I'm a mum of a daughter in her twenties and I'd like to say how proud I am of you beautiful ladies and the work that you do in championing young people! Parents don't always see the gifts in their children! Love them anyway and continue to spread your wings and soar, you all are doing really great! 🫂
Never been supported by my mom in my major decisions whether it is personal or professional but I really thank God followed my heart and I 've acted according to my values ❤
This might just be my top 3 videos from our ladies…they were extremely vulnerable and raw…in a world where speaking about topics like family, tribe and religion is somewhat a little shunned upon…Prim and Fiona nailed this by each sharing their traumas and experiences in having a lack of support from family especially the parent figures..and this doesn’t mean they don’t love their parents..they absolutely do..but it’s in sharing these truths that some of us going through similar situations know that we’re not alone…that we can overcome these through therapy, reminding ourselves that our parents come from a different school of thought and also extending grace to them and giving ourselves a huge pay on the back for doing things a little different from the status quo but thriving!!!!!!!! Now that we know better in this generation , I believe it calls for us to be intentional parents, to take accountability for when we do go wrong and fix the generational bu traumas…. I equally like that Claire also represents the other side of the spectrum….fruits of intentional and supportive parenting👏🏿👏🏿… I truly loved this episode…very timely for me Well-done Claire, Prim and Fiona Keep sharing your nuggets, impacting lives and creating a community of confident, authentic, healed/healing women out here
Thank you girls for this episode, as a nurse i fehlt so emotional to know that their people like you that appreciate our job. I also have a good relationship with my mum and i just realized that i have been taking it for granted.
I felt it when Prim and Fiona said they were not supported by their parents, just cried with you guys. Because that has been me since I was a little. Where you really wanted to make them proud but all you got were criticism, but as I grew I realized if I can't believe in myself no one else will ever.
My Dad was upset that I didn’t do medicine . I did Public Health instead and it’s working well for me. He would mock my course because he didn’t understand what people in the public health field do. Later on he started reading about it and now he knows better. Our parents only respect Lawyers, Doctors and Engineers 😂
I’m watching this 8 months later,as I anticipate the new episode. Connected with this so much ❤️….I love the authenticity,Prim,Claire, Fiona I’m so proud of you all.
Thank you guys for being vulnerable. When y’all were talking about Clare’s mum being at the live show I felt it. I felt that way when my dad didn’t show up to my matches in high school because he thought I was only book smart and could not play sports because of my body I’m the fattie in the family. I went to represent my school at a National event only my mum showed up but hey guys we will be better parents
Phiona and prim, I just cried with you. It’s truly heartbreaking ❤️🩹. I totally understand your pain( coming from a very academic family myself)- I know how tough the African parent upbringing and expectations can be. Sending you love and hugs 🫂 ( and yes, you are doing amazing and living to your life’s full purpose).💖💖
These conversations remind me about the amount of power that a parent naturally has over their child. Every child seeks that parental validation in one way or another. As parents we need to recognise that and intentionally use our power to positively impact our children.
I so much relate with rejection from ur person's family. I have been there and its sad when that person doesn't protect you either,he also changes n starts showing it you. Thanks to healing and acceptance 😮
I have such great support from my family when it comes to my career that I don’t know what I would do without them. I’m happy for Claire that her family is on board and shows support for her projects, I pray that Fiona and Prim’s families also get to know how much you have positively impacted your community and get on board to respect and support you in this career path that you’ve taken.
Prim 😅 But sincerely right now am battling because I want to do community development bcz that's the career path that am excited about. I did IT and up to now i haven't fixed even a motherboard😂 but am determined am pursuing that since i can afford. But guys sometimes its hard when no one is supporting you. Koz they start telling you where you will work, and for them that's degreding
IT is really broad. Are you still interested in pursuing IT, then choose a niche. Like soft ware engineer, systems administrator. Soft ware developer, etc. I think community development is a good program. Just be sure to Google and read about the program and research about what you want to focus on. There are areas like project management within community development, you can also look at public health, etc. You will find a job. Don't allow people to put their fears on you. If you want to do something, go for it. You will succeed in Jesus' name.
What a deep conversation! Well done for commenting on segregation on the basis of religion, social status, class, race when it comes to family & friends supporting or accepting one’s marriage partner. It has happened to a family member of mine and her in-laws are such a problem to her because she is too educated! It’s a shame such still happens in this era!
Ladies these sisters to the father of your child approaching him and telling him that some of the kids you have are not his .. no proof , just making the child or children uncomfortable.. I mean we are all women it has happened to some of us , it could happen to anyone. How do you handle your children being around such relatives. And people who push their children to be around people who don’t like them because you want them to know their father’s family
Oohhh wooowww.... This was deep.... Surely we should try and be better parents.... Going extreme is not necessary ..... I for one I think I will never ever be on the same side with my mum coz I married someone of a different religion. It feels so sad but well, like you all side we have to choose our HARD and move with it. Thank u for this episode. Am certain it speaks to most of us in one way or the other. Bless you❤
one way to deal with rejection is extend grace to those human beings as this helps you cope. Understand where they come from (perspective ) and what shapes their school of thought.Acknowledge that it can be painful but hope that one day they'll come around.Making sure you don't give in to their pressure while you stay grounded is also one of those things that one should work on as well and at the end of it all if you're not hurting anyone ,you come first.Self love above all.
Thank you ladies for this episode! Parent's support for their children cannot be more emphasized! Let's go do better as the future parents. I almost let go of an amazing man, now my husband becoz of lack of support. I think I'm the worst bride that ever has been in my time because I missed me in wedding. I always feel like I should redo my party oba for that gratification. PS: I don't even have a pic of my own wedding thanks to the videography team😊
one other reason why people reject others is because time and time again, they're not investing time to do better or be better and also learn how to navigate relationships. Most people are not equipping themselves with the knowledge of how to be a better friend,brother or sister etc. and would rather stick to what they know or can do.Most people are not willing to invest in themselves and learn how to be better for their person. (all factors held constant )
Ohhhh my Prim if you talking about the Julie who was in Maryhill awuuuuuu that gal was such a lovely and lively person. May her soul rest in Peace 🙏🙏. Thanks so much ladies for sharing your insights always. Your always appreciated and loved ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏
Am back to school to do psychology and I told no one until I was enrolled and school fees paid and term 1 almost done.I am yet to tell anyone in my family. I am with you Claire am not giving them a chance to put me down.
Am so lucky that my dad has been very supportive of me since childhood of everything I do to the extent I want a kid like me to understand how my dad was able to have a child like me
Fiona en prim , how about you let your moms watch the last live show you had. I think they would be so proud of you. Flowers to your mom. I aspire to be like her surpport my boys all the way.
On behalf of banyankole and as a munyankole,my brother bought a woman that was rejected but continued and married her 4 years down the road they want to divorce they can't cos they were told not to marry each other
But don't you think the main reason is because they have let negativity pile in their minds? So whatever small issues happen they then think it's because of tribe? How can they divorce because they were told 'not to marry'. There should be more serious reasons
This What that woman kyabazinga has dated for 8years is going through bambi🤔 when someone chooses another over it makes you question your worth and everything
That one of rejection because of tribe is commonly in westerners. Banyankole ,bahima please lets do better tribalism is not good. I cant wait to make my family talk with my musoga husband atee ndabe amanyila
Prim and Fiona crying like me surely some parents can't support you and it's true they are scared of your life out there coz they have seen our they struggled to make u who u r today n don't want the many issues in the world to attack you so parents have reasons why they do so they want the best for u yet u too see yourself as wanting more
Fiona and Prim. Do you have siblings and causins or aunties who you can invite to these events. Maybe they might be able to get through to your parents about their own experinence of your show. In other news. I have a former workmate who turned into a friend. Her inlaws rejected her from the get go.Thankfully her husband got a job abroad so they left Kenya many years ago she did not have to deal with inlaws. She has 3 children. The first born is 35 years. Her father inlaw died without ever speaking to my friend. Her mother inlaw is still alive she has never spoken to my friend. Lol! She only speaks to my friends daughter who is the last born and is 27 years. My friends sons side with their mum, they also want nothing to do with their fathers side. It's very interesting because this mother inlaw aparently told the son (my friends husband) that she still has his traditional clothes incase he still wants to marry the right women.😂😂😂 my friend said at this point in her life even if he wants to go its ok because her children are now adults. It's just a messed up situation.
By the way the teachers in this world need medals on a daily; I once tried to teach a kid just colors, I gave up Do you guys have any prejudices, I feel like we all have some, maybe subconsciously, would you share
Clare over talks, she should give chance to others to equally express themselves. There times I will fast play to hear another person speak. Please Please work on it. This comes from a good place.
Sending Prim and Phiona hugs🫂🫂🫂, it is well. Hopefully one day, your parents come through for these shows. You all are big deal and making your impact in the media space.Keep up the good work!
This video is amazing. I even have an entire video about “why I never married my first love”. I knew there was no way my family was going to accept him( tribe, background, religion, status, etc). But, years later, I rebelled and have been living according to my terms since then. Like Prim & phiona said it’s not always easy, that’s unfortunately true. When I started my social empowerment journey on social media and my mum found out, I found my self having to remind her not to worry about things that are not in her hands anymore “ i am an adult, a mum and will live my life the way I please”🫣
