My scariest night in Korea | Storytime 

When a guy is being creepy, please girls, stop being afraid to "not be nice". Creeps prey on that. And when you're in such a situation, it's not about being nice but getting out of it. Don't be afraid to walk away. Carry pepper spray in your hand! Scream loudly. Don't be afraid to cause a ruckus and go into a shop and tell them someone is harassing you.

I had a similar experience in Itaewon. He freaking followed me AS I WAS CALLING MY FRIEND. No shame. He even waited outside of CU so I had to have a group of girls walk with me to leave.... Korea is safER but NOT safe. That wasn't even the worst story I have...

I have experienced some similar things in Korea. I loved my stay there and Korea is relatively safe, but GIRLS- creeps are everywhere. Literally EVERYWHERE. Also in Korea. Wherever you go, you can always walk into the wrong people. I love Korea, and I could definitely recommend visiting this beautiful country. But please be careful everywhere. Stay safe!

That is so scary. I am glad that you made home safely🙏

Stories like this are pretty important. Sharing this experience can help many girls. I saw some articles talking about the stalking problem in Japan and some cases in Korea. If you know more stories about stalking please share. I watched that footage and it is terrifying to be followed and I cannot imagined how terrible it can be. Thanks for sharing such experience.

I had kind of a similar experience. It was 2am in Hongdae and I decided that I didn't want to go clubbing with my friends, so I walked home by myself. Lo and behold, some creep started following me. Luckily, I noticed him and sat down and tried to call someone. He went to sit down next to me, and I have never sprinted so fast in my entire life. Maybe he didn't have malicious intent but it couldn't have led to anything good. I hate to think of what might have happened if I hadn't been alert and mostly sober. Lesson learned: no where in the world is safe for a young woman to walk home alone at 2am.

Whenever I had such a thing happen in Korea (and sadly it happened several times), I told the nut that my husband was waiting for me. Of course, I then got asked why I wasn’t wearing a wedding ring, and I just said I don’t wear jewellery. It worked every time - the nut just disappeared. However, one night, a man broke into my room at 3am. That’s another story, but it did scare the crap out of me, and I ‘escaped’ by shouting the word ‘police’ at the top of my voice. I woke someone up five floors below who came to help me.

Girls, a tip for you; when you keep answering the person, from the outside you might look like two people knowing each other or a couple maybe just having a fight. That might be one of the reasons nobody tried to help you. Because him touching on your forehead and you keep answering him, even if you look agitated might really look like a couple just having a bad night or just like a girl getting mad at her boyfriend. The people in the convenience store don't know the full story, so please don't be kind to these kind of men and don't answer them.

Nooo you can hear the shakyness in her voice. She was smart. Brave and strong the whole time.

That one dude that just said hi before you yeeted out of the situation 😂😂

I had a similar experience but in Ulsan there was this guy that LITERALLY followed me for 6 HOURS! I was so scared plus it was 2am so I freaked out and almost started crying because I'm a crybaby 😀👍 There were these nice girls that saw the guy so they pretend to be my friends and the guy went away,when I finally went home I lock the door and cried because yea ♥️

OMG How do you run into two creeps in one night? That's scary I have sisters and I'm very receptive to girls in distress but also it's bad because when I've had to fight for getting involved no one ever is like omg your a hero or omg are you ok that looked like it hurt.. It's always WTH mind your business or they runaway and leave you to answer all the polices questions. Still I always think that if this was happening to a sister of mine. I wish to everything I hold dear that someone walking by to at the very least say hey you don't do that! Also thanx for sharing Payton and for the good advice for us to play safe.

I lived in Korea for awhile and ended up going to busan for like two weeks with a friend. we were out in front of the CU kinda near Thursday party and this guy came up to us talking about how pretty I was etc. he was nice tho wasn’t weird or anything so we all hung out together for the night! it became like 7am and we decided to go back home he asked if he could walk us home n I’m like sure! he wasn’t weird and was so sweet. but we go to sit in McDonald’s for some ice cream or something I can’t remember what we got but this korean guy comes up to me and starts talking rEALLY fast korean. and mind u my korean wasn’t that good so I had no clue what he was saying and the guy we had met just tried shooing him away but he wouldn’t leave. it seemed as tho the guy who came up to us in McDonald’s had legit a weird obsession with me. anyways we start walking home and he’s still following us and the sweet guy said we should sit here for a bit to get him off our back so he didn’t know where we were staying. anyways he kept coming up to us but I kept saying I’m not interested!! he was being really freaky. and so the nice guy told me he was saying he wanted to have sex with me 🤢 and wouldn’t stop trying to and saying I am his type and to please I want to have sex with her. IM LIKE NO NO NO... anyways took us about an hr or so to get him to LEAVE. was so freaky n I remember feeling my heart drop. I’m glad I was with them.

I wish people help in these situations and not just ignore.

This happened to me when i was with my brother on a train, he was sitting and i was standing cuz my legs are aching from 3 hours sitting straight, so this guy aproached me and then he was super close and he is realy stciking behind me, i can feel hids chest just in my back then my brother pulled me and made me sit in his lap and the guy have this pissed expersion, once we finaly got out after 1 hour, i went to the bathroom and the guy was still following me, once i got out he pulled me then thats the time when my brother realy ambushed him, my brother is tall and he look like a softy but he actualy is a little creepy and brutal when you get to know him, so the guy was arrested after a fiew minutes

I’m so sorry that that happened to you... ☹️🥺

well said girls have tough time anywhere

It's also very disturbing that other people dont help... Other youtubers have shared somewhat similar xperience and no one seem to stand up.. it's definitely an asian thing

It's important to highlight how DISMISSIVE passersby were when this whole incident occurred. You must have been Frightened! More power to you.

I'm sorry to hear you had to deal with that Payton :( I've had some scary experiences here too. Most recently, an older Korean man started talking to me at a bus stop. He was a bit weird but at first I was polite, then got on my bus. To my horror he followed me on the bus. Sat next to me and asked for my number/where I lived. I said "No!" a few times, pushed past him and got off at the next stop. You can't rely on Koreans to step up and help sadly. I've had many men approach me with the old "You Russian?", no I'm not, I'm a short freckly glasses wearing Irish woman! Xd Btw Ireland is safer than Korea, and people look out for others. Eventually it really wears on you, now I feel suspicious of any Korean man who talks to me. Never had a bad experience with a Korean woman.

Police have actively stated that one of the main reasons women have been able to be attacked is because they were too afraid to stop being polite and perpetrators know this. Women like to be helpful but we have also been conditioned to believe that we can't be seen as being assertive or god forbid aggressive as it's not "feminine" and this makes us vulnerable. I believe anyone at risk should take self defence classes, but we also need to become comfortable being assertive and saying enough ✋when someone crosses that line where we start to feel uncomfortable. Most importantly... practice at home pretending what to do in those situation because people with poor boundaries or poor intensions WILL step it up trying to make you feel like you've been rude to get you to back down so they can continue their harrassing. I became so good at being politely assertive that I stopped being harassed all together. I have also straight up gone and blocked guys I could tell were crossing that line with others who I could see didn't know what to do. In a better world we wouldn't have to do this but until we make those changes here, we need to be capable of protecting ourselves and each other rather than looking away or hoping someone will come to our aid. Stay safe people's xx

What a freaky experience! Glad you're safe and sharing your story 🙌

I just came across this video so I don't know if I'm too late to share this. I used to live in Denver. One time while I still lived in Denver, I went to an all night house party and the people were doing drugs and drinking. I was basically the only one who wasn't doing drugs or drinking. As the party went on and on people started getting lit on drugs and sloshed on alcohol. Sometime around 1ish or 2ish in the morning I was going to get a Coke to drink when some guy, who I can tell was already lit on drugs, came up to me. I wear oxygen so this guy noticed that and told me that he was a doctor. He started to put his hands all over me because he said he wanted to "examine" me. I was shocked. I didn't say anything or tell the hosts because I didn't want to make a scene but I felt so violated. I'm a male so I haven't really shared this experience except to one friend because I feel that because I'm a male I would've received a lot of judgement and crap for it. Hearing your story brought this memory up for me.

This is the reason why I won't go back to Korea even though I was born there and lived for too long. With the superficial culture where even stranger think they have a right to judge you for looks, Korea is very difficult to place to have peace of mind. I lived there by myself since very young ages with no parents so I had to come across many freaks a lot even who live my neighborhood. Especially old guys are not afraid of staring at you, touching you, and following you. But at the same time, people do not help you even though a child or people are getting hit. Korean people think family, esp parents, can hit their child so domestic abuse is a joke to them. Korea has very generous to criminals, especially to sexual predators. They went out after a few years from prison. Sex education is a myth there and etiquettes toward other genders - I had to leave a comment after I came across you vid in FB

What a terrible experience. Unfortunately, if you are around the Hongdae and Itaewon areas or even any of the night clubs and bars then many of the guys, either weird or ignorant or both, are there to try to pick up any young lady, preferably from abroad, since they are perceived to be more "open" to sexual advances and one-nighters. And given the prevalence in the Korean culture of the belief that if you persist even when a young woman says "no" then many times that persistence is rewarded and add to that the dating culture where women are expected to resist the initial advances of men in a form of courtship custom only adds fuel to the fire; so that, many Korean men really don't take no for an answer. If you speak Korean, then saying a few well-chosen choice words will definitely send them a clear message. A little white lie, that my boyfriend or husband is waiting for me, usually works, unless of course, he is drunk, then you may need to just get out as fast as possible. Please remember that guys are very easily stimulated by the visuals, it's just hardwired into their psychology - Google it if you don't believe me, and if you consider that on average 4% of men in any country are sociopaths and 1% are psychopaths, the best way to protect yourself is NOT to bring unwanted attention to yourself since as a foreigner you kind of already do stick out. On any given day, if you are not in the areas where guys on "hunting" mode congregate, as in the aforementioned areas, you will actually be quite safe. Be alert, wise, and stay safe!

I wish guys could trade places with girls so they could feel what it's like to be hunted. 😥

I’m glad your safe and you shared your story. Plzz don’t be a bystander, if someone in distress/intoxicated what ever the case may be help out! 🙏

There are creeps in Korea for sure. I"m Korean and in that case, do not be scared. be loud if you have to and always threaten to call the police. Foreigners hesitate to call the police for some reason and some of those creeps know that. In that situation, you need to tell him you will call the police and if he still harasses you, call the police (112). If you're in Seoul police will get there in minutes. There are hafty punishments for sexual harassment so just mentioning police will scare most creeps away. Also, cry out for help to other people. Don't expect people to know your situation especially late at night, so tell other people that he is harassing you and won't let you go. Those creeps are cowards, they'll never harras Korean girls because they know Korean girls will react. Law and order exist in Korea so don't hesitate to use them.

Being a woman in this world is just so HARD. :(

I’m so saddened by your story, I’m glad your safe and well now. Love this video, because you’ve given more light to scary situations that can happen in SK. Lots of love 💖

My deepest fear is that looming fear that someone’s behind me or approaching me. Like-

stalkers are common in south korea esp in seoul and gangnam.Its better to have someone accompany you and someone trusted and u already know. Most stalkers are found outside University streets. Better have someone always accompany u.

I had desire to go korea.but this horrifying stories made me changed my decision back..i feel like my country is safest than korea.

you’re such a brave girl! i tbh dont understand why these creeps are asking you such questions and following you around. im happy u came back safe

In general any girl in any country shouldnt walk alone at night at such time! You dont know crazy people out there!

I never knew the convenience stores were like a safe haven , thank you for telling us ✨

when you have lived here for your whole life you never think of this.. i use to go to the convenience store at 12 am a day ago...not anymore.

bro the last part with the different guy had me scared asf because I had a weird imagine in my head

So scary! Thank you for sharing your experience! Girls, always go with someone. Not matter the country. Creeps are indeed every where

I'm really thankful that you share the similar experience with me. So many creeps everywhere, even inside decent environment 🙏🙏🙏

It's so scary to be a woman. Unfortunately I feel like every woman has a horror story. It's sad that we have to go through these things.

That's so scary, and I'm glad you're okay. Sorry that happened to you. ):

I’m so glad you’re okay, thank you for sharing your story. You absolutely shouldn’t blame yourself. 💜💜🥺💕

I recently travelled to Seoul solo and experienced being stalked. It was a day before my flight home. It was around Seongdong-gu area after visiting a cafe. It was between 8-9 PM. I was navigating the streets using the Naver map looking for the nearest subway to get back to my hotel. I noticed a man, like maybe in his 50s walking about 2-3 meters behind me. There are also other people walking it was an alley not so much people are passing though. I did not mind it but I really am very aware of my surroundings everywhere I go especially since I am travelling solo in a foreign country. I have been walking for about 5 minutes and I always check my back and he's still there. The other people we are walking with earlier have now took different direction. Actually I thought he was with them. And then, fewer and fewer people are on the streets as we walk, I start to suspect since everywhere I turn, he turns to. Sometimes it really gets tricky to read the direction with Navermap. Supposed to be going right, I am going left, so I was going back and forth, and every time I go back the other way, he does too, and we actually are passing by each other. We will pass by each other and after a few walks, he will also turn around. By this time, it's like he is maintaining a distance of 5 meters. By now I am almost like walking but almost running and he started to up his pace too. I actually again did a wrong turn maybe because I was already very scared. My heart is beating so fast. This time I am in a semi-panicked state. I saw a female bystander and immediately walked to her to ask for a direction since I can't process to read the map anymore and also to ask for help. And while I was talking to the bystander, I suddenly felt he was literally beside me and listening to the conversation, looking at us talking like he was with me, and it feels so weird, creepy and scary. The girl I talked to pointed me to a straight direction but it was poorly lit. She's not too fluent with English too and I had a hard time explaining the situation I am in. Then there's two girls approaching and I think to myself this would be my only chance and I immediately and literally ambushed them, like I ran and jump in front of them. I was shaking by this time, I told them, I was being followed can I come with you? Good thing they understood the situation. I did not look back to the guy but they asked me if he is the one, in a black outfit, black hat and on looking like on his 50s and I said yes. They said he is looking our way but seems to be slowly backing out. After a minute or two they said he's gone. I also looked back and he is really gone, the two girls told me to run quickly to the station as it is about just 10-15 meters away and it is just a straight path but I told them I am still afraid he's just waiting around. Then they said they will accompany me to the subway station. I was really thankful to these two girls, they are so kind and they are my hero that night. I am so thankful to them up to this day. I was very suspicious even when I rode the train looking out for him if he might have followed me there and thanks God, he was not. Seoul is a very safe city, as I have been staying and out for 2 weeks and this is the only time that I was stalked. I think it was just an opportunity for him since I am a foreigner and alone and is in a alley not too many people are passing by. I don't know what his intentions are but I am very thankful I got out of the situation. 🙏

I hate how people don’t help you when you’re in danger

It was not your fault, you did your best in that situation. You are safe now. 😊 Also, why are some comments victim blaming? The male should be blamed for harrasssing you!! Not to blame you for treating other people as a normal decent human being. I hope the world can be safer for females.

I am so sorry, this must have been so scary. 😖

Omg I know why he asked you directions!!! In South Korea, there’s cults. I watch videos about stuff like this. The only reason no one was doing anything was because Korea and other countries in general, aren’t like America, they mostly mind their own business. + please don’t be nice, they prey on that because they know your fear, because they see it. 💕Lastly, I hope you stay safe💕

This is literally terrifying

even if i know self defense and trained for a year but when this kind of shit happens i'd literally go blank and freak out.

I am so sorry you had to go through that! I hope you stay safe 😣

I'm a guy and I'm pretty sure the first guy was just bsing. In this case, if you're uncomfortable and don't want to talk just say I need to go and leave. Don't try to "be nice". It doesn't matter what some stranger thinks of you.

Now I'm scared. It must have been a very bad experience 😓 , I hope that one day it will stop happening.

When I'm outside my apt, I deal with creeps and pervs, good thing you're okay

That’s why i always ignore people and pretend that i can’t hear them i don’t care if I’m rude your safety is your priority

"I was trying to be polite" that was your first mistake - and I don't blame you for it (not that any of this is in any way your fault ofc). But predatory males count on that politeness, they count on the society brainwashing women into being polite and kind no matter the horrible circumstances they find themselves in. DON'T be polite. You don't owe politeness to any stranger, let alone a creep.

I just want to know, why in Korea, why the locals would violate a foreigner? Most people are in awe of outsiders. it's weird. Just curious about how they think

I'm sure making this video was hard for you, but I'm glad you spoke about it. I'm so relieved you got home safe...Please be vigilant at all times! You can never tell anyone's intentions :(

So sorry to hear about your experience...

here is the problem, you get your ego involved and care what others think of you, so when they cross social boundaries you allow it because youre in people-pleasing mode. cultural leniency shouldn't be an excuse for you to doubt having your personal space violated. its not a matter of culture, its personal ethics. you need to not even give these men an IN, just ignore and they have nothing to latch onto OK ? protect urself girls!!!!

you poor thing..💕😭 I hope you feel better :(

Omg That is so creepy🤧 I would have seriously acted the same way as you did

I just feel like crying hearing you talking about this and just imagining that (hell please no) happening to me...if I was in your place I might have gotten a panic attack by the time that guy wasn't even listening cuz it's scary af...my country where I live we aren't use to guys approaching us and even if they would they would most likely ask if they can drop you to where ever you wanna go and if you say no for once or a couple of times they would go away so guys not leaving even after a girl telling them a thousand times to leave is creepy and scary...the. most scariest part is that what's there intentions?

omg you were really brave🤭😳

We don't owe anybody niceness. We have to stop being nice! I feel so bad for you. What's sad is that most women know what sexual harrassment feels like. That's so sad!

First and foremost, thank God you are safe. I'm relieved you're ok. The "nice" thing is what gets us girls in trouble. We are blessed with a powerful female intuition, yet we disobey. There's a great book "The New Superpower for Women" by Steve Kardian and the very first point he makes is to obey your gut the second it kicks in. In investigations, every assault victim he ever interviewed always said, "I knew something was off, but I ignored it." DON'T engage the guy. BE rude from the drop. Raise your voice threateningly and say, "BACK OFF!!"

Usually I scream and when I turn around...it’s just my shadow and footsteps....Jokes aside I’m glad you are safe 😩

sorry u went through this. hope your safe

It was very brave of you to not let him follow you to your apartment sis. Plus, glad that you made it to your place safely👍🏻. I too had a similar experience, but that was in my own country. Fun fact is, it happened in the middle of the city during 7 pm to 8pm, I guess. There was this guy who spotted me from a mall as I went for shopping clothes. I still remember his peach color shirt. I didn't pay much attention to him when he was staring at me from the mall. Later I remember seeing the same face staring at me from the bus stop, in the bus, beside my seat. That's when I realised that the guy actually followed me all the way into the bus. I Could feel his eyes solely on me for that one horrifying hour. The fact that he got a pretty cute face only creeped me more. Having enough of his uncomfortable stares, I gave him a glare while in the bus, denoting him that "I can see you staring at me, so stop", but he only gave me a sickening smile, it was terrifying. Reaching my hometown, I got off the bus, so did he. As it was my hometown I knew the place pretty well, and the shopkeepers in there too. I spent like a ten minutes in one of the shop I knew with the staffs, he roamed around there and here. When his attention got diverted, I took a cab and went to my house, making sure he didn't follow me. Reaching home, when I saw my mother waiting for me at the door step, heaven knows how relieved I felt. But this usually happens in my country, stalking. I adored Korea because I heard it is safe for girls in there. Seems like girls aren't "actually" safe anywhere.

Also, there's a cult in Korea that recruits people, especially foreigners. There's cults every where obviously, but, there's this specific cult in Korea that recruits foreigners. They'll try to be nice and compliment you and will ask you for directions even though they're Korean which is crazy. Please be careful. And yes, start saying no and put them in their place. Always carry a pepper spray. Stay safe! xx

Greeting from Seoul.. After seeing couple of your clips I was starting to personally be curious about what kind of bad(awful) situation did you get into with Korean guys during your past days in Korea :o if you dont mind sharing !

This feels sick. REally. It just tend to happen all at a same time, for some reason, freaking gross, scary. They say these assholes can smell the 'weak' status of women. When we are scared already, they target us more. freaking crazy. It really made me cry. That's really some disgusting shit in Korea.

Thank you for sharing glad you are safe 🙏🏼💙

Korea is the worst place to have something happen to you. People there literally do not care. A person could be getting beat up in broad daylight and they'll just keep walking.

whenever u feel unsafe traveling take a cab give ur cab details to ur frnds and family never walk on the street if u feel unsafe. never try to save money. And always carry something guns pepper spray or watever n dnt be nice plzz. Its easier said than done but yah we got to protect ourselves.

This is so frustrating to hear! If it was me, I’d scream at the guys! I think they were praying on you cause your demeanour is so nice :( what disgusting creeps! I’m so mad for you. I’m so happy you’re ok

You should get a boy friend (just friend) to guide you so that no one can do that to you

People don't get that, that kind of experiencies are scary Even when nothing really puts You in danger. Something really similar happen me in México..I was walking home from work, it was still bright outside. A man saw me and started talking to me and walked beside me, i passed My house and keept walking until the end of the street when he finally leave. Same as You i took the long way Home instead of walking directly to that direction, just in case he was following me. I arrived Home really scared. The next day i talked about it with My coworkers and they just said "he liked You" 😒

I'm of Middle Eastern heritage(my Dad is originally from Iran). Iran for the past forty five years has been an oppressive ultra conservative hard line dictatorship where civil and human rights, especially for that of women are totally non existent and where what we take for granted and enjoy in the west is basically criminalized. It is a historically very male dominated society, where a rather large minority of the male population have great difficulty understanding and respecting the word "no when it's uttered from a female's mouth. I don't know about stalking in Iran, it absolutely exists but doesn't compare to South Korea in that respect though! even though one's a democracy and the other a brutal dictatorship. Some Middle Eastern and Asian countries are historically male dominated societies, this is where I think Iran and South Korea have something in common. BIg respect to you for having the courage to publicly share this frightening experience.

the triller sound is killing me

Creeps are creeps the world over. Being a foreigner, you are probably considered easy prey. Never go any where alone at night. If you are going to be alone, take a taxi. Pepper spray should always be in your possession. Be safe.

I just have 15 years (i live in france since my 11) old but 2 years ago when i was 13 one old man stop me and he was talking like if he knew me, and when i told him i didn't know and maybe he thought i was someone else , he jist said no and we knew each other when he walked away i turn and just walked to the bus stop hopping someone could be there (hopefully I was in a call with my friend) i just felt someone following me , and when i look it was the same old man and he stayed in the bus stop looking at me but 7 minutes later he walked away and bus came. I was so scared at that time but i have another story but that's a different one and not has scary as this one.

uhmm you still look so scared.. be very careful girl

I have a metal fingernail file in my pocket. The kind that has the sharp tip. It comes out as soon as I get approached by a man. It's just a file until things get iffy! Getting loud is the best deterrent. "I don't know you! Get away!". I never say please. Please leave me alone, is not the way to go. Is being embarrassed worse than rape and murder?

you are a brave girl i love you

I would love too go to Korea but I don't want to go alone

Buy an umbrella the long pointy one

Why were you “begging” him to leave you alone? That makes him have control over you in the situation. Something similar happened to me, and I started shouting at him to get the fuck away from me and calling him names. He got scared and basically vanished out of my sight. If you don’t have balls to stand up for yourself, you shouldn’t be traveling in the first place, or always have someone to walk with you, which you can’t always have.

This is what the title of your video should be, He was crazy.

Please stay safe and make more content ❤️

Thats why girls should attend self difence ... and special courses what to do .. police and other organizations often offer for free that kind courses foe women

Gurl you look so much like the singer Maggie Rogers 🌻 you must have been told this before.

Thank god you were save.....

no wonder you left. safety first!

Why do these guys feel ok doing this ...even if it's a cultural thing you are clearly not Korean 😒.....or maybe he is just another creep

this makes me not want to go to Korea hope theres something there worth visiting

A guy approached me like that last year..thank God I had a Sharp knife with me.

Omg...this is so damn scary!!!

That is so scary 😭😢

😨 2 creepy guys at one night is frustrating enough