My Engagement Ring and Secret Girlfriend?! Answering your Assumptions 

🎹 *Bonus Assumptions* For My Very Lovely Supporters www.patreon.com/maryspender

I guess I'm just an unobservant guy. It never occurred to me that you might be blonde, engaged, have a fake nose ring, have a secret girlfriend or anything else. I'm just here for the music.

You’re just an honest , real, sweet person who just happens to be a wonderful musician. Your videos are infectious and your personality is so adorable. Thank you for just being you.

Mary I absolutely love your speaking voice. You should do audiobooks. I do like your singing and playing of course, but you mostly speak here and I think it is just great.

Such a beautiful lady. NO nose ring!

I like the Mary Spender I see on RU-vid, her music, her voice, her style. There’s no mystery that Mary works hard at her craft.

You have a lot of male fans commenting on here, so I just want to shout out that as a female aspiring singer-songerwriter working on my first EP, you are one of my go-to 'spiritual counsellors' and a major musical inspiration, despite my genre being very different from yours! Thank you for being you, and for your stunning voice and music.

I found your channel because of the excellent sultans of swing cover with the equally talented Leo, and I love both your singing voice and your normal voice, and you are amazing in general

I love that you don’t give out ANY real information on your personal life, even though you could create more “buzz” and viewership if you did. It’s so refreshing when a younger person, raised in our tell-all world, values the concept of a truly private life, because they value themselves.

I have been a fan since you dueted with Leo on Sultans of Swing. I love your finger picking style. Keep doing what you're doing!!

It’s amazing how people have to be so unkind. You are an honest person who I enjoy watching the way you navigate through your music. You have put in a lot of hours.

More power to your elbow, Mary! You have a terrific talent and it's a real pleasure to listen to your voice - whether speaking or singing. I have absolutely no musical ability but love what you do!

Mary, you are so genuine, so down to earth, that to say you're the real deal is a gross understatement. Keep making us smile and warm is with your mellifluouity.

Mary, thank you for allowing us to accompany you on your journey. Watching and listening as you evolve as an artist and person is truly an honour. You are one of a kind.

Mary, Rick and Rhett brought your work to my attention. I'm so glad your drive and discipline have brought your talents forward, and enabled more of us to enjoy the fruits.

Those reflections about being on YT full time, as much of an accomplishment as it is, you "almost" got emotional about it. 😳 Even though i haven't been here since the beginning, im not far from it. And i for one am excited to see that patreon and yt icon pop up so i can see what you've posted! Keep up the awesome work Mary 😁💞

Hello Mary, I've been enjoying your content for several years now. I'm so happy to hear that you are able to do what you love for a living. I've been a full time gigging musician for about 29 years and I'm still loving it. I think that you are fortunate to have grown up in a a time that someone with real talent (like yourself) can make a living from their own music done their way without having to bow down to the record labels. You are proof of that fact.

Its obvious just listening to you talk you are a good and sweet person. The fact you are an incredible musician is just the cherry on top

It's weird that so many people are interested in your relationship status, they need to get over it 😂 some very interesting questions and answers though, cheers!

THIS is most probably your BEST POST EVER!!! You are sooooo genuine and down to earth. if all makers could take lessons from you... I mean besides all you wonderful MUSIC VIDS 🤩🤩

Glad that you are doing what you are meant to do….your music, your ideas and the reviews are important to the arts and culture…. You amaze me with your creativity and passion to stay on track with living your dream 👍😁👍

Mary, thank you for kindness and sweet personable outlook on You Tube! Love your comments and videos Fran

Love you, Mary! Keep being your honest, wonderful self.

Mary is a class act in every way

I'm an old geezer Mary but always find you entertaining and easy to watch. You are so natural in front of the camera.

Mary - your musical journey and just delightful personality, your particular insight and lack of artifice make for an endearing and fun combination. Keep doing you.

Well, you answered a couple of them and very cleverly dodged the rest; tis your right. I met (discovered) you when you did Sultans of Swing with Leo. How long has that been now. Nice getting to know you.❤

"Mary talking" videos are among my favorites. Smart, direct, knowledgeable. May the music video company continue to thrive and prosper. You've been extraordinarily careful NOT to reveal anything about your love life. I assume you think it's none of our business, and you're correct. I never noticed the switch of ring fingers. I always assumed your nose ring was real, and am happy that you dispensed with it. I've always used a pick, but don't just strum or play chords, which seems (to me) a kind of hybrid technique. Next time you're in the states, Mary, catch a Larkin Poe show if you can - two women of about your age, one with an operatic alto voice, the other an excellent slide guitar player. Their blues rock/hard rock style is not at all like yours, but you have similar musical backgrounds (starting at an early age, though they went public a decade sooner).

Don't change a thing, we like you as you are. Your perfections and imperfections (if you have any). Its greatly satisfying to see someone living and not just existing.

How on earth can you say you're not brave enough Mary? You are one of the bravest people i know, look at all you have done and acomplished, you are FIERCE and inspiring my friend. 👍❤️

You're successful Mary because you are an accomplished musician/singer/song writer, very articulate, open about things you want us to know and present yourself with a smile. Long may you continue because your videos always brighten my day.

I don’t know how I stumbled upon this channel, but I’m glad I did.

Great episode Miss Spender! I like how you express your learning technique.

Keep doing what you are doing Mary. Hope to catch one of your shows sometime.

Honest and Authentic ... WTG Mary Spender! Continued success in all you do.

Holy crap...people actually ask you this sort of stuff??? Bless your sense of humor and patience. And thank you for your music!

My wife and I have been playing guitar and singing together since we met in 1971. It never gets old. I have learned from your videos and we thank you.

Great news, 4 years as a working Musician and presenter and under your own initiative and hard work deserves praise . Dream big and stay free.

I've been subscribed for a while, and its been so great watching you and the channel grow. So proud to see you've made a passion into a profession; cheer's to the future!

Fun video, thanks! I hadn't known you were classically trained but had always assumed it, partly because your playing and singing are so beautifully polished, but also because your songs are so wonderfully structured and have wonderful arcs. Cheers!

The voice /accent is great!! These questions were thought up JUST to get YOU to answer!!

Despite your music and songwriting being the original reason I signed up through Patreon, these videos are in a class of their own and I love them. I can’t help loving those two dogs though, managing a cameo spot at the end …

So much love for you and the content you produce. Wonderful RU-vidr and musician.

I think your videos and content are a real change from the high speed and dramas of life we all have to deal with. I think your a lovely person with great views and morals which is a nice reflection of who you are, keep em coming👍

❤❤❤❤❤ Love the way she is , as a Musician , as a Human being , as a RU-vidr. Thanks Mary for upload these videos 🎸 god bless you

it's not just us giving you time it's your being worth our time, and you are definitely that, which takes more work than I think most folks realize so thanks🙌

I really like your honesty! Your humor and most of all your fantastic musicianship.

I just love how kind and creative she is.Such humility and so easygoing. Watching her videos is like relaxing on a comfy couch in front of a fire and just being cozy.....

This woman is frustratingly perfect.

Cracking film Mary. The thing about your channel, you manage to mix the personal with the performative with ease. Oh, and you are so, so easy on those who make wild and provocative assumptions.

Im so happy that you have found your thing in life and that you are able to do what you love. It shows in your videos. Keep up the awsome work you do!

Good for you and your relationship. 😊

My ‘assumption’ - is that you are a genuine, ‘you get what you see’ sort of person. Love your work, thank you ❤

You're a very special and talented young lady Mary! Your music and your videos are amazing as is your personality. Looking forward to future videos! Be safe!

Thanks for sharing Mary. You are a pleasure and your channel is a wonderful channel.

I don't know if you're engaged or faking your accent, I only know that you're delightful to listen to and to watch.

The combination of a brain-meltingly gorgeous voice, physical and spiritual beauty, and total “what you see is what you get” honesty makes every one of your videos an absolute joy, whether you pick up a guitar or not. You could start another channel where you just read Shakespeare aloud and you’d get tons of subscribers.

I was signed to a major label in the golden days (pre Napster) and you have to do so much more to maintain your livelihood than I ever had to so you deserve all the love and appreciation. You have to give much more then we ever did when we had labels running the show. Keep it up and onward and upward.

Thank you for sharing. Loving your music and commentary.

I can’t be the only one who first fell for her music, and then for her. - another one of your admirers from across the globe!

Mary Spender, love your (natural, of course) accent, prefer no nose ring, and you are just naturally beautiful, incredibly talented and make RU-vid a great internet destination. Thank you for sharing your "career" with us and keep on keep cracking on!

Lovely response to all the questions. You make marvelous music!

Love the video's content, truly enjoy the channel, and you!

I really appreciate your honesty and kindness, as well as your confidence in yourself. The questions about relationships, lovers or engagements are tiring, they are only being asked to female musicians and youtubers. Why is nobody asking Adam Neely whether he's engaged or not?

My assumption…Regardless of how you answered any of those other assumptions, I’ll always come back for the next video. ❤

You seem such a genuine and kind person. I enjoy following your videos, from Australia. Wish you well.

Mary you are such a lovely person and your videos inspire all of us . Really enjoy you talking to camera you are so caring and sincere its a joy to watch . Oh and your guitar playing is amazing . Can't wait until your next video

Don’t go changing..rearranging..don’t change the color of your hair ..Through all the good time ..Through all the bad times ..I love you just the way you are 💕

Are those real questions coming from people watching your videos?!? It's really, really hard to believe it that these guys ever graduated from kindergarten! 😊 Oh, I just love how you make fun of them in such a nice, elegant, lady -like, subtle way! 😊

You rock! Cheers from a fellow guitarnerd in Sweden, keep up the good work!

Enjoyable video Mary.i cant believe your in your 30's You look so young.thanks 🇬🇧💙👍

I don't think people realize how much work goes into creating a successful RU-vid channel and actually earning a living from it. Good for you for making it this far! I hope to see you continue creating content and growing your audience.

Someone hoping u had a secret girlfriend is just wishfulness. You are an amazing songwriter, musician, producer, editor, performer. All different kinds of people get to be in the front row in this venue. Please keep doing what you do. Enjoy every minute possible. For me, you are an inspiration as well as a joy to hear. Keep being your brilliant self.

Looking forward to watching your career develop and expand in the coming years.

Follow your own path. Love your stuff. Keep smiling

Nice to know more about you now and not having to speculate anymore 😉. Your music is awesome and keep doing what you're doing 😘

Greetings from one "baby blonde turns into brunette" to another. I started out as a platinum blonde, turned into a brunette which began turning ever darker in my 20s. Then it started turning Grey and fell out. And I started playing guitar because I liked the way a wooden acoustic guitar smelled. Good luck!!! 😅

Amazing Artist. Truthful and Honest.

What a wonderfully authentic post x

Happy for you to have all you want, do what you want and for your dream of a music album to come true. You do good work and you earned it!!

4:21 You'd think people wouldn't assume this after 30+ years of the "sex, drugs, and rock and roll" era being dead and gone

You are a natural on screen, brilliant, sweet, hilarious, natural, and incredibly talented and very beautiful. Keep it up.

Love your personality, and playing guitar, thanks for all of your work!

People are silly 😂 Also, 1st!

No, don't do it! Don't go blonde. I guess I'm not a gentleman since I prefer brunettes. (I'm sure she's concerned about being attractive to me.). Thanks for the answers to these burning questions!

Mary Spender, you inspire me. Thank you for this. And also, you should be very proud of your RU-vid success.

Thanks for sharing a snippet of your life Mary. Wonderful you can make a living through your musical skills. I also enjoy when you partner with Rina singing together.

I have another assumption: Your voice is so soothing, you were recorded while reading a dictionary. This record is sold to people with sleeping issues.

Nose ring no thank you, much nicer without.........

This video encouraged me to subscribe. I've seen many of your videos but this one somehow got my attention.

I enjoy your content.. when I transitioned from a part-time journeyman bassist/guitarist/backing vocalist 25+ years ago to a hobbyist song writer/recorder...I slowly began to miss the regular interaction with other musicians? Now I participate vicariously through yourself, Rick, and several others.. Thank You ♥️ Didn't know how much I actually missed it, and you and the other creators help fill that spiritual void 👍😁👍... Again, TY.♥️🙏♥️

To me, nose rings distract from the face. Ear rings accent the face. Maybe I'm just too old! But Mary, you are beautiful inside and out.

I think you look better without the nose ring. Maybe I'm just too old to appreciate face jewelry.

You're so courageous! Thanks for your unassuming ways. Inspirational....

its really refreshing someone being open and honest about life, just like music when you play guitar or play any instrument the notes don't lie :) you play how you feel at the time.

Really appreciate your honesty, from the first time I found your channel. Serious fan of your music.

I love you as I'm sure so many do. Your as smooth and placid as a pond with no waves. Your music is really good.

Your a very talented lady your love and passion for music 🎶 🎸 is beautiful ! I truly love watching your videos 📹 keep them coming Mary ! ❤

You are so right about Lizzie McAlpine. I took my daughter and her closest friend to see Dodie last February and Lizzie McAlpine opened the show. A truly memorable concert and it was really cool that I may have been the oldest person in the audience that night.

I love your candor and honesty. I love your videos and appearances with Rick Beato. Keep on keeping on. Lol! Kudos! 👍