Sorry to hear that you are bored. I heard from a monk that when you are bored you are not a good friend to yourself so find another friend. I retired a few years ago and I love it, I find that each day is so wonderful being free without an agenda. I've worked for over 45 years and I've been set free finally at last, still great health, I garden, I am learning to cook healthy meals, I redesigned my clothing, a sew, very active with exercise, walking and learning each day and meditation. I don't need to be entertained by others, I've learned within the few years to be a best friend to myself. I would not undo anything, glad to be retired.
"If you are grateful for everything you get in your life, you will never be bored." Getting bored appears when you think of something new and you want to try it. It also appears when you are in the position of "receiver", who is waiting for someone or something to make you happy again and again until it stops according to your mind. So, happiness and satisfaction come from our own mind, actually. If you manage to control your mind and not to be controlled by your mind, you will be happy anywhere you are.
What is bored? I live in a remote part of France. I haven't spoken to anyone since October. (Internet and post office staff excepted). I wouldn't have it any other way.
@@karenmorris2239 California is NOTHING what it once was. It's a great place if you have gobs of money to live around Nancy and Gavin and their security detail. If not, ppl are LEAVING in droves from the former Golden State, in case you haven't noticed.
I fully understand where you're coming from. I lived in a small town in Japan and felt really isolated. This is a trap expats can find themselves in, especially when they get older. One other expat in my town tried to relocate back to the states but couldn't find work as no one saw her experience in Japan as relevant; she ended up drifting back. And on a more serious note, another friend I had there ended up suffering depression and unfortunately took his own life. Although its very important to immerse yourself in the new culture, you also need like-minded friends and a challenge. As Einstein once said 'we put so much value on material things when all we need to be happy is something to be enthusiastic about' Good luck
I love Thailand, but there are some dark sides here, let me tell ya. My wife is - at times - a believer of old school child discipline, and this nearly made me lose my sanity. I could never lay a finger on a child. She has also hit me on several occasions. As a struggler of C-PTSD, OCD and ADHD, life in Thailand has been hell sometimes. I've been suicidal and I am depressed; family and faith is what keeps me going. God bless you.
@@KrisTreu Have you considered leaving her for your sanity ?, actually many countries have dark sides, just try and stay in the light, hang in there, there's a lot of people including myself that have struggled through mental illness, if you keep believing there will be better days ahead there will be.
I lived in a small village in N E Thailand where much like you I had long periods of time by myself and with few people who spoke English. I was not bored. I found ways to stimulate my mind. There are many international internet based income opportunities available which you can do from anywhere in the world. I left Thailand to deal with some health issues which have now been solved. It has been more boring being away from Thailand. I am moving back soon. Thailand for me my friend.
Hi Roger Tallentire. What kind of international internet based income opportunities are available that you recommend? I want to look into it. I plan to visit Pattaya soon in a few months. I cannot wait for sight seeing & the night life.
I too, Roger, got bored and am still but the people are so lovely and kind where in the USA, unhappy, hateful and not a happy place now like in Europe. Our Govts have ruined our countries for the sake of REFUGES I placed a story above and won't rehash it but live in Khonkaen. I only have one friend, A Brit but he lives in Udon so have none. My wife is super duper and would not trade her for a $10,000,000. Ddun1953@gmail.com
@@americanwoman445 Agree. I like being alone too. If I want to be with someone then that’s possible too. I find it easier to do it this way. Less is more. Quieter too. Less headaches. Simpler.
I know what you mean! I retired from the US Navy when I was 41, my Thai wife and I have been married for 31 years now and we moved to the Chiang Rai area coming up on 9 years now and I'm never bored!
Maybe the problem is that Ta is not also retired. I retired, from an engineer and university teaching career, 9 years ago in Florida and between helping my wife and gardening, I haven't missed working at all. I am very busy. Now we started traveling and are spending 3 months in SE Asia.
@@VietnamEli You made a wise decision, then. If you're one of those people who loves their work then it really isn't work at all. Also, work is how many people define themselves and some people honestly feel called to do certain occupations. Thank whomever for those folks. Again, good choice on your part and props to you.
Exactly how I felt when I lived with my ex in thailand. I’m Filipina and the people around our home in Sansai, Chiang Mai, didn’t speak any english. Its basically farm lands around us. Mango farms, Rice farms. There was nothing to do. No friends. It was total isolation. Eventually, I found enjoyment in riding around the city on a motorbike and hanging out in coffee shops. Chiang mai has some of the best coffee I tasted, but the loneliness, the lack of social aspect of life, that’s part of the reason we broke up, it’s a weird life. We humans are social beings. I was learning thai language, but I left and went back to the philippines and got my job and was happy again.
I've tried it three times, albeit only for 6 weeks at a time, but I can't do nothing in Thailand. It's easier to be at a loose end in your own country: TV, radio, libraries, friends, shops.
I saw this coming when you stared doing videos without Ta. Living in another country changes you forever. You will never be the same and will never see things the same way again. Those of us expatriates that are willing be honest can empathize with the rollercoaster of emotions that come with acclimating to the culture in Thailand. The trick to surviving a life-changing experience like this is to be openly honest with yourself and your partner and they need to be openly honest with you. They have a much easier ride than you; it is their country after all. Being dishonest can lead to resentment, but your partner can’t give you the proper support if he/she doesn’t know what you’re worried about. Love is a choice. Love a choice that is a two way street of giving and sacrificing for each other. Search both of your hearts. Be careful when the separations start and the emotional disconnects begin. Good luck to both of you.
Good video! I can relate to your situation. Prior to retiring from work, I used to come on holiday 2 x a year to Thailand. Like you, I retired to Thailand a few years ago after working all my life. I built a small home here, I'm now living in a village outside of Korat with my good lady. However, I now feel that I'm isolated and bored here with few friends and little to do. To combat the boredom, I tried various things - learn the Thai language etc - I now drink too much also. Sadly, I now feel that I'm too old to be learning something new here, also the current money exchange rate here does not help either! Perhaps like you - I will head home soon? I think some farangs come here after they retire and stay in places such as Pattaya, Hua Hin etc, they do it because they need human contact with other farangs etc, I believe that I made a mistake by trying to live like a local in a Thai village - perhaps I should've retired to Pattaya, HH etc. I wish you well on your return to work
Been with my Thai wife for 17 years and retired 3 years ago while my wife still works. I’m never bored and always have things to do: buy and sell Cryptos online, more time for hobbies and travel, I’m 35 chapters into writing a novel, and I love reading and watching TV series. Can’t imagine ever having to work again full time. I’m 57 and in full health so am looking forward to a few more years of retirement.
Been retired for fifteen years since I was 55. Never had an issue with boredom or a lack of things with which to entertain myself. Then again, I also take off from Thailand for a while every year. Been out of the country since the pandemic struck.
You live in Thailand why don't you study the Thai Language and teach English as a second language. Do you know how to read? Read ! I don't have enough time to do what I want to do. You act as though your mind is a blank slate. Today I did an hours worth gardening,walked 3 mile and will read an hour or more in Thai language ,I am a native english speaker.
I can completely understand. I spent three weeks on Maui, Hawaii for my honeymoon. I was bored after a week. I travel very well and mix easily with the locals. However they are not on holidays so they have their own lives to deal with and spend their time taking care of business. I should have booked more destinations but even the sight seeing gets boring. All in all a good experience but cured me of tropical paradise fantasies. Coming from a snow belt I had a lot of them. The locals were the best though.
I think Brad is going to work in a tourism organization promoting Thailand. The work will mainly be based in Thailand, perhaps in Bangkok, but will have travel opportunities to English speaking countries like his native Australia and others.
It is money related to be honest. But then that can be an honest thing. Back 100 or 200 years ago in America, it was also supporting the wife, money related. Nothing illegal or immoral about that.
@@OurLifeThai That's great! Wow, it had sounded like you .we were leaving Thailand. I am so glad you are working nearby. My wife and I work in adjacent home offices. I work locally and she is a remote worker and we love it. Thanks for responding. I was brokenhearted until I found out about your new job.
My wife and I have been following you for at least a year, and we love your channel. You two are definitely one of our favorites to watch, and we sure hope you are still able to have the channel. I just watched this by myself and became so sad when watching this. I am 61 and will be retiring in the Philippines with my Filipina wife. We are building a hostel there so we can do it together. I am hoping I don't have anything to be sad about, because boy I sure did get sad when I first started watching this, but I have hope! I don't know why I never commented, but I did LIKE every video you put out. I even had hoped to meet you and Ta when I come to Thailand this spring. I had talked to my wife and we were wanting to bring the two of you t-shirts from Oregon. Hopefully I can still have a chance to meet when I make the trip!
You must be crazzy. Heard so many stories of Americans & other expats building businesses in other countries where they cannot own the land & after businesses up & running, pay off inventory & ur successfully making money ....then landowners or those who lease properties chain up the business & keep all contents...if it's a restaurant & bar, then landowners keep all the food, liquor, furniture, kitchen appliances from commercial refrigerators, stoves etc. Do not be bamboozled into thinking the business will be yours.
@@phyllisburris7093, well my wife is a FILIPINA, she OWNS the land and whether we do or do not build a hostel, I'm not worried about my wife screwing me out of anything. We've been happily married for 18 years. I'm not too concerned with what you think. I've spent more than enough time over here, and my wife's family members are all doing fine, none of them are hurting for money. So you can hear and think what you want, I am not worried about my situation.
I retired when I was 53 n will be 70 in 2 months n I love it.I always find things to do.you can volunteer to do things n stay with your wife.your ecxuses are very weak
Well Mate...Laura and I think you are going to be working at Ta’s Company. They like you and you are there a lot, so, to us it only makes sense, no? Wherever it is, we wish you only the best!
I have been retired and living in Thailand for six years, married for two years to a Thai woman I have known for four and a half, and I have none of the problems you allude to. First, I know for a fact that I would not like village life. I lived in Phitsanulok (85,000) for the best part of a year teaching English, had a Thai girlfriend, but P'lok is not a farang (Westerner) haven...very, very few English speaking expats, and like you, I had no one to relate to. That's when I learned my lesson. I moved to the 2nd largest city in Thailand, Chiang Mai, and lived there for a year and a half, which is where I met my wife. We now live in Cha Am, a small resort city on the Gulf of Thailand about three hours south of Bangkok, and I love it here. A large expat community with a broad cross-section of nationalities. The city is big enough to have most of what I might need, and what it doesn't, Hua Hin with it's two large Western-style shopping malls and movie theaters does, only 20 minutes away. One of the keys to a successful retirement is having something to do that seriously interests you. I write, have a political Facebook page and blog, have written two novels and a ton of short stories. I walk 5 miles most days, read, visit with friends, travel occasionally, and keep myself active, which at the age of 70 is important. In my opinion, unless you are willing to devote the serious work necessary to learn to both read and write Thai, living in a village is a recipe for disaster. Going back to work would never cross my mind. I love my retirement way too much. But lacking an activity/activities to keep your mind occupied and your interest piqued is also a recipe for disaster. Hope everything works out for you.
retirement is bliss, at 47 i quit my job and moved to the philippines, my stress is gone and no more chest pains, got lots of free time, lost 50 lbs, atill chubby, visited friends 4 years ago in los angeles and they said i looked younger, i run a small business and a farm to keep me busy.
@@carlosmartins8771 Sorry for taking so long to respond. RU-vid just now alerted me to your message. There are a few golf courses in the area, but, not being a golfer I really couldn't tell you what the fees are. I have never heard anyone complain that they are excessive, but other than that, I'm afraid I can't help.
Good post ..I agree. As for me, I took a year off in Dominican Republic and got bored. Beaches, beauties and sunshine get old after a while lol. Looking at East Asia now preferably medium sized coastal town. As a young and retired social worker and educator I know teaching part time, writing, volunteering or starting a non profit, gym etc would keep things in balance. Thanks again great post.
Boy, would I enjoy being bored. I'm pushing 60, and my whole life has been full of stress, familial conflicts, and worries with no time to kick back and think...look at the stars....be spontaneous....read....hike...take a walk..... What you're leaving is soul food to me.
I retired at 46, never regretted it once. I’m a homebody and love being home doing my thing. Never had the desire to live in a foreign country. Don’t blame the people that do the expat thing, just wasn’t for me. Heck, I thought living in Louisiana was enough being expat for me! Brahaha! Oh well, the gal I married is the same way and wants to be here with me, on the ranch we call it!
My work has required me to travel full time since 1999 and occasionally prior and I totally relate to what you are saying. When I retire I will go home, or at least where my wife will let me live.
Why don’t you go to the library and start reading. I’m never bored, totally enjoying my retirement wa s working for a long time and now enjoying even just by being at home,without the stress.
Geting by in Thai language is one thing but having a deeper meaningful conversation another thing. I think you need some good western friends to share and spend time with. As great as Thai people are there’s also a cultural difference that comes into play on top of the language barrier.
Excellent video, thanks for posting, much appreciated. I really enjoy your channel, you both are so cute together and I always learn something new. I took an early retirement because I own a small apartment building that pays for my needs. It took me about a year to get my 'retirement legs,' here's my suggestion to you. Our free time is the most important asset we have, more important than money. I suggest you plant a garden, learn an instrument, maybe manage an apartment building or commercial property in Thailand, read books, do puzzles, create art. Getting out of the rat race was so good for my health, stress, no more driving, no freeways, no chain jerked. You know how it is. Have a very nice and peaceful day my friends : )
I have been married to my thai wife since 2004 and have both lived in UK since then. When we go to live in Thailand soon there is no way I would even consider living anywhere near her families thai village. There are no farang and it is just too quiet and nothing to do, it is enough to send any normal guy insane. Obviously over the 15 years I have stayed many times for 2 to 4 nights a visit. It drives me crazy. Your best option for the future is for you and your wife to move to somewhere like hua hin where you can build up a nice group of expat friends. Hua Hin is where I plan to locate.
This video just popped up on my recommended videos. I have a mate who runs a business in BKK and is married to a Thai lady (who is his office administrator). Gerard hardly speaks a word of Thai. Relies totally on his wife to organize stuff for him. I reckon you could keep yourself amused 24/7 becoming fluent (read and write) in Thai. That would be a full-time job. If you achieve that, I think that many possibilities to occupy yourself in that village would open up.
It’s my first time watching your channel. I retired at 36-37 years old, I’m 52 now and have never looked back with regret! Good luck in the work force! My guess is that you’ll be teaching English to a non-native speaking population, like so many others who have chosen to live abroad and have a RU-vid channel!!
you're not playing basketball, volleyball, Pétanque, bowling with friends everyday ? fishing, walking with elephants, meeting foreign people and explaining the life they could have here, all info and advise... daily ? I have never being bored in Thailand or other countires.... Never ever !! People are amazing and if you make the first steps... they will always come to you and they are awesome ! I would love to have a life like you... go to work even 20% you will enjoy to meet people and people will come to see you smiling and enjoying life... for ever ! never stay alone in your house... never ever ! you'll die sooner.
I lived in a small rural town in Kalasin district for 2 years. Am back "home" now, in cold and dreary Sweden, to work and make more money - just so I can get back to Kalasin again. Love isaan. The people, the music, the food, the sense of belonging, of feeling welcomed. I'd trade with you in a heartbeat. Learn the language. It removes the feeling of isolation you speak of, completely. It took me about a year to learn how to speak isaan, and I'm turning 50 this year. So it is possible. If I can do it, anyone can, cause I have the IQ of a hamster. That's my 2 cents anyway. Best of luck.
I would kill to be in your position. Lovely wife who backs your every whim A great house to live in and very nice village full of friendly people. I would spend my spare time learning to read and write Thai. You surely find that very rewarding. Whatever you have decided I wish you the best of luck from Canada.
@@jeffreyspector648 Moving to another country can be quite intimidating for many people, especially for Asian women. People that grew up in the West often have far less of an emotional barrier toward moving overseas...
@@lisar3777 the only thing japanese American women are top achievers in is svcking off white men. You dont do anything significant on your own. Hentai porn and peace signs is about all you are good for
She is trying to say that if you are not educated then you are trash. I know lots of educated people that are pure trash. So don't start yapping about how educated and how it makes you better because it doesnt!
I hear exactly what you are saying, because I've been there and survived. Retirement is not playing golf all day, or watching TV all day, or not walking around the village all day. NO! Retirement is doing what you want to do, when you want to do it, how you want to do it. Not many people will understand this, because they're so wrapped up in their own BS. For me, I can work on what I want, when I want and how I want. so I work for free on my own projects. I have no boss to tell me to do this or do that or any of that BS. I keep my mind active with learning every single day, simulating a work day. Conclusion - work hard, find your passion and keep at your passion until you drop dead. That is my retirement.
Maybe playing golf is what some may want to do...all day. Their choice. You can't define retirement for someone else. That would defeat the whole purpose of retirement!
She is not going to miss you mate. You are dead weight. She is young, intelligent, and beautiful. She won’t be alone for very long;unless she wants to be...
She's put too much of her time and soul into you to give you up. Besides, you seem like a good man who would be a decent friend. Sane women seek quality - meaning, that if men consider you a good man and respect you, a woman will value that a lot. They're not half as stupid as they look (joke). Life without a purpose is meaningless, really, so when it comes to work, you're right. Many different purposes, many different approaches, but having a purpose is essential to well-being. (First time I've seen any of your videos, just a random hit.)
@Ramdom Guy - Not likely. Gold diggers want to come to the western divorce law terrortories, get laid for a few years, get a citizenship, then sue for alimony. You have any idea what some people would pay for a citizenship? You find a girl who says "No wyay! Stay my country! Better!" you have a girl who's serious about things and thinks them through. Men's egos and greed for women has gotten a lot of guys in a lot of trouble. And believe me, you get married, you ARE going to get told what to do! I have not met a man yet, in any language, who doesn't get told what to do by his wife. Not my dad, not my uncles, not my friends, not me. Best to keep your wits about you.
Ta can't believe her LUCK! 1/ she now owns a house. 2/ the mug will send her most of his wages. 3/ she's now free to spend the nights with her Thai husband, as well as the days like she is now 😉
I have been in Thailand for 14+Years, now living in a Isan village. While building the new house, I did the tourist thing and drove across Thailand, with the new .wife as my guide. We seldom go to tourist areas now, I never want to see another Temple or feel a need to associate with westerners. As the kids aged, I sent them to college to enable them to be prepared for life & work. The youngest will graduate this year... I have no need for extra income, but do miss building things which is illegal with a Retirement Visa. Apr I will be leaving for Coastal Carolina to repair a few houses, due to hurricane Florence. I will miss riding the motorcycle, which in the US is a suicide wish. Though I will finish my custom hard tail & 911, waiting for me in the garage... Looks like Thai & US Immigration are helping me make a final decision. Better to move now, than be forced by additional regulations in a few years. Though, I have life-time medical coverage & more than enough retirement income... Maybe I will return to die, which is the question my son asked, when I 1st moved here...
Bored on a tropical island. What can you do hmm. 1. Write a book 2. Teach. 3. Workout. 4. Prep for a bodybuilding show or marathon 5. Take language sessions. Best wishes
I retired there for the temples and meditation retreats plus the beauty of it. I came from Hawaii. I just could not handle the constant heat of Chiang Mai. I left Chiang Mai for Pokhara Nepal and prefer Pokhara because there are real seasons and i can get out and walk everywhere. My first 10 months in Pokhara i lost 65 pounds. In Chiang Mai, you walk 6 blocks and you are soaked with sweat.
I have been in Krabi for 12 years. A LOT of guys have the problem of boredom. Some of it is retirement, some of it is Thailand. Most go into an alcoholic stupor and get sick and die. It takes courage to give up the "dream". The truth is Thailand is not what it seems. People project all their fantasies onto Thailand. Once they figure things out they realize it is actually MORE difficult living here than at home. GL
He sounds rich. He was able to stop working at 47. Most people can't do that. So either he inherited money, or made a lot and saved it, or a trust fund baby.
I find it really interesting how so many people try to analyse the body language in this video. It's just a RU-vid video people. 🤣🤣🤣 ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-fSz6x1Ij8Ts.html We're both still extremely happy (together) by the way. 😁😁
1.) Look up the word "avocation". 2.) Find yours. 3.) Give more than you get. 4.) Be wealthy, (and busy), more than you've ever been. By your measure, so shall ye be rewarded. (Really, it isn't that hard to do.)
Depends on what your interests are. I stay busy in retirement, doing the same things I did when I was working. And there's no other place but here in the USA that I could do what I do. So moving to Thailand would never be on my radar. I wouldn't have to go there to figure that out. (building and flying experimental aircraft) This country has the most infrastructure for my hobby, more so than any other. So that eliminates any thought that it might be better elsewhere. But there are some other exciting hobbies that might be able to be done in places like Thailand. But before I moved there I'd figure out what those are and if I wanted to do them, and then see if it were possible before making the big move. I enjoy riding motorcycles, and there seems to be lots of those in Thailand. That could be fun. Or boating. Sailing, etc. I've done those also and building a boat might be fun. Those kinds of projects really keep you busy every day.
Hi Brad. I am the bearer of bad thoughts. 1: The beginning of the relationship, way too quick. 2: Moving to Thailand in a small village without having stayed for 4-6 weeks, not wise. 3: Not going to school to learn Thai, so you can communicate better. Meet somebody, get to know them well including family. She visiting you in your country for a period of time before you even think of moving. See if you get along. When you decide to move, learn the basics of the language in your home country at night school. You were in Thailand some 3 years when this video was made, but sadly you could not really communicate with the market seller. Sorry for the negative vibes, but it had to be said.
Fast forward 2 years & I still can’t speak Thai, but that doesn’t stop me from having a wonderful marriage & working for a Thai company. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-LwOPxZV4fMI.html But thanks so much for your advice.
Teacher Brad! Teaching at Tessaban. It’s just about the only thing a farang can do in Thailand. It’s great fun when you have kids that are interested in learning.
Patrick Palmarella if you’re a native English speaker, you’re not taking away a Thai job. I’m an American teaching in Thailand and there is an entire industry of Thai recruiters and agents desperate for English teachers. They recruited me from Texas. That’s the Thai job that is created, recruiters..
Willy Jimmy I went with a company called Road Experience out of Hatyai. I got hired right away and most likely because I’m not in a heavily tourist area, Songkhla. I have a Bachelors of Music but any native speaker can easily work as a teacher. If you don’t have a college degree, I think the work permit costs more. I get 30,000baht a month after 2 agencies take a cut. Yes, sometimes I feel as though I’m being trafficked but, they desperately need native speakers. There are a lot of English as a second language speakers teaching but, they don’t make as much and are heavily discriminated against. If I look around on my own, I may be able to make as much as 40,000 for my next job. I don’t have a TEFL certificate and I have seen TEFL programs that look like rip-offs costing thousands of dollars and going on all inclusive excursions. I’m too old and for that, I wanted to start teaching right away. I do have some teaching experience as a piano teacher, but here, it’s a whole different ballgame. If you have no obligations back home, this is a great experience. I hope to keep teaching in Thailand as long as I can.
I have lived in Thai for the past 8 years. I have been married to a Thai for 6 of them. We have a house (4 bed 4 bath) in Jomtien Pattaya. We do NOT live in the Country. I have several friends here and meet up regularly for drinks and meals. I have been retired for 20 years and I don't want to work and don't have to as I have more than enough income for the two of us. We go back to the UK once a year for 6 to 8 weeks as I keep a Duplex in London. Bored ? nope. Plenty to do if we want as Pattaya is only 10 minutes away by car and there is everything anyone could want there in the way of entertainment. My point is that Village life in the "outback" of Thai is not for many Farangs and before you leap make sure you have enough money !
You guys make a great looking couple! I lived in Thailand and ridding my motorcycle was my hobby, which kept me busy. Studying Thai with a tutor helped and I actually like being retired, so filling my day was not a problem. Good luck with the job!
I think you needed some things to do, I live in Hat Yai in the south, not many foreigners here. I have a great time, doing my own projects in the daytime. My days fly, I have been here for 12 years, I do work about 4 hours everyday but not for the domestic market. I don’t understand how I got the time in the West to work and have time to relax. You said your mind needs to be active. It’s not Thailand, it’s retirement that doesn’t suit.
Staying here in Thailand during the pandemic and staying in a remote village would grind on everyone. Try another area mate where you at least are around your fellow farangs
HI Brad and Ta, well may you will go back to Australia and work part time there and then come back to Thailand and stay Six to eight month out of the year or even do halve and halve. I'm fifty four now, but when I'm sixty, I would like to come back to Thailand when the winter is here in the USA, getting to cold for me and when the weather warm up and I'll go back and work in USA.
Yes I am same. I love my farm my stuff but winter time I leave. Was late getting out this year now I am heading back for a month or two. Then back to the US.
It's a phase or midlife crisis and then reality sets in. You're not alone, cause Thailand is like being in Jamaica's Hedonism. Plenty of fun yet unfulfilling.
You need a hobby!! Something must intrigue you either to make or explore. Can sell in market if it is something you can make. You can teach English even for free and learn Thai at the same time. Am sure the local schools would live to have a part time English teacher. You can make a garden, for yourself or to sell at stores. First time viewer, but seems like you have a good life.
Shocked, and saddened to hear this but appreciate your honesty and can understand your motivation! ☹️. If you are there on a marriage visa, does that not allow you to maybe find some work there, that would satisfy you? Anyway, all the best to both of you and I look forward to seeing what happens. Take care!
Aside from teaching English, there really aren’t work opportunities in Thailand for foreigners unless you are recruited by larger companies for jobs that they cannot fulfill from the domestic workforce.
I think people, men in particular romanticize retirement in far away places like Thailand and don't think about the fact that life is life and it get's boring sometimes. I feel you need to have a network of people who have similar backgrounds, interests and values that you can share and relate to. Also, family connections are important and when you marry into a culture very different from your own it can add another degree of isolation. Are you close to your wife's family? Does your wife work and if not does she cook for you ( only ask because you seem to eat out a lot)? Do you have interests and activities you do together other than making videos ? These things are important too. Anyway, I can't guess what your job is or where your going but I wish you both luck and success.
It’s hard to move country and do nothing when you have been active mentally on a daily basis. I’m sure your decision is the right one and you need to keep moving - you have thought carefully about it and it is the right decision. Life is for living - good luck with the move 👍🏻
Twenty years ago I moved to the Philippines and like you set up house there. Exactly like you after a few years I got bored and moved back to the UK. Later I met and married a Thai lady (5 years ago now). I am now 72 and like to think I have gained some wisdom along the way, especially on this subject. I commute back and forth to Thailand and regularly bring my wife back with me to the UK for 6 months at a time. Eventually I am thinking of being with my wife full time (I am unable to get a UK spouse visa, only a visitor visa) and my idea and think it would also be good for you, 6 months in Thailand and 6 months at home. Of course Ta may need to stop working but with a good paying job for you in Aussie, this should be enough in 6 months to last you a year. Otherwise you will miss her terribly while you are apart, I know I miss my wife very much being in the UK by myself.
What does your wife do when alone in Thailand? This isn't malicious question just wandering.....is she much younger than you since they refused her a visa?!
You are legally married to a woman but the fucked up immigration laws in your once fine but no longer influential country will not let her move in full time? Where are the balls on British men? It's your country,not the governments,fight for control now or lose it for ever
Unbelievable how much venom you guys got as feedback here, shocking how much people love to see disaster. My first reaction was sad to see you guys splitting up, and shocked to see the amount of venom out there. Happy to see that there is happy ending.
G'Day Arthur And you haven't seen the multitude of comments that went straight to "held for review", which I promptly deleted prior to them going public. Disgusting. There really are so many people who have no respect for anyone but themselves. This video was originally made to have some fun with our regular subscribers, who knew that RU-vid would be sharing it with all those low people. Thanks for watching Take care
Our Life Thai - i am sorry to learn about how so many bogan people can be hurtful and toxic with their comments. The biggest downsides of sharing personal stories on social media is that you ‘flush-out’ many horrible people, who get sick satisfaction by leaving destructive comments. Fortunately, there are people who are wise, helpful and courteous in their opinions. Best wishes to you both. Thanks for being frank and open in your videos and sharing your life experiences.
Happens anywhere , after work controls you in years !, Now retired , the controler is gone , You are blank ! You don't know what to do ?. The outside world controls you with no aim ! A rolling stone , roll to where ?!,!,
Hi, life is interesting. I want to retire and live in Thailand 😊. I’m 62, work as an RN ( part time) and will work for a little longer. I did enjoy your video and topic very much. Really has me thinking. I’m visiting Thailand again in November, hoping to meet a good woman, and begin my journey. Perhaps I will start on an Education visa to learn the language. I totally identified with your feelings though. By the way, I live in Northern California. Too expensive here ! Regarding my guess on your job and where ? Perhaps something in the content creator field similar to your masterful RU-vid creation. I think your going back to your home roots. Take care and best of luck and continue good health. You and your wife gave me so much hope today. Love is real ! Gratefully, Brian
Just came across your channel and subscribed. Good luck with your new job. Will definitely be a change from life in Thailand, but Thailand will always be there when you get "hungry" for the lifestyle again ;-)
3:52 Ways to spend your time. 1. Viewing content from other RU-vidrs. 2. Downloading Steam and finding some games you like. 3. Learning Thai. 4. Teaching. 5. Love 6. Exploring 7. Find a Remote worker position or an Australian company in Thailand. 8. Look for opportunities to contribute to the community.
Got it wrong from day one .Before you marry talk about what you both want if it's not right don't marry. I am married to Thai lady she wants to be with me wherever I go. Her happiness is my happiness and my happiness is her happiness. I wish you good luck for the future.
I also retired from office work and started working in a small farm in Kanchanaburi. I enjoyed my simple retirement life. I eat organic vegies, eggs and fish from my farm. It's amazing to see trees producing fruits. Many people only see fruits and vegies but never see real trees or know how trees growing. If I need a break I will travel either in Thailand or aboard every 2-3 months.
i'm just over 40 and have not been able to work since I was 30 due to my health... still even though I am often bored I still find stuff to do... I am considering moving to Asia will see what happens, but 1 thing is certain it's be better then doing nothing over here!
You will miss the simple life and the happy people. Once you had a taste of happiness watch you will be in a endless circle trying to find fulfilment. You won't be happy anywhere.
Ive been going over since '82,great place for a couple of months but not to live for me......Being from Perth Its only a 6 to 7 hour flight and cheap.Once you get over the initial obsession with Thailand the better.Can be very intoxicating for men who have not been accustomed to female attention in their own country.Australia is the best place in the world to live IMO and Thailand is a good and cheap place to go for a break from the mundane.3 years was a good effort,find the right balance between Australia and Thailand and you've got the best of both worlds.
There are lots of things to do! Open ur mind, explore ur passion and needs n go for it! Just make sure ur able to earn an income for ur time n effort. Change ur mind set into an entrepreneur! Dont be trapped by ur mind ok
Yes i can see you in Real Estate , maybe helping Farang with property in Thailand , can you get a working visa in Thailand ? I can't imagine you leaving Thailand and Ta so must it be close by :-)
Some people are just not suited for life outside their own country. I've lived in many countries, now in one place for the last 25 years. In every place I've lived I've built up a life for myself and learned many new things including new languages. I don't think I've ever been bored in my life.
At the end of the day, Thailand is still a welcoming and amazing place with mostly good people and beautiful culture. I have been visiting Thailand regularly the last 24 years, but I am based in Singapore. I believe traveling is superior to sticking to one place, that’s why I am not bored and “mental”. :D Good luck with your returning back to working!
hi. i think that's the thing... 'travelling instead of sticking to one place' especially when you can afford a decent living. I love thailand but as I get older I would have to work out practicality rather than the dream life.
Plenty to do in Thailand you picked a wrong city. Don't blame your boring village. Go to a city that has 24hour entertainment. Thailand has tough regulations for foreigners living there. You just run out of money and cannot work because government has banned foreigner from teaching in Thailand as it takes away a local job.
