I've never related more to a short film in my entire life. I have a 4 year old son with autism and as amazing as he is, I too am covered in bruises, constantly exhausted, always feel judged, sorry for the noise my neighbors have to deal with during my son's meltdowns, embarrassed when he has them in public, and I too know the urge to slap anyone who would be unkind to him. I'm raising him all by myself like the mother in this film and it's so much harder than anyone without a special needs child could ever understand. But those rare moments he does show me affection and gives me hugs and kisses make it all worth it. You have no idea how badly I needed to watch this. I'm in tears. Thank you, Omeleto. 💝
You're an amazing mother. 💖 It takes true strength and absolute unconditional love with all the extra hurdles. I know you must mean everything to your son 💜
The grandfather did exactly the right thing by joining in with the paper tearing and lining up. She needed someone to join her world instead of expecting her to always be able to adapt to a world not made for her.
Yes yes yes “join her world instead of expecting her to always be able to adapt to a world not made for her”!!! That is exactly what neurodiverse people need. I wish more people could understand that. Your comment should be pinned.
@@5StackNinjaFam That sucks, dude. Hopefully your parents’ ignorance will dissipate soon in the future. Maybe if you educate them consistently over time, they will think differently than their current narrow-mindedness? Assuming you are a minor and living with your parents, with a number of years yet to go before you can legally move out (without parental consent) at 18, with exception to emancipation...it may take some years for your parents to stop re-blowing their bubbles you have to keep popping. But have hope. It is possible for set-in-their-beliefs adults to change. If you’re already an adult (living outside of your parents’ roof), you don’t have to listen to everything your parents say because they aren’t responsible for you. Adults should still honour and respect their parents, but that doesn’t necessarily mean obeying them. If there are a lot of belief differences between you and your parents that are causing you significant harm to your mental health, and you are a moved-out adult responsible fully for your own finances and life choices and future, maybe going no-contact is the way to go. But I’m nobody: I’m no life coach nor nor social worker nor family therapist. You don’t have to listen to some stranger on the internet.
I will never understand why the world treat us like we’re some sort of disgrace …. I’m a 18 year old autistic person who’s been undiagnosed for most of my life and I never understood why my mother was so shocked and sad when I was diagnosed. That video helped me to see my mother’s side a little better. Thank you.
I'm sorry bro. It's horrible when the parents don't wanna accept it. Be unapologetic!!!! Learn about why you became that way. Trace any vaxxines you or your mom had as well as radiation procedures like ultrasound when your mom was still carrying you.
My daughter has Autism and she's 12. She's hurt herself, her siblings, classmates and me. She's run away alone at night once because she's constantly overwhelmed. The physical toll has been very rough and the mental exhaustion is relentless. This was such a relatable video. So many single parents of special needs children feel isolated and like no one understands the day to day struggle. This video showcases how hard it can be but those times when they show affection even in a minute way, makes it worth it because we love them so so much and only want what's best for them. Thank you Omeleto for sharing this and shedding light on the struggles of parents with special needs children ❤
I wouldn't say I understand in the way that you mean, but it seems to me that your commitment to the best interests of you daughter is heroic, and I wouldn't claim that I could measure up to what you are doing if I were in your place. Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mother.
They portrayed the experience of autism so very well. The scene in the grocery store where they filmed the too-bright lights, the loud crinkling of the plastic packaging and thud of fruit dropping, the busyness, and the swishing/blurring/quickening/distortion of each piece all together at once...best portrayal of how an overstimulating public environment feels to a neurodiverse person, that I have ever seen. Much love to the filmmakers. ❤️ Thanks for making space for this!!
The whole of humanity is neurodiverse. A person cannot be neurodiverse. The term you're looking for is "neurodivergent". It's okay in this instance to say Autistic. Please be more specific.
@@rahbeeuh I wrote this at a time where I didn't like using the term "neurodivergent", because 1. it reminded me of the book series/movies "Divergent" and made me feel outcasted, which 2. made me not want to use the term because ADHDers/Autistics/etc already have enough stigma. I do use the term "neurodivergent", nowadays, to describe what I was describing in my previous comment, and have used that term for the past few months. You're right that I was looking for the term, "neurodivergent". I didn't say Autistic because I don't have a diagnosis. But a month later, I was diagnosed with ADHD, and I'm much more sure that I have C-PSTD than I am that I could be Autistic.
@@itsdune079 thanks for clarifying. I can understand that. Divergent was the first thing I thought of when I learnt about neurodivergent lol. All it means is a brain that diverges or is different from what society has deemed typical. I, personally, prefer just using Autistic and/or ADHD when they apply. Especially since everyone doesn't know the term "neurodivergent" and the accompanying terminology. When I mentioned it's okay to use Autistic I was referring to the short film as Yoshi is Autistic but I may have misread or misunderstood your comment. Reading it back were you stating how this short captured how it felt for you? That's the reason why you used neurodiverse? I know it seems like it's just a grammar thing but it's not one. Misusing the terminology causes the spread of misinformation which is already running amuck as-is.
@@rahbeeuh Ohhhh, I see. I think I might have used "neurodiverse" because the things I listed from the video are things that are overstimulating to me. I couldn't confirm the other parts of the video as overstimulation to the "average" (haha for lack of a better word) Autistic experience, because each Autist is different and also I have to go off the knowledge I know about Autism while [likely] being Allistic myself. But the comment was so many months ago; I can't remember my actual intention. Maybe I should have put more space between the first sentence and the rest of the comment? I think I pressed enter between them, but I'm not sure. Maybe I should have put a full horizontal space between them
@@itsdune079 no problem. I tend to reply without paying attention to how old the comments are lol. In any case, it's good (or maybe not idk) that you or anyone else for that matter could relate in some way to this short film. I think it's really well done to how many of us Autistics experience such things like sensory overload. The grocery store scene ...I've been there myself quite a bit but I gotta good pair of ear defenders that really help.
I do not have an autistic child but I have a child who has ADHD and let me tell you the struggle as a parent is real. Not only do you have to deal with other parents, but you also have to deal with teachers, strangers, friends, family, your child, and yourself. Frustration can be built up, but in the end, you have to advocate for your child, because your child has only you. I only wish there could be more support from the community. Thank you for making this film.
When she held her daughter while she was having a meltdown I was brought to tears because I saw myself in her my son is autistic and I’m glad I’m not alone
My autistic son is now 12. He used to jump out of the shopping cart every 60 seconds. This was prior to home delivery of groceries. He could not be buckled in, or else a freak out. So I had to catch him hundreds of times while I was shopping. I learned to let him do what he needed to do (feel freedom in his movements) and adapt to it on my end. So instead of strapping him in. I just catch him as he jumps. So also he was a runner. I let him run. I adapted on my end by chasing him, jogging behind him and adapting to what he needed. I never thwarted his need to do what he felt he needed to do. He bolted from me wherever we went and I always wore my running shoes. He never had a meltdown because I always let him physically do what he needed. He needed to line up every DVD in the house, I let him. I too was all alone taking care of him, husband is a trucker, not home very often. I didn't realize how hard I had it because he was my first child.
A heartwarming short. Sprinkles of Japanese was good on the ears. A mother is always a mother first. Kudos to the entire team. You made many of us tear up.
You did a great job! I was actually angry with you-which is a good thing!😂 I also watched your reel & will definitely watch the other projects you’ve been a part of! Great work👍😁
It's sad that adults can be as cruel as children to those who are different. Autistic children grow up and are autistic adults and the cruelty doesn't stop. Every day is like ground hog day, over and over, and over. Nothing but this is permanent.
When the mother slapped the horrible mother for what she said about Yoshiko, I cheered! (I'm autistic and I have a great relationship with my mother. I understand her struggles. Constant worrying about appearances and countless piles of paperwork, (especially when I was young). I am eternally grateful for that.
Wtf? Japanese mother is responsible for what her child did even being disabled. If she start with physical attack on me she would lost all her teeth. That's not normal you beat someone when you can't explain yourself. She could just say "sorry I lost my attention and my child is autistic". What a terrible society.
I have a mom with special needs. She is a narcist. The physical spots reminded me my emotional scars. I have been suffering all my life from her. She would mock me in front of other people. Also in this case, I pretended that it is acceptable. Life sucks sometimes.
Please don't use the term "special needs" that's typically a euphemism for "disabled" which btw is not a bad word. The needs of Autistic people aren't special. Our needs are just needs.
I am guilty of being one of those parents who think that when a child acts up, you just need to discipline them to train them. I know very little about Autism, and didn't really believe in it other than to say these doctors are poisoning our kids to test medicines. I have to say I was honestly moved by this short film. It opened my eyes and now I will be more aware. Thank you 🙏.
Just know Autism is a spectrum disorder that presents differently in everyone Autistic person. It's not caused by vaccines or mercury, etc. It's highly genetic.
This short film was outstanding! The authenticity was absolutely captivating. The acting from absolutely superb by everyone! My heart went out to everyone. The mother had physical bruises on her body from her daughter fighting her. It was touching when the artistic daughter leaned back on her mother. We saw people with compassion and we saw people with unhealthy impaired thinking when it comes to autism. Physical violence is never acceptable but I can understand how the mother reacted. Often we take for granted our children who do not have significant physical and emotional challenges. I was impressed with the mother’s dedication to her daughter. The film showed how continued education on autism is needed!
Incredibly powerful, thank you for this film. It can be so lonely being a parent, especially in this case with a child the world bwhich neither understands nor embraces.
Oh, oh, oh, oh... such a tragic story so sensitively crafted, I can only imagine the pain, heartache, helplessness... of Yoshiko's family as they try to safely guide her through this cruel world.💔💖
My daughter was autistic. She had a seizure disorder that she had given herself because every time she would get frustrated, she would beat herself in the head with whatever was in her hand at the present moment including her iPad. On December 14th of 2021 she had a severe grand mal seizure. A seizure from which she never recovered from. She was only 23 :(
I’m so sorry for your loss. This is so devastating. Your daughter was very young, but at least you had 23 years with her. It’s never long enough for a parent. I hope you’re starting to have peace with it now.
Public stares. The laughs & snickers. Judgment without knowing the full story. I've experienced this for 20 years through my autistic son's eyes, and yet I love him just the same. God made him "who" he is for a reason - I wouldn't want him any other way.
As a boy with autism. I want to say it’s hard but also, I love my parents and that even though I give them a hard time. I try to make it up for how hard they care for me for the past 19 years as I turn 20 this year…
It's even more extreme for her because 1: Asians particularly Japanese supposedly do not treat mental health the way westerners do, and 2: in the USA, Asians are model minorities; their kids are "perfect," and for her child to be acting this way in public might be extra-too much for the mom/family.
This made me cry in empathy and I don't have any kids or personally know anyone with autism. God this was so good. You can see the pain, shame and torment on the mom's face
Thank you to everyone who is lovingly raising their children with AS, you are their whole world and you are making it a better place. ❤️ May God lighten your load and bless your heart. This is a good reason to smile kindly at people when their children are crying in public! And sometimes when my daughter is upset I pretend that I’m 80 years old getting to go back in time to hold my baby, and suddenly all the tears don’t seem to matter as much, I’m so happy to see her beautiful face.
Such a well executed film! Heart warming and shows the struggles of what parents go through with a child with disability .. I’m so happy my daughter got to work on this film (played Yoshiko) 💙 thank you omeleto for sharing this film.
This. This whole story is my life and I hate it. This is exactly why I don’t take my autistic kid anywhere anymore. The stares, the judgment, the “can’t he be fixed”, the “he’s too cute to have autism”, the expectations for him to do things he might not ever do. All the blame and shame and guilt. The juggling therapies and appointments and everything else. And everytime we go out and see “normal” kids it feels like a slap in the face that my son won’t EVER be that. We can’t just hop in the car and go somewhere without having to plan for a meltdown. This is no life and I hate it. But at least I know I’m not alone in what I go through. This video reminded me that others have kids like this too and struggle just as much just to make it day to day with them.
Never in my whole life i have ever related to a film as someone who has a sibling that's 2 years old and has autism and my mother always being judged about my little sister and my mother always having to apologize for my sister.this film is the most realistic film I've ever watched♥️.
I have never related to a short film as much as this one. My daughter is turning 4 this year in June and she has mild autism she is my world 🌍. Yes it is exhausting, full-time job but it is 100% worth every second of my life. She has taught me so much I'm so proud of her. ❤
Powerful, moving, enlightening, and truly great performance, writing, and production. I really to this in a way that more empathizes with the child than the mother because I feel as though I was similar to this child for years after infancy until certain things became more habitable for me to endure this world that was all too stimulating, way too often. I look back and realize the burden carried by my parents, teachers, and siblings while I figured out the this world, and count myself merely lucky for the life that I have now. No, I am not this girl, but she is going through so much as she is portrayed. Some things do not always get better with time, but everything gets better with patience, understanding, and the strength to endure. She is stronger than she looks, and she will get stronger everyday. We all do, in our own ways. I am proud of the mother's acceptance that she showed at the very end.
Been there, everything...my daughter and I went through the grocery scene so many times. One woman told me I needed to teach my child how to act better than that! A lot of pain, I am so sorry.
The Japanese mother took a big risk of attacking the American mother. I'm also autistic as a young child. My family always defend on behalf of me if I make an ugly situation.
What a beautiful scene when the mother hesitated touching her daughter and got this proof of trust and affection when she unexpectedly leaned against her. All wonderful acters. Impressive film.
@@ishaalimtiaz6715 they can use sign language if ppl understand sign language or have an interpreter, write things down on paper or small white board or type on any electronic device, use an iPad/tablet or phone with a communication tool/app, or use communication note cards, etc.
Thank you for watching the film! The team that made the film was truly a blessing. I can't thank enough the hard work, and the empathetic team that brought my words to life. ご視聴ありがとうございます！本当に素晴らしいチームに恵まれた最高の映画作成現場でした。視聴者の皆様、そして制作チームの皆様この場を借りてこの場を借りてお礼と感謝を申し上げます。私の言葉に命を吹き込んでいただきありがとうございました！
When I was younger, I used to have autistic meltdowns in public places. Now that I'm older, I'm much more tolerant to overstimulation, however it doesn't mean I don't get sensory overload.
You are talking about the ending, right? I read it that her throwing her gifts in the garbage was her decision that she had no need to apologize to others for her daughter's behavior. She let go of the guilt that was eating away at her because she finally came to accept that she was guilty of nothing.
This is 100% what I too am going through right now & im sobbing watching this video. The judgments can be so harsh, the looks. All of it. I pray we all can be strong & get our littles through 💕💕💕💕
A friend of mine has a son who is on the spectrum, and takes care of him, as well as his wife's siblings who have other developmental challenges. It is difficult on him and he handles it like a champ. People without knowledge or appreciation for how challenging it is for the kids, AND the parents, would do well to educate themselves and learn to be more grateful if their family does not face this challenge.
i chance to see this video. It is so relatable to me, so much insights here. I am learning to not be apologetic for my autistic son's behaviour. The grandfather's teaches understanding of the child's mind. TQ
I do t take my son to stores anymore cause i be ready to fight anybody all day 😂 but seriously he hates going into those places . He did his best when he was little but now he will only go if there isnt barely anyone in there. What dosent kill you makes you stronger in this world 💪. Both sides of the family are extremely supportive and love him alot.
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Not really, the slap only intensifies the discrimination, she is going to raise her son and teach him to avoid (never befriend) autistic people. Hence why this isn't really the answer.
@@charlescole645she already had a poor attitude towards Autistic people to begin with. She might be more discriminatory towards Asian people as well. Neither of which is right in any way.
As an autistic person, I have the same behavior. Luckily I was able to get a therapy when I was a kid that time. Wonder how I would be now if I didn’t get any therapy that time damn
My son is 22 and has Autism. My brother is 39 and has Autism. I agree with all of the comments. They are our greatest gifts and deepest heartaches; it is hard has to explosion. In so happy for all who mentioned a loved one with Autism. They are the person before the disorder ( not my autistic daughter etc). It is a huge difference and recognizing them as humans... this was great.
The two aren't separate though. Autism is a part of who we are. Like I'm also Black but if I said I have blackness that's just silly. Accepting someone as Autistic is accepting them for their whole self and not excluding any part of them.
I'm on the spectrum myself but at the same time I find children annoying, I can't stand loud noises, so I would be so pissed off if I wasn't able to sleep at night because of the noise from the neighbor.
I’m on the high end of the spectrum. Currently in the process of getting another job (the last one I had was a temporary position at a sporting goods store over my final 6 months of high school), I recently graduated high school with a diploma (and planning on going into the skilled trades), I do chores around the house, and can drive a car/pickup truck (I have my learner permit). However, when I was very young, I will admit, I **used to** consistently melt down, but as I got older, it eventually came to the point where I don’t melt down at all. I still have medications that I have to take, but they are not very potent at all. I did have the benefit of growing up in a rural area, or else someone would have called CPS. Because of these issues, I’m having a late start to my adulthood. Autism is, technically, a learning disability, but, it is a very diverse spectrum; on the lower end, you have the nonverbals who require a substantial amount of support, and on the higher end, you have the ones that are (almost, but not quite) indistinguishable from the neurotypicals, but still require minimal support (ie. medications).
I have a 2 year old with autism the most frustrating thing is people asking me why is he autism or If I or his dad passed it to him somehow it makes me enraged
Y'mean "why he's Autistic?" Well Autism is genetic so it came from somewhere. It's nobody's fault though. AND it's nobody's business to put the blame on any of you.
Hold up. The mother said that Saki is married to a Soldier? I take it that it's an American soldier. Then, why isn't/ wasn't Yoshiko enrolled in EFMP through TriCare, which would take care of all the medical/ therapy costs for Yoshiko? I'm just pointing this out, because I'm an Army wife with a son on the spectrum. Also, 30 hours a week of therapy at $150,000 a year??? That's a pretty good rate, when some therapy sessions cost $800 an HOUR!
