Yesss girllll. Had to drop my best friend who was even my maid of honor in my wedding. She ended up basically choosing a new person in our friend group over me and stopped inviting me to hang with them then told me they weren’t doing it on purpose. Then admitted to me they were and talking about me behind my back. Dropping her sucked but now I’m so so much happier two years later.
As a Divorce Attorney, I can tell you that toxic relationships are the most difficult to find closure for. The toxic person never seems to "move on" so the wound continues to weep.
Honestly I lost a best friend recently ... it just sucks because I genuinely still love her and wish her the best because we fell off over a petty situation... and the fact that she allowed it end over that makes me sick 😩 over money that she owed me ... isn’t that sad
Been there, done that! I’m married now and have been living with my husband for 4+ years. I’m so glad to never live with friends again. It never works out in the end.
I've totally been that friend in the middle and it's so hard when your 2 bffs just hate each other and you cant hang out all together and it feels like you have to choose
Yep I’ve defo had this. The problem was we all worked together as well a few times and this girl wouldn’t even answer my questions like ‘how are you’... either she would look down and pretend she didn’t hear me or just be like ‘good.’ And end it at that. So awkward, I’m not even trying repeatedly anymore.
ugh yes!!! i feel like i am going crazy with this girl. she’s always jealous of me and whenever i have something good going for me, she goes “wow lucky u” or “that’s so unfair” or “i wish” and so i stopped telling her about my achievements in my life and eventually she just got worse and worse. when i hung out with her in person and i asked her about it she said she doesn’t even know what i mean and that she was probably just dealing with HER issues and seeing me happy makes her sad. i told her like if you ever need to vent, if there was any way i could help, i will be there for her. but eventually our lives were way different and we couldn’t relate as much anymore. she told me some really messed up drama with her and her new boyfriends and i told her that what she was doing isn’t a good idea and then she got mad at me and i said i am just trying to look out for you, some people just want things from you not YOU, and she took it way too hard or something and made herself the victim out of it. i silently ghosted her because i couldn’t handle it anymore. not when her daily life is stressful af for me, i wish her all the best because i’ve known her for more than 10+ years, but sometimes holding on to something is harder than letting go. thank u so much for posting this, i feel like i’m going crazy with corona and this stuff, it’s much harder to make friends now that the pandemic is here.
Is this a fake friend? lets call my "friend " Kayla " and my best friend " Caitlyn" - Never calls or texts you unless you text or call first -Tells Caitlyn that she's busy fishing with her dad but then Caitlyn lives in the neighborhood as Kayla's new friend and then when Caitlyn walks outside to go roller skating she sees Kayla playing and hanging out with her new friend when she said she was fishing with her dad :/ . But then Caitlyn walks up and says hi and Kayla doesn't even look at her or talk to her and tries to walk away.
i just unfollowed 3 of my “friends” who have been bullying me. the one that “apologised” gaslit me and basically admitted to me that she did the things she did for a reaction and because she thought it was funny. i am soooooo anxious to see them at school because school is tmr but i know that stopping communication with them is the first step to moving on. another thing like this happened in the past and i honestly should have not accepted their apologies and cut them off then because they just went back to their bully ways. i feel so hurt and betrayed but more anxious. but i know i have done the right thing to not react and i will continue that energy at school!!!
I migrated to europe years ago and found same country friends. I thought we need friends who can tell us tipps here and there. But every time i meet them, i felt energy sucked. They talked about each other. Sometimes A told me about B. Next B told me about C. Then C told me things about A, which made me schocked, cause adults would talk directly if they have problems. They wanted to know about my life in way that makes rivalry impression. They seemed not genuine and acting like holding grudges when they met me. So i stopped seeing them. I feel much happier and free from self checking all the time ( did i do wrong etc). In the end, i go for coffee from time to time with parents from my kids’s friends, when i have time ( since being mom and wife here i have to do all things independently). Sometimes we accept reality that not all people are good and could give positive vibes .
First video I saw of you in your feed. As a guy I love this and very informative. Good for you noticing this from the outside in before being truly invested in this person.
I had friend who’s was just like this, she would always put others people especially if they’re don’t like me .above me it’s was just the little things that’s would bother me , so I’ve decided to moved from that it’s been the best decisions I’ve had made .
This reminds of the time I had to deal with this toxic person. Backstory: I will call this person Tiffany. And I'll also call one of my buddies Zach. Not real names just so you know. Tiffany and Zach broke up because of something that happened. He started dating this new girl which I will call her Daisy. I was using messenger at the time this occured before the pandemic started. I get a text from Tiffany on messenger saying that Daisy wanted to fight her. That concerned me, so on a Friday during breakfast, I told Zach about my situation and Tiffany was sitting at a table a few feet away from us and she obviously heard everything we said. She even thought Zach and I were saying bad things about her. Um, no we were not. Why would she think that. And after that it was a never ending cycle of Tiffany asking me about Zach. And it finally got to the point where because my mom started noticing my situation, she decided I can't talk to her anymore. And I agreed because she was driving me up the walls. So everyone, learn this. If you are talking to your "friend" and they don't ask you how your day is but they ask you about your friend. If your talking to them and they want to Know if they are speaking negative stuff about them even though they didn't, just get away from that person. Because obviously they just want drama. That's it. This all happened at my high school but they had to close it down when the pandemic really started.
So ok here is my fake Freinds story: I was bullied from 2nd-5th grade. Even after that No one really liked me. In 5th grade, this girl moved into our class in about the middle of the year. And we became freinds almost immediately. And at first she was really nice and cool. But then she started to start rumors and drama between me and my freind group but no one wanted to admit that it was her . Even our 5th grade teacher knew what was going on and told us to stay away from her but we didn't listen Then 6th grade came, and my freind group had kind of split into 2 different groups over the summer and everyone was telling me different sides of what happened and I didn't know who to believe and they started getting mad at me for not choosing so I ended up choosing the new girl (even though by this point she wasn't new) and her bff , Alisa (who was also fake) and ended moving by Alisa. Then over Winter break, they came to my house to get me but didn't end up coming outside till 30 minutes later. When I finally came out they just flipped me off and told me to go away. Then we got back to school they started saying I had broke her Moms headlight. Which ofc I didn't. But even then, I still remained freinds with them. Skip to summer break, they had posted a video on the new girl's sister's channel where they started talking bout how my dad had raped me (which was a lie) and EVEN THEN I just pushed it off. Then about 4 months later, in 7th grade, my brother and I were outside and Alisa and this other guy started yelling my brother name . It was already dark outside at this time so I went with him, and they started trying to knock my brother's bike over and beat him up. And then the new girl and her started saying he tried to give Alisa a concussion. Even though, he never touched him. And then they started saying they wanted to fight me and blah blah. So that was the last straw. AND THAT ISN'T EVEN HALF THE DRAMA
Not as bad as yours by any means! But, my FF story is ..when I was in school, I became friends with the year's renown liar, I felt bad that everyone was calling her a liar and soon became on of her only friends and she would monopolise my attention; she didn't like to hang out with my group of friends and preferred it when it was just us so we could talk properly etc. Not sure how it escalated to her creating a fake fb account and catfishing me and one of my other friends who got involved with her, for months and even arranging meet-ups just for them to pull out at the last minute. She would lie about dating boys, especially if she knew I liked them. When we left school, I met up with her after college and she asked me to read a segment from this play that she'd written (which was based on our lives at school lol) and it was basically her character's monologue about how she was always thinner, prettier and smarter than I was and couldnt understand why boys liked me (boys didnt really even like me lol). After that I knew we were not and never were friends. The hilarious thing was I got drunk one night with a friend, told the catfishing story and felt petty so I put 'catfished by [friends name], 2009' in my bio. A week later she messaged me saying she saw it and wondered if she did catfish me and if so she is sorry and pls take it down.... which I took to mean she still can't take accountability for something terrible she did to her 'best friend' years later, and that she still is checking my profile 😂
I've been friends with my friend for 5 years now and we haven't had any problems at all we always spent time and socialised with other people aswell. But I started noticing as wel got older she grew more distant and cold. Im not really sure why. She was more interested hanging with her new friend rather than me. I still am in this situation right now I need someone to answer please. I've also noticed my friend has been ignoring my text messages alot and not answering my calls. She always says "im busy" or "maybe next time" im sick and tired of this. What should I do? I don't want to confront her. I don't think she will understand. I just can't take this anymore.
I hope my bbf wont do this (Btw my "second bff" was so toxic she skipped school when i am in the school and she stopped being friends with me and moved away from my city *we were neighbors* and she moved schools also :( )
Btw congrats on engagement love! Who tells someone to stop taking pics esp a girl? I could see a guy Bc they are not like into pics all the times. But wtf lol
I had a toxic bff she spreader rumors about me and called me names and she was just mean I wrote another comment about this on another video and I made it super long and my hands are now being lazy and worked out so I didn’t write the whole thing
You just reminded me of my past ,my husband is my best friend the only good thing that came out of it, i was alwayz lovely i didnt know why no one whents to be my friend .alwayz using me . That why i cut my past and moved to a new city now am happy
