My Entitled In-Laws, Who Hate Me, Falsely Claim I Cheated on My Fiancé to Get Her With Her Ex, No... 

For anyone who is curious about the outcome of Story 1: They broke up.

My mother has always told me that “if/when you decide to get married make sure you get along with the in-laws first, because you aren’t just marrying the guy, you are marrying his family too.” (She says this as someone who got stuck with monster-in-laws)

Story 1: the only answer to an ultimatum with calling the wedding off as s threat is "okay, it's off." Trying to resolve arguments with coercion has to be countered with equal consequences.

ST1 We all know full well had they been allowed to live in the house, they’d change everything, slowly takeover, try to forge ownership of the house, one day op would go out to work, run errands etc and they’d change the locks.

I hate reddit and how they coddle someone's terrible actions just because they're "young". That daughter is awful and so are the people defending her.

I am so sick of reddit siding with teenagers. We were all teenagers. We all knew right from wrong. Im so sick of people acting like they're toddlers who just havent learned yet. 14 is old enoigh to know when youre being a rude pos

2nd: I don’t think the issue with the daughter was that she felt abandoned in her teenage years because OP had to take care of his disabled wife. It was mentioned towards the end. The daughter was literally ashamed of being around her mom because she was worried about appearances and what others would think of her having a disabled mom. IMO there’s no changing the daughter after learning all this information. She will always be concerned about other people’s opinion and appearances.

Story 2. It's unbelievable that people are on the daughter's side. I guess they are as studid as the daughter, even at bigger age. If my parents were ever at such state, I would do my best to help them, and try my best to only smile in front of them. I can't even imagine how sad the mother was feeling watching her only child having such a behavior towards her.. If I was the father, I would give two choices to her. Either behave the right way, and care for your mother, or get away from my house and don't ever come back.

Dump her. She does not care for you she allows her parents to treat you like crap. Tell her bye

2nd: I don’t how people can defend OP’s daughter most normal people have some thing called empathy.

Story #1: I remember this one. The fiance doesn't get to try and play big happy family when _her_ parents are the ones who have been giving OP attitude and disrespect from day one. Not to sound shallow, but I think she's clearly forgetting that he is the one coming into a life-changing amount of money and that in the long run, she's replaceable.

The fact Op's wife knew everything that happened, knew he made the efforts, still even suggested it is a major red flag. The fact she gave him an ultimatum means she has already made the choice for both of them. I personally could not trust her after this, and now would be worried that the money would be an issue down the line in some regard

Story one was posted on best of redditor updates. OP comments on it multiple times also confirming that they broke up: Update: We broke up Yeah, I made the post 20 days ago. But after a week of trying to come to some sort of middle ground, and having new different plans in life. Wasn't going to work out. It is what it is, but in the end there were new fundamental differences we couldn't get passed.

Story 1 I hope op cancels the wedding, she is clearly a gold digger. She is subtle one but she is one. Also not being liked by the in laws is really a recipe for disaster.

‘She refused to sign the prenup until I agreed to give her material items.” Next sentence… ‘She’s obviously not with me for money.’ Receiving literal money isn’t the only way to benefit from another’s (especially a spouse’s) wealth. Is he just so used to gold diggers that that’s how low his bar is?

I would not have gone to that college while the brat went

If you partner won't defend you against their parents then what's the point. They'll leave in sickness or first sign of trouble. Poor dude has been with his GF so long that he's gaslit himself into thinking it's acceptable as long as he ignores them. Nah bro, most people are fairly normal, not like that.

Story 1: Expecting OP to live under the same roof as people who treat him with contempt? A roof he provides BTW. Issuing ultimatums? OP's fiancee evidently has some dream of everybody joining hands and singing kumbaya. She sees the warmth on OP's side of the family and would like to see that from her side... but that simply won't happen. Too much sh*tty treatment for there ever to be anything more than cool civility. If OP's fiancee can accept the situation as it is and proceed from there then there could be a future for their relationship. If she continues to cling to a fantasy of all living happily ever after, forcing everybody into a straight jacket to conform to her vision, then that spells misery for everybody. Story 2: Selfish self absorbed teenage girl hurts everybody around her because she can't be the main character? Stop the presses! This has never happened before! /s

She is not the woman of your dreams if she is trying to force you to live with people you do not like.

ExFiance - "If you don't let my gold digging parents that hate you live with us and expunge off you, I'll call off the wedding." OP- "Bet." She must've thought she shat gold or had 🐱power, cuz he's listed bothing but reasons why he should've BEEN left her long before he inherited anything cuz of her parents alone. Now add her true colors and attitude since he (with right and reason) won't live with people who despise him and he doesn't like. She's a whole other level of Delulu for that argument. Story 2: The daughter is ableist and cares too much for the opinions of others, which will only spell Disaster for the future if she doesn't check that (and I doubt she will). No amount of guilt tripping by OP is going to change that even if he did deny her the extra curriculars since that thinking was in before that

OP is like "after 6 years, I think its worth it to see if we can make this work", I would agree if she hadn't literally just given hiim an ultimatum to make him live with people that hate him, or the weddings off. She doesn't think its worth working out from that choice alone. hope he gets rid and it really strains her relationship with her parents, so she can actually put distance and start new relationship without their toxicity influencing it

To Anyone Going Through A Similar Situation: NO!!!! YOU NEVER COMPROMISE WITH GREEDY PEOPLE WHO ONLY CARE ABOUT YOUR MONEY!

Just started, but first advice: *Dont ever 'not work again.'* It's a first class ticket to depression. Men need a load to pull or a struggle to overcome. Without that they have no purpose in life. Dostoyevski's Letters from the Underground is a perfect illustration of this. The advantage you have with all your money is you have more of an option to choose your struggle. But for your own sake make it a struggle. A life cannot be fulfilled with pleasure alone. It needs a purpose.

She doesn't want some titanic sized ring, just something a bit more noticeable? OP put a lot of time & effort into getting her a ring & now he inherited money she wants a "more noticeable one"? OP, she wants a status symbol of wealth. She wants you to fund her parents lives dispite how disgusting they were to you (did she defend you or believe them? or did nothing either way?) untill you got wealth. Adamantly refused a prenuptial unless you buy an extravagant rign & yearly expensive holiday. Giving ultimatums & Throwing tantrums. Don't fall for "sunken cost" thinking, look carefully at whole relationship, take note of her attitudes when her parents were doing all their crap, of how they instantly changed when OP got wealth, about how she changed when you got wealth. Has she started to subtly mention about how "she could so much for you if she wasn't working or working so much", wanting to goto high end places for food/clothing & accessories where as before she was happy to just go out with you. Look carefully at changes then compare from before you got wealth, yes everyone changes when you get wealth, its expected but is she slowly starting to treat your wealth as hers or just caught up in the moment? Does she expect you to forgive & forget all her parents did to you? Does she expect her parents to ACTUALLY truely apologise for their years of abuse, lies & manipulations? Sorry OP, I think this relationship has run its course if she can't see or wont see that her parents are terrible & she enables them to continue like that. Good luck, your gonna need it.

People aren't in-laws until the marriage is consummated.

Story 1: OP needed to bail out on that relationship ASAP. Good god…

“Let them move in or we’ll break up 😡” “Let’s break up 🤷🏽‍♀️” Me *deez nutz meme guy* “HA!! GOTTEM!! HA!” 🤣🤣

First story is entirely unbelievable. He supposedly switched to working retail and that gave him _more_ time to visit his grandfather? I just don't see it. Long thankless hours on your feet and the stress of never having enough money isn't conducive to having more time & energy to visit grandpa.

This is one of those stories where it would nice to get her side of the story.

Op in story 1 was thinking about the sunk cost fallacy, and is still thinking like a poor man. They have been with each other their entire adult lives, so he needs to ditch her, which he thankfully did, get his financial act together and THEN start dating again. And for heaven's sake, start dating women with similar financial expertise with good incomes. So many of these stories are of couples with severe income disparities. He now has enough money to pay someone to bet the women he dates so he doesn't waste his time.

Long story short they move in they kick you out.

So... Derek's pressure lead Allison to go out of her way and label OP as a drama queen?

Story 1- your fiance and her family sound like a nightmare. You are creating a big storm in your life. Make sure her parents move in and she keeps her job because she'll be gone in 10 years once you're married 10years

Story 1: The fiance is not the next Jesus or miracle girl or whatever her parents claim her to be. She can never be, honestly there is no other person on earth that can never be compared to Jesus Christ. Jesus had God on his side and was willing to make sacrifices for us and when he died. Op's fiance didn't made any sacrifices for Op and just let him get belittled and put down by her parents, Op is way better of without her, Op is out of her league just how she is out of his league.

Story 2: Daughter is a fool

living together for four years is technically common law partner ship

if your fiance does not except knowing how her parents have been... i believe you need to not marry. this is too big a thing to bypass.

Story 1: OP needs to ask what his fiancee's parents are willing to do to build bridges? He will let them move into his property rent free, pay the majority of their bills and treat them with respect. What will they do?

Ungrateful daughter

Story 1: “She said she’d sign a prenup if she gets a large ring and vacations consistently.” “She’s definitely not with me for my money.”

The future in-laws in story 1 are desperately calling with fake apologies so their plans of being able to use OP's money doesn't go up in smoke.

Is this girl the soul mate or just the person you are comfortable with?

What the hell is the guy doing in the minecraft video?

Very minuscule part for me to be commenting on, but i get the ring thing. Im not big on jewelry. But if i were to get married, id at least want it to be SOMETHING i like if i were to be wearing it every day for the rest of my life. I fucking HATE diamonds. They are fucking ugly, and ill DIE on that hill. It would be an automatic NO if someone proposed to me with one, because why would you get me the ONE gem you know i absolutely despise? 🤨 Sapphire, emerald, Alexandrite(that one specifically) are the ones id want. I dont even care if its from amazon as long as its good quality and one of those three gems 😂

STORY #2: OP could have possibly saved his wife by googling "midlife crisis". It doesn't mean what he thinks it means.

What the hell is this dude building? He keeps accomplishing nothing.

S1 nta pls 🙏 walk away. Story 2 obviously communicate 🙄 but it might be time for walking away to keep your mental health

For Story 1, it really depends on how strong your marriage is. Obviously you proposed so there's something there, but from what he said, it doesn't really sound like his relationship is that great. If she was truly the love of MY life, I would spin the ultimatum back on her parents. I would meet with the 2 in-laws and be brutally honest with them. The conversation would go something like this: " I've been having a hard time with your daughter. We've been getting into arguments most of of them are about you. You guys clearly don't like me. You've said and done horrible things to me. Attempted to break us up. Framed me for cheating. Your daughter understandably wants us to work out our relationship since we're going to be married soon, but I don't. Because I don't like the 2 of you either. "I have recently inherited quite a bit of money and a large cabit to live in that could fit both of us as well as our 4 parents. I want my parents there, but I don't want you there. Obviously that upset my fiancee, but it's my house and I can have anyone I want there. Your daughter threatened to call of the wedding because of this. We love each other and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but my relationship with you 2 is tearing us apart and I don't want to do that. So unless you want to ruin your daughters marriage and destroy our relationship, you're going to start treating me with respect and work towards righting all the wrongs over the years." And then if they start treating you better and are truly showing remorse for the things they've done and it's genuine, I would forgive them for the sake of my soon wife.

In the first story, everything started when OP gained wealth and decided to provide for his parents. Everything after that comes from that poor decision.

S1: Dood needs to be careful. She's going to get pregnant.

S.1. Maybe this might help. You both write down pro's and con's of your relationship and what you both want in this relationship and marriage. Then, write down on a separate piece of paper what it is that you both want out of this marriage and why. Then, you exchange the for each other's answers, after going over the answers, you tell each other what you can and can't live with or without. And do you two really know each other who they really are, as for her parents no they shouldn't live with you two, nor yours. I think you both should be responsible for your own parents, money, hire help ECT. But, not living with you. As for her parents make it clear to them that in order for them to step foot into your home, they're to keep snide, and rude remarks to themselves and when they don't no longer welcome in your home. Say, my parents have manors and respect your daughter do they have manors. Then see where you two are after that.

Yo W

1. story. This is a real me, me, me story. After practically declaring himself as a saint, not once he thinks about what someone else wants or even thinks about asking them. He has decided that what he wants is what everyone wants, and people who question that are suddenly after his money. He says he's seeing red flags but doesn't realize he himself is the biggest red flag here. Prepper granddad probably left him the money because he has the same mentality, paranoia.

S1 so op was basically unemployed while other people had to work so grandpa had a fit

I feel like he goaded that argument in the last story. At no point did he try to understand his 14 Year old daughter cuz he was still trying to make up for hisown guilt. I get why she stopped talking to him in the end. She will prolly make up with the mom before him

The in-laws will not pay a thing.