My oldest son has gone through this. Sadly, I believe it’s a symptom of societal decay.Give yourself a break. You’re not a loser. You’re lonely and depressed. Go for a jog. Join a gym. I don’t have any grand advice, but physical exercise is helpful in fighting depression. Thank God you have your parents support. Don’t diminish the value of that relationship.
I have same condition, been working out and in martial arts for 14 years, that didn't help, becuase it's not a disease, it's the soul state, the who your really are, nothing can change the nature, thr only thing remains is accepting and living the same non willing not interesting life hoping it won't be long
@@jameshunt9208He said "societal decay" not "spiritual decay". This generation is the first to have less prospects than their parents. Few will get to own their own houses. They will have to live at home longer. The old job-for-life security is well gone. That's what he meant. On top of this, this girl suffers anxiety which is very debilitating.
I guess you've not yet decided what is important to you. When you do, and decide they are worth pursuing, you'll find a passion in living. From this passion comes drive. Also, your social life well begin to coalesce around this. Many people go through this phase at some point.
What you're describing is what literally every single person has experienced at some point. You just have the courage to admit who you are right now. Being honest is a very attractive quality. I think you'll find that the more you open up and put yourself out into the world, the easier things get. I can tell you that everything you said I experienced myself in my 20s. I think you're totally normal and healthy. Therapy is what helped me the most. I highly recommend it. You're going to be OK.
As a 29 year old male that can resonate with almost everything you said its very refreshing to see other people are in this situation. Sometimes we feel like its just us
I’m a married man with 2 kids. Allow me to say a few things. 1. You’re not a loser. 2. I’m lazy too. You’re not the only one. 3. We all spend too much time on the internet. Try to cut your hours down one day at a time. 4. Living at home Is going to become the norm. If you and your parents love each other and your folks are ok with it, don’t worry about it. Moving out is unaffordable for many unless you have a partner or do it with friends. My wife and I were renting for ages and we only own our one home now, because we had help from my wife’s mother. We lucked out. 5. You’re not stupid. Just this video is enough to prove that. Making mistakes means you’re human. 6. I don’t drive either and I’m 36. I refer you back to the laziness thing. My wife drives and I really need to help her out with it. But again, just know that you’re not the only one. 7. The secrets thing is again, normal. Anyone that says they have no secrets is just lying. 8. Sex is great. That’s a fact that I can’t lie about. But truly, it’s not all that. There’s so much pressure on people to sleep around and it’s silly. I lost my virginity in my 20’s and when it happened, nothing really changed. 9. Wanting attention is once again normal. Especially for women. That has been proven btw, so don’t come at me. Don’t beat yourself up for wanting attention from other humans. 10. Not being able to cook is the only thing I’d say that you should try to resolve. It means you aren’t reliant on others to feed you. But take it one step at a time. Learn to make something like a burger and go from there.
did you asked your wife is that what age did she lost virginity and how many times have she have sex with boys-mans before you married with you ? Learn these and share with us.I tell somethings about facts
@@welshed 👏👏 I think the cooking thing even for me would be good cause I know like 5 dishes tho I hope to learn more towards the distant future. Attention is something we all want so that's normal. Sex is wonderful tho it's important to be selective... Enough said!
@@RichardWagner-hi4zn She's more of a winner than most every person. Why? Because she is a virgin for one reason, and it's the fault of the people who think they are better who caused this nay -shun to be 35 trillion in debt.
Trust me you’re not alone, you’re not the only one that feels this way and has these problems, I used to be like this, but after getting a job at a restaurant I had to talk to hundreds of strangers every single day even if I didn’t feel comfortable, but after doing this for a year or so I started feeling more comfortable and confident. so trust me you will overcome this problem if you want to, and don’t talk down about your self, that just makes it worse, you’re NOT a loser you are you, and that makes you special. Everyone has insecurities and NOBODY is perfect. Just keep pushing yourself forward and you’ll get to where you want to be ❤❤
Whatever u Tell her she won't belive u. It's her journey let her discover things a little by little till a point where the Old Becomes just a story In cases like this i prefer not giving any advice to anyone Not because i'm Evil it's because it's meant to happen like this we can't change Change require self discovery
She needs extra help. Mayne her parents needed to give her more individual attention when she was growing up because i think she thinks she has a lot more growing up to do.
Im 27, and you're the most relatable person I've seen on here. We got a lot in common, which is rare for me to say. I understand 100% how you feel . Life is hard to go through when you feel like you haven't done anything truly meaningful after all these years. I'm also afraid of driving it looks so stressful, but I'll give it a shot eventually...maybe. But I will say this, you will find your way to greatness. We might be losers now, but we can all turn into winners! Never give up champ we are all in this together!
@@GerLovezGermanSheps Touche, yeah I should've worded that a bit differently lol. Sometimes I don't even believe it myself but the that 3 0 is staring at me.
I am in a very similar situation right now, diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety when I was 12 and now that I am 26, I just found out 4 months ago that I am autistic, since then the way I see myself and the world has started to change, I am trying to exercise everyday, at least 10 minutes, and let me tell you, it works. Believe in yourself, seek help with a professional and find yourself, you will be fine. Your future self wishes to tell you that it is never too late.
My heart goes out to you. I have struggled wuth depression since I was a kid, and I hate to see anyone feel the same way I have felt so many times in my life. I felt the same way you do when I was in my mid-20s. I often still do. Its a daily struggle. I wish I could give you a big hug and take it a away. Your feelings are valid, and you are a beautiful person for having the strength to share this online. I never would have had the courage to do what you're doing here, and I admire the hell out of you for it. Sharing your feelings is actually a good first step. Its not that you're selfish, but I get why you feel that way. Its just that so much of your energy is being consumed by depression that everyday existence becomes a struggle, and you have nothing left to give to other people. You also seem like more of an introvert, just like me, so that doesn't make you a loser, just different. With introverts like us, interacting with others taxes our energy, so we need time alone to recharge. Depression makes that even harder. For people like us - and there are a LOT of us - holidays and social occasions in general suck. Yet, at the same time, it's only normal - hell it's only human - to crave human contact. It's one of the basic needs that all humans have. That doesn't make you a bad person or selfish. It makes you human. You're also suffering from anxiety, so fear of driving is totally understandable. Hell, I'm a loser myself. My ex-wife left me, and Ive struggled to find anyone since. Ive basically given up where that is concerned. I'm a single dad. I struggle to keep up with work and chores around the house. Im on two different medications for depression. That's not to even mention my bas health, namely that I am overweight and have diabetes. I have NEVER been normal. I never go out. My hobbies consist of reading, collecting figures and reviewing movies online with my friends. Yeah, some social life I have. Oh, and I also spend WAY too much time online. But you know what? Fuck it. Yeah, my love life is non-existent, but I have realized that I'm not in the right place for a relationship anyway. Im focusing on myself and my kids. Yeah, I worry about my kids. My daughter is grown, like you, and she still lives at home. I wouldn't have it any other way, though. She deals with anxiety just like you, and she is a beautiful person, just like you. Yeah, it's hard to balance work, duties at home and hobbies (such as they are). But hell, I'm doing my best. Yeah, I'm on medicine for depression. They do help, though, and I couldn't function without them (I've tried). Yeah, I'm fat and have diabetes. I've also started eating right and getting more exercise (just walking but still), and I have lost over 60 pounds, and my A1C is back down to normal now. Yeah, my hobbies are lame, but they are mine, and they bring me great joy and comfort. Yeah, I have no friends where I live, but the friends I have made online are still my real friends. I've even met them in person. We're all really close, and we support each other. I can't ask for more than that. I don't know you, but just know that I am rooting for you. A lot of us have been where you are. Depression is a son of a bitch, and anxiety is, too. Together, they're crippling. I'm proud of you just for getting through the day. It took guts to share this. Believe us when we say we do care. We got you.
I'm a 43 years old virgin guy from Germany and I have to say that some things you want to be called are not completely unattainable. (BTW, some men are reserved because they don't want to be perceived as perverted or pushy.) You are a brave person, you are good looking and you could actually be quite intelligent as you sound reflected. Don't get hung up on superficial attributes.
You still have time, Im a virgin 61 years old, only had one girlfriend in my life when i was 19-21. I still look youthful and extremely healthy, no any joint pain, never get sick, no disease. People always get shocked when they know my age, they say I look like I'm in late 20s. I'm a 7/10 facially 6ft1 height (no aging height loss at all because I take my diet and supplement very serious), athletic lean physique, i research lots of aging topic and manage to delay my skin aging with specific natural molecule supplemens. You probably wonder why I'm still a virgin loser it's because of money. I work a government job. In my lifetime there are lots of girls whom I talked to that showed interest in me (i would say around 30-40 and I gave up after that) but once they knew that I work a gov job with average salary, they ghosted, blocked me and disappeared. For men, Life during your student years is the most important if you cant land a high paying corporate job than you can say goodbye to your dream of having a relationship. Money is truly everything. do I feel lonely?, absolutely and I dread this feeling every day and night.
Go around a bar and bang a milf or a good gilf if you can, get moving man, to hell with what people think, if a 60yo woman winks at you at work show no mercy just go at it. Date anything that moves (optional ) and casts shadow (preferably ) you'll get comfortable around women and embrace rejection like a true men, nothing is better at teaching in life than fucking things up. And when you get comfortable with girls just hang with the ones you like to talk with, no need to have sex or kiss them, you also can be friends with them, grow your social circle, that's how you get a girlfriend. And women are just like me and you, and if a girl likes you great, and if she doesn't, she just isn't for you, don't take it personal, you'll also reject people in the process, it is what it is, just go next. C'mon, even heat ler had a wife, you can do this shit bro don't let me down, exercise a bit, buy some clothes a nice parfum and have fun.
@@CarlBland-l8lWhy would you want that? Literally paying for something you know is fake? No love, or even cuddling afterwards? It’s pathetic and worse than not experiencing it at all.
Male virgins: "I've never been good enough for anyone to want me" Female virgins: "I haven't decided to do it yet / I haven't found a guy who is good enough" Not really the same
@@iexist7408 Why would I do that when it's already accurate? Literally all animal species operate this way. Men compete, women choose out of the winners.
You're not a loser! I understand anxiety and depression more than you can imagine. Please keep positive and your head up. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
I relate to you in many ways, except that I'm married and have kids, but my core soul is like you, not independent, not social, lots of anxiety, recluse, no drive or ambition. I'd live my whole life inside a room with only internet if left to my own devices. It's a miracle that I have a husband honestly. Just wanted to say you're not alone and not only men view your channel, but weird women like me too
@truthteller3024 You haven't been able to form deeply intimate bonds with women in 33 years yet are apparently rejecting them "monthly" because your standard are bonkers. It's not possible to be an absolute stud and a virgin.
@@mrdojob my standards were the normal standards for thousands of years. I just want a normal sweet feminine wifey virgin girl who dreams of becoming a mother and cooks well! Literally the majority of females were like this before the invention of feminism recently.
I Exist, I have lost 100 pounds, and went from smoking weed and sitting at home without a job for 20 years to moving to a new city all of my own plan and design. Moved into a new apartment, and after 9 years of unemployment, now have job and can make a living wage. I am dating and got into a 2 month relationship with a person in this new city I live in. And all of this started with one thing: I changed my internal dialogue from insulting to encouraging. That led me to walking by the river behind my apartment. Then to hikes. Swimming. Gym, which I still maintain to this day. And the journey of loving myself. Please try to do that one thing. It'll take work, but that will set you on the path of self-redemption. At the same time, your world will change to encourage you. Much love from afar.
The inner dialogue advice is a good one, hope she read it. Unless this is just some weird fringe channel to attract losers for ad money. If she starts accepting herself and encouraging herself, she can overcome this, or get it under control.
You have something going on mentally that's affecting your ability to thrive. I have been through this along with my brother; I get stumped with mental blocks and don't know how to contribute with genuine curiosity into potential friends' life stories but always wanting to talk about myself as it's the most comfortable thing to do. I'm sorry to not have a real relationship built on sharing things and I think most people who ghost me see that with me. I need the attention to start talking out things on my mind to make my own mind clear to what I'm thinking as you are doing as well. I love your ability to talk "as a human" and not be noisy with whatever mainstream thinks and eventually that opens up your blocked mind so that people will start coming in and be able to read you. The thing with the secrets is part of the "Shame" going on that is ingrained and inhibiting like I feel it go on like I know my secrets so well but under the illumination of hindsight they are not real "issues" but mental clouds that I can't even put my finger on as I said I knew myself so well, but I couldn't if my brain is running my life. That kind of shame worship put things into perspective for me not even being mature enough to take more adult steps but have someone' else's evil past which I never even lived if I am a child forever. I admire those hard-working people in society who take the steps to accomplish real goals to where they are at in their status as role model in responsible trades, my habit is thinking too much that I know more than others then feeling the daily reminders of where I come from at the comfort of familiar home but not challenging myself to go out there and feel the new stimulations in real situations and working together.
Having co-workers is great, especially if you like each other. Having a job is so you can pay your bills or even save some money. Almost nobody has found their dreamjob, most are just in the daily grind. Personally I don't see the benefit of friends. Take too much time, too much energy. To those fortunate people with friends, kudos to you. It's just not worth the effort for some.
She has 10 000 subscrivers and she said "my videos only have a couple of hundred views" 😮 what? It's nonsense. She is just repeting what the devil is putting inside her head. I understand she has anxiety... but *just* a couple of hundred views???
You haven't met a real loser yet, he resides in Malaysia. An expat from eastern europe with a phd who ended up as refugee here with no job, no citizenship, no family and almost no money. Anxiety, depression and social phobia are my old buddies, but i managed to complete my studies despite all that. My only hope is that one day i might be relocated to another country because the country i am in now does not recognize refugees. It may sound as a platitude but try to be more appreciative of what you have. Wish you all the best and hope you get out of the depression you're in now. And pls, stop calling yourself a loser. You're beautiful and young. Peace & love.
I like you answer, I am from east Europe, and I know there is a lot of very stupid people which you defined😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. In Slovakia, we had also already so stupid premier minister similar to this people.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Igor Matovic brother of Donald Trump😂😂😂😂😂😂
Its the curse of the really smart..... but you will succeed, but know 2 things, know your limits, and know what your willing to do to get there, best of luck, I never finished school when my family fell apart when I was 14, was homeless for a while as I didn't want to end up being molested in an orphanage, so I became streetwise and fell in with a bad lot, I managed to get away from that when I was 18 and went into the army was there for a few years then left it to get married and it fell through as she was humping my so called friend, so I put my nose to the grindstone and studied hard and did so for over 10 years studying many fields in IT including 5 languages, in the meantime I worked whatever job I could get, I learned a lot from each one, from dishwasher to mechanic, to system builder, repair tech, domain admin to network engineer, the world is wicked and it will crush you if you let it... you have to adapt and overcome, and time waits for no one.. best of luck dont give up, there are many of us that have been through it, and when you come through the other side you will be a stronger person for it.
You are actually the realest person,just admiting everything your saying and having the courage to show your face is Brave!I wish more people talked about their insecurities.I have so much respect for you and not being afraid to upload such deep thoughts and feelings.
I am the real life version of the 40 year old virgin, well 41 now. I live with my mother because of fear of going my own way and medical issues with my back. Now she is as dependent on me as I am on her. I was all ways afraid of women after having so many make fun of me when trying to talk to them. My point with revealing my secret is to let you know you are not a loser at all. You are young and have your hole life ahead of you to find love. Please do not give up and hide like I have, I beg you 😢.
@user-tr8hr4xm1l no. In my parents home 2nd story living/TV room. House smelled overwhelmingly of dog pee from untrained terriers. JESUS encounter supernaturally removed smell of dog pee with frankincense and myrrh. I got radically supernaturally transformed and it's effects are still 100% set in my inner being 20+ years later
@@metalmike570 it makes you feel better to shame people who are using a platform like that to make a living? There’s more nobility in OF content creation than being a fucking soldier, cop, or politician
I'm not here to compliment you but still, you definitely have something to face all that with a straight face and openly talks about that in a YT video. The only tip I might give you is, you so damn young, there's still much time to do whatever you want to do and be whoever you want to be. Do something. Studying something is never lost time. Music, sports, a new skill related to computers, or cooking, or university. Go out and face the world. Push yourself. And there's a lot of virgins out there that didn't have the opportunity to know someone special. Do something social. Otherwise life will continue to pass by and you're going to feel bad. Life is not a competition, each and every people are different and have their time, their pace. You look like a very nice person to talk and befriend with. Have a great life!
Dunno why this came up on my feed. But just wanted to say. Your open and honestness about yourself is quite beautiful. Its sad to hear you have so low opinion of yourself. I hope you can find peace and some happiness in this life. Life is not easy and is ofter cruel. Ty for sharing. Love from Scotland ❤
Stop coddling and lying to her. She is a f**king loser. If you keep saying stuff like that she will never feel a strong enough need to make a change in her life. When are you going to realize that this positive affirmation cr*p only ends making her feel better with the situation she is on... For significant change, you need to make it so the person faces reality and understands that the current situation in untenable.
Take this from someone who is turning 44 single, divorce, handsome and alone. Who has nothing going on in his life besides work, bills, travel, homeless currently despite having plenty of means, taking care of my kid, and the world imposing on me constantly despite having something of a boring but meaningless/meaningful peaceful life unless everyone else around me disrupts it. I have plenty of artistic hobbies but no connections (I can trust anyways) to share them with. The only attention I get is commentary from people on You Tube. I watch You Tube to occupy my mind very frequently. On one hand I inherently know my worth, and on the other I feel worthless at times. We all can and do. Let it pass and try to be present and try to get out and do something new to break the cycle and pattern. Even if it is something as simple and reserved as walking a new block once a week. We love comfort and familiarities. But that very comfort and complacency prevent us from growing sometimes too. Anyways my point. Comparison is the thief of joy.
@@Sor9ry426I've seen similar videos, especially from younger guys. At least there people were empathetic and shared advice just like here, which was nice. Genuine talk seems to make viewers more empathetic.
@@Slitwheel you do not speak for all of us. Keep that toxic masculinity/trad wife searcher BS to yourself. Fetishising virginity is creepy and having disrespectful judgemental hang-ups about women is not manly.
Well, you have started posting videos on this RU-vid channel! That's quite a step forward. You're ahead of many people who are still in the "I wish I could do this" phase. Sometimes we get so overwhelmed by how far off we are from pursuing our dreams, but it all starts with small steps at a time. Cleaning your room, getting out of the house, getting really good at something. You don't have to follow the same path as most.
Im also a loser, I have horrible existential anxiety 24/7 and around people, I no energy, motivation, house ridden, no job I hate people, too dumb to understand school, all F's, can't understand people when they speak also sometimes, my brothers and 1 friend just don't get me or how hard life is. I can't stand talking on the phone, never had a real lover, everyone just used me and now I'm asexual 😂Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable! Seeing this 9 months later ha so I don't know if you'll read this but almost everything you said describes me to a T, you also have a self awareness and amazing vibes that other people don't, the first thing I thought before watching this video was wow this girl is gorgeous! I used to think I was hideous for a long time too till I turned 30 so I hope you can see how beautiful you truly are someday and that you're not a loser, you are very strong, dealing with mental health, it truly is a full time job that we don't get paid for and no one will ever understand, but try to love yourself cause you deserve it and fuck what anyone else thinks, you're one of the best genuine souls out here in this mad world ❤ You are natually beautiful and you don't have to change anything one bit! You should look up Stephanie Lange, she helped my self confidence so much
Im 44 man, never married, no children, getting ready to start my 3rd career, I have such hard time connecting with people, youre a loner not a loser, in fact you are actually really the prize, I promise.
Right there with you. 47 male, never married no kids. Somehow have managed to stay at my job for about 13 years. I think about quitting every single day. Day dream of working different jobs. What a life we live.
This is probably one of the coolest videos I’ve seen. Thank you for sharing and don’t worry about being normal. You’re NOT stupid. You’re brilliant and wholesome. Fuck everyone else. You’re 100% valuable and 0% loser.
Exactly. People today have their damn noses stuck so far up in the air I am surprised they aren't inhaling airplanes. And many of these super stars are hardly anything special themselves. I was fortunate I found an awesome woman from Central Asia (here in US) and married her and have a beautiful 20 year old daughter. But she passed away a few years ago and I have been alone since. I ventured out into the social world again and GOOD GOD what a sh*t show royale. Went to a singles meet up party near my Chicago neighborhood full of these types. Most of the women - many who were overweight and not attractive - were all crowded around a couple of Chad type men. The rest of us were ignored. I am 6'2" tall, work out very fit build, educated objectively ok looks and they could care less because I am not in that league - whatever it is. Screw em all. I bolted from party early went home to my dog and daughter and enjoyed the rest of the night much more than with those snots. As for the physical stuff - of course we all want that to some degree but I think we know how to handle that - may not be the ideal but gets the job done LOL!
@@MattyMoores Not exactly this, but I will validate their feelings if I see that they’re in pain. There are some young guys I work with who are having some rough relationship issues and I tell them it’s okay to feel profound sad about things if they’re going badly, that it’s not unmanly to cry, that it’s not a sign of weakness to show feelings. I also have some friends who are addicted to some pretty hard stuff and I validate their pain and acknowledge that they are not the problem in society, not the bad guy, not deserving of judgment and imprisonment, rather they are the ones who feel the problems the most. That addiction is a medical issue. The ones left behind, thrown away. I tell them they are valuable and good people because they are.
I'm a 27 year old virgin and I am in the EXACT same boat. I am on the autism spectrum and I feel like an absolute idiot. I'm really bad with socializing and making friends, and holding conversations. I am subscribing to you, because you're the female version of me 😂 Also I just want to add that you're beautiful and you're more intelligent than you think!
@@realDunalTrimp Kind of feel like you're trolling at this point 💀 but seriously though everyone knows how to just search up an educational video on youtube.
@@lynxarcade2020 doesn't help in real life buddy, that's why your first sexual partner should always be someone with experience so that they can guide you. We have now been condemned to a lifetime of virginity. It's too late for us.
46 year old man here. Step dad to great 20 something boys. I was lost in life and had no direction. I was a loser but I found that giving of myself and being something to other people lifted me up. Love yourself and love the ones you have and love and peace will find you. Embrace and engage those opportunities to encourage and love others the way you want to be loved and encouraged. This is the first time I've seen a video of yours but I'm subbed now and I believe in you. Peace.
I once read something that really stuck with me and that in life you need a healthy balance of 'doing' and 'analysing'. Analysis can be good as it helps you address problems etc and many people go through life just pleasing themselves and walking all over everyone which is despicable. But too much analysis can bring you down. Things that have helped me are small self discipline exercises and doing things to get me out of my comfort zone. I recently changed my job and started going to the gym which is something I always sneered at but stuff like this is life changing. I'm still not where I want to be but it's worth trying and believing you'll get there. I think you would be surprised but a lot of men will find you far more beautiful than plastic looking social media influencers. A lot of what you feel is normal human emotions so don't beat yourself up about feeling normal feelings.
when I was 26 i went through a similar phase , im 31 now and i found my way through it with music. im still a loser though lol , 31 still living at home, i dont drive, i dont have friends, i totally understand, youll get there its just very difficult finding yourself these days, do or find anything that makes you feel good.
Somewhere out there, you’re someone’s type. The hard part is figuring out how to meet them. Btw, you don’t have to live up to other’s’ standards for what’s “normal” or “smart”. It took me a long time to learn that one. It also took me a while to learn that there’s no shame in having therapy
Depression sucks. The trick is to get excited about SOMETHING. I went through a year of deep depression where I didn't want to die but didn't want to "live" either. For me, I found my dream sailboat for free and have plans for the future to fix it up and travel in it, explore new places. You seem to feel depression as well. You have to find something that interests you and gives you purpose. I know that seems like an impossible task. We all have secrets. I'm "cute" to most people until they take the time to know me better. Then I miraculously get better looking. I much prefer that than the other way around. I see your perfect relationship being with someone who is unanxious, calm and adventurous. These are the things you want in your life. The more you are around it, the easier it is. The more you do, the more you want to do. I wish I could help.
There's so many people in the exact same position as you it's amazing , consider that others do understand and handle it all just a little differently behind closed doors. Its the biggest leap to put yourself out there and be vulnerable but so worth the effort when you find someone you truly connect with that motivates and encourages. So Piece by piece all the things you get down on yourself about become less and less.
Finding a woman who is a virgin in her 30ies is way easier than you think. Finding the one that is not an absolute useless train wreck mentally - they just don't exist. You don't want to find them, trust me!
Just wanted to say YOU HAVE VALUE despite whatever worldly achievements you have or have not accomplished. My son is on the autistic spectrum and a very high percentage of people with autism have societal anxiety and are depressed. We are bombarded with all kinds of toxins through our environments, vaccines, food, water, etc etc in which can cause this type of outlook as well. You are LOVED by your creator for just being and without doing anything. I would love to encourage you to change your internal and external dialogue to "I am loved", "I have value", "I am gaining confidence every day" and so forth. Spoken words and internal dialogue are extremely powerful and can create and manifest. We don't want to self-sabotage with our words. I did this with my son and it helped. In addition, I just went through one of the deepest valleys of my life and definitely experienced feelings of extreme isolation, depression and lethargy. I am exiting this wilderness season now but I believe everyone can relate to this at some point in their life journey. Please change your thoughts and words to positive and remember YOU ARE LOVED & NOT ALONE!!
@@juliapigworthyDo you know whether the OP has kids or not ? Why would you without appropriate knowledge about his life make such a pointless remark about him assigning him responsibilities he hasn't taken up himself. What if he's unemployed because of mental or health issues he has no control over? It's like telling someone homeless to just get a home without knowing what knowing what made them homeless in the first place. Remarks like yours are disgusting and are uncalled for. A fool would be thought of as wise if they kept quiet. Some thoughts you should just keep to yourself.
@@shadrachemmanuel1720It's called tough love. People like you are encouraging bad behaviors by making excuses. I've seen people confined in wheel chairs making ends meet. I've seen people who lost limbs still are motivated to press on with their lives.
Well, I love your raw honesty. That makes me feel like you're potentially intelligent (at very least), self aware, and more real than the show-offs with impressive crap to share which I feel inundated with. Not caring sucks, though, I've been there before and that felt horrible even though it seems like I should not have felt that hardly at all.
"I exist" as a statement is the most relatable phrase I've ever read on the internet. Always remember that you are not alone in this struggle, people are just REALLY good at hiding the mental decay their experiencing. I for one get compliments on how outgoing and positive I am when in reality the only reason I am so positive and outgoing is because of how terrible my mental health is, I've just learned over time to hide my emotions and appear as the happiest person you will ever meet.
Ngl, it was me a couple of month ago. 26M, virgin, no GF, passing to much time on YT and lazy on the side. BUT I didn't give up on life, kick myself to go out of my comfort zone. Found a job, ask one of my female friend out (she said yes and we are now a couple) and trying to go to the gym and read books. My advice : Get out of your confort zone, try new things. Don't rush for a relationship, if you don't at least value yourself. And don't go on dating apps (worst decision for a meaningfull relationship) My opinion about you : You are cute, you are honest and have self-reflexion. The first step before improvement is : self-reflexion and finding the problem, so you are in the right path. But you need to act after finding the problem. Edit: Being call cute is a soft way to say beautiful in my book. I don't want to put your problems down, but almost no men don't even get call cute. At least you have compliments :|
Listen to this guy, lady. He's right in my estimation. I've had a very successful life, had a few kids, checked off my bucket list, etc... You've got tons of potential. It's up to you to do with it as you please.
Im 15, and sadly, for the past two years, I've felt like absolute crap. It sometimes feels like even when im trying, it doesn't matter in the end. But I'm glad I've seen this video today. Hopefully, you're doing better, and i have been fetting better myself as well. And I'm sad to say im a loser too.
I relate to you, I’m 16 and I have sadly experienced the past 2 hardest years of my life. With No friends, never been in a relationship, No motivation to do anything, all my teachers hate me, and I’m probably gonna be living with my parents till I’m 40. Literally all I do when I get home from school is sit on my phone all day. I’m a loser too
Just FYI most guys, even attractive ones, aren't ever gonna call you "beautiful", "sexy", or "hot" and risk being labelled a creep or weird for saying that, unless you actively express interest in them. I'm sure some decent men at some point in your life have thought those good things about you but didn't have an appropriate time to express those feelings.
Being a loser can be a state of mind, especially when you suffer from anxiety and depression. I'm a loser, not because I have crippling anxiety or depression but because I seem to have made really bad choices in opportunities and people I've involved in my life. I don't blame anyone for the way my life turned out, although I didn't reach my current situation by myself. I saw red flags and ignored them because I used to be the type of person who hoped for the best and figured as long as I did my part the best I could, things would work out well. I work hard, no drug or alcohol problems, overall pretty healthy mentally and physically. I've raised 2 great kids who are a benefit to society, and very well adjusted considering their mother and I divorced when they were reaching their teens. I hope everyday for something to fall my way, but to be honest I've learned to expect the worst because that is what I seem to get. Our expectations start to become a reflection of what we experience in life. I've come to the conclusion that it really comes down to a "balance" in the world. Not everyone can be a winner, there must be losers too. Not everyone can be successful, there has to be people who are unsuccessful. It can be really exhausting being on the losing end, but we're generally pretty resilient because we have to be. I know people who think having a tough day or a tough week is not making it to the gym on their schedule or not making their second or third night out of fun for the week, or only being able to take a one week vacation instead of the normal 2 week. You're still young, you can try to make a change in your life and see how it plays out. Some of us have nothing to look forward to but grinding out an existence until we depart this world. I hope things get better for you.
I'm also kind of going through this. I'm 30 years old, semi-attractive male who fell into depression. I used to be full of life and have a big friend group but that is all dwindling. You are not alone. Exercise is the one thing that is helping me get through this and have confidence in myself. Thank you for sharing.
I love to see that many of the comments of this video are very kind and supportive for this beautiful lady. This brings me a bit of hope for this humanity. I don't think I exist will ready this comment, but if you do someday let me tell you that I wish from the bottom of my heart you can find the best version of you. You´re a beautiful, keep up! And try to overcome those bad thoughts about yourself. I know that is hard but changing our own believes is the first step of many anybody needs to find what they need for themselves. Kind regards!
I just wanted to say I am a woman. And I relate to you. I don't drive. I ride the bus to work where I essentially sift through unwanted trash all day and listen to co workers talk about their lives when I really couldn't care less. I feel as if I am a terrible person for this. But it is just how I honestly feel. I feel as if there is no purpose in living this life. I have no friends or boyfriend. I live by myself in a low grade one bedroom apartment. I spend my days off and nights after work just staying in my apartment in my room only watching youtube or movies. I never go anywhere I don't have the money to take a trip or time for it. So I just exist..
Same here... Male, 43 living alone, working, eating, just existing. You are not alone, i think you feel like that when people talk about their trivial lives because it feels like a waste of time, there are more subject matters to you because you have an emergency to "get on " with life, so in that respect you won't be able to sympathise easily with others until you feel like you are back on track sort of speak. That's completely normal for persons in our situations. I hope i made sense, and that i didn't presume things.
Maybe take a ride on a different bus, take in the scenery, approach and talk to a stranger about whatever strikes you about them or the place / situation you both are in? Just to break the routine, take one step away from boredom and self-alienation, you know?
25 year old female virgin here. It’s bizarre how rare it seems to be. I feel so alone but it’s interesting to see that there are more of us. Don’t know if I would have the courage to make a video about it though.
If it makes you feel better, you have a leg up in the game if you ever want to get married any time soon. Most men are more serious with virgins than non-virgins. Matter of fact, the more pure a woman is, the better. So, pat yourself on the back for that.
So, I've felt the same way about myself in my younger years, you're not alone here. One thing to always remember...focus on your core values, do you treat people well, honesty, kindness, empathy. These solid traits define a good person, and trust me, the world and (good) people will respond to that. Be good to yourself, always!
I have no idea why I clicked on this. But, for what it's worth, it's really making me fell a hell of a lot better about myself. Over half a million views and 20k subscribers! Damn! Props for that!
I clicked on this video because it was not a generic RU-vid video from a generic RU-vid channel. Your personality is actually a gift in this world. I think you may have to process some traumas and work through some things and you will eventually see just how gifted you are and how much you really have going for you. Sometimes trauma can go way back to when we were very small children or toddlers. And sometimes our parents can have their own undiagnosed issues like personality disorders which have caused them to unconsciously or even consciously traumatize us. You may have to dig deep to get to the root of this depression and nihilistic state of living. Anyhow see you around you sexy beautiful thing you.
Imagine if a guy made a video like this. I’m in a similar situation, but if I posted a video like this, I’d get 10 views and no people would care. But I hope shit gets better for you. Keep your head up and stay strong💪🏾 You aren’t a loser. You are very genuine which is hard to find these days.
Bro, I’m going to reveal a brutal secret: nobody gives a shit about you if you’re a man. Just look at the previous comment, you’ll just be called an incel who needs to touch grass and take showers, and your problems will never be addressed.
@@tshegom03because if a woman is unable to find a man, it’s 100% because her standards are too high, men pursue women, women do not pursue men, men get what they can get, women skim off the top
This is like looking in the mirror omg! Sorry you're feeling this way! You're definitely not a loser, and your channel is a gem i just found recently. You just gotta push through bad stuff to get where you want to be is all.
You sound super awesome actually. I’m not going to pretend to know the solutions, but I’d say find things that make you happy and cherish them. I think most guys are looking for a nice girl like you. You got your things together more than most people out there. By the way I’ve spent about half of my life abroad… but when I’m home I feel the same as you do. I wish we could get to know each other. Anyway! peace and be well. Don’t let others get to your head
I am a male, a virgin, I speak a completely different language than yours, living in a completely different culture, and yet I felt that you are literally talking about me and my life. I have the same exact symptoms as you have. I realize that it's a pattern associated with the same things: loneliness, low self-esteem and hiding from the world in our comfortable rooms.
Girl you are beautiful 💗 inside and out. It sounds like to me you possibly have a depressive disorder (I am diagnosed Major Depressive Disorder). It sounds like you also have some social anxiety, which is totally normal for many soft souls these days. I can tell you are an intellectual who probably imagines every possible catastrophic event that could happen if you reach outside of your comfort bubble. I have PTSD from a serious heart issue, so I understand that feeling. Trust me when I say you are beautiful, and being a virgin at 26 in this day and age is actually so SPECIAL! You have the chance to find someone you connect to intellectually and emotionally, and to share that special moment with them in a way many young girls today will never understand. Take some time to yourself. Get your nails painted, find women who inspire you (not women who make you feel less then), and aspire to find a new and feminine side of yourself. Sit outside in the sun for just 10 minutes a day. Eat healthy and be hydrated. Take small steps every day to loving yourself, and finding nurturing environments for yourself. And most important of all love yourself on this journey of life. Your soul is so kind and honest and there’s just not enough people out there like you. I know there’s someone out there for you who is looking for someone just like you 💗 Social media is so manipulative and malignant. Even though it is hard for all of us, we need to get off of our phones and computers and resist living too much in the online presence of others. Do things for yourself, first 🫶🏻 you are worthy and it may take some time to feel that way but just start being kinder to yourself if you can 💗 Don’t give up on yourself, love 💗 it may not seem like it reading this but I can tell there is such potential in you. Take up a new hobby, and discover yourself! You never know what you may thrive in, but you have to give it your all 💙 and learn to grow through the pain with self love. Good luck and safe travels in this wild but secretly beautiful world 🌎
I like you am a major depressive. I also have anxiety issues sometimes social but for the most part, I have live the life. I have a now six-year-old as of August 29 now her mother was borderline personality. I don’t see that in this woman. I just think she’s antisocial and an introvert and obviously something else that I can’t diagnose, I’m not a doctor but she’s awesome. She’s beautiful and I just wish that she would realize this. I’m sure you realize that it’s not because you are beautiful, but you have to know from being smart from being beautiful. It’s a factor of many things to make one beautiful in my opinion, the age of the Internet has lot of women and men especially with dating is it OK for women to sleep around and still to sleep around and as a guy to see all the sad DNA test everywhere I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that, even though my ex is a pain in the ass I’ve been dealing with her Five years in court still going on more. Well, I seen your comment Erika and it was a beautiful comment because it explains a lot about mental health and that’s what I tried to teach people so thank you and may God bless you
You’re not a loser. You’re still so young, you can still do just about anything. And in an extremely phony world, you are brave enough to be honest, which means you’re helping people who feel the same way. You are helping other people who feel lonely. Trust me, you are. That is huge. I wouldn’t pay much mind to people who question you, they don’t know your situation as you do. You have a very pleasant speaking voice and I’m now a subscriber. Please take care of yourself, be good to yourself, you deserve it. Thank you. 🙏
This video is very grounded, I feel a sense of humility coming from this woman, and a lot of what she is experiencing is actually reminiscent of what a lot of people are going through in the americas. Some people never find motivations, some people find it late in life, but some times its trying something new that can make us with youth feel energized. I personally have been trying to do things that energize me as I get closer and closer to mid life. One day the boring, lame, and mundane will be all that's left to energize us in old age.
You are not a loser. Do you, love yourself and enjoy life as much as you can. One thing I have learned is to not compare my life to others. You are you, one of one. Greetings from South Africa 🇿🇦 Cape Town is a beautiful city, I hope you finish your painting and get to visit sometime in the future.
From my own experience(I'm similar to her), it's very easy to say that but very hard to actually follow. I lose the "zeal" after one or two days. Then you go back to being what you are.
@@icyman2Yes, you'r right but he say what you need to do, and its that simple, do thinks like exercise, go out, meet people... Simple thinks and you will go better. Dont give up!! 💪
@@icyman2 I understand that. For me the zeal or high energy comes around when you finish something. A lot of time it only starts out w no zeal. I know it’s hard to get motivated. I try to stay in motion. You’re capable of more than you think I bet.
That's sad to hear. I'm sorry to hear that. I will pray for you and I will pray that things get better for you. I also still live at home with my parents too. It's common these days especially as cost of living is very high these days.
I can profoundly empathize with you. Im almost 24, also a virgin, unemployed without a driver license. Despite that, I have many plans for my future. Like, attending university in a couple of years and try out new social activities. Recently, I tried Pen and Paper. Keep your head up, you're charming and you still can archieve everything. I wish you the best ❤️
I just want to thank you for this video. I don't mean to trivialize your situation or your feelings, but almost everything you said I have felt exactly the same way or am still feeling to this day. You might not realize it, but your honesty and your insights about yourself are sexy. Speaking of being insightful, that in itself shows that you have intelligence, and that is a rare thing. Those people you speak of that, in your words, are not losers, I think the majority of them are posting content about their "fabulous" lives to make themselves feel better and are themselves most likely not as successful or happy as they portray. Weird and strange, I think, is a good thing. Especially in a world full of cookie-cutter fake people. I would just finish by saying, with you talking about this stuff, even through youtube videos, is healthy and might end up helping you through this. Also, I am quite confident that this and any other videos you make like this are going to help a lot of other people. ❤
I'm about to turn 26, and I'm a loser too, in a different way than you though. It is very worth it to become less selfish and be more interested and invested in other people. Life is about other people, and getting out of your own head is the healthiest thing you can do. It's hard and scary but I promise it's worth it. Making people happy by being kind and interested in their life is the best feeling in the world. You're not pathetic for having a RU-vid channel, I really admire it, I've always thought about having one but never followed through on it. I love people like you who are willing to share their lives. I saw you say that you were tested for autism as a kid and they said you didn't have it, but if i were you I would revisit that and do research into asperger's in women, because we are very different from men and it presents differently and a lot of doctors are not informed at all about this. You would be shocked how uninformed doctors can be. I was in plenty of therapy as a kid and teen, and it was missed for me, and not knowing had a massive impact on my life. I would also look into rejection sensitivity - maybe you avoid doing things bc you're very afraid and hurt by rejection? I struggle with this too and it's really helpful to be aware of it, because you can try to learn that your intense emotional reaction to rejection doesn't reflect the reality of who you are as a person. That's just speculation though maybe you don't struggle with that, but you do really strike me as someone who could be autistic, like sooo many of the things you said in this video fit that, like being so stressed out by things that other people don't find stressful, not being able to handle noise and business, not understanding things people say to you, etc. Maybe we can be friends if you would want to!
I’m 24 years old, 25 in a few months, and I relate to a lot of what you are saying. Almost everything that you said actually. Although I did graduate from college, all I have been left with is an enormous hollow void and no desire to fill it. I don’t contribute to society and I had resigned myself to ending my life a few months back. I would immediately ask you on a date or something despite the things you go through because I’ve been through it myself and I don’t see it as an issue. It’s more of a symptom of society hurting us just for being ourselves. I have also had dreams of raising children, despite being a virgin, and despite knowing that it will take an immense amount of work to become self-sufficient. I’m not sure when things will get better for us, but it’s bound to happen eventually.
I like when u say “it’s more a symptom of society hurting us just for being ourselves”. That’s very truthful. I’m sure u contribute to society in someway. Even if it’s not something big. Maybe you’re very kind to people or helpful. Even that makes a difference. I would go on a date with u too. Someone that gets me. I’m wishing u well ValiantPixel. I hope all the best for u
@@iexist7408 I'm 22 and I'm also a virgin that can't cook and don't even know how to pay a bill yet so I told myself for the next 2 years I will just grind in silence in order to become better because I have been played by women lost family members friends ghosted me and I've even been shot at and with all that pain I told myself if this thing called life wants me to win with the weight N buried of existence on my shoulders I have to do it my way and saving sex for later will do that because they don't tell you is that retaining your sexual energy will make you stronger Society will acustom you to be ok with the bs but you have to fight it and do whatever it takes to make you feel better if not the best about yourself F*ck Society
@@iexist7408 I write this to You to bring You Eternal Hope from far away."The Rapture"- is A Truly Real Future Biblical Christian Worldwide Event in which Millions of Living True Christian Believers shall be "Transported" into Heaven to meet The Creator Of The World/The Maker Of The World/The Lord Himself and they shall be with him Forever and ever.Also in addition to "The Rapture" another Truly Real Future Biblical Christian Worldwide Event called "The First Resurrection" will also take place,which will "Resurrect" All-Dead True Christian Believers and will also "Transport" them into Heaven to meet The Creator Of The World/The Maker Of The World/The Lord Himself and they shall be with him Forever and ever! "The Rapture" collects All-Living True Christian Believers,while " The First Resurrection" collects All-Dead True Christian Believers.The Dead True Christian Believers shall rise first and then both:The Dead and The Living True Christian Believers shall Together be Transported into Heaven to be Together with The Christian God and to be Rewarded accordingly by The Christian God! This is not a joke.I have seen "The Signs" and these words are "True and Correct".Remember!Jesus Christ said:“You don’t have to wait for the End.I am right now,Resurrection and Life.The one who believes in me,even though he or she dies,will live.And everyone who lives believing in me does not ultimately die at all.Do you believe this?”
I write this to You to bring You Eternal Hope from far away."The Rapture"- is A Truly Real Future Biblical Christian Worldwide Event in which Millions of Living True Christian Believers shall be "Transported" into Heaven to meet The Creator Of The World/The Maker Of The World/The Lord Himself and they shall be with him Forever and ever.Also in addition to "The Rapture" another Truly Real Future Biblical Christian Worldwide Event called "The First Resurrection" will also take place,which will "Resurrect" All-Dead True Christian Believers and will also "Transport" them into Heaven to meet The Creator Of The World/The Maker Of The World/The Lord Himself and they shall be with him Forever and ever! "The Rapture" collects All-Living True Christian Believers,while " The First Resurrection" collects All-Dead True Christian Believers.The Dead True Christian Believers shall rise first and then both:The Dead and The Living True Christian Believers shall Together be Transported into Heaven to be Together with The Christian God and to be Rewarded accordingly by The Christian God! This is not a joke.I have seen "The Signs" and these words are "True and Correct".Remember!Jesus Christ said:“You don’t have to wait for the End.I am right now,Resurrection and Life.The one who believes in me,even though he or she dies,will live.And everyone who lives believing in me does not ultimately die at all.Do you believe this?”
I love how honest you are. Completely humane and relatable. I am looser as well. On December i will be 30 and still live with my parents. I don't have a job. I am not educating. A lot of times i don't know what to say with people. I am anxious around people including my parents and sister. Even though i had sex in the past i am afraid to do it again and never had a relationship because i have huge fear of commitment. I have a drinking problem. I feel like a failure all the time. I have depression and social anxiety. I feel invisible to others. I feel like i don't have an identity. The only good thing in my life is that i have two good friends and a lot of times i feel inferior than them and i afraid i might loose them. There are things i want to do but i just don't do them because i am lazy and afraid of failure. So you're not alone. I am a looser too. You said you want females to watch your videos and here i am, i am a looser female relating to everything you said.
Social media shouldn't just be about "showing your lifestyle" but sharing your hobbies/crafts/passions. Thats a much better and more fulfilling use of it imo
You're not alone. Not a loser. If you are here it's for a reason. Also, dating and sex is overrated. Just do what you want to try to do. Get better if you want to. Don't if you don't want to. Living with your parents is not a bad thing either. In Europe the average age is around 33-35 years old without ever leaving parents house. Talking about crap like you said, its better than not doing anything. I for one, am glad the stupid YT algorithm actually recommended this to me. Well done. It's almost impossible for 99% of people on RU-vid to have these number of subscribers and views. You should know that. Also, there is a reason why people say ignorance is bliss. Being "smart" is not that much of a good thing. It only brings you more pain. As for the secrets you won't tell anyone as long as you live, you have just told them and it's OK. It was not your fault. It was theirs. Don't think you're not normal because of it.
There’s more to life than showing off and I totally get the lack of feeling: the best way I could describe how I feel is ‘flat’. Unmotivated, unexcited, uninterested. I recognise so much of this. If never leave my bedroom if I didn’t have cats to feed and a bladder. I’m not sure how much any of these comments will make to your worldview as our moods and our introspection often dictate what we accept from others: If you’re confident and someone says you’re hot, you’re gonna think ‘of course I am’ but in your current mental state, you’ll believe every compliment is a lie or someone ‘just saying that to be nice’ and in those circumstances we really are our own worst enemy. Let me say that you are not a loser. You’re a beautiful, healthy (I look like a slab of meat that’s been left out in the sun for too long) young woman and your video has 325k views in 8 months (I have videos on my channel from 4 or 5 years ago and they have at most, 13 views) and a comments section full of support. Again, I know this counts for little until how you view yourself changes and changing anything about yourself that isn’t tactile is incredibly, incredibly difficult: people can tell you that you should re-evaluate your situation but no-one ever seems to tell you how and I certainly can’t, I can’t fix my own head let alone advise others. I absolutely get your situation too. I’m 48 and moved away from my family for the first time 4 years ago. I can also tell you my life is a difficult and lonely one (I’m not much for opening up so you’ll have to trust me, but I’ve had some really fcked up times in my life). Having worked all my life, complications in 2020 from a car accident from 2016 saw me require surgery. It took so long to get the op, it was less than a month ago, that it cost me my job. On top of that, the op doesn’t seem to have been a success. That means my promise to catch up with the few friends I have, who I haven’t seen since 3020 at the latest, has now had to be postponed. I don’t say any of this to try and out pity you but that you’re not alone in having hard times. Somehow, I’ve not been driven to the brink of despair, I’m neither happy nor unhappy… your tag covers me perfectly: I exist, just wondering around in a constant state of apathy. All the problems you discuss plague thousands, even millions, of people every single day and they cope. Let me clarify that I’m not saying ‘so pull yourself up by the bootstraps and stop complaining’. People who suffer adverse conditions find ways to cope. They using a number of coping mechanisms, as we all do, for adverse situations and I think this is what you need to do. Have you thought about online support groups? Facebook communities? You could easily open a second Fb with a different name to help you feel more anonymous. Join groups that relate to everything you suffer through. Lurk in the group at first and see how others interact and what advice they give could help you. Build your confidence by becoming more active within the group at your own pace. Never EVER do something that makes you uncomfortable because it can destroy any progress you make. From watching this video, hearing how you talk, I can tell you’re not stupid: yes, your fears are hindering your progress through life but that’s not the same as being stupid. Being too shy to interact is not the same as being stupid. Being an introvert is not the same as being stupid. You are NOT stupid. I would say that your lack of confidence has skewed your view of every situation. Nobody sees the interactions as negative but you and that’s hard to alter. You will eventually come to a place in your life where you will feel crushed by the world you’ve created for yourself. You will more or less hit a wall. It happens to most of us. You will realise your life simply cannot carry on as it is and you’ll have to make a decision: - Do you give up completely and let the world that’s been created around you destroy you? Because it can and it will or: - Do you get up, dust yourself off, take the biggest, deepest breath you ever have and step out your comfort zone and force life to take you on face-to-face? Again, I’m 48 and I eat like a 5-year-old. I heat up beans, spaghetti, ravioli, Alphabetti Spaghetti on toast or something similar. I’ve no memory, plausibly because of the car accident, but I watched a film I thought I’d never seen before and told someone who said I’d watched it only 2 weeks before. Nothing triggered any recollections and, having been a care worker before the injury, I recognise signs of dementia. As I’m alone, that’s a little concerning. Speaking of work: as a waitress you are more or less forced to communicate either people. Is it not possible for you to transfer that skill into your personal life? I’m also going to say: I’d say I’m confident to around 99% sure of what your secret is and, if it is, I do completely understand. I’ve something I’ve never told another living soul and I never will and I see that look in you. I won’t say any more as the internet is full of Sherlock fckin Holmes’ but you are not alone and you’d be surprised how many people have been there. We all have secrets but if we say we don’t, nobody will pry. Or, worse, figure it out. I’m sure many have offered but if you ever need to chat, or you’re feeling lonely, please don’t be afraid to send me a message either on here or Fb Don’t worry about me being a stalker: as I say, I’ve just had a hip op that seems to have failed. And I’m in Scotland. Please use the advice throughout your comments page to help you see you’re worth so much more than you realise.
I'm basically in the same position. 28, nearly 29. Never kissed or dated. Still hold my v-card. No friends irl. I get on well with my colleagues at work, so I get some social interaction of a sort. I still live with my aging mother. I suffer with many anxieties included mild agoraphobia, social anxiety and have panic attacks. It used to bother me still being a virgin in my early 20's but when I hit 26 I stopped caring. What will be will be. I've come to terms with that. I have many varied hobbies, travel (within the bounds of my agoraphobia) and am becoming highly skilled in my chosen field/career. I started to identify as aro-ace at 26 also, after finding the terms and that has really helped me.
You know what you are? A normal human being pre-internet and social media. You're too young to realize it, of course. But, before all this human connection on a large scale, you were the norm. And, I have to say, it's quite refreshing to see this these days. Keep your head up!
You're still young and have time and if this channel is part of your effort towards whatever goals you might have, then that's great. It's good to not only actualize a goal, but to actualize all the micro goals or micro-milestones that can rationally lead towards that goal. You can learn everything from RU-vid.
What I mean is eventually, at some point, you'll realize whatever you're doing is not working and keep finding out other ways to manage - and one of those will work, or at least 'work out' in a way you can manage. @@sergeantdoomkin8873
I understand well. Many comments have been already very supportive and given good suggestions! You are very articulate, which is proof of your capacities. It only takes a small step in the right direction to make a big change, to find what you like doing. A book club, a language class, … something new might be a start.
This is one of the most straight forward honest and courageous video's I've ever seen. I got no advice to give, I"m not like a lot of the Dr. Phil types in the comment section who have already placed you in a one-size-fits-all box and got an answer to all your problems! I just wanted to let you know I listened without judgement and to hell with being called 'cute'! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Humans, are very visual and require first hand interaction. You cannot be normal and live on the web. Take a part time job that requires numerous interactions like cashier or sales. Stop turning down men who give you compliments or requests for dates. Stop running yourself down. Wear clothes that best display your physical side. Show yourself. Men will come for your physical side. Keep physically near the man you want and show your best attributes. Getting what you want requires boldness.
I relate a lot to you, and i guess you're depressed, honey. Anyway, being normal is overrated, and you're so honest that i think this video is a piece of art. Keep pushing on, girl.
It sounds like you have lost your feeling of purpose. Something that helped me with it is going back to college. And yes im 25 as a freshmen in college. Its a lot of money but we make it work. Youll be puy out of your comfort zone. You arent strange. And youre only 26. embrace both the good and bad that has brought you to this point in life, then keep mooving forward. And you are beautiful. Once you know that, people will see that you own it.
@@sydnayallen6762 Because it works. Have 'they' tried it? Vitamin D effects everything including mental, mood, immune, skeletal...and most Americans are way low on it. Sunlight also crucial for mental state in itself, UV exposure not required. Since vigorous exercise is a requirement of a healthy life regardless, and it's certainly only going to help, do it. For many it seems to be the doorway to a total cure. I get it that if one is consumed by depression it's very difficult to get motivated to do that first step, whatever that step may be. It can become a habit--having a bad day? Workout, rev up the heart for 30 minutes and everything begins to get better. Consume the stress the way it was intended.
Antidepressants won’t help, I’m in identical shoes and anti depressants although change my mood and depression, haven’t helped me change my life around.
there are some things that work for you: 1. you are very young 2. you are healthy, and thats a lot 3. you look great im sure most men would be excited to spend time with you 4. by the way you speak, you are not stupid, you are very articulate, your talk is very clear 5. you have your parents backing you and supporting you 6. about anxiety, you can start step by step to improve it, to get to know yourself better, to know what you want. im suggesting start with breath holds, its straightforward and will bennefit you a lot, especially mentally. for one it will force to let go of that endless loop of destructive thoughts.
