Op’s parents are ticked for being excluded from her wedding, and had the stones to say: “after everything we’ve done for her?” Translation: “after everything we’ve done TO her?
You know some parents have to justify the behavior of the favorite and theirs. It has happened to me so often that I just remain quiet. Talking don’t change much
If you make an individual fund for each child that means your promising each child that you have their back. Giving both funds to one child means you clearly never meant to keep your promise.
😒 "Third" marriage? Brother ain't husband material Plus, pretty sure, even if David set a house on fire or robbed a bank or hurt animals right in front of the parents, they STILL wouldn't care. They're just cowardly and pathetic
The parents wanted to give Laura a second wedding. With what money? The reason she didn't have a big wedding in the first place is because they used it for their son's third marriage.
What the heck is wrong with those parents you had a fun for your sons wedding and a fun for your daughters wedding which was fair but you use your daughters wedding fun for your golden child son’s third wedding. and even wedding number two should’ve been funded by him and if he couldn’t afford an elaborate wedding like I think he had then he needed to take it to City Hall and get married by the judge. Those parents had no respect for their daughter at all. They said crap about him, me and more in need. And disrespected their daughter by saying they didn’t think she would get married this soon. And then had the nerve to say to her you thought that she would give up and move on like her history. Nowhere anywhere in the story, say that she had a history of moving from man-to-man. That’s your son obviously going in for his third wedding he could not settle for one woman. And since this was wedding number three, he should’ve been responsible for the entire payment of the wedding and if he couldn’t afford that like I said before go to a judge and get married. You made your daughter by giving away her funds make her own decorations have people bring their own food that they cut for the reception but oh it’s OK for sun so I have a fantastic wedding for the third time. And then you have the nerve to go to your daughter and say let us do the wedding now. They already had the wedding what good was putting on a big fancy wedding now. And if they could afford that why couldn’t they give her money for her wedding before and then when they said no, you sent her a bill for everything you paid for her growing up. You do not get paid back for raising your child. What is wrong with you. When you have children as they’re growing up, you pay their expenses, food, clothing, schools, books for school school supplies they are not to pay you back from any of that that is responsibility that you must provide when you decide to have children, how petty can you be because basically you did nothing for your daughter except raise her. It sounds like anything special went to the Brother not the daughter because he was the golden child. I hate that when parents just say he’s the golden child I’m gonna give him anything that he wanted and the daughter not so much you’re not worth anything. That is so wrong. They didn’t deserve to be asked to that wedding no way they got just what they deserved. I’m wondering how long before their golden child son winds up probably having wedding number four. Because that seems how is life is going.
There is no tough decision here. If the parents are manipulative and their first instinct is to guilt trip their second option child to favour their golden one, then cut ties. This is a no-brainer. I am surprised she took long to realise it.
Both parents truly don't care about her they only care about their Golden child and their reputation. Here's an aftermath most of the relatives broke ties with this toxic family after learning the truth about how they treated Laura then later on their Golden child of a son is now going through a third divorce and it's practically draining the parents financially they barely have enough to get by. They assumed that The Golden child would help them out but he's already going through his own financial problems after going through his third divorce so all of them have to get part-time jobs to make ends meet. And the parents truly reflect on their actions regretting it everyday
One of our kids wanted the big expensive wedding and the other didn't. The equivalent of the money we spent on the older sister's wedding was given to her younger sister as a downpayment on the house she's always wanted. We told the eldest what we were doing and although there was some resentment that they didn't get a downpayment, she eventually realised that we were treating them exactly the same way, which we have always done. That is why we still have a good relationship with our kids. We love them equally.
Op should say smth like: "U wanna second ceremony? Sure! But u foot the bill from start to finish, okay?" I think in that case parents disappear into the morning fog faster than OP could blink
She was right to go NC. They spent her wedding fund - that they told both her and her brother to expect - on their son's 3rd wedding. Not overspending on his 1st and hoping to pay it back - they spent it on his 3rd wedding. Which means they probably spent money on his 2nd. Invoicing her for their OOP costs they were required to pay out by law for her upkeep was petty.
You can't send your children a 'bill' for the money they spent on you raising you. That was their responsibility that came along with choosing to become parents.
I wouldn't invite them to my wedding. Then if they complain, I'll say, it's ok. I didnt need you to be there because I'm the stong one, remember? Then get a new phone number and go no contact.
--- I hope OP doesn' invite David and her parents to her wedding. What did her parents expect to happen when they spent her wedding fund on David. But I do hope one day OP can reconciles with her parents, but not with a redo wedding. But reconciliation appears will be decades away if ever.
Because there might be a wedding story where the mother-in-law teases her daughter-in-law because her mother is a single mother. But it turns out that the daughter's father is a former Yakuza, and things get embarrassing for the mother-in-law.
Nora's parents had the nerve in audacity to get mad at her for having a wedding and she not inviting her mom and her dad and her brother David to the wedding especially after what they did to her . I'm really glad you decide right there I'm cutting ties with you so I'm not going to invite you to the wedding the only thing is she should have published those pictures online though
Here’s a fact that seems to be ignored in this wonderful present time. Historically, it’s up to the BRIDE’S parents who bear the cost of the wedding. So OP, what in the name of the Wee Man are YOUR parents into?!?!?!?! SHEESH, ‘nuff said.
Don't invite your parents and or your brother . Make sure everyone of their family comes . Also vent how awful they are at your wedding and your brother third wedding . Say your done and they won't see any grandchildren either ever
I'm going to be in dissent, but Laura should've surrendered and done as her parents commanded her and had that second wedding with Jake as they determined the terms. Or paid all the expenses back to her parents they invoiced her. They should've sued her and Jake.
Your parents don’t owe a wedding. But since the money was used for brother 3rd wedding . Well don’t invite them to family vacation , dinners, etc. move on without them!
Number one is there money if they decide to give it to Golden boy I know it hurts but this deal with it don't let them realize that they've heard you go on have your wedding it may not be the big flashy wedding you always dreamed up!? But the real reason is to show your love and dedication and loyalty to the man you're going to marry it doesn't matter whether it's a courthouse wedding or a million dollar wedding go on and live your best life don't let them think they're taking their money which it is their money has or will affect your marriage!! You did the right thing by not inviting your parents as they have shown repeatedly that you really don't matter so it should be no hard feelings with them not getting an invite go on and live your best life congratulations and God bless!!
After her parents gave her wedding funds to her brother for his third marriage then telling her to move one, well she did. After she had her marriage they then came back with funds for a big wedding for her. That was for them not for her. Glad she set boundaries and cut ties. Them always putting her brother first sadly cost them their grandchildren. Hope he was worth it.
I have a friend that I've known for almost 50 years and her mother has tried that tactic all the time all through her light she had kept a detailed list of what she spent from baby food to diapers you name it she put it down and she tried to give it to my girl from one day when I was with her and I said you know these are debts that have been paid I said you brought these out you did this because you had a child it was not her responsibility to pay you back all of this next time next time the good Lord gives you another chance at life on this Earth don't have kids she wasn't very happy with me that day my girlfriend's mother that is my girlfriend just smiled and said you got my back girlfriend thank you
Laura was 100% writing cutting ties. What the heck is wrong with her parents you do not pay for your son second or third wedding. His second and third wedding should’ve been in front of a judge at the clerks office. He did not need three elaborate weddings in his life, taking money away from your daughter the wedding fun she had for his third wedding. Unbelievably stupid. Just shows you had valued your daughter not at all and did you ever wonder why your son was on his third marriage why he couldn’t keep the other two. Possibly infidelity, if that was the case, you just rewarded him with a big wedding each time for number two and number three. You didn’t think your daughter was going to get married that soon. What makes you think she was not gonna get married young or then you think she was going to wait until she was older there’s no guarantee, if your parents had done the right thing, they would’ve said when their son David came to them for wedding number two I’m sorry son but we can’t find your entire wedding. Maybe will give you a little bit towards it. When he came to them for the third wedding. They should’ve said I’m sorry son we’re done funding your weddings. This is number three get married by a judge. But no, they favor David over their daughter nasty nasty parents.
