Oh my goodness me too!!! Please! Ever since having a baby myself I notice things like that about other parents and I'm thinking in my head "oh my goodness please do this or dont do this you are making me SO nervous!!😅"
You were not prepared for a natural delivery or had any help in coping with the the level of pain or how to cope through the different stages as they come on top of each other. Better prepared no matter how fast as my first was 1 hour and last was 20 min.! Hope you plan better next time as you found out things can move very fast.
1. Omg!!!! 😱 NATE SUPPORT HIS HEAD/NECK!!! 2. Sutton you look stunning! 🙂 3. Nate your glowing lol 4. Nate need to learn how to hold babies, he’s on his 2nd one now 😔 5. I agree with Sutton, I like the 1st one with different shots of your life!!
Questions: @1:56 Would you choose one over the other? @4:10 What do you believe God revealed to you during the process of natural birth? @4:46 Will your next birthing experience be natural or an epidural? @5:32 How bad does the epidural hurt? @6:00 Compare the recovery? @7:18 Can you try to describe the pain you went through? @7:30 How has being a family of four effected your marriage and relationship with Nate? @8:20 Did you tear the first and second time, and did you feel it? @8:40 Do you feel empowered by your body, or traumatized by the pain? Or somewhere in between? @9:02 Which one seemed more emotional when it comes to the memory of those moments? @9:50 What was the reason the nurses and doctors gave for not enabling an epidural? @11:11 I was wondering why is the belly still big even after birth? @11:45 How did you feel seeing Nathanial worry crying for you? @12:27 Did they numb you to sew you up? @13:28 Do you feel drugged with the epidural? @13:56 How do you feel about so many people seeing your lady bits? @14:14 Did you have a mid wife delivery or doctor? @14:17 Did you keep your placenta or take a photo? @15:08 Did you try any different positions or did they suggest anything?
I've had 4 natural births, 2 home water births and 2 hospital births. All 3 of my boys came FAST... I was in labor for 23.5 hrs with my daughter and it was N-O-T-H-I-N-G compared to my fast and furious births. They are, by far, MUCH worse. I was crying watching your video because I KNEW exactly what you were going through.
I cried during your labour video. It reminded me of how I felt giving birth to my two sons one with epidural and one without also.The one without epidural was crazy painful. I can relate to you in this in so many levels Sutton Great job. mama. Our bodies can do so much more than we can think of. Praise God your little one is here.
It's horrific pain especially when it goes faster. I had tears running down my face and my whole body shaking in tremors. Thank God it's one day of your life. When you're ready to push the baby out it's like you don't really care if it's a female or male doctor, let's just get it out!!
To whoever I’m speaking to...I was in the chains of lust, pornography, and masterbation and I confessed my sins to my pastor and just seeked help and God honored that. It’s been 3 months and 12 days which is the longest time I’ve been pure since I was introduced to it! Sin grows in the dark! Confess and repent! God bless you all and baby Halston❤️
Part of the reason the belly doesn’t go back is because the uterus is super swollen from the detachment of the placenta and also just shrinking back to normal size... so yes definitely give yourself time! A lot of people who haven’t had a baby don’t realize that happens! Totally normal!
I think it's important to say that a natural birth not by choice is very different to someone who has planned and prepped for a natural birth. You have a pool, you're calm and relaxed etc. because you know what's coming. The fact that it was different to what you were desiring and wanting would have increased anxiety and a number of stress hormones etc etc etc. Not invalidating your experience but just want to point that out!
I understand your pain. My second child was extremely fast and I ended up giving birth standing up with just my husband behind me. That fast birth was extremely painful. I suffered. And it seemed like no one really understood what I went through, they just seemed jealous that it was fast. However, with time I began to think of that birth differently. The truth is, my baby was extremely healthy and so was I. In the end, it was only pain. My third birth was not nearly so intense. It lasted 7 hours and was by and large enjoyable. The intense pain was short lived. Anyways, you never know what your next birth may be like.
My daughter is 6 months and I remember yelling “I can’t do this!!!” during labor. Then I had the thought “There’s no one else who can do this for me. I HAVE to do this.” Very empowering and I definitely teared up listening to your birth video. Labor is still very fresh even 6 months later😂
The pain is insane. The ring of fire exists. Its real! Lol my first two were with an epidural. My 3rd was born in triage in an hour. I was not prepared. My husband was not prepared. But God showed me I could do it, too.
I had my first son all natural and my second with epidural so I know both ways as well! And I am actually glad I got to experience both ways. But I agree you can enjoy it much more when you aren’t in terrible pain. He is amazing, fresh out of heaven! Congrats guys!
Aww I love how Nate just honors you as his wife! He lifts you up and encourages you. It’s so sweet to see him step into the Godliness God has set for Him as a dad and a husband!
Y’all are my new favorite RU-vidrs! I had my second babe end of April and my oldest is 2.5 so I’ve been binging your videos while we hang out and recover ☺️ It’s so true how different the pain is when labor is quicker! We had two unmedicated home births, the first 15 hours and the pain was much better than the second which was 5 hours! Birth is amazing regardless of how it happens ☺️ Congratulations!!
Thank you for this Q&A Nate and Sutton! I'm so proud of you that you did it, Sutton! I would encourage you, as a mom who has had three natural births, that if you want to have a third child I bet you can do a natural birth again. You can ask your doctor but if this labor went so quickly your next baby will probably come even more quickly. My first birth was a lot like this last one. I had to be induced with a pitocin drip and by the time I wanted an epidural it was just too late. I recommend that you take lots of natural birthing classes or read books but basically just prepare your mind and your emotions for coping with pain. When you go into labor knowing that you're going to be in pain and having a plan of how to cope with it, that helps your body as well as your mind. Being mentally prepared really helps to get through Labor. It may have been so hard for you because you dilated so fast and you had not felt that level of pain before, and it surprised you. It's never fun to be in pain, but it is so rewarding to know that God made your body to do this and you can do it!
Labor really helps you face your fears.my first I was afraid of a long labor, and had one. My second I was afraid of a fast labor, and had one. My third was much calmer, although it was fast, we made it to the birth center with more than 2 minutes before baby was born. Well done warrior momma, fast labors are a wild ride, you just gotta hang on!
"I m camping on the hospital parking lot to be there o time" good one. I m glad you made it. So happy to see you smile after seeing the video of your birth. Was crying with you guys.
This is the first easy to listen to couple talking about natural and with an epidural, I recommend it. NIce couple. I noticed before the epidural, I could barely function to see, so I thought to myself, "he is a god" when that doctor gave that to me in my spine.
I had 2 births with an epidural And one without and I FEEL YOU GIRL. Omg. Epidural all the way. I couldn’t enjoy it either. And even afterwards, all the hormones in the world don’t numb the pain!
I love the different fun clips in your intro!! Thanks for being so open about your experience too, Sutton. I've always been terrified of the thought of giving birth, but hearing about your different experiences and how the two of you work through everything together makes me feel much better and worry less! Love you guys
I had two extremely difficult births, had a blood transfusion with my first, but with my last baby, had labor for two hours, I praised the Lord with each contraction, had her natural and no stitches! It was awesome! Nice way to end having children!
God bless you! I found your channel yesterday and it literally gives me hope for people who loves so much God! Thank you so much! (sorry for the faults, i'm french)
I had a very similar experience with our third. Your video took me back!! He was even born around the same time :). The recovery (after the fact) was so amazing compared to an epidural that when we got pregnant with our fourth I knew I wanted a natural birth. Ina May's guide to birth made it possible. I went from pain and panic to hardly a peep with all the tips and tricks in that book. Great job momma!
Hello Sutton! My heart broke for you watching your labor video, but I’m so happy you and baby are doing well. If or when you decide to have more children, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to take some classes on natural birth and hypnobirth. I think a lot of the trauma (or just the emotions that come from an unexpected birth outcome) that is caused by an unexpected natural delivery is due to most parents not being aware of how to cope with the pain and unaware of how to be supported during the natural laboring and delivering process. Hopefully you won’t have to actually utilize those techniques, but just in case your next delivery is similar to the one you just experienced, I think it would help to ease some of that fear and also help minimize the pain involved with natural birth, resulting in a much less traumatic experience; especially since labor and birth typically tend to follow the pattern of being faster with each subsequent pregnancy. Many women just plan on having an epidural and forgo preparing for a natural birth, and while in most cases getting an epidural and having it be an effective tool for pain management goes according to plan, unfortunately there are scenarios (as you experienced) where either there isn’t enough time to get one, or you are able to get one only for the epidural to fail and be ineffective. These situations are where I have most commonly seen birth trauma taking place, for both mom and dad. In my opinion, preparing for a natural birth vs preparing for an epidural assisted birth are two very different things, leaving many women unexpectedly unprepared, thinking that the only classes or education needed were ones that primarily prepared women for the epidural rather than a class SOLELY focusing on and dedicated towards learning the ins and outs of natural birth. I believe that all women should have the birth they desire, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with mamas desiring an epidural, but I think it’s important to prepare for all possible outcomes just in case, as nobody can predict how labor and birth will happen and what will take place. Being prepared isn’t 100% a guarantee either, but I do think it helps, and I’m sure that when you were giving birth two weeks ago, any amount of relief or minimized fear would have been helpful. I pray that your next birth is much easier on you and that you are able to get an epidural. When the time comes, it might also be worth discussing an induction with your OB, given how fast things happened this time and how you barely made it to the hospital in time. I’m just so happy for your family and your new sweet little edition. Prayers that your recovery continues to go smoothly and that you all stay safe and healthy during this current time. God bless! 🙏🏻💕
I agree with all this! My births are too fast for epidurals, but I always planned on natural birth. If you at least plan and prepare for the possibility of not getting an epidural, it won’t be nearly so traumatic! My 3rd child came so fast I had her unassisted at home.
Amen! Sutton is a real life Wonder Woman for giving birth naturally and Nate is a soldier for staying by Sutton's side through it!❤❤❤ Love you guys!😁😁😁
I don’t know if Nate put the camera/phone in his pocket but I’m glad he did. It was amazing to hear all of the excitement. I felt so bad for Nate when they told him that it was too late for the epidural...it was like he wanted to argue and fight for Sutton. You just might have to camp in the parking lot next time...the next baby may be just as fast as Halston.
Girllll! I had 1natural and 1epidural too and was shocked about the "no relief" after baby was put on my chest! Nope, birth that placenta and stitch me back up pain! 🤣 But you do feel more like a super hero after a natural birth lol! Congrats on baby boy, he'll keep you on your toes growing up 🥰😁
I had the same experience, 1st child epidural 2nd natural. She describes it perfectly, with the epidural we could be present & aware to experience everything. Without the epidural the only thing that you can think of is need relief. Delivering your child is a beautiful miracle. No matter what it is painful but the epidural let's you enjoy the special details.
And Nate, just like so many other people, I say: please support the baby's head! When Sutton respectfully asks you to do something like that please listen to her because she has the best interest of your baby at heart. She's not trying to be disrespectful.
I love the style of the intro now with multiple clips of life! Can't wait to see the new intro with the whole fam. Nate, we would have loved to hear more of your experience of being there and what was going through your mind during the birth. It seemed to be a very emotional experience for you. Sutton, you looked beautiful btw.
My mom lied to me (she had 3 natural births, cause being a doctor -.me too.- she knew that for the sake of the baby and the birth its self it is better to do it without epidural, sacrificing herself in the process because of the pain) she was like: "it hurts but it past away the moment I saw you, all the pain just go away" now here I am, just saw your video giving birth and it sounds really painful 😣 ... after all she said: "well , it really hurt "... she's really brave, I love her and appreciate her even more
Lol, sutton was making me laugh in this video. It didnt seem like she was sugar coating anything. I dont think I've ever seen her quite like this haha. Understandable after the experience she had though. Wishing you guys the best! Cute baby!!
Sweet people, when you see someone making a parenting mistake, please check the comments first if your advice is already on there. No need to repeat it 50 times, we are all doing our best 💕
OMG Sutton looks incredibly pretty! She has THAT glow and is just beautiful! Sutton, you did a great job! Your kids look amazing and so does Nate ;) Greetings from Germany! 🇩🇪
Go Sutton. Love the disclaimer .... AND for the new intro: I think I like the current format. Random shots of your life! Love to you guys... I am studying midwifery. Totally engrossed.
Please make the intro similar to the one you have now! I love seeing the beautiful God-given nature and the amazing trips you've done! I can't wait to see how you incorporate Halston!
Having experienced both a medicated and an unmedicated birth I would have chosen an unmedicated birth. The recovery without medication was SO MUCH better. I was also much more alert , as was the baby. I’m sure everyone is different but I’m team no meds -having done both!
I love how you clarify that everybody’s birth experience is different. I will say I have 3 weeks until I am due and watching your birth vlog terrified me. I’m planning to go in having a naturally l&d. I kinda panicked after hearing and seeing your experience. I’m also a FTM. But! I’m very thankful you said everybody’s experience and pain levels are different. Because as a ftm, it horrified me lol I loved you shared it but it definitely scared me!
Hi, after reading your comment I just wanted to give you a little encouragement! Yes, everyone has a different way of experiencing the pain and also different pain tolerance, no question about it! I had my first a little over a year ago completely unmedicated and I would do it again. Yes, it hurt a LOT but I was able to stay calm and managed to get through the pain. Definitely look into breathing techniques if you haven't already. Deep and controlled breathing helps a lot..just try to make it through the contractions, one at a time:) I definitely don't judge anyone who gets an epidural, but I will say it feels like a great accomplishment to do it all naturally. I will pray for you!
Congrats again! As a Natural Childbirth Educator and homebirth mom of 6, you have to PREPARE for the pain of labor. No one would run a marathon without training. No one should EVER give birth naturally without learning about the natural process of labor and birth. There are SO many comfort measures mom and dad (coach) can learn to make the discomfort so much more bearable. Natural birth is SO much safer for mom and baby. There are risks to having a medicated birth. Enjoy that sweet baby! ❤️
i will neverrr forget Nate's face in the birth vlog when the nurse said it would be too late for the epidural he was like "oh crap, Sutton is not gonna like this." Handled it like a champ, Sutton!
I vote different scenes just like you have now because its ADORABLE! Also, thank you for sharing life experience with everyone and talking through everything. Too often we think we are alone and we are not! God bless!
Congratulations to your family of four and all your family. What joy! As far as the intro, I vote for different clips & photos, but I'm sure whatever y'all create will be fun.
Natural labor is not at all scary or even painful if you prepare and practice relaxing and focus on positivity. God made our bodies so intricately and amazing! By trusting the process and our bodies during labor we are trusting God. I am not against epidurals but natural labor is not something that needs to be feared. It is empowering and incredible and well, natural. 😌 Congratulations to you both! We have two small boys as well. ☺️
Sutton, just discovered you guys and HAD to comment because I too had a precipitous labor with my second child. Our stories are exactly the same!! It was VERY traumatic because I was not prepared for a natural childbirth. Just wanted to say, my third delivery was healing in so many ways (and took 8 hours vs 30 mins 😂) so even though you don’t feel traumatized just wanted to let you know that your next delivery can be totally different and peaceful 😊
