That was awful advice Re: the friend who always cancels. Also nowhere in that question was there even the suggestion that friend who cancels has kids and clearly this is not a onetime canceler. We always find excuses for the canceler instead of validating the person who gets cancelled on. It is hurtful. Especially when that friend never suggest another time. I always say bring it up and let the friend know when he or she cancels it hurts your feelings as you enjoy their company and find it hurtful.
Honestly, I agree with your take on it. It’s habitual, and as such, has nothing to do with being overwhelmed. Hoda and Jenna say that often, I think to try not to hurt the writer’s feelings. It’s sad to say, but the canceller simply isn’t interested in hanging out, and is trying to give a not-so-subtle hint that is not being picked up on. She needs to stop trying to get together. She’s not interested, but doesn’t have the guts to come out and say it. If she wants to hang out at some point, she’ll let her know, but I wouldn’t hold my breath, and truthfully, she doesn’t sound like someone I’d care to be friends with anyway, so I wouldn’t waste any more time thinking about it. Trust me, the so-called friend isn’t losing any sleep over hurting her feelings.
