And seems to think that she's the answer to all of his problems. What happens when the pent-up anger comes back? When life inevitably happens and he realizes she's not "perfect". Scary to think about.
I had empathy for the incompetent husband until I heard what he said to his wife. Unforgivable! I have never had a relationship because I have chronic health issues for 25 years. I have struggled with feeling unlovable. Caregiving is hard, and I understand some struggle, but I would never trust him after a slip like that.
Brain tumors can significantly affect emotional regulation as well. It wouldn’t excuse it because at the end of the day, he needs to decide to get help, but this is way way more than weaponized incompetence
I think what he said was coming from a place. OP did mention that her medical issues were part of the reason he couldn't hold onto work. I get he was joking but those sorts of jokes are themselves seated in ill feelings like anger and resentment. His first thought was depression, which clues into where he's at emotionally and mentally. Most men would kill to have a working wife with a lucrative career pull them out of their own careers and throw an allowance and house keeper at them. But not this guy lol.
The way Riley was trying to find positives for the title of the first story and Sophia is just like *no*😂 I'm also curious if Riley would think it was just as sweet if roles were reversed? 😂
2nd story: I'm SO sure he's got a neurological thing going on. Probably not ADHD, most likely a tumor, aneurysm, or a degenerative disease. He need to get checked out soon before he also becomes disabled or worse.
I don't think it's dementia or a brain tumor or weaponized incompetence I think he's probably having a mental breakdown after the kids or having a psychotic break
The first guy is actually insane. If i found out my partner stalked me, I'd be gone so fast. He just talked about her body, not her is is just a predator.
2nd story - I think he is resenting his marriage and feeling adrift with no career path. He needs more to focus his energy on. The wife is taking away far too many responsibilities with daycare and house cleaning - what does he even DO all day? Sounds like drinking and fiddling with his "streaming career." He needs a major kick in the pants. He also needs to actually care for the home and the child, which he is currently not doing. Tons of people juggle all of that, plus a job. He can manage those things without a job. She is helping him way too much.
Red flags in story 2: He doesn't mess up his own stuff He's not apologetic or taking accountability about potentially risking his and his family's safety (he broke her car TWICE) He won't seek medical treatment He's drinking heavily He's prioritizing streaming to the detriment of the family He made OP feel like a burden and unloveable when she is not only both the bread winner and helps at home, she pays for a cleaner 5+ times a month, and has also been fixing his mistakes for 3 years I don't think if this was a mother that was putting her child at risk while having medical issues / a mental break that it would be similarly shrugged off as "at least she's trying to do nice things". Just because you think a guy is clueless does not mean he is not accountable for the damage he causes especially while putting in no effort to make it better
Second story if my partner called me medically fragile and not normal I'd leave. You don't say that to someone you love. This is weaponised incompetence he nearly burned the house down.
Sometimes like, promises of change come too late. Even if they're actually genuine and ARE really going to put in effort...sometimes it's just too late, you know? It's a lot of emotional pain and 3 years is a of of time for resentment to just become too much
The second story: the whole time they related the original post I was thinking it’s a drug/alcohol problem. Maybe medical problem, but if he can manage himself just fine doing things he loves, that’s less likely. I’m thinking he starts the substance use during or after his favorite activities, thus it affects only the tasks that happen later. After the update where he admitted using “too much alcohol” on one of his streams, the day he did the most damage, it seems pretty much conclusive. Get this man into AA and also therapy for his probable depression. Yes, life gets way more stressful with a child and there are numerous reasons why this would change how someone feels about their life, etc., but alcohol and avoidance only make things worse.
PS, the last comment he made about marrying someone with disabilities was despicable. I’m guessing he said it in revenge to hurt her as badly as she had hurt him with her liability comment. Possibly while under the influence, but either way they both need to learn to communicate without intending to hurt their loved one.
A few edits for the stalking story: EDIT: So, I read all of your comments. You are all right, I am sick, I am horrible, I'm a liar, and I'm a creep. I will get help, I promise you all. And I will confess, one day, no promises on that one. It's just that, I don't even know what the fuck is wrong with me. Looking back on it now, it is revolting. I'm just scared of losing everything. I've already caused enough disappointment, I'm not sure if I can handle her hating me. I've already ruined my relationship with my brother and sister, now I'm about to ruin this one because I couldn't just be honest. EDIT 2: Fine, I'll tell her. But not today, I need to build up the strength to do it. EDIT 3: Why the fuck am I getting upvoted??
I think it is normal for people to change. It is a matter of whether it was for good/bad. Especially when in a relationship with someone, love changes cause we age and develop certain habits. But it really does matter if you care how much it affects your partner
2nd story is not ADHD, not that whatsoever. Again, I really hate it when y'all put diagnosis in your videos. Putting a cup on a burner, or on her daughter's plate can literally start a fire. Especially since most plastic when burnt can release toxic and dangerous chemicals. Getting the wrong sized diapers repeatedly can lead to rashes. He is literally putting their lives at stake 24/7, including the babies. It doesn't matter if it is a disorder or not, he is putting people's lives at risk. A DEFENSELESS BABIES LIFE. We are talking about caring for a baby, so getting the right size of diapers and clothes is really needed to help them live. People with ADHD yes do have less lack of paying attention to detail, or impulses. But this doesn't mean that they are often not thinking about risking the safety of people who they are supposed to love. Can we stop blaming and trying to look at disorders in your videos? This has happened repeatedly where you all give misinformation, and just assume automatically it has to be a disorder. No, this guy just genuinely doesn't give a damn about two lives. It's starting to get disgusting with y'all, you guys aren't licensed psychologists. You have to look at it by, "why is this so impactful." And, not "oh what disorders could it maybe be" because you are NOT QUALIFIED TO DO SO. Like as I said before, YES she should break up because this is the most dangerous thing to be happening in a house, especially with a disabled person. You guys have responsibility with your channel, you seriously need to stop spreading misinformation. Even if it's a, "I think" statement.
I feel like story two is a mix of weaponized incompetence and drugs. Some of it sounds deliberate, some of it sounds totally crazy. Because everything changed when the baby showed up and if it were weaponized incompetence only i feel like he would have been equally useless before then. By the point here that OP finally breaks, i would be done. It's divorce. I would like to say i would give him one last chance but honestly, after that many wrong actions over such a length of time, I'd be done. I couldn't. Dealing with shit on my own would be easier than having to manage two toddlers in the house.
Okay wait, is that Carter on the thumbnail of a story about stalking a girlfriend?! 😅 Carter is gay so he won't be stalking any girlfriends. He might be silly enough to stalk his bestie Maddie tho.😅😂
You guys are so innocent. This is WEAPONSIZED INCOMPETENCE! It’s the literal definition of it! What is wrong with you 2?! You keep trying so hard to come up with excuses for him and I’m sorry but you can’t! This stuff started happening after the child was born. As for him being “tired”, from what?! He doesn’t do anything! Also, he doesn’t break and ruin anything of his yet he destroys everything of hers!
Love your show! But am sorry to hear no one on the team has a single romantic bone in their body. Both me male, and my wife female feel this way. Good Luck.
A brain thing you should get your hormones checked of course I have a brain tumor that messed mine up but the biggest thing I noticed going on TRT is mental clarity I didn't think I ever had an issue until I got it fixed and mental clarity biggest thing
I absolutely hate and think it’s extremely greedy that creators are now posting members only content, blocking us, the really long time OG followers from it. We have families and other priorities to pay for and can’t afford to pay for 10 different member subscriptions for our favorite creators on YT and TT. Also: Story 2 sounds like he could be using a substance or he’s extremely careless with his actions and decisions because he’s too distracted by gaming or his own 💩 to do everything else correctly.
Do you apply the same logic to your own work? If someone has "other priorities", do you work for free bringing your own tools and materials? They give out lots of free stuff to attract the crowd. But in the end this is their job and it needs to pay their bills. They aren't being greedy. They are trying to make this sustainable.
Chat be like oh she drowned her kids after giving birth it's not her fault it's probably postpartum depression oh he's taking care of the children and messing things up it's weaponized incompetence😂
I don’t understand why Her disabilities are any different than his. Hers are physical & his are mental. We tend to forget that there’s 3 sides to every story, his, hers & the truth. I’m sure she left out some of her undesirable actions. My point is, no one is perfect, we all make mistakes (many) we all say & do things that can be hurtful to the ones we love. I know if I were to write a Reddit I would definitely leave out the unappealing behaviors i exhibited especially to steer the comments to reflect what I want to hear & hopefully he will read & see that I’m right because everyone else on the outside looking in says I am. A relationship isn’t 50/50 it’s 100/100 both people need to give 100% have compassion,empathy & give people the time to change. She wanted out,maybe they both did.
