Hi! In this video I am showing you the process of getting my kitchen back to its baseline after starting my journey of healing my postpartum depression through self care. I am ever so grateful you're here!
I don’t know that I can speak for anyone else, but definitely for myself, I am very tired of polished and perfect videos. There’s been a lot of pressure for people to be professional and in reality we just want to connect with and relate to others and know that we are not alone. So there’s nothing wrong with striving for better but no need to feel like things have to be perfect because honestly, I enjoy it better more relaxed and realistic. ❤
I am 100% with you on that one! As a RU-vid consumer I’ve always felt like I gravitated towards people who I could relate to, that felt like my friends and family. Thank you for your comment! I’m on the right path! 💕😋
I came here to comment the same. I like to feel like I am not alone in my overwhelm. I'm sorry that you too feel it sometimes but it is the reality of life with spaces we can't always control and young kids or other factors that require attention. It is so clear how much you love your little one and all you can do reg. cleaning is one step at a time. Keep it up!
I also have anxiety and depression and suffered from postpartum depression with all three of my kids, your video is fine, people like to watch relatable content, it’s real life, and more satisfying to watch the process and progress…i subscribed because i like watching real life videos not fake cleaning videos
I feel the same way! I felt like everyone I was watching already had a clean house that they were just cleaning more. I couldn’t find very many people online that show what it looks like every day when their house gets a little too far gone.
@@amandasnailtasticnails9657 that’s amazing! My channel has been going crazyyyy today it so fun! Sometime I second guess if I should share my struggles but then I get over it lol 😝 thank you for watching my video and commenting!!
You’re doing great! You’ve already done the first step, you started the process. Your son is absolutely adorable!!! You are definitely not alone in this.
I apricate you finally a real mum real life I watched this and then paused finally hung out my washing did my dishes swept the floor and pressed play to watch the rest you motivate inspire people thank you watching from New Zealand
Subscriber #152 here! I just want you to know I’m proud of you! It’s not easy getting up to tackle your home when it gets like this. I know this all too well. There have been times I was embarrassed to post a video but you know what it’s real life! And we are not the only ones going through it. Your videos will help someone out there. You have a whole new community here on RU-vid that’s gonna support you. Me being one of them! Keep up the good work momma! I’m rooting for you! ❤ You are motivating more than you know babe!
I’m so glad you’re here! Thank you so much for you comment. My heart is so full with all the love and support I’ve been shown on these videos. My little corner of the internet is turning out to be such an awesome place. ❤️ I just kept telling myself if I just help one other person it’ll be worth it. It is embarrassing but it is also very normal. I definitely am trying to improve slowly every day but I’m also learning to accept and love where I am now. 🥹
I’m trying to not get discouraged, but honestly I still have my moments and I’m hoping it’ll get easier as I get more comfortable on RU-vid. Thank you so much for having my back and leaving me a comment. ❤️😌
You are doing great momma!! Isn’t it the best feeling when everything’s picked up!? I totally know the overwhelming feeling of not being able to do much. You are needed on this earth and are here for a reason! I hope you continue to find peace in the little things. I know it can be tough God bless and protect you and yours!!🤍🤍
Thank you so much! I have gotten so many loving and encouraging comments, my year is made. It really does feel good when everything is put back together!! I know God put the courage in my heart to post these videos. Thank you for the support!! 💕💕
I know you don’t want me to judge you, the truth is we all judge each other. My judgement is that your authenticity is helpful and refreshing… I enjoy your realness and self awareness, it’s inspiring ❤
I think you have such a soothing and sweet voice. Parenting, being postpartum and trying to have a schedule and life is hard. You are brave to film and share your struggles and accomplishments. I’m excited to continue to watch you and your kids grow. Much ❤️ love
I appreciate that! For a long time I thought my voice was harsh but I’m always with myself lol Life is hard especially being postpartum but I hope my struggles can help someone somewhere. 💕 thank you for being here.
I don't think your video's are terrible at all they to me show what most mom's lives are really like I know mine is like this and I also suffer from depression, anxiety, and OCD you have definitely motivated me so Thank you so much and you are doing amazing girl💯🩷
Thank you so much! I don’t see a lot of people on RU-vid that struggle as a parent while also struggling with mental illness. I’m sure they’re out there they just don’t share it. But as long as we keep trying, that’s all that matters. Thank you for being here. 🫶🏼💕
Thank you ☺️ I appreciate it! He’s just now getting to the stage where he’s being silly and understanding how to play. It’s the best age because they start to turn into little people. 💕
I know it's hard to show your messes to people, feeling vulnerable in front of the camera, talking about mental illnesses and all you've been through and having two babies on top of that ... You're absolutely AMAZING for doing it ! Don't be hard on yourself because you're smart enough to see what is not working in your life and you work on it despite all the things you have to do on the side, most of people just hide from their problems Don't care about negative people who will comment or where you belong on youtube, just do you, you're your own person, you're the only capable of doing YOU, that's your super power A sentence changed my way of thinking but I don't know exactly the words in english, it's like "the fall is not the problem, it's staying down which is" First video for me, I subscribe right away because you're SO motivating for me, I struggle too with mental illnesses, I need people like you, I feel so alone sometimes and misunderstood WE GOT THIS ! And you're a cutie btw
You’re absolutely not alone! My comment section has been filled with people just like us and it’s amazing to see. Thank you so much for your comment. I appreciate you and your time. I’ve got a lot on my plate and sometimes I don’t get it all done and sometimes I fail, but I keep trying. I’m trying to keep the mindset that I need to do what feels right for me and if people enjoy me then they’ll watch my videos. Thank you for validating that thought for me. I’m so happy you subscribed and we get to have this little community together. 💕
Here to cheer for you lovely one 🎉 Just look at how happy and healthy your little ones are - that is the most important of all jobs. You are doing fantastic!! My best encouragement to you is to keep declutering as much as you can - be ruthless in that as your energy permits. I promise it will make a huge difference. Remember, you can't clean clutter.
As a person with dysthymia (now called PDD), fatigue, and a perfectionist personality, if I couldn't get the whole house done in one day, perfectly, I would become so overwhelmed that I wouldn't even start. It didn't help that I would choose the weekend to tackle the whole house as I worked full-time mid-week. Most times, I was sooo exhausted, too, so the thought of what was before me wore me down more. Now, I'll vacuum once a week because we have pets but not the whole house. One day, I'll do a deep vacuum of the main bedroom and another day the rest of the house (mainly for the benefit of one of our ferals that really stresses over the vacuum). But I won't dust. Another day, I may dust one room because I notice it's dusty, and I am there, and I have a few minutes, but I won't dust / wipe down other areas. Another day, I may tackle another area, but maybe not the whole room if there is a lot of surface area. I do run my dishwasher regularly. For sure, I wipe my kitchen counters every night, even if I have too few dishes to run the dishwasher. But I may not sweep or mop until next day (so long as no spills or food on floor, of course). It's cumulative. And before you know it, you may find most areas are tidy. And if not, then it is easier to tidy up if messy. Then that spills over to more time and energy available to deep clean certain areas as you are able. The best thing that helped me: declutter, declutter, declutter! Toss unused clothes, food containers, spare lids, expired food / medicine, etc. The less inventory one has to manage, the less bandwidth it takes to manage it. Good job! You got this! Find the routine that works best for you! I love your honesty. Many of us have been there. Finally, one of the simplest things that helped me stay motivated, if you can believe it, was to keep a small towel in each bathroom. After washing hands, brushing teeth, etc., there is always water splashed around sink, or sometimes I get some splashes on mirror (who knows how lol), so I take towel, do a quick wipe / dry down of area, faucet, mirror, if needed, and it stays clean. Makes me fool good, and that then spills into other areas.
Wow, thank you for taking the time to write me such a heartfelt and thoughtful comment. I will definitely try to implement keeping a towel im our common rooms. :) I relate to you so much with the perfectionist problems. I too often won’t start because the thought of it is still overwhelming and if I don’t have the right amount of time to finish it then my work feels all for not. I’ll try to remember that everything is going to compound and make for a cleaner house overall, and a cleaner mind. I’m going to start decluttering very soon. I have been slowly but it’s taking longer than I was expecting so many interruptions with little babies, but it will get done. 😋
As a mother of young adult children now, I want to say to all mothers with young kids, please, please, give yourselves grace. Let go of the high expectations. Do the best you can and accept that it won't be perfect and that is absolutely more than enough. One of my children struggles with mental health and I think the way you speak about this will be helpful for so many. You are doing an amazing job- look at that happy, healthy, engaged baby! Love seeing your family helping. I really struggled with consistency and maintaining routines. I was late diagnosed ADHD at 57. Looking back, it explains a lot. I wish you the best of luck with your channel and was an immediate follow :)
i understand what you’re going through and how you are feeling. it takes a lot for me to get started and cleaning. i have clinical depression, anxiety , panic attacks, and A.D.D. I watch these videos to get motivated. My kids are grown, but when my house is messy or cluttered, then so is my mind.
I agree with you so much! Just getting going is half of the battle. The clutter and the mess really makes it hard to think but it’s so hard to get started that I just get so irritable when I do start and then I get interrupted. It’s a nonstop battle, especially with all of the mental health problems I have so I totally understand your struggle. We just have to keep trying! 💕
Dear Rosie you are doing a great job!! I believe in what you are doing and thankyou for being so real. Keep up the good work. I am watching your videos because you are a great inspiration. I am helping a friend of mine who is also struggling. God bless you. Monica from East Gippsland Australia
Great job. Laundry never ends! Allow your husband and mother to help, especially when you start school. Good luck with your classes. Take care, Linda 🦋
It really is an endless pile lol I have been slowly decluttering the clothes so I have less of it to do :) it’s the second day of my term and so far so good!
I have been trying to tell myself not to say "I need to get the laundry done" because that is not possible. I rephrase it as " I am going to do SOME laundry"
Everyone starts somewhere with RU-vid and I think you’re doing great! I suffer with severe depression - thank you for sharing so openly. Your son is adorable! Good luck at college ☺️
I try to be kind to myself especially since I have zero video experience lol so it’s gonna be rough for a little bit 😝 thank you so much for being here 💕🫶🏼
Hey. Just came across your video. Thanks for being so honest and real. I also have depression and anxiety- single mom of 4. You’re doing a good job girl, and dealing with postpartum 😢 I’m so sorry.
I didn’t have it with my daughter so when I had my son I thought I would be fine. I was not fine ☹️ that was a few months ago now and I’m so grateful I made it through because there were days I didn’t think I would. So when I look at it now I am doing so much better than I was, I can finally talk about it openly! We can do it, our babies deserve and love us. We’re their world and even when it’s hard they keep me going. ❤️
@@RosieFlaten I can’t imagine. I’ve never had it myself. But I’ve heard some really bad stories. Terrible what mothers have to endure. I’m so happy that you are feeling much better! ☺️☺️♥️♥️
beautiful video!! I come from a community that understands and has experienced mental health very deeply. I just have to say that I am so proud of you. This is really hard work and not to mention you're a mom too!! like you are amazing, doing all the things and implementing new routines for your goals! you inspire us all.
Sometimes it feels like I’m doing too much lol but thank you! Thank you so much for your comment. Everyone commenting has basically made my whole year! 🥰
You are doing fantastic sweetheart! You are such a sweet wonderful momma. I lost my husband last October and I am decluttering my house and trying to keep it clean. I think your videos are showing real life and not showing how things have to be perfect . I’m so proud of you. You are going back to college and planning for a beautiful future for your family. God bless you and your family. 🩷🙏
Alice I am so sorry to hear about your husband, I can't imagine the grief you're going through. I am proud of you for doing your best to maintain the little things in life and I am sending hugs! Thank you for being here. 🩷🥰
Your video randomly popped up on my timeline & I’m so glad it did. Thank you for being transparent & having the courage to post. I’m a single mom of 1 💙. I love family videos. Your voice is so soothing. I’m going to catch up on the other videos. You’re doing a great job 💜💜
I just came across your video. Don’t be so hard on yourself!!! You just started your channel & you have a lot to offer!!! Keep going forward & don’t look back!!!
You're right! I always thought people expected the modern perfection that most creators have these days. I was surprised to find out they enjoyed my real life. 🥹
No judgment here at all! Many years ago I went back to school with a 3 month old, 2 year old and 5 year old and it was very difficult! Blessings from Texas
As you keep learning, one option you can do is to try to add music when you are not speaking so the audience isn't sitting in silence. And Bless you for having the courage to video tape the mess. You are true and not like the others on here who clean their already clean home. Most of us have clutter just like you. It's nice to see we are not alone.
I am a new subscriber and I have been enjoying your channel. I love these types of cleaning videos because it's so satisfying to see the difference and it gives me motivation. Thank you for sharing.
Just came across this video and subscribed. My daughter suffers from different health issues so understand your problems. Please don’t give up, keep going with the videos. ❤
This is my first video of yours. I too suffer from anxiety, depression, ptsd, ocd. It’s hard I know all too well. You will get through this!! You are doing great!!! Give yourself some grace. It’s so exciting you are going to college! I love that you guys have such strong goals. Accept help, especially when you start school! It’s ok!! I can’t wait to see your video on sourdough! I really want to try to make a start. I tried once and I failed. I want to try again! Your kitchen looks great! Your son is too cute!! Have a great week❤
First, thank you so much for watching my video! It’s comforting to know people with similar struggles to mine are watching my videos. Mental illness is a beast like no other and I fight everyday but I know we will get through. ❤️ I just recently got into sourdough making, it took about a month for my starter to become fully active and mature but it’s thriving now. I’ve only made 2 loaves so far and not the artisan loaves but sandwich style since we eat more of that lol. I filmed the process of me making my second loaf today and it turned out so yummy and much better than my first one. 😋
Yes it definitely is a beast! You are so welcome ! I’m so glad I found your channel! It’s encouraging to know that it took a month for your starter to grow. I guess I didn’t give mine much time. lol. I’m glad your newest loaf was great! That gives me hope! I’ll try again! 😊
@@danazzimmerman5534 yes! Absolutely try again. :) I’m going to keep trying. There’s something about eating fresh baked homemade bread that just makes me so happy. Plus it’s easier to digest im pretty sure ☺️ I watched a RU-vid channel called hopewell heights for advice on starting my starter. She has a lot of really easy to watch and follow videos on sourdough.
Subscriber 628 here from essex in the UK! I love the realness here my lovely! Great video keep going you are a great mum and you are doing fab!! Much love ❤
Hi, I’ve just came across your video and I love it! I don’t watch the perfect houses and the ‘perfect’ people. I want real! I have mental health issues too and find tidying so overwhelming. No matter what video you done, how your house looks, how you look ect- people WILL still judge you because that’s the world of social media. You get a lot of horrible people. Ignore them and do you. Love from the UK 🩷
Just continue your vlog , i love watching messy houses that are clean in the end dont be too harsh on yourself just do small step and if your tired just take a rest to clear your mind its okay not to be okay .❤
I don’t know you but I’m proud of you. The fact you e pushed yourself to even film while cleaning? That’s incredible. Ps. My entire house is like this so no judging from me. 💕
Declutter one room at a time be ruthless !! Why clean and move around things you don't need not want ? Also your cleaning cart is not needed just put it all in a box on your metal shelving in the kitchen, the cart is taking up floor space, ask family and friends to do laundry for you to get it down to zero 😁 for when you are back to college, I have a saying " if you don't ask you don't get" I have subscribed.. 64 from Manchester England 💐 once you have decluttered then organise within an inch of your life 😵 keep all flat surfaces as clear as possible, don't be a flat surface filler 😐 I look forward to following you 😁
Thank for your advice :) I will do my best to remember when I’m going through things. My issue is having the mindset of either “I paid for this” or “I might need this later” but I’m getting so much better.
I think everyone has been through that stage 😁 but just think.if the clear clean space rather than something you may never use or want and if you do I get it will cost not much too replace it, clear floors and surfaces will give you better feelings than a glass vase or a book you have already read, you are in desperate need of space in your home and mind and you will get that from decluttering. 💐
I would love to learn how to do sour dough! I will definitely be following. I went back to college when my kids were little but had to stop due to health issues. I plan on going back this September. Thanks for your transparency! I will be subscribing! ❤❤
Thank you! I really appreciate it. It’s never too late to get your degree. I’ve been taking classes often on since I graduated high school and I’ve never had any direction until recently. We can do this! 💕😊
Yes, he absolutely does! He just doesn’t like being filmed and is at work for most of the day. We’re also still trying to figure out the a good balance of responsibilities. We’re pretty young and these things don’t always come naturally. 💕 Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate you!
Im from Surrey in England😊please take no notice ok, just do your best at least you are out of bed, that in itself can be the hardest thing to do in a day, everything else is a bonus. Take care ok
oh it so good to see a real young women , most i watch so fake once they get bigger , doing make up and hair in middle of a clean up , and then speck like they are 12 . we are gowen people watching so the baby talk needs to stop , ,i had same has you when i had my twins few years back ,so i know this so hard to try do everything , just do a box a day and one lot washing .dont try do one whole room or make you ill and you got young baby to mind ,so while he napping in the day just sort one box and keep nothing unless you need it , less clutter means less cleaning :) , just do what you can each day hope i am going enjoy watching how you get on ,
Hi I'm a new subscriber love watching your videos👍👍👍👍🌼🦋🌷🌺💐🌹🌸🌻 I just want you to know I'm so proud👍👍👍👍🌼🦋🌷🌺💐🌹🌸🌻 of you take care💜🤗💗🤗 have a Blessed day💜💜💜💜
If you haven’t watched Fearfully Created yet, you should check her out. You remind me of her and she is awesome. Start on her videos from several years ago. I’m sure you will find a kindred spirit. 😊
Yes, her and my husband both help when they can but they also work all day and I don’t so it feels like my responsibility to keep up the house and sometimes I fall short. We can do more to help each other out but for right now this is what works. 🙂
