baby is your niece/nephew si almost your own child… I have 2 nieces myself and I love them more than anything …
I think you could have worded it better, but you are not the AH. I struggled for years too and I probably talked about it a lot. I don’t anymore unless someone asks. I think she probably would have grown out of it.
