Animation Geek that’s true but it still comes down to the same idea that you’re not going to be fully present in the moment. You’re really thinking about the future if you want to record and look back on it instead of actually living 100% in the moment if that makes sense
It would be so cool if Ashley started a podcast! It would be rly interesting to see what her insight is on diff topics and I for one would definitely listen to it
yess I always don't know if it is appropriate to take a photo cause I'm scared I'm going to ruin the moment. But I really want something to remember the fun times by.
I think a photo's good! It only takes about a minute and even a single photo can be enough :) try and find a time when conversation is fading away to comfortable silence, I think? And don't forget, it's not that bad if you don't end up getting a photo!
I think sometimes not posting them is even nicer, that way you can keep it private if you want to but still have something digital to look at and remember it by
I think a huge reason why we're so obsessed with recording every bit of our lives is because everything around us is rapidly and constantly changing. There has been no other time that has had as many technological advances, cultural awareness, and available knowledge. And because everything we know is constantly and rapidly changing, recording our lives and showcasing it will at least make something last forever.
I go through this dilemma ALL THE TIME. Most of my friends don't like taking photos so sometimes I regret not having pictures from the time we spend together. But the best memories are usually made when you're living in the moment and having too much fun to think about taking pictures.
I love taking photos to have the memories but my friends detest taking photos and so I feel like I have to respect that. Though I’ll usually go through a moment without even thinking about taking my phone out and I enjoy living through it.
I hated having my photo taken, but then I read a story about this guy who was very close to his childhood best friend... Then when they were in their mid-20s, the best friend got into a fatal car accident. And the guy realised that he had no pictures of him and his best friend together. There were photos of himself, and photos of his best friend in separate pictures, but never together... He said he regretted not taking more pictures together. And that was the catalyst of me starting to take more photos with my family and friends. It's good to have something to remember good times. I've told this story to people and most of them understand where I'm coming from, and so they've become more accepting of me wanting to take photos of me and them, together.
I actually regret not having more pictures of my life when I was younger. So now I tend to overcompensate and take too many. But only me and my family sees the photos, I don't share or post on Social Media, so I have hoarded years of photos and I should probably get around to printing them.
This is why I deactivated all of my social media. Except RU-vid and Pinterest and I only follow inspiring content that fuels my mind. Humans are not designed to make posts. I want to live life, not spend it in my box. I agree it can be fun but it just isn’t for everyone.
Stevie Pagwna write down all the things you are grateful for. Also compare yourself only to your past self. Life sucks, it is full of suffering for each and everyone of us. Only after accepting the fact that life is suffering can you really move on to appreciate it.
SAME!!! im also 21 but i cant express my thoughts in words lol its really a struggle for me to convey random thoughts into a proper order thats why i love ashley so much huhu we have the SAME exact thoughts ahhhh
hey ashely i don't reall know what's going on but i just wanna say thank you for this video even though it must be really hard for you to edit and upload it :) wish you the best
@Angel Ramirez yes lol i know but you can't just assume they broke up base on a video or instagram. they haven't say anything yet and you never really know what's going on behind the screens
i feel that and without sounding rude to you personally like in general, i’m glad they’re able to be their own people and move on from a relationship that wasn’t 100% i’m proud of her regardless honestly she’s doing so much
I went off of social media from the end of my freshman year in high school up until the second semester of my freshman year in college. I lost friends who probably kept me around for taking photos with them and the people who wanted to keep in touch with me were definitely the ones I appreciated the most. Getting back on social media after years of being off was actually terrifying and my “third person self” immediately turned back on and that sucked. Went back off again just to refresh and reset and it definitely made me feel better. Enjoying the moment is so important and it sucks when we get consumed in showing others how special life events are because I think inevitably it dilutes our experience. Overall social media is awesome but the way it changes your thoughts about yourself can really be tough on you when life is tough enough!
I personally dont like watching daily vloggers, I feel like I'm wasting my time instead of doing something productive with my life. But I like watching those non-vlogger-youtubers or CREATORS because they are actually creating something instead of just showing what they do in their lives.
I got kinda happy when Ashley mentioned David thinking they're still together and happy Then realizing it was recorded in July. I'm hoping they're both doing well
I have a friend who insists on taking pictures every single time we do anything, even just going to a café. It's a bit annoying tbh. It's not for social media since she doesn't have Facebook or Instagram, just purely for memories. And I get that, I too like having pictures to remember good times, but at this point it's so systematic that I feel forced to pose for her pics and they're not natural at all + the moment isn't fun anymore it's just awkward. I think a good rule of thumb is asking "hey do you mind if we take a pic later" and if the person doesn't seem enthusiastic about it just drop it.
Ashley: *talks about RU-vidrs with RU-vid friends they can always film* Me in my head: oh, David Dobrik Ashely a millisecond later: like David Dobrik Me: O.O
"Everybody now looks at themselves almost from a third-person's view" so relatable I always imagine some mangaka is watching me and drawing out my life.
The whole “must document this moment” was a ocd issue for me back in the day. I felt stressed and panicked if i didnt capture the moment then feel the same if i didnt capture it again and again bc what if that pic wasnt great (like saving a game/document a second after you already hit save). I recently had the thought of why bother getting pretty clothes if i hate the social interaction, only to a second later be all like wtf, i got the clothes for me. I just got into vintage fashion and its like my social anxiety is at war with my “lets share this awesome stuff and bond over cool things” side.
Hi Ashley I love you and your taking yourself on a date video inspired me to do that. I used to do that a lot as a high schooler (now a recent college grad working full-time) and I realized that, after getting to college, I always felt the need to arrange plans with other people or it didn't feel "worth" it. I remembered how much I used to love making plans with just myself so thank u :')
I love how she randomly starts talking about things that i also think about and through out the video im just nodding my head saying yes and YES. ILY 💛💜💚💙
As someone who's left social media, this resonated deep within me. All this pressure to be there and make 'friends' by being online is such a common thing that it not only makes it hard to not be on social media, but also it makes me keep forgetting my 'why'. Thanks for lending clarity to my thoughts Ashley💕 Lots of love from India
Hey Ashley, just wanted to say that you keep doing you, never comprise you for anyone and always remember that you are valid and beautiful. We love you so much x
I love your insights! You have such an inspiring mind and I agree with trying to take photos to relive the best moments but wanting to live in the moment!! Love u Ashley 💕😚
the video set up seems so casual and spontaneous but it singlehandedly nails exactly what I've been trying to articulate over the past like 2 years. Thank you Ashley for being the mature, insightful big sister we all need from time to time!
Tbh you always talk about things i think about on my day to day life, and its so refreshing to listen to you and realize that its completely normal and that we all have this type of concerns 💚
I'm kinda glad I never got instagram, I wouldn't want to put all that pressure to have a presence online on myself, it sounds very stressful. I don't really have any photos with me and my friends like, at all, because when I meet up with them the thought of taking pics doesn't really pop into my head. I do find it a little sad on some days when I'm feeling sentimental and realise that I have forgotten some things and I have no photos to bring the memories back. However, at the same time, when I finally get to see my friends (it's not that easy anymore when you're in your 20s and everyone lives all over the country) I really don't like to pause the conversations just to pose for photos, I dunno, that feels uncomfortable to me for some reason. Might have something to do with me being unphotogenic lol
I really get what you are saying. I haven't seen my best friend for three months and a few days ago I got sad because I realized that I don't have any pictures of her.
ok but why is it so important to photograph one good moment? when I’m focused on what I’m doing and actually enjoying it, taking photos is the last thing I think of
I have the opposite dilemma lol. Before going to a social event or get together I always tell myself to take more photos so I can look back at the moment in the future. But every time I get to that moment, its either I forget to take pictures or I'm too shy to do it. It's neat that I can enjoy the moment as it is without the pictures but I have a pretty short term memory so the pictures would be nice too. Anyway, just my privileged 2 cents
i honestly love these kinds of videos! thank you for sharing many different sides of you, we love you for the person that you are, which means all of you. i think it’s very important for more social media ‘influencers’ to talk about these kinds of things. thanks ashley, ily man
i just wanna say thank you for this! i really needed this. the part about not focusing on a friend’s life and personality on social media really got to me, during quarantine i got stuck in a rabbit hole with that. focusing on what someone posts rather than the types of quality moments i can actually have with them. love your videos as always~
a great way to record moments is by keeping a diary! you don't have to worry about not being in the moment and you get to reflect on your day while recording every detail, not just the image of the setting
Honestly, for me, Instagram pressure is not a thing. But I do feel like I want to have a photographic proof of all my experiences. In my opinion, I think our generation has become much more nostalgic than our parents were, we feel like we have to be enjoying our lives to the fullest every single day or we aren't really living and those days when we don't feel like our life means much because of the routine, we just reminisce about the funnier better memories. For example, I went to Taiwan this summer and I tried to not take pictures and now I'm starting to loose the memories of the things I didn't photograph and for me it is as some of those things didn't even happen. Mostly I'm forgetting the feelings I felt that made me feel so alive. But anyways, I do agree with you that is a dilemma between recording the moment or experiencing and perhaps sacrificing one for the other would change how we live those moments we so much want to treasure.
i absolutely love these kinds of thoughts and ideas. it is a very strange feeling when you’re left feeling empty due to the fact that you didn’t record/take a photo of something. it really makes you take a step back and analyze how you’ve spent time in social situations.
Hey I just wanted to say thank you for all that you do. I love your channels and it really has inspired me to get my shit together (or at least try to). As well as make content again. I’ve been so hesitant to make videos again but your drive has hella pushed me. I’m a communication media arts senior and all the jobs and Internships I’m trying to apply for require my channel url. So thank you for your tip videos and I hope one day my videos are as incredible as yours!!! Stay strong and keep being the queen you are!👑💕
these videos calm me down from the dumb anxiety that I'm having as the new school year approaches. hope you're doing alright ashley!!!!!!thanks for this!!!
i recently deleted all of my social media accounts cause i was getting too invested in how people were living their lives but in the process,i lost control of mine. life without social media has been very liberating,cause whatever ive been doing is just for me,without that constant need for stranger's validation which comes with social media. this video speaks to my heart. love you so much for this ashley ❤
I personally don’t think most people take photos because they want to have a record of it per se but because they want to “flex” where they’ve been and what they have done. You know for those sweet sweet likes and follows. People take lots of photos not for nostalgia purposes but as proof of their “cool” and “trendiness” because it is re enforced by their environment /friends etc. this isn’t necessarily wrong but I do believe this need to “flex” stems from insecurities and from a general thirst for attention which is perpetuated by America’s individualistic society.
This doesn’t apply to all people. As someone who doesn’t have Instagram or Facebook, etc., during my recent trip to my first time in China, I forced myself to get into the habit of taking pictures. This is because it was my first time visiting relatives and going to places my parents reminisced about in their past frequently despite already being 18 years old. The pictures and videos I took were for record’s sake, and I feel like there are plenty of others like me, but you can’t tell because their presence online isn’t felt as intensely as the people you described.
Sarcastic Ismyname I said most people because I know some people like you, including myself. I never take photos to the point where now I’m slowly realizing that in the future I will regret not having some photos of myself and those around me. Keep taking photos!
wow, this couldn't have been said any better .. i have been binge watching your videos because of your vibe and uplifting personality! I'm so glad to have tumble upon your channel ♡
I love when you make this kind of videos I really appreciate it and I really really enjoy it bcz I think I have the same opinion as you and the fact that we both love movies and fashion and is so cool ilysm and I really want to be like you when i turn 21 ( it’s not that far but lol ) have a great day bcz you deserve it
Honestly taking pictures and videos and watching it later is such a fun experience to me. Every time I look at my archive ig story, I get to look back at all the memories. It’s like a diary but rather than written, it’s there visually.
Maybe you could try journaling your experiences? That way you have time to reflect and feel nostalgic about your memories with the people you care about and also not feel pressured to have to share them with the internet. Loved the video♥️
ashley 😭somehow you managed to encapsulate all my feelings into this video. i relate to that guilty feeling of wanting to document every part of my life instead of just, living in the moment. a year ago i went to my favorite kpop artist's concert, determined to really "live in the moment". i didn't record most of it but now looking back, i can't help but to feel like i should have. that line "everybody looks at themselves almost from a third-person view" HITS me, thats exactly how i feel and i didn't know anyone else felt that way! thank you so much for sharing your feelings with us, have a great time in NYC
all i have to say is that i look up to you so much for what you do. Your words really described my actual feelings. soo keep doing what u’re doing because you’re killing it and so much loooveee from italy❤️❤️
ashley you feel like the big sister ive never had. this was amazing i love all your videos especially the ones like this where you just sit and talk and i love you so much
I know it’s not the same, but I think journaling helps with that « fomo » from your own life you were mentioning. You can be with your friends without taking pictures or recording stuff, but you still get to look back and be emo and nostalgic at what you wrote down in your journal afterwards!
i loved how u talked about our tendencies to try and capture everything for everyone to see. it's something that I've dealt with before and seen everywhere (ig, fb, even linkedin lol) and made me think why my life wasn't this photogenic/instagrammable. but lately, I have definitely kind of "toughened up" and kinda grew away from wishing that I could be the one with the cute pics or cute friendos. honestly, i've got the people i need, and i much rather prefer living in the moment then telling others about my moments. thanks for brushing upon this topic-- i think it's great to acknowledge it :)
While I completely agree with the how living with social media has sort of become this show we put on, I think we should separate recording parts of our experiences for ourselves from recording it for other people to see. My friends think I hate getting my picture clicked, but what I actually don't like is the fact that they might upload it somewhere. Because then I have to worry about how I look. But there is some value to be found in having some tangible item that brings back specific memories of a time- which is why I feel like we all keep small souvenirs, ticket stubs, and take photographs. Because it's so easy to take photos now and since they have become so synonymous with Instagram, we sort of forget how incredible it all really is. I mean, I love flipping back through my old photo albums and, pictures on my phone. They bring back specific sights and sounds and smells which I wouldn't otherwise remember. Nostalgia can be so comforting sometimes. So I don't think it necessarily takes anything away from the moment when we are recording solely for ourselves. Lmao THIS was a longass ramble sorry
I wholeheartedly agree and relate to everything you said in this video! I notice I constantly try to update my instagram story just so people can see how much fun im having but at the same time i just wanna document the fun times i have for myself. I sometimes have phases in my life where I completely forget stuff but photos i took during those moments help me remember and relive the moment. Not to mention im a really nostalgic person so i just NEED to take pictures and remember every good moment ive had so i can cry about it later lmao. But its definitely refreshing to just live in the moment and let some precious moments exist only in your memory!
