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My Life Isn't Better with a Stoma | Hannah Witton 

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I felt "healthy" for 10 years of my life before my sudden turn and need for surgery. So do I feel like my life was better before? Sort of, yes.
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@hannahwitton
@hannahwitton 5 лет назад
Thank you for watching. Would love to hear your thoughts on this in the comments. What does "healthy" mean to you?
@Marigold11037
@Marigold11037 5 лет назад
I haven't finish the video yet, but I wanted to give my opinion! To me, healthy is just taking care of yourself Eating in a way that isn't harmful to your body, adopting a positive outlook on life (mental health is VERY important) and mainting healthy relationships with others while remaining independant. If you're chronically ill, I guess "healthy" is just "feeling like a person without my illness" Sooo yeah Hope you agree!!
@summerdais325
@summerdais325 5 лет назад
Hannah, your feelings make perfect sense. Unfortunately I don't have a good grasp on what healthy means to me. Like you, I am chronically ill, disabled. I'm unable to work. My life is better than what it was but the med has caused massive weight gain. I want my body back. Make sense? I'm not ungrateful for the improvement, but as a recovered anorexic this is so hard! Sending you much love.
@hannahwitton
@hannahwitton 5 лет назад
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@Cage_Veins
@Cage_Veins 5 лет назад
Hannah Witton I don’t have a chronic illness but i admire you soooo much for being able to share your experiences and talk about your feelings.❤️ Im certainly not mentally healthy and i have Postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome. I’d say being healthy would mean everything physical and mental being in working order.
@Qualityoflifematters101
@Qualityoflifematters101 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah - I can completely relate to what you feel. I have FAP Polyposis, which has - for several years - been managed through the brilliant team at St Marks Hospital in London. Like you, I had years of perfect health, daily tablet to take and twice yearly check ups, but other than that my life and health was fantastic. However, out of the blue the condition mutated itself against the drug, which meant I had to have a Whipple procedure January 2018, and then a permanent Ileostomy at St Marks this last February. The stoma has been all ok so far - but yes, given the option I’d go back to having no bag in a heartbeat. Ultimately though, if the Ileostomy wasn’t completed and my bowel left instead of removed, I’d not be here by the start of next year, so it wasn’t an option. I am very grateful as I have my life though. Your videos have been a HUGE help, leading up to surgery too. I also use the Coloplast Sensura Mio, which is also a big help with the daily managing of the stoma for how good I’ve found the bag to be.
@johnman84
@johnman84 4 года назад
When I was ten years old, I had an emergency surgery to remove my large intestine and get a bag. It was a temporary bag that I had for almost a year I believe. Then they created a j-pouch and hooked me back up. Now I'm 34 and over the last 5 years, my Crohns disease has been getting worse and worse. I flare up for a month or two, (usually two) and then I'm fine for like two weeks and then flare again. It's like my whole life has just been one giant flare up........ I just had another surgery a little over three weeks ago and have another temporary bag. Because of all the scar tissue from all the years of flaring, it made it extremely difficult for the surgeon to create the stoma. It's a loop illiostomy and it barely sticks out at all. In fact it pretty much points down right into the edge of my skin. (I wish I could show you a picture of it...) It's been super frustrating. I am constantly getting skin rashes because the stoma outputs right against the opening of the wafer, and because I don't have a large intestine, the output is super liquidy which makes it really difficult for the wafer to stick properly. Anyways, I totally get how you feel about people thinking that I must be doing so much better and happier now that I had the surgery, which just isn't the case. Sure, I'm not running to the bathroom 20+ times throughout the day and night and the rashes cause by the nighttime accidents, but seriously this is not the outcome I or my surgeon was hoping for. For instance, because the stoma is so low and the liquid output causes the wafer to not stick correctly, I have to use the appliance belt which has to be super tight to pull the wafer down onto my skin to make a seal. But my stomach is so sensitive that the tightness alone really hurts my guts. Alright, well I realise I'm doing a lot of ranting and this was a long comment, but I really enjoyed your video and wanted to share a bit of my story. Thank you so much for sharing your story and letting me know that I'm not alone. (Now I'm off to watch the rest of your videos)
@TightLeather023
@TightLeather023 3 года назад
I would add a prescription pro-biotic. I use Visbiome. It really helps as an adjuct to my Asacol. Stay up, Hannah. Love your channel.
@veta0104
@veta0104 5 лет назад
I think you can acknowledge that your stoma saved you from the illness and flare up but still regret having to deal with what comes with it. It does feel odd having both emotions but I think you're right in feeling both.
@IsabellaChristina98
@IsabellaChristina98 5 лет назад
“However, as someone with a chronic illness ‘healthy’ isn’t a thing. Like it’s not even achievable.” Oof, that was so real.
@charlottepeet1615
@charlottepeet1615 5 лет назад
Hey Hannah! I found this so interesting! I’ve just written my dissertation on how kidney transplants are seen to be ‘a gift’ and massively improve life but actually can make life so difficult and complicated! There comes medication and side effects, a new body, new assumptions and expectations and a whole new attitude! Kidney failure can affect everyone differently - some people can be bed bound, some don’t even notice! Health is so unique!
@kts8900
@kts8900 5 лет назад
I just came across someone on another platform who had renal failure at a young age, had a successful transplant, and then had bipolar flare which caused them to come off their meds and fail the transplant. The guilt and awfulness is so rare - Transplant organs are an obligation and burden and blessing all at once.
@beckymiller5447
@beckymiller5447 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah! I have Crohn's, but no stoma as of now. I completely understand what you mean by thinking of yourself as "healthy" when you are in remission and actually talking lots of medications. Sometimes I can even forget I have a chronic condition. Going from the way I am now to a flare and a stoma would be emotionally devastating, even if it is lifesaving. Being grateful for your life and being grateful for your stoma are two different things. P.S. You have helped me understand that if I need this surgery eventually, a happy and fulfilling life is still possible. Thank you 😊
@obea003
@obea003 4 года назад
Omg this. I know this is late but, i have been fine (with medication) for over a year, practical remission from crohns (i know only for a short time). I am currently experiencing a flare, which absolutely sucks, and i completely forgot how useless i feel and how little i can do during a flare. Its ridiculous. I really hope i dont need a stoma at some point, i know that i will struggle with missing my life as it has been for the past year.
@nancybarton4966
@nancybarton4966 3 года назад
I’m one of the people that woke up in recovery with a totally unexpected ileostomy. Mentally and physically exhausted. Surgery was one month ago. Listening to you makes me feel better even though our situations are not alike. Thank you for posting and know that there are people out here with new ostomies that are watching your videos!!
@MrVato53
@MrVato53 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah, you unpacked allot in this video. I HAD a stoma. I was having intestinal pain, and saw a Doctor. Well one week later woke up after being a coma, with a stoma. I was healthy all my life. In my 50s. After 9 months, I was lucky to have a reversal. I watched your other videos on your life with a stoma. I think I remember you saying that some structure of your intestinal organs had been left intact for the possibility of reconstructing your colon. Not sure if that is still an option. But is so, you want to give that some consideration. Check with your Doctor and see if they can work something out. You are young and are so upbeat. You ooze positivity and enlighten people. I appreciate your videos. Thanks for posting.
@emmacassady4518
@emmacassady4518 5 лет назад
It sounds like you’re struggling with the transition of going from an able bodied person to a disabled person. And it also seems like this is why you feel guilty. Because no one wants to say that life with a disability is worse, in case it gets conflated with disabled people being lesser/not having full lives etc etc. This is something I struggled with when I found out I had narcolepsy. I am still depressed about it, tbh. I wish my life was not this way. But I am working with a therapist and hopefully I will be able to accept it better.
@garybaker466
@garybaker466 3 года назад
Wait i didn't know people with stomas are disabled? Once they recover what can they not do that other people can do?
@emileegrace3989
@emileegrace3989 2 года назад
@@garybaker466 also my thoughts…I have a stoma and I’m pretty sure I’m not disabled. I actually feel more able than before I got my stoma!
@sparrowbarnesmusic5864
@sparrowbarnesmusic5864 2 года назад
Having a stoma is not a disability. Its only a disability if you let it be. Its all about mindset. I have a stoma and have made my life as normal as can be by changing my thinking on how i see the bag and stoma. To me i dont see it as a disability because if i didnt have it id b in lots of pain and stuck at home.
@postcardsfromkatiemay
@postcardsfromkatiemay 5 лет назад
I think it's so brilliant that you've made this video - there must be so many people who are in your position (I know people who went to surgery only a few weeks after being ill). I cannot imagine what it must've been like! I had emergency surgery as well and I know the first few weeks I had that same denial but because I'd been so ill I still saw it as an improvement. Thank you for making this video because you'll have helped so many ostomates (I know a few people who are in a similar position to you who have really appreciated this video!) The whole concept of healthy is really jarring for chronic illness isn't it!
@JenskiC
@JenskiC 5 лет назад
This was a fab video thanks Hannah. I'm autistic and have suffered with OCD since I was a young teenager, and have had a few severe OCD episodes lasting for months to years. I'm currently undergoing an OCD relapse and so I've recently been thinking about how you are made to adjust your concept of "normal" and "healthy" when you have a chronic condition, as even when I'm in "recovery" I'm still taking medication, doing self-administered exposure therapy and probably still have more intrusive/disturbing thoughts than those without my condition. Thanks for opening up about how although it saved your life, having the surgery to get a stoma there are still downsides!
@brieandhoney26
@brieandhoney26 5 лет назад
Imani Barbarin tweeted something similar to "you can hate the disabling condition and still love yourself as a disabled person," which I definitely needed to have affirmed by another chronically ill/disabled person. Passing along in case it's helpful for you/viewers too. I think this concept is definitely applicable to people who identify as chronically ill but not disabled as well.
@Stellaargh
@Stellaargh 5 лет назад
Three years ago, I got Crohn’s and although I am officially in remission, I still can’t work, because of chronic fatigue and all kinds of chronic nastiness 😬 Luckily, my hospital provided me with a psychologist who’s specifically trained to help people deal with illnesses and disabilities. After more than three years, I still struggle a lot, but I feel I am not comparing myself to the old, healthy me all the time. I feel that’s an important part in the process and I hope you can get there, too. I still feel my life kind of sucks now, but I learned how to enjoy it anyhow, without constantly being sad about the healthy life I had lost. All the best to you, Hannah. Your videos help me so much!!!
@thefloatingpiano
@thefloatingpiano 5 лет назад
thank you for opening up about this! you've been such a powerful representation of the invisible illness community, and i appreciate it so much! also, thank you for the hand-written captions! it really means so much.
@mauriciocordoba952
@mauriciocordoba952 5 лет назад
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! It’s great to hear your story
@bethbcrafts
@bethbcrafts 5 лет назад
You did a really good job explaining your experience. I hope it helped you to talk about it and that comments from others help you feel less alone.
@kimflaherty5327
@kimflaherty5327 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah, I just want to say thank you for sharing your experiences online and raising awareness. I work in the NHS and work with patients following stoma surgery (elective and emergency) but only see those people for the brief time that they are in hospital after the surgery. I've enjoyed watching your series following up your long term experiences and I think it's great that you're choosing to share this part of your life online. I'm sure it's helped many other people too, and hopefully helped you to feel more supported also.
@mckayahpugh6554
@mckayahpugh6554 5 лет назад
I just want to say thank you SO MUCH for sharing your life in such an honest way!! It’s helped me feel more comfortable on all the emotional rollercoasters that come with chronic illness.
@Evelleyes85
@Evelleyes85 5 лет назад
I've had crohns disease for 17 years. I totally get where you're coming from. You learn to adapt to your normal, and although you still had your colitis, you felt "normal" and got on with life. I was the same, and the unpredictability of it is so frustrating for me now. I've developed bad symptoms and been struggling on for a few years now, and medication always came to my rescue, but now, I have had everything available on the NHS, and they have all failed and I am officially getting surgery. Everything must go. So big adjustments will be coming for me too. Your videos help massively and you come across so positively. You pointed me in the direction of other youtubers and that has helped me with my research which is so reassuring. I'm glad I'm not as much of an emergency as you were. I have at least a little time to learn and adjust. So dont feel guilty for how you feel, this was sudden for you, and that is a traumatic experience. It is natural that you would have a different path. Thank you for this and your other videos, xxx
@mczerwona1
@mczerwona1 5 лет назад
I'm very happy that you started speak about it, because I think that it's what we need. Saying that life with a stoma is better is not exactly true. I also have ulcerative colitis and have a flare up two years now, probably everybody with a UC can imagine how exhaustive it is. When you loosing a hope that will be better sometime. I was considering a surgery in my mind after I heard about you and your channel last year (I truly cried because of what happened to you). Anyway when I did a research about it, there were some people who want to warn people against thinking about stoma surgery as a solving all the problems with UC, because it's not. Many people can feel even worse than before the surgery and have lots of complications after that. Of course many times the surgery is saving a life, but shouldn't be considering as a cure for a UC. I wish you and everybody with UC lots of strength to survive and good luck!
@ellenwoolley
@ellenwoolley 5 лет назад
This video is SO conflicting for me. I did not elect for surgery, it was emergency like yours and I wasn’t even told before that a stoma was an option they thought it was just going to be a tiny resection but ohhh no it was a big surprise! I am still super glad I have the bag because of all the long term effects of the medication that would have killed me/ shortened my life before the crohns did. The bag isn’t so bad 99% of the time, but you do have to adjust your life a little and yes be a bit grateful for the things you can do now that you can’t in a flare up. I do think you can’t think of yourself in remission as a ‘healthy’ person, because really you weren’t. Always happy to chat if you want to, I completely get your point of view!
@xdannigirl
@xdannigirl 5 лет назад
Hannah, never feel guilty for having these emotions. They're totally normal. It sucks that this is the hand you've been dealt, and I don't think anyone would ever tell you differently. If it helps, you could try being honest. "Well, my last flare-up nearly killed me so it's definitely better than that, but my symptoms weren't constant so I do miss being able to live a normal day-to-day life doing whatever I wanted."
@kuridge8607
@kuridge8607 5 лет назад
Thank you... just thank you for putting a voice to everything that I am thinking/going through right now. Just became an ostomate in January after 14 years of being a "healthy person" with UC. I can't think of a better phrase to describe my feelings about it better than "it's complicated."
@420Shortay
@420Shortay 5 лет назад
I became an ostomate at birth and I just turned 30. It is all I know and I dont know life with out it. I for sure get down on the fact that I cant related to it being this positive life change. Sending my love and do not feel guilty!
@stagetopage
@stagetopage 5 лет назад
This video made me cry, Hannah. I have a chronic illness called PoTS, which I've had for 8 years. 2 years ago, I was bed-bound and couldn't leave the house. Then I got referred to a top neurologist who has helped me massively, but I'm still unable to work a normal job etc, but everyone tells me how lucky I am, and how much happier I must be...and honestly, I still feel just as unhappy because my life is still affected massively - so I totally get the guilt that comes with "getting better" about being "healthier". It really is so wonderful to feel less alone after watching this video - you're truly an inspiration ❤
@kay-eh7qg
@kay-eh7qg 5 лет назад
Thank you Hannah for making this video! it's good to hear people's experiences that as you said go against the norm narritave. I've got crohns disease and thought I would mention that I've found a lot of articles in the media that imply their IBD has not stopped them from 'leading the life they want' narritave. I find this soo unhelpful because I'm not in a place where I can relate and I feel my IBD has done nothing but stop me doing any activity that's remotely tiring and I've gone from a yes person to a no person. So I honestly think hearing about other people still struggling and not being okay helps me to feel less alone and frustrated that I've not bounced back. Thankyou for pointing out the complexity and individuality of this rollercoaster of IBD we're on. All the best x
@lisawright8392
@lisawright8392 5 лет назад
I thought I may be the only person feeling this way. I had surgery for temporary ileostomy with j-pouch 11 years ago. During reversal my bowel was perforated and I ended up with the "temporary ileostomy" I have now. I now have PTSD due to the emergency surgery and complications, and am awaiting surgery for a permanent ileostomy. I miss my colon despite the fact I had to wear incontinence pants to go out. I felt more in control and always had a plan. My ileostomy is very high output and I constantly worry about catching viruses that will put me back in hospital. It's hard to stay hydrated and I'm more afraid to go out now than I felt before surgery. I constantly feel guilty about feeling this way, but I miss my old body and life and if there had been a medicinal alternative I would have chosen it. Thank you so much for sharing.
@spoiledvamp27
@spoiledvamp27 5 лет назад
Thank you for sharing your complex feelings on this! These experiences are not always cut and dry. And I think it's important to share those complex feelings so others going through similar struggles know they're not alone and so those of us (like me) who didn't even know what UC or a stoma was before your videos, can learn how to better be supportive and knowledgeable about what our future friends, colleges, family members, or even selves could be going through.
@gael4787
@gael4787 5 лет назад
you're feelings are totally valid! i started having seizures in november and ive had a diagnosis and medication for about a month now. people will say to me "ah things will get better" but im still having seizures, im taking medications multiple times a day and it genuinely feels like my life is worse now. but i guess people are seeing me as how sick i was since november and im seeing myself as how i was before (maybe cause i can't remember shit when ive had a seizure lol). but idk it's all so fresh so im still not coping with it yet
@sarahmorley1031
@sarahmorley1031 5 лет назад
So sorry to hear of your Ill health. Sending u the biggest hug x
@gael4787
@gael4787 5 лет назад
@@sarahmorley1031 aww thanks, so sweet!
@aliciawei4809
@aliciawei4809 5 лет назад
I have a chronic severe mental illness that started when I was 19 years old. The two things that helped me deal with the fact that my life was objectively better before is 1) admitting that I can’t change my situation. This is normal and okay and I’m not going to die and I’m going to still be loved and lusted and reach my goals. It will just take more time. And 2) I have gained things out of this experience that I would have never otherwise. I was forced to form a very close relationship with my parents, learn to identify and choose truly good hearted people to be in my life, appreciate the day to day experience of being alive as opposed to gaining satisfaction from crossing off big ticket bucket list achievements, gain a new level of empathy and the ability to stay positive and internally at peace even when facing hardships. So to summarize, I feel like I’ve stopped struggling with my post mental illness life through: understanding that I need to accept that my mental illness can be debilitating, knowing that I can do things to control how out of control it gets, and focusing on the strengths that I gained out that I wouldn’t have otherwise.
@Birkinbag09
@Birkinbag09 3 года назад
Alicia Wei my experience with mental health is the same.
@bobbihowell2162
@bobbihowell2162 3 года назад
I've just found your channel and i am loving it! I have a chronic illness, I was diagnosed at 11 and ended up needing 2 bowel reactions within 10 months of eachother, they wanted to put a aroma on then but I was terrified and asked them to do their best and I am very grateful that in the end I haven't had one fitted. However, I suffered with flare ups and symptoms for years afterwards however never as extreme as before the operations. My illness "went in to remission" 3 years ago, I'm 24 now but still suffer with all of the same symptoms. Unfortunately the specialist hasn't found anything that has fixed me yet, they think a lot of the pain is due to nerve damage which, for that, there isn't much that can be done. It's just something that I have had to learn to work my life around. That being said however, I find gratitude and happiness in the fact that I truly appreciate the good days. I think when we are well and healthy sometimes we don't appreciate it enough, as it is just a given, but when you've been very poorly you can find positives in every day, especially the good ones and you make the most of them when they come. I hope that makes sense! 😅 Thank you for sharing your honest feelings! It's nice to hear a different experience.
@cassandradabling2431
@cassandradabling2431 5 лет назад
Thank you for telling us what's going on with you. I am going through a similar experience with people assuming I should be feeling better but I'm not. Friends, family and doctors all say it to me "you must be feeling better by now." As far as dealing with guilt... I'll let you know when I learn how. Thank you for another great video. Thanks for making me feel normal for a few minutes. 😊
@hayleyroche3259
@hayleyroche3259 5 лет назад
I completely understand you!! I was hospitalised around the same time you were and was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease affecting both my stomach and my small intestine. I was so so so I’ll while waiting for a diagnosis to the point where I nearly had a heart attack because my potassium was so low, my heart was really struggling. While I’m on a life saving drug now (Humira) and I am so much healthier than I was while I was in a flare, I really wish I didn’t have the disease. I went from being the “healthiest” I ever was (running every day, eating really well and my mental health was the best it has ever been) to the sickest I have ever been. IBD is a real struggle but props to you for normalising it Hannah!! ❤️
@nelek.4225
@nelek.4225 5 лет назад
Feeling you, same thing here but I have UC.
@FreyaJeffries
@FreyaJeffries 5 лет назад
Thank you so much for talking complexly about illness and disability. I don't usually comment as I don't have a chronic illness, but I really related to your feelings of guilt as I experienced this when I had cancer last year. As you say, how people respond to treatments/surgeries is complex and while I felt super grateful for the treatment I received last year, how "lucky" I was hammered into so much that I felt guilty about having negative feelings about treatment. Obviously this was a very different situation, but I really related to what you said about people projecting ideas/feelings onto you and how it can feel so uncomfortable. I hope this makes sense, and thanks again for opening up important conversations!
@FreyaJeffries
@FreyaJeffries 5 лет назад
*hammered into me so much
@cloudsinvenice
@cloudsinvenice 5 лет назад
The other thing - I know, giant comment and then I have more to say! - is that I think a lot of us, when we got our stomas, felt like we had a responsibility to be open about it to decrease the stigma. And obviously that's great - you are one of the people who helped me to feel I could cope with this thing! But I think that can have a cost for us because it does make it harder to acknowledge that getting a stoma is not anyone's ideal life change, and it can indeed feel like we're "supposed to" have the feelings that go with being out and proud about it. But we're emotionally complex creates and it's good to see videos like yours acknowledge that.
@qbecks9557
@qbecks9557 5 лет назад
The relationship you described with your condition is really relatable to me from a mental health point of view. I think there's a big intersection between chronic illness, disability, and mental health conditions, in regards to working out what your personal definition of "healthy" is. I don't think it's talked about enough. Thank you for this video!!
@machedavvero
@machedavvero 5 лет назад
I relate to this. I have an invisible illness too. Thank you so much for your honesty and openness about it 💕
@charislouise8173
@charislouise8173 5 лет назад
I'm loving how your channel is evolving - videos like this are so important and whilst you may not have imagined creating content like this a few years ago, I'm sure that it means a lot to so many people 💙
@amypirie573
@amypirie573 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah, so good to hear this. I've been diagnosed with UC for 4 1/2 years now currently managing with shed loads of medications/treatment. A stoma seems like my worst nightmare and every time I have a flare up I panic like crazy that this is the one! It's nice (and scary!) to see someone speak so openly about what having a stoma can be like. There is a lot of positive things out there about a stoma which I believe are too good to be true!! "Healthy" to me is a day where I complete everything I set out to do without noticing the pain! :)
@Zoxy17
@Zoxy17 5 лет назад
I don't think anyone, stoma or no stoma should assume in the first place. No "you must be this or that". The thing is they should be asking "How are you coping?" And that's it. But, it's how people are, thinking that their own experience makes them the most competent to speak about anyone. And they mean well, usually. Please don't ever feel guilty for anything like that. You give so much to the community, so be proud of yourself and allow yourself to feel.
@elenam7476
@elenam7476 5 лет назад
Hannah rambling and being her own therapist without realizing it !! We are here for you babe😘
@WaistHighView
@WaistHighView 5 лет назад
Love that you're talking about this, thanks for sharing! Not the same but similar - I've had two surgeries (hip and back), and both of them were preventative rather than improving anything. So I become 'worse' after each one, never fully 'recovering', for example I stopped walking after my hip surgery (but my disability is progressive, so I would have stopped walking at some point anyway). For me it's always been important to keep that big picture in mind, and how much worse I would have been without the surgeries - but then I have always very much been disabled, so although it was different I didn't have a drastic shift from 'healthy' to sick. Though that doesn't mean that I don't sometimes feel resentful, and I've found that it's really important to allow myself to feel, as long as I'm not consumed by it. It sucks, and that's it sometimes, and that's okay. With other people, in my experience, it's really important for THEM to hear that I'm 'okay', and in their mind I go to hospital and get surgeries etc. to get better, not just to maintain or prevent. I think the full life of 'chronic illness' is such an alien concept to most that I don't really bother trying (unless we're close), and I just nod and say it's better :P So again, thanks for doing the heavy lifting and talking about this sort of thing.
@chloewenham-sanders5078
@chloewenham-sanders5078 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah!! Your videos have made me feel so much better, and more confident, since my Ileocecal Resection... I went into surgery being told that there was a 90% chance I would have no Stoma... and I woke up 6 and a half hours later with one.... since having him (my Stoma is called Barrie!) I’ve felt really up and down.... some days, feeling lots better, and other days emotionally struggling so much with the look of my new body.... I was very much like you. I felt like a healthy person. And now I constantly look like a sick person... I’m so grateful that you’re brave enough to voice your opinion. My surgery is reversible, hopefully, but at the moment, I’m very resentful of my IBD....... Lots of love and hugs. You’re such a rockstar. I really appreciate you ❤️
@CarolynDenison
@CarolynDenison 4 года назад
I understand that feeling of being on my own.2019 hasn't started out being one of my better years. I have tried reaching out, but I think maybe I'll be needing a therapist to walk me through emotionally. You keep doing what your doing Sweetness. You gaining in leaps and bounds. So happy to see someone having better days now. Your channel watchers are so happy for your progress.
@thekatzcorner
@thekatzcorner 4 года назад
I'm unfortunately one of those unhelpful people who had an ileostomy whose life has drastically improved, but i can totally understand where you're coming from. for me, it would be like people asking me whether life was so much better having a stoma than before i'd ever been diagnosed. which, duh. going from being healthy to dealing with something so huge is never going to be easy, but your feelings are totally valid and you've helped me so much by helping me be less scared about my surgery in the lead up and giving me optimism about my recovery, so thank you. i hope you can also get the help you need!
@pinkbagster
@pinkbagster 4 года назад
Hello Hannah, I'm new to your channel but not new to my stoma. I was diagnosed with UC seven and a half years ago and had my colon removed 7 years ago. Thank you so much for this video and sharing how you feel. My surgery was lifesaving and I am grateful for that but I do miss my pre stoma life.. It most definitely is complicated. I am not going to go into it here but it has not been a straight forward journey since my surgery. I think your description of your feelings probably is the most 'normal' way to feel. Certainly one of the most honest descriptions I've came across and I thank you for sharing that honesty.
@ddc1986
@ddc1986 5 лет назад
Thank you for sharing your story. I have had UC for four years but I constantly hear my thoughts tell me you’re not healthy your chronically ill no one understands BUT after about two years of doubt I finally accepted the disease. You are strong and being honest makes you vulnerable and real. You are saying everything most people with out condition think about. I constantly think about how much I wish I could go back and somehow prevent getting this disease but thinking in the past only drives you down unnecessary paths.
@cheezdagratest
@cheezdagratest 4 года назад
First of all thank you for having this vlog and being so honest. What does 'healthy' mean to me: Days without pain and feeling like I can do anything I could ever do. I'm disabled so I can't and I know that. If I can FEEL like it, though, I'm having a damn good day. Thank you for acknowledging that we have to deal with the negative feelings. I've been sick for 26 years - diagnosed (kinda) for 20. I remember what it was like not dealing with illness all of the time. Looking back I can see I was always dealing with the symptoms but I didn't know, so I didn't have this burden. Would love to have that easier life back. I remember and I mourn it.
@sylviavandermeiden3566
@sylviavandermeiden3566 5 лет назад
Hello Hannah, i have now 3 weeks my illeostoma. I had collitis ulcerosa, i had almost never complaints with my disease. But they found poliepen with cancercells. I understand your feelings because i think also the same. (Sorry for my bad english) Greets from the netherlands!😘
@ledzepgirlnmful
@ledzepgirlnmful 5 лет назад
Hannah, I do understand how you're feeling about life with a stoma. I don't have ulcerative colitis like you do, but, I lost my stomach to gastroparesis. I live with a feeling tube in my jejunum. It can be overwhelming at times dealing with the constant care of the stoma site, having wound care supplies with you, and in my case, hauling my feeding pump with me in a backpack can be a drag at times. Some days are better than others, as you can attest. But, being alive and dealing with our health issues is better than not being alive. You are such an inspiration, and I keep you in my thoughts and 🙏!! Xx from Genevieve in the USA
@franjopesut2740
@franjopesut2740 4 года назад
Thanks for talking openly about these problems. After two years of listening that I have IBS, I was finally diagnosed with dolichosigma. They cut out 50 cm of my colon, and even though it fixed some problems, I still live with pain. I keep hoping it will go away with time, but one thing is for sure - I will never be the same again.
@savannah8458
@savannah8458 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah, I've enjoyed watching you as we have both experienced new life events and grown our different ways. Ever since I was young I suffered with mental illness and was later diagnosed with a personality disorder. I always knew I was different or abnormal mental health-wise and although obviously it's hard and can feel unfair, I feel like I've had a lot of time to remove stigma from mental illness and see the "good" in how my brain is and what I have experienced in therapy as now I feel I can share what I've learned and I have communication and interpersonal skills I may not have had otherwise. However, last year, I was suddenly diagnosed with cancer at 21 years old, and up until then, I considered myself to be quite "normal" and healthy physically. I have finished chemotherapy but will continue to get scans every three months to check for return of cancer and it feels like a very chronic condition despite others celebrating that I'm "cured" following chemo. It feels like a waiting game and somehow, I feel more limited in my cancer chronic illness than the chronic mental illness that has affected me for so much longer. I understand like you, to be grateful to receive treatment and be alive, AND, acknowledge that the subsequent accommodations to daily life that are now necessary with having a physical chronic illness aren't fun. I don't really have a neat way of summarizing my thoughts nor do I really have a sure conclusion, but thank you Hannah, for being honest and vulnerable and raising awareness on things we may not yet feel confident to talk about to others.
@joshb7326
@joshb7326 5 лет назад
Hannah, I think your one of the bravest people I ever seen. I have never had any chronic illness but I still listen to your story as it inspires me to stay positive.
@tipsyrobot3817
@tipsyrobot3817 5 лет назад
My girlfriend has and I've always been kinda very scared about it being severe enough to warrent a stoma. So thankyou so much for you realism and honesty, it really does help
@Stomanner
@Stomanner 5 лет назад
Interesting to mention how healthy you felt before the whole illness and Stoma took place. I I too was extremely healthy in body and mind - watching what I ate and drank to be fit, then Crohn's came on after a stressful time with work and caused problems for years. I'm now positive again with a Stoma! I've had it for 6 years and have just started RU-vid videos into our community. You are a great inspiration and start for all to get their message out. Thanks
@Fescueful
@Fescueful 5 лет назад
SAMEE! I supper from join inflamation for past 7 years, meaning being diagnosed while beeing 15. The thing is, on every day baisis, I feel pretty good but I can’t do certain things and it leaves me feeling vournelable. It’s hard to get used to the new lifestyle and new boundrie for your body. A relief, surely. Knowing that your pain wasn’t made up is helpful, but living among your friends not being able to perform, not so much. Hannah, don’t get guilty. Everyone wants to feel safe AND healthy and any sicknes is anyones choice. What you said is’t ungreatful. It’s natural and healthy to think (or dream) about being healthy.
@speleokeir
@speleokeir 5 лет назад
I can relate to that. When I was 13 I was diagnosed with Osgood Slater's and then Sever's disease. These aren't actually diseases, but were connected to my adolescent growth spurt. Basically my bones were growing so fast it put my tendons under huge strain which caused pain first in my knees (it felt like when you've smacked your knee on something hard and it throbs for ages, except it lasted all day) and later in my achilles and heels (this was *really* painful. On a bad day just flexing my foot felt like someone had thrust a red hot poker into my achilles and I couldn't even stand up). Most days though I could just about hobble between my classes at school, but not much else. Stairs were particularly painful and I dreaded them more than a Dalek does. I went to various specialists and consultants who all said there was no treatment, I just had to wait until my growth spurt was over. In the meantime any extra stress e.g. from exercise or a fall would most likely snap all the tendons in my legs which would mean major surgery, being in plaster for 6 months and leave me on crutches or in a wheelchair for life. Osgood Slater's isn't that uncommon and usually only lasts 3-9 months, but all the specialists said I was the most extreme case they'd ever seen by some distance (it's unusual to have Sever's at the same time too) and it affected me for nearly 3 years. This had a major effect on my life in various ways: 1) Firstly I became increasingly isolated as I couldn't join in stuff with my friends, not just the activities themselves, but also when they were talking about their adventures it was difficult for me to join in the conversation. 2) My mother made it clear how much a nuisance my condition was to her and my father, so I felt guilty about that. 3) I couldn't do PE, but because there were no visible symptoms my P.E teacher said I was faking it (despite me showing him medical notes from several specialists saying under no account must I do any exercise and referring him to my Tutor and Year Head). Every week he tried to bully and humiliate me into doing P.E anyway and would shout at me when I refused (my fear of being crippled for life was greater than my fear of him). This in turn encouraged the other kids to bully me, most didn't believe there was anything wrong with me. Soon all my friends shunned me too and for the next couple of years nobody wanted to sit by me in class or talk to me. I discovered later they were scared of getting the same treatment if they associated with me, but at the time I didn't understand that and just thought everyone hated me including all my old friends, but I didn't know why since I'd never done anything to anybody. From being reasonably popular I suddenly went to being utterly friendless. 4) Whilst all my old friends were going to teenage discos and getting their first snogs and girlfriends I was at home on my own. I thought all the girls must think me a pathetic coward for not standing up to my bullies (I'd been warned that if I got into a scrap even a mild impact to my knee from a blow or fall could cripple me for life, so just took all the shit coming my way and tried not to react). One girl did ask me out, she suggested ice skating and various other things, even just going for a walk, but I couldn't even do that. Pretty much the only thing I could do was watch TV, not very exciting or romantic, especially with all my family being there too and she obviously thought I was making excuses and didn't like her, so then I felt guilty about that. 5) All the above had a massive effect on my self confidence and mental health which was far worse than the physical restrictions and pain. I was living in constant pain/discomfort, fear of being permanently crippled, paranoid (because everyone *was* out to get me) and suffered badly from low self esteem, anxiety and depression. I felt utterly helpless and alone and became suicidal. Although my physical problems lasted less than 3 years and ended when my growth spurt finished the mental effects lasted for years and even today I feel like I missed out on a big chunk of the growing up process, especially those early learning experiences of how to interact romantically with girls ( I didn't get my first snog until uni and even then I was nearly 20). Compared to Hannah and many others my physical problems were minor and only temporary and I'm very fortunate in comparison. And the bullying and trauma I went through is trivial compared to many people's (I know a couple of people, including an ex, who were sexually abused as kids). Despite knowing that, a bit of me still wonder's if my life might have been very different if I hadn't had the Osgood Slater's and Sever's. The one good thing is that the experience made me a lot more empathetic to other people who are having a tough time and whenever life gets shit I can look back and think: "At least things aren't as bad as then and if I got though that I can get through this." P.S. Sorry for waffling on for so long!
@BananaSplitBlitz
@BananaSplitBlitz 5 лет назад
Thank you so much for this video. I have Crohn's and when I had my stoma I struggled with the same feelings. I frequent an online support community and most people agree their lives are so much better with a stoma. But I hated mine and was so depressed. Thanks again and I hope your UC can stay under control!
@islandvet12
@islandvet12 5 лет назад
As a young person with a chronic disease that resulted in multiple surgeries with a butt ton of complications, I hear you! I really love your perspectives and hearing your thought process when it comes to these tougher subjects. I’m also not sorry I had surgery - it saved my life. But it left me with chronic pain and multiple challenges. It’s impossible not to sometimes long for the days when life was easier. I sometimes see my life as a before and after, as I drastically changed as a person (for better or worse) as a direct result of my surgeries. Much love to you, Hannah. ❤️
@brobotbrogan
@brobotbrogan 5 лет назад
Thank you so much for making this video! I had a very bad curvature of the spine and I was forced to have a fusion a couple years ago. If I hadn’t of had the fusion my rib cage would’ve caved in on my lung and heart and who knows what could’ve happened. I am extremely grateful for the surgery. However, it has also ruined me. I got a huge stomach ulcer that somehow erupted during the spine surgery and nearly ended up with stoma. The fusion is almost my entire spine and it’s very painful. There’s so much I can’t do and I have to take so many medicines that my head is foggy all the time. I feel so bad for being unhappy about my condition as I’m so lucky to have had the opportunity to correct my spine. I 100% know where you’re coming from although obviously I have no idea what you go through day to day. Once again, thank you so much for sharing your story and your feelings. It’s so lovely to know I’m not the only one who feels rotten for not being overly happy about my surgery❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@cyprusatken549
@cyprusatken549 4 года назад
Thank you for talking about this openly on your channel! My mom has cancer and got an ileostomy to help with her recovery. I’m her caretaker and it’s been a really amazing learning opportunity. Very, very stressful, but I’m going to have a lot of really funny and gross stories to laugh about later.
@roellie5456
@roellie5456 5 лет назад
I really appreciate this video and your honesty within it. I don’t know if it helps at all - I have Crohn’s disease and had an emergency ileostomy after my bowel ruptured. I struggled with exactly what you talk about, particularly the guilt. The way I dealt with it was I stopped thinking of my life as ‘before stoma or after stoma’ and just allow myself to think about my life. As a whole and as a continuum, my life at 16 and no stoma was great fun and relatively stress free, my life at 18 was painful, horrific and terrifying and no stoma. My life at 19 was bed ridden but WITH a stoma. 20 was healthy, happy with a stoma and at 21 I was healthy, happy with no stoma. Now I am 27, no stoma but really struggling with a fistula, pain and inflammation. I try to think less of ‘before’ and ‘after’ and just take each day as it comes. A stoma is on the cards again and rather than imagining that being the rest of my life I simply think about ‘right, on Tuesday I might have a bag’ Its made a huge difference in my mental health and my acceptance of my chronic illness. I did the same with my medication. I struggled with the idea of injecting every week, but rather than thinking about the fact that I might have to do it forever I changed that mindset and thought about the injection I was currently doing, and tried to remain thankful for all it did for my body. Of course there are days when I get pissed off and frustrated at the fact I have no choice about all of this, but to take it day by day and remind myself of why I take the medication and how surgery/having a bag might help there and then - it really calms my mind! I dont know if this made any sense! Haha! But if anyone wants to chat about it send me a message on my blog - www.sallystoma.wordpress.com 😊 x
@melissalewis8803
@melissalewis8803 4 года назад
You asked so many questions at once. Lol. You are darling 😍. I just got a stoma. (Ileostomy) Monday will be 2 weeks. You are one of the RU-vidrs I watched when I found out before my procedures. Unfortunately my chronic disease was cancer. For several several years and different kinds, but the last 3 years anal cancer. The radiation has changed my body, in ways I keep thinking I should have been told about, but wasn't. The extremities of the side effects of radiation and chemo, kept me chronically ill for three years. So ill, that during that same time I had 17 surgeries. I always feel guilty for any negative thoughts I have about my new me or complaining about life and my new challenges. I am so painfully aware that others don't get theses opportunities, procedures or that they don't always work or live to receive them. With lots of procedures medicine wide. However, I still give value to my experience and my feelings along the way. I am also always grateful. I am also always a human and with that I am allowed the human experience. Grieving is part of that. Yes, you are allowed to say my life was better. Now, you can move forward. Still missing the you of the then and also beginning to appreciate and love the new you and figure out how to continue to navigate it with the positive energy, love, understanding and intelligent discussion I have been drawn to in you. Move forward in your journey and keep feeling and expressing your thoughts as you did before. Keep them real and keep coming out stronger 💪💪💪. That's what I tend to do. I have been on my medical journey since I was 13. Cancer since 24. I am 49. I was blessed with a baby. He is now 27. Will be 28 this year. 👵 Feeling my age, remembering my yesterday's and planning my tomorrows. I fill them with as much love, time, reflection and fun as possible crazy fun. Memories fun. I wish you well my dear. Until the next time I am draw to respond to one of your videos, I also wish you patience with yourself. We are go getters. That's okay. In fact it's great. Don't ever apologise for living your sickness your way. But know it's natural to feel guilty for some of our thoughts.
@comptekwebdesign
@comptekwebdesign 5 лет назад
Firstly I love your style of speaking on the video, you come across very confident, which is something I lost when I had my Stoma. I was healthy, no bowel problems at all (apart from I had interception when I was 3), then one day I got a perforation from an infected Diverticulitis pocket, again never knew I had diverticulitis, so I was rushed for emergency surgery and woke with a Stoma, my life instantly was destroyed, I struggled every day and it was my wife that was my rock and kept me going, I was promised a reversal after 3 months, which turned to 6 months, then a year and then I finally got a reversal after 2 years when I ultimately broke down to my surgeon. The minute I woke up from my reversal, I instantly regretted it, that regret lasted a good 3 months, and yes it is still hard as my “toilet” trips and not like they used to be they are definitely more frequent, but I am glad I have had the second chance to live without a Stoma, I have since come to terms and accepted that ultimately I believe I will end up with another Stoma at some point in my life, but at least when it happens, like you say, I will be better prepared mentally for it.
@koala4996
@koala4996 5 лет назад
Good on ya. Having people telling you how you should feel about a medical condition is not fun, especially when it's life-threatening and debilitating (and carrying meds and shit everywhere is a bit of a pain too). I know that feeling when you want to scream them and go "no, actually I'm not enjoying myself having this, thanks very much" but having to nod and smile instead. ARGH! I'm glad this popped up as a suggestion for me, I think it's really admirable that you're very committed to honesty for the sake of opening up discussion for other people and you 100% shouldn't feel guilty about sharing, everyone deserves support, I think that takes a lot of bravery and strength. So thank you :)
@koala4996
@koala4996 5 лет назад
I'm also glad I saw this for selfish reasons, a few days ago I ended up in hospital for an allergic reaction, got off lightly though, all I have to deal with is a few pills, but it gave me a fright, and I'm not looking forward to the attitude I'm going to get when the long weekend ends and my family start spreading the news.
@benitahabkirk7551
@benitahabkirk7551 5 лет назад
Thank you Thank you Thank you for this video! I'm having surgery in a week! A Week! My situation isn't an emergency (yet) but my doc says I have no other option then surgery and I have all the feels on what you are saying! I wouldn't choose this either, and I hear a lot of the same things you mentioned but on the other side. 'Oh you're *going* to feel so much better... you're *going* to get your life back' my problem is my flare has been ongoing for over a year and now coming up to surgery I'm actually feeling better. Better within my own UC experience but still Better then being tied to the toilet every moment of the dang day! Doctor still says Surgery :( I think "Healthy" is relative to your own experience. I wouldn't' say that you were unhealthy during your 10 year remission. You were the healthiest you could be Within having a chronic disease. And I say not having a flare for 10 years is pretty dang healthy! Thank you again. Your (UC/Stoma) videos are helping me so much.
@sarahmorley1031
@sarahmorley1031 5 лет назад
Wishing u all the luck with your surgery. You have this in the bag (no pun intended.) Everyones experience is so different so I can't say everything will be great but you're strong and you can do this. I had my stoma surgery 5 months ago now and I'm still adapting to my new life. But I definitely don't miss the pain I went through before my stoma. Hannah and other you tubers that discuss stomas are a God send, I learnt so much from them. Be kind to yourself and just take it a day at a time. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Lots of love from a fellow ostomate xx
@yanad6980
@yanad6980 5 лет назад
Benita Habkirk sending you all the, big hugs and good luck with the surgery !!! X x x
@Moonbreathmouse
@Moonbreathmouse 4 года назад
Hi Hannah I have only watched the first minute and already want to say thank you. The overwhelming amount of positive inspo vids pissed me off for two years because I simply couldn't relate. I wasn't there yet and maybe never would be. I just needed it to be ok that I wasnt ok. I'm just here to say Hooray!!!! Nothing else x
@carolinmetz3002
@carolinmetz3002 5 лет назад
Thanks again for your videos! As you said in this one, it helps a lot seeing people like you dealing with a stoma. I don't have one yet, but I probably will soon. I try not to think to much about the fact that I'm chronical ill. One thought that helps me: Noone knows what is going to happen tomorrow, even the most healthy person can have an accident the next day ( I hope they don't, of course!!) and even a chronical ill person can lead a "normal" life. But yes, in my times of remission, I felt healthy, I didn't think of me as an ill person. So I can totally understand you! Thank you for your support!!!
@lisatakeitorleaveit
@lisatakeitorleaveit 5 лет назад
Great content! Just found your channel :-) my fiancée has his surgery 25 years ago and had a j-pouch surgery 22 years ago and he manages very well! I have learned a lot in the process! He only had one attack and he was in the hospital for 85 days on steroids... when they told him he had to have everything removed he was happy to just not be suffering so much and on what he felt was his deathbed... love your content!
@maevewolf8580
@maevewolf8580 5 лет назад
This is so so helpful to here, especially the healthy/not-healthy discourse. I have crohns and don't have a stoma, but am still transitioning from seeing health as a possibility or something to strive for and now realising that what is 'healthy' for me will look drastically different for other people. I have to take lots of medication each day, and I'm gaining more and more intolerance to foods, and the suddenness with which the flare up that led me to diagnosis came has made me aware that things could suddenly take a turn at any moment. My version of a healthy day might mean eating nothing but crisps because they don't cause me to have any weird reaction like most fruits and veg do, and that's still taking adjusting to realise and learn and not punish myself for! I think each person with IBD has such different versions of personal health and it can be really hard to validate yourself with them when normal ideas of 'health' are everywhere!
@LinnoNZ
@LinnoNZ 5 лет назад
I love this discussion. I have ulcerative colitis too and have been in remission for 15 years. It's been so long that I do take it for granted that I actually have a chronic illness. I recently had a mild flare up and it reminded me that I'm not 'safe' from flare ups just because it's been so long. It rattled me quite a bit as I had that mindset that I was 'healthy' so if felt super disappointing and 'unfair' that I got sick. Your video is a good reminder that it's an unpredictable illness. Not that I should be paranoid about getting sick, but just that I do have to be okay with knowing my situation can change and things might not always be so peachy. It's easy to get rattled by bumps in the road if they appear to come out of nowhere. So it's good to be realistic about it sometimes.
@catherinesvideos156
@catherinesvideos156 5 лет назад
Thank you for this video. The accepted narratives about illness pretty much all fall apart when you have to live them for more than about five minutes but people writ large still fall back on them because they're all we've got in a lot of cases. For me, I had a life-threatening illness at age 4, so don't remember that "before" time when I was a healthy person, but, after having gone through 6 years of treatment, I've been cured for almost 20 years. It took ages to think of myself as a healthy person, in part because the treatment I had to have can have serious medical consequences decades later, and because the enormity of what happened to me left me with pretty serious PTSD that I'm still working through. So when people are like "oh well its so good that's all behind you now" I don't know what to say, because it still has an enormous presence in my life.
@torib796
@torib796 5 лет назад
I'm on year 9 of my UC remission right now. Funnily enough, I was also diagnosed at 15. I'm glad you mentioned the thing about chronic illnesses always being there despite not "feeling sick". I don't identify as being ill because I'm not dealing with symptoms, but I think I should start so that I can take care of myself better. I can't really afford my maintenance medication, so I've been opting not to take it because "it's not like I need it right now anyways" but I'm realizing now that's not a very healthy way to think about it. Thank you for talking about this!
@KittenInACave
@KittenInACave 5 лет назад
Honestly Hannah, how you feel is OK! It just is! We all have different reactions to things. (I'm also willing to bet those positive testimonies from people whose lives were changed by their stoma, for the better, still have times where they aren't really coping with it emotionally and just struggle with it!!) I've been ill with multiple chronic malarkies for 23 odd years now and I have my ups and downs that's for sure! But noone has the right to make you feel like your experience, your feelings, are less relevant than someone else's! Because they aren't. I can tell how hard this video was for you and how emotional you were, so I think you were really brave to make it! Hang in there. And keep being YOU!
@ThetaAllardyce
@ThetaAllardyce 5 лет назад
You have my sympathy so much, and your experience is so valid. I can relate to this, with mental illness. Which is very different from your situation - of course. But some things are similar. Here's part of my story: But yeah, most of my life I've felt fine and healthy, and then I've had a few anxiety attacks once in a while, which have been bad, but I was stil able to deal with the attacks. But since I started my 20s, I've had a couple of periods where my mental illness has been so bad, so friggin' bad, in a way that has kinda traumatized me. It has happened a few times that my anxity has made med feel like hell for weeks, where I couldn't do anything, including eating, and just had to stay in the sofa feeling so terrible every single second without break. And now I'm better again. So much better. Yes, my life is better again, but I don't really like when people are commentng that, like "You look som much healthier", "Glad to see you're doing well" ++. Because the truth is, I have to live with the fear that I can have periods like that again. Most probably, they will come. And that's become like a huge part of who I am. I'm currently in uni, and I love uni and being a student, but I'm constantly thinking my illness might attack me when I try working a normal job again, and that I might not be able to make the money I need to pay my debts and live a normal life. So yeah, healthy, but at the same time sick. It's there all the time in the back of my head.
@elizabethr5
@elizabethr5 5 лет назад
my story is so different to yours but i feel like we’re sort of going through a similar thing in terms of learning about being disabled/chronically ill and accepting that we are. there’s so much to learn and it’s hard to not detach myself from it all as a person who doesn’t know all that much... even though i am now experiencing it. i don’t know if this made sense, but i love when you talk about it, and i love seeing you grow and learn in similar ways to me :)
@janegreen9378
@janegreen9378 5 лет назад
I have recently been diagnosed with UC. The hardest thing is dealing with the unpredictability of it. How I deal with it is that I don't, its a daily struggle with a body thats got no logical cause and effect anymore. Your videos give me hope in the fact that I can still live my life (one way or another) and some days will be good and to enjoy them when they are there.
@robertvdhill367
@robertvdhill367 5 лет назад
I deal with chronic illness, with "healthy" remission periods and unhealthy periods. Right now I'm doing very well, and people around me are expecting me to be happier than I actually am. Don't get me wrong, I am happy, but acknowledging that I'm healthy always comes with the qualifier "for now," and people don't seem to like hearing that. They prefer the narrative that I've finally conquered my illness, as evidenced by how well I'm doing now. People try to encourage me to be more positive, and that makes me worry that staying vigilant for a downturn means I'm choosing to be overly negative, or ungrateful. Or worse, that my illness has beaten the positivity out of me. I know this isn't true, but sometimes it's a struggle to remember that. So glad you're tackling this topic!
@mtsmashgamer0759
@mtsmashgamer0759 5 лет назад
Just saw your past videos about your condition . Hopefully you are doing well.
@littlelunanova2591
@littlelunanova2591 5 лет назад
Totally feel this!! It is a strange and complicated thing that can make you feel super alone in your experience. I take medication for my chronic health condition and while it is more helpful than not taking it, I still mourn the things I used to be able to do before and even during the less intense years of ill health. It is frustrating to hear of other people who go into remission or feel like they have their lives back after treatment but you're still not the "healthy" person you remember before. I'm having a hard time accepting that I might never be back to my old baseline of health, but instead making the most of my new baseline (even though it sucks and is totally not what I expected or wanted for myself).
@rorisansan
@rorisansan 5 лет назад
Thank you for talking about this! Being “healthy” I something I’m really struggling with at the moment. I’m in a place where I’m “managing” my chronic illness pretty well but my friends and family just assume I’m better because I don’t currently need medication or crutches/a wheelchair. So they try to push my physical limits sometimes, but I remember being completely healthy and then spending a year in pain and unable to walk due to a flare up so I am forever anxious that it’s going to happen again. I guess what I’m saying is I don’t feel healthy but that’s how the world sees me which can be really hard to come to terms with as people just think I’m being lazy instead of the fact that I’m trying to protect my health.
@cloudsinvenice
@cloudsinvenice 5 лет назад
I'm so glad you're talking about this, because I think it's an area of experience with stomas that is often overlooked. I got my two stomas (ileostomy later reversed) when I was the sickest I'd ever been in my life with the Crohn's. We knew that it wouldn't prevent future flare-ups, but thanks to scar tissue it was no longer possible for me to poo in the traditional way, so I was philosophical about it. The way I think of it is that having a stoma hasn't got rid of my problems, it's just given me a different set of problems, which have pros and cons as compared to my life before. Even before the gigantic two-year flare-up that led to the surgery, my everyday life was pretty challenging - I also have artificial nutrition (back then, via PEG) so I was used to having a weird non-standard opening on my body that needed dressing and created skincare issues, to having to carry medical supplies with me, and to having a constant visible reminder of my Crohn's. The most interesting thing has been the contrast between having two stomas and having one - you'd think two would've been harder to manage, right? But they were both stable, whereas since I got my ileostomy reversed and the colostomy started working, it's been pretty much non-stop mayhem with that thing. I had emergency surgery to refashion that stoma in January, and I'm now waiting for another op as I had the kind of complication where the surgeon sucks his teeth and, when asked if he's seen anything like this before, goes, "Nooooooo..."
@olingecko
@olingecko 5 лет назад
All of your feelings are valid. Don't let anyone take that away from you. I had an elective surgery procedure last November that was meant to fix something that wasn't in dire need of being dealt with but would likely become an issue in the future. The recovery (still ongoing) has been a lot more than I bargained for and it's been a bummer. This was my first surgery, so it's been tough to deal with the fact that I made the decision to have this surgery. I try to trust that it will be okay soonish, but I'm impatient.
@Trekkifulshay
@Trekkifulshay 5 лет назад
My nine year old daughter had emergency three weeks ago and now has an ostomy. Your videos have given me so much insight and it's helped as I'm helping my kid navigate something I know nothing about.
@meganbrowne5184
@meganbrowne5184 5 лет назад
thank you for being so honest in these videos. my sister has IBD so these videos help me so much with gaining more of an understanding of what shes going through!
@arsenalo14
@arsenalo14 5 лет назад
I have a different situation from you but I definitely feel you on this, Hannah! I have rheumatoid arthritis, and like you, I’ve gone through periods where my disease has been pretty much in remission and I felt basically like a “normal & healthy” person. When I’ve had flares though, I’ve had to go on medications that made me feel absolutely awful and had even worse effects than the disease itself. Like you said in this video, of course I’m grateful for my treatment because it has prevented me from permanent joint damage, but there are also days where I just feel frustrated with it & feel that guilt of not being grateful enough for how lucky I am to have my medications. I also think it’s interesting what you said about “feeling” healthy in those remission periods but not really being truly “healthy”...it can also be frustrating when people project onto you this image of a perfectly healthy person when they don’t know what’s going on with your chronic illness!
@thesagacioushamster
@thesagacioushamster 5 лет назад
This weirdly reminded me of how I think about my anxiety disorder. Sometimes I get stuck thinking about how before therapy, in some ways things seemed much...maybe not easier. But because I didn’t know what “Anxiety” was I thought that was just how life was, and I didn’t gave to deal with how my brain was fucked up? And now having to make the effort to see my therapist every week, and take medication, and continually work on how I’m thinking about things in order to be “healthy”...I think I have a tendency to think about my “past” life like you described as being “healthy” even though I always had an illness. It was I guess maybe “in remission” in some ways. Obviously not the same thing, but this video helped me to think about my chronic illness in a new way. Thanks Hannah! :)
@NotPMHarper
@NotPMHarper 5 лет назад
It's definitely difficult navigating and finding your place in such diverse communities and I can only imagine that the pressure in health-related communities to be "grateful" or guilty for "having it better" or just having a different experience than the common narrative is a lot more.
@dovejpg
@dovejpg 5 лет назад
I've had IBS for about 3 months now and I'm really struggling to find a good support network. I don't have quite a few of the symptoms many other people do (chronic abdominal pain, IBS-D, fatigue etc.) so I feel I cannot join in with the community, and I've found very few things that alleviate my symptoms. I live in a rural area, so there's no chance of me finding any kind of local groups either. The doctor diagnosed me and essentially said "Well... off you go then, I can't do anything else for you". It's felt like a very lonely journey so far, and I often struggle with the thought of "My relationship with eating will never be pleasurable again", since I suffer from a constant, awful fear of eating anything for fear of my digestive system reacting poorly. I really enjoyed watching you explain an 'unpopular opinion' about your struggles with UC, and well done for speaking up!!
@fivebyfivewhat
@fivebyfivewhat 5 лет назад
dovejpg hey! Fellow IBS-D/fatigue/pain sufferer here! Want to trade Instagram usernames or something so we can chat? After two years of chaos and misery I finally feel like I’ve got my illness somewhat under control!
@michael7856
@michael7856 5 лет назад
Hi Hannah Thank you for being so brave and sharing your thoughts with us I was diagnosed with UC in 2017 although I haven’t had a stoma thank God,initially my symptoms were very bad I ended up in therapy. I’ve never been a very outgoing person anyway but this made me just hideaway I was too scared to go out would and get caught out. When I was diagnosed I Searched Internet about my condition and yours was one of the first videos that popped up it’s good to see a real person talking about their condition and I really appreciate you putting it out there for everyone to see don’t think I can do that thank you so much again you’re an awesome girl😎🤘
@freckledbri
@freckledbri 4 года назад
Hi Hannah! I have crohns and had to have the stoma surgery recently. Like I'm 10 days post op now. And your videos have been such a major help in making me feel more comfortable with this change. Mine is not permanent as of now, but my journey has been 7+ years with zero remission or relief so it could end up permanent. Either way, watching your videos provides a real outlook on what I can expect or might have to deal with. You're awesome. Thank you for being so open! Still trying to decide on a name for my stoma. First thought (day after surgery) was Mr. Cuddles bc it fit just how absurd this all felt. No longer a contender lol
@mrtoadfrost989
@mrtoadfrost989 5 лет назад
-I am in the same boat. Almost made it 20yrs before my Stoma Surgery. Chrons Flair's was my only issue and they mainly happen bc I burned myself out. My surgeon made the comment that I was heading towards the stoma surgery tho. So I kinda braced for it. I do feel like I have chrons now that I have my stoma haha. So I understand your point. But you are right, we all process things our own way. And sometimes we know the "step" in life is best but it's so hard to make it. And after, we still question things. That's just being human 🙂 My therapist has deff helped me with my journey and grasp "I didn't lose" I just gave myself a shot to be better in every way. So I hope you find comfort. Sending you the best energies, Hannah ❤️
@jeanetteisrandom
@jeanetteisrandom 5 лет назад
I'm a part time mobility aid user (cane or walker, depending on the day) and I always struggle with feeling "more disabled" when I'm using my aid even though using my aid makes me able to do things, whereas choosing to not use my aid means I can't leave the house for very long. So this is...a mood.
@TheDavidN
@TheDavidN 5 лет назад
Thank you. Thank you for putting this out there. When I was diagnosed with UC over a decade ago my GI doc said, "You can just have your colon removed and be done with it." But here I am after that, but what if I get into that situation ... So thank you for putting your experience out there and having it out there for us!
@gurps8717
@gurps8717 5 лет назад
Thank you for being amazing and talking about these topics that people feel uncomfortable about talking about. I have had Crohns since I was 14 I'm now 27, but I totally relate to what you are saying. I am almost a year in and I'm still struggling to come to terms with the stoma. The only thing that helps is when I say to myself do I wanna be in all that pain that I was in laster year or have the stoma where I'm feeling better and that eases struggle but it's still there. I just wanted to say your not alone on this and thank you for being amazing :)
@DWhoLover
@DWhoLover 5 лет назад
Thank you for sharing this. Your thoughts and feelings are valid. I have had a stoma for five years (Crohn’s). I had many of the same conflicted feelings in the first couple of years after surgery, but I do believe they can and will get better as you continue to let yourself feel & process through the changes. My feelings definitely have. A change this drastic doesn’t just take time to heal physically but also mentally. Sending love to you today.
@LucyJaneFashion
@LucyJaneFashion 5 лет назад
I completely understand where you’re coming from! I was diagnosed with UC in 2017 & had 2 years of constantly being in a flare, no medications were working and I think of my life as simply existing rather than living. In Feb 2019 I went in for a scope and left 2 weeks later with a stoma which I am going to say it, has completely changed my life. I finally have control again which was something I’d completely lost and I feel more like me than I have done in two years!!((so weird I know)) but I completely relate to how much of a shock it must’ve been after being in remission for so long and you shouldn’t beat yourself up about feeling that way! It’s like when you’re first diagnosed, you wish you never had it and want to go back to being healthy, it’s only human to react this way. UC is completely unpredictable and rather than us feeling guilty of justifying how we feel about certain things we’ve had to go through, I think we need to make the world more aware of the unpredictability of the diseases and educate more on that! Everyone’s story is different with IBD and that’s something which needs to be made more aware of in the public!x (p.s. your videos really helped me going through surgery, thank you!)
@MissFreyja
@MissFreyja 5 лет назад
I think this is such an important video, I think a lot of people will relate in some way, even those without a Stoma. I think it's ok to say life was better before I had this episode and had to do X to make my life better or to save my life, I also think that as time goes by you learn to just work with what you have and do get a better sense of peace from it all. Healthy for me, as someone with EDS type 3 and migraines is when I am able to do what I want with as little impediment as possible. Thank you Hannah for opening up this discussion.
@hodsh1
@hodsh1 5 лет назад
glad you are being genuine and honest with this! :)
@anasazi798
@anasazi798 5 лет назад
When I was 17 I was at a crossroads with my chronic illness where I could either continue trying to treat it with naturopathic medicine or go on some medications that would treat it very quickly. I got inpatient with the naturopathic route and took the medications, which made me feel “healthy” for three years but then stopped working and actually made me sicker. I still feel guilty about whether if had waited to see if the naturopathic route would work (a path that I am back on and slowly seeing results) and not taken the meds, I never would have gotten sicker (aka did I bring this on myself). I’m still working through those feelings and thoughts but I try to just accept that I could’ve gotten sick or developed other conditions at any point, and that my health journey is what it is. I still struggle with whether I identify as “chronically ill” or “sick”. It’s something I’d love to hear you talk more about! Thank you for sharing your story always
@kelliemorley
@kelliemorley 2 года назад
Totally understand your points. I'm new to all this. Emergency surgery too. I was told mild chrons so didn't even really know what a stoma was as it wasn't a path I ever thought I would go down. Turns our UC and bowel disintegrated. Emergency life changing and saving surgery. I haven't even decided how I feel about the stoma as open wound (left open no stitches or staples) and still not healed 16 weeks on. I feel on one hand the surgeon saved my life and should feel grateful and on the others I feel butchered. Life was better before for sure but wouldn't have life without the bag. Don't want even if poddible a reversal as I can't think of anything else than another operation.
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