In watching this back, I want to make it clear that being low energy or in a depression doesn’t not necessarily correlate with choosing to be low maintenance with natural hair. On the contrary, I think taking a step back can be very helpful to those feeling overwhelmed. For me, however, being in a negative space did lead to a more pronounced “letting go” of perfection with my hair. It’s up to YOU to decide what level of maintenance you want with your hair. I personally tend to be somewhere in the middle of the hair maintenance effort, so when “letting go” turns into “neglect” I have to make a decision to pull myself out of my funk. It’s all about being self aware and everyone’s meter will be different. Love you and take care of yourself. ❤
I totally understand the moment. I had my braids in for three months. Upon taking them down, I knew it was time for a haircut. It's OK that our hair isn't perfect.
I agree. Taking a step back has really helped me with keeping with my hair, which has gotten longer and doing a lot is not working with me personally...my hair doesn't mind, but it makes me tired. So I feel you.
I have had to love my hair as is, since it has fallen out at the top because of menopause. 💜 your journey and your hair is beautiful as well as you are
I can imagine that has been difficult to navigate. I'm sending you a BIG virtual hug. It's beautiful to read that you're choosing to love your hair as it is. ❤️
This is the most relatable hair video I've ever seen. I've been natural since the late 90's and this is my approach to my hair, as little manipulation as possible and keeping things simple.
I’ve literally been doing the medium/large twists in a bun for years and I love what you said about just taking it out into a twist out when you need to go somewhere it’s honestly the best way to care for natural 4c hair in my opinion, if you are lazy and don’t wanna be bothered lol Pro tip you can turn your old twist out into a sleek ponytail with a puff just using some gel, and some got 2 b that can extend your next wash day, you’re welcome
I have a similar experience but I realized over my ten plus years of being natural that simplicity works for me and my hair. I can work my ass off on my hair and it turns into a flop. When I have the least amount of effort my hair looks amazing 🤔 😂 Love your final look ❤
What a beautiful updo style! Learning to love my natural hair as is and how not to FEEL like it needs to be "done" all the time. Some great tips here 🥰
I really LOVE how you used unraveled twists to create a beautifully elegant up-do. I’m going to try doing something similar with my hair as we go into Fall/Winter. Wash-n-go’s are not so good when it’s bitterly cold outside, know what I mean?? My hair has grown and I am now able to have twists that are long enough to “gather together” even after shrinkage. Thank you for sharing the untwisted style with us!!! I am SO going to try it!! Also - I had no idea you had been on Days of Our Lives!!! You really are awesome!!!!! 🥰
You did a great job with your hair. I have been a lazy natural from the start of my natural hair journey. I style my hair to fit my face and my hair texture. I just keep it simple sis...k.i.s.s😉😊🙋🏾♀️
Girl, this is such a great idea!!! I think I'm one of the laziest naturals out there lol. This is why I microloc'd my hair in 2020, but it only lasted 3 years because of a chronic scalp issue that I battle with. Since I cut them off a few months ago, I fight hard not to neglect my much shorter 4b/c hair. Your hair is simply gorgeous, especially in the style you did for the wedding. It looks like you put a whole lot of effort in to get that beautiful style !!🤩🤩🌺🌺 As my hair grows out , I'm going to copy your present hair routine closely. Thanks so much for sharing💕💕
Keeping it simple is key in my experience. Sure I have lots of fun, but simplicity helps me maintain and keep my hair healthy. I’m wishing you much success on your hair journey!
Latoya, Thank You!! 🎉❤🎉 I get so frustrated and upset on Wash days because I Hate parting my hair! It'll take me 5mins to make a perfect part on one side of my head then 10mins or more trying to get the other side to match! 😢 and Forget the back half of my head, I sometimes just give up and put it in a bun! I have been natural around three years now and sometimes feel I still have No idea what I'm doing! Watching other RU-vidrs get these perfect styles, it's intimidating! Thank You for showing me and I'm sure many others out there that it's OK not to be Perfect and Still be Beautiful ❤️🖤❤️ I wish you continued Success in everything you do!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾✨🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾✨
You are so very welcome. The truth is, I’m just sharing my reality. Life isn’t perfect and our hair shouldn’t have to uphold a standard we can’t even uphold in life lol! Perfectly imperfect 😌. Thanks for sharing. I have the same parting struggle, so if the style doesn’t really “need” it, I don’t even try 😂.
You’re so close to semi free forming, sis. You would have bomb locs too. It’s a journey but the freedom is worth it. No combing, no oils, no fuss. Just beautiful, soft and long natural locs. Good luck and thank you for the content!
I really enjoy all of your content and commentary. You're a beautiful woman but its not even the best thing about you. Love the grace and style that you share with all of us.
Thank you, thank you for this video. Your twists are beautiful. I wouldn't have separated the twists either. I'm not quite sure what grade my hair is; it doesn't stay twisted. You are so real, down to earth, and full of information. Love this video. BTW your "out the door" looks nice.
SUPER CUTE! You have proven that beauty comes from the spirit - it’s who you are that people respond to and appreciate. You’re allowed to be human and be “imperfect” - we’re all allowed. And, best of all, when you accept and embrace that fact, your hairstyle (and everything else about you) turns out just gorgeous anyway! You do you; unapologetically! Respect!
Yaaaas! My hair is in twists like yours right now. And, when I'm super busy, yeah, I do the least to my hair. And when I have time, I pamper my hair like crazy.
Hey there! I just loved this video! I’m so happy you’ve shed light on wearing styles that are considered “lazy”. It’s definitely not lazy because it’s not the preference of most naturals and because you’re STILL taking care of it. I called that smart and simple. I’ve been living here for the past 3 years now and I absolutely LOVE it, and my hair speaks for itself. It’s healthy, it’s the longest it’s EVER been in life, and it’s super strong. I’m winning and so are you! Your hair looks absolutely gorgeous!😍🥇 😊
I was wondering how you were going to keep your style together when you took of the hoodie? 😆 Looks like you did a great job. As long as you can easily manage your hair to go wherever you need to, you're doing fine. And were you talking to Stefano? 😮 I didn't even watch but I know who he is!
Whenever i do twist outs, there is always that twist who got away. Lol your hair is beautiful...maybe a hair accessory when the style feels like it needs more
Not sure if anybody ever told you this but you resemble Tia and Tamera Mowry so so much! I love that you are at the stage where you now embrace your hair Sis because it is very beautiful❤❤❤
I feel you! I am a stylist and I’m still learning my hair will be 1 year new growth natural hair on Nov 9th. On journey of gradually cutting relaxer out which is almost out. I’m use to very long hair from my relaxer style and look forward to length returning. I’m About 5 full healthy inches long now. With all that said your videos are really helping me as I go thru my transition of ideas of styles and how to care for it on wash day and more. Thank you!😊Have a beautiful day!☀️🍁
That hairstyle looks wow. Definitely into and gives rise to many ideas. 💡 too am falling in love with my natural 4C long hair which I put in styles that enhance its growth and the fact where I am in my life right now a sort of lazy period of doing hairstyles. As long as it looks representable although your hairstyle meets the mark to walk and sport your natural hair and show it off. Love this video.😊❤
I’m glad I watched your video. I’ve been wanting to texturize my hair. I’ve been so drained doing my natural hair. Maybe I will try to do twists like you and stretching them because my hair shrinks a lot and I still don’t know how to braid 😂I never did twist as a regular hairstyle for outside of home because I felt pressured to be able to part it evenly and always struggled with that. SN: I love the days of our lives flex yassss 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Next time you don’t have time/energy for perm rods, try lightly dampening the ends and putting in hanging Bantu knots. Those are the only way I don’t get knots for a twistout.
OK... Washing hair, use conditioner, comb it throw, put moisturizer in it and doing twists! doesn't sound like "lazy" for me 🙈. That's more than the most woman I know do to their hair (me included).
Am i the only type 4 girly that can not do non stretched styles without getting knots? idk what i’m doing wrong. i deep condition and trim and everything. my hair only doesn’t knot when i’m in braids or blown out
I get knotting all the time! The most hydrated my hair is, the less knotting, but I can’t completely escape them. I just try to be gentle with my hair and accept that it happens. It sounds like you’re doing the right things. ❤️