I've never understood this logic. If the person tells you that they cut contact with someone/group because the harm they have caused.... respect they're boundaries. It's not that hard.
@@francinetitherington4060 Absolutely. What they did was illegal. Sue them, take their house and whatever other assets they may have. OP should have done that years ago.
In my experience, unless they're just incredibly naive, it's because they're uncomfortable knowing that if you're comfortable with being able to cut off relationships with family, you're not going to tolerate them pushing your boundaries either.
I got a lot of that growing up after I was homeless from 14-18. It only took until they met my mom before they would stop. I would always have to apologize before introducing ppl to her for the bs that I knew would come out of her mouth. They would inevitably at some point be standing there with their mouths open talking to her. My mom has NPD, Munchausen by proxy disorder and my current psychologist thinks she's borderline sociopathic. So does my friend who has met her who is also a licensed psychologist. I see her for no more than an hour a week.
fr. ev.er.y. sin.gle. one. manipulated and lied to him. and he is like *yeah it's all moms fault. you know my grandfather had a saying that fits. you can't smell the bullshit if you live in a barn. this dude lives in a barn and just married a barn. what a community of selfish folks and a dunce. gl op. hope we don't see ya back in reddit wondering why everybody takes advantage of you.
There’s a brief update on story one op ended up going nc with the sisters they set him up at a restaurant in order for their mom to talk to op so he walked out and banned them all of his wedding
@@jada2876It isn't, and the last post the OP made, three years ago was a promise for an update, which either never happened or got removed. That small update was probably fake
I would've never let that woman in my life after stealing my inheritance Story 2: i was raped myself and I have those feelings of feeling that person on me and everything. I want to hug OP.
WTF is going on in Story 1 he was already Betrayed by Family including Sisters and Except Father so he should be completely Non contact till they repay 100,000.
Story 3: Those "friends" are the absolute worst types of swinger/polygamous couples, the ones that DO NOT RESPECT BOUNDARIES. I've seen way too many of them, the ones who are poly because they are greedy, horny weirdos who want what they want when they want it. OP and his wife should cut them off entirely, but I'm glad his wife at least understands that they are too pushy, their friendship is weird and that they need to lower contact.
Sorry 1 why does this man didn't break up with his fiancee. She betrayed him and broke his trust. Also why reconnect with those toxic people he has as family. The problem is by not enforcing consequences on the fiancee she will do it again.
Still wondering why OP1 didn't sue for that money. And why he let them back in his life while none of them have even tried to save up the money to pay him back for whatever they said they used.
1st story he needs to call off the wedding and find someone who will have his back and why everyone blames his mom his father and sister was getting his money I would have disappeared without a trace
Ah the story of one of the most easily manipulated man in the planet. He knew they were trying to manipulate him and let them even though they ALL WERE RESPONSIBLE for what happened 😂😂😂
As soon as I heard the sisters trying to make him forgive the mither as soon as they were allowed in even a little bit I knew rhey had to go, hope he realizes it too
Story 2: Speaking as an actual autistic person, this is not the case where he didn't understand what he was doing. The guy understood, even then, how wrong it is, but because he'd been given a 'free cultural pass' because autism he felt he didn't have reign in some impulse he got. I don't know if you can forgive him, or if its even right to, but the guy would have been in as much control of his actions as anyone else. Take that into account.
They live a sheltered life where they’ve never seen other families being different from theirs. They assume everything can be solved with just an apology, like all sunshine and rainbows. And they don’t realize that their actions can hurt the person they are getting married to.
After my father had passed away when I was 19, my stepmother threw me out on the street, and kept everything. My father's attempted rewriting his will on his deathbed was met by his own mothers disbelief that he was dying, because of the lies my stepmother told. I have never spoken to any of these people ever again. I'm now 68. I have my daughter's I have my grandchildren I don't need any of this past in my life.
Great with story 2) why did she go back?! And also if she doesnt speak up shes letting him stay with kids in the house so thats new victims for him to traumatize like he did her
How many times do you need to tell someone no before they realize you mean no? Op and his wife have said no repeatedly and they still aren't accepting her refusal. They sound like predators.
the second story is so so so so morbid and while i was listening to it, it triggered someone close to me's own CPTSD IDC wgat anyone says, as an autistic person, it is NEVER okay to SA a CHILD and for it to be excused "because autism." awful. but I get it was mainly her moralizing what occured to her from a family member that she trusted.
story 1) One more chance as something has beneitted form this but only. more story 2) Tell you dad so that you have someone, and let your uncle die from his hands after his mother dies story 3) love her, you hit the jackpot, shes considerate, responsible and loyal, the best wife you can get, shes a KEEPER
Story 3 nta you're right in the way you feel. You've communicate with her the ball in her court 😮she should make the decision I hopefully it's the right thing by you. I 🙏
I don't remember how many times I've heard this but at least we finally found out where op gets his spine from Story 2: his autism isn't an excuse idc what anyone says
