I can relate. I had a nanny who we stayed with for 7 months. She was so good with my daughter, but not perfect with house chores, in that I would do deep cleaning on Saturdays. The first day she reported to work my hubby and I told her that we want to live as family, we will never treat her as a house girl. That is where we made a mistake. We would let her accompany us on Sundays for family outings, church and also go upcountry with her. She was so comfortable that she gained so much weight, started wearing short skirts in the house and at my in-laws. She even started disrespecting me thinking I can never replace her since we are now "family". When she left I swore never to treat nannies as my sisters. I made my new one understand that she is there to work, the same way I wake up daily to go to work.
We recently made this mistake with my partner. She really got comfortable and couldn’t respect our boundaries and the last day I fired her without her expecting it. She came back late at night and I simply told her ‘you are coming back late again after agreeing not to and you know that mama A will not get mad at you, now go pack tomorrow morning I am paying you and I don’t want to see you’ she couldn’t believe.
I'm a first time mum and have been with my 9 months old son's nanny since January this year. Prior to that my mum had been helping me but she also has her own things to do so I decided on a nanny. She's good with the baby and the baby loves her. Her problem is that I constantly have to tell her what to do around the house, even doing my baby's laundry sometimes. Another thing is she watches TV a lot! And whenever she's on a phone call, it can last for two hours. I had to talk to her about watching too much TV after I noticed that she would be so consumed with the TV that she often kind of forgets that we're there. Even calling her she would take a minute to respond, like she's been in another world. My son is at a stage where he's moving about, touching and pulling things, so he needs maximum attention. I can only hope that my baby's well fed during the day. I've already thought about letting her go but I think I should give her another month because in some areas she has improved.
Am a nanny,and I have worked for this family for 8years and we are like a family. I thank God for connecting me to this family my life will never be the same again. We are different . God bless this family
Gosh I loved it too , I was looking for the skip button because I thought it was an ad ! 😂😂😂 Also I think it's her page and she can have the intro as long as she likes. 😊
Babies can read energies. Actually from around 6 months they can be able to tell good people from bad ones. I relate so much to your story because I went through it too. It gets better definitely. I know better now to never cross that boundary between employer and employer.
Am a nanny i have been with my boss for almost fours years na penda kazi yangu kazi yangu ni hao watoto thanx for tha video nimejifuza kitu.... Bless you
I feel like at this point I'm the Queen of choosing nannies and the reason why is if you can't gel and interact with my child you can't be here period,house chores can be taught but baby number 1 no nanny is irreplaceable because things happen,but u have learnt so much and you are doing amazing,lots of love
Woi I can relate. My nanny is a bit older and she always wants to tell us what we should do. I already told her to cut that out. It is very annoying. She also tries to give us hints by mentioning what other nannies told her they are getting in the estate. She would tell me a nanny's salary was added to 10k then a week later she will tell me the same nanny is getting 8k. Then she will later say 9k. She is always trying to manipulate me to add more salary. So far I am her highest paying employer. The thing I love about her is the fact that she loves my son and we always help her out when she has a problem. Getting the right nanny is difficult.
Aki margie, this is the first video nimewatch yako. I have watched it to the end. Mimi tuko 3 and half months and we've had one nanny since week one. I love her so much and I shower her with gifts. Nikitoka job lazima nimletee kitu ata kama ni miwa. Huyu akienda mimi nimeisha. But I also love your storytelling prowess. I hope to get this good aki.
Mamas! Nannies are there to help lessen your work load so u can parent and raise your children. Be careful not to delegate that role to the nanny. Otherwise your stories are great. I ve had nannies and I prefer they do housework so I can never miss their milestones and unsafe situations
Of course they don't take over parenting, but you cannot possibly be with your kids 24/7 it's not even healthy. I appreciate the time the time my nanny takes my toddlers out to play so that I can recharge
New subbie alert! Love your content already... Hapo kwa if your baby doesnt nap during the day, he wont sleep..koorekt!! Nannies...wuehhh..but babies grow regardless. Fire hire till you get the right one!
it is more harder having twins the past 1 year has been tough very stiff ,i have gone through hell as afirst time mum ,for me i realised nannies were making me to be depressed , i couldnt concentrate at work i spent every month hiring for some reasons i became depressed ,i almost gave up on work and wanted to go home and rest , when my babies got to 8 months i took them to a daycare bcoz i dint have anyone to help me with ,since then its 5 months now and am happy since i know they are in good hands ,i dont have to interact with any nanny except the lady who takes care of them ,what i have gone thru i cant explain in words ,God is there for our babies
I have had one day burg for two years now, and she raised my son since day one. All I have learned is to overlook the small things and focus on the bigger picture. No one is perfect, but the negatives shouldn't be as many...
This video was so enlightening especially for me , a doctor-mum about to resume work (duties , theatre , night calls await me) . I have never had to have a sleep-in maid before and I had a wonderful day-bug before I relocated to a new town. Let’s just say that I have seen things in the three months ;character development !!!. I fired three in 2 months . One reported me to my in-laws that I wasn’t helping her with house-chores yet it’s me who sourced her and I paid her salary 100%. Don’t forget that I was a new C/S mum , I was doing everything for my baby and doing exclusive breastfeeding with no expressing ; yet she was complaining about me not helping her with chores yet I was still weak, was admitted in hospital during the first 6 weeks, 100%sleepy and extremely tired and of course her boss financially (Hubby takes care of most of the things but nanny business and terms is my docket). 3rd nanny is a long story but in summary she was indecent, macho and a TV addict to the point that our living room became inhabitable during the day and she wrote me a string of nasty abuses when I politely asked her not to come back after the Christmas holidays cos she wasn’t a perfect fit for my household . Weh , I was abused proper meaning that she was malicious all through her stay in my house . I’m hoping my transition to work will be smooth with my current one
Nannies, I just hire and fire depending on my sons reaction, I once had one who i fired the next day my son kept crying whenever she held him. Rule number one trust your child's instinct.
Mine is my world aki akienda Mimi kwisha.. My baby tells me momy you are not my friend, auntie is my friend.. I can't feed her, I struggle to bathe her.. Yaani the nanny is everything
This was so relatable. I kept pleasing my nanny and trying by all means. She initially left after a month and I assumed it was because I was home and we were in each other's ways... She came back when I went back to work and she stayed for almost 6months and was very good with the baby and house work. My baby had bonded so well with her. I came late from work one day and the next day she went awol. I cried for days. But I found another good nanny immediately, I learned to keep it strickly business.
When I listen to this,I feel like watu home muko so spoiled,do u know hapa tunajifanyia yote and go to work unatokea job unachukua mtoi daycare,kazi za nyumba zakungojea.
My journey is your journey, used to treat them as family, but not anymore, i used to cry alot too, i had one for a year, but when she left, i was shuttered, the nanny drama started
I relate with everything!!! If I could tell my story, you would laugh and cry, full DRAMA!!! But my mum says, children can't be wekelewad a rock, yaani they continue growing through all this drama. One day we won't need a nanny, soon.
Today was my first day watching this! So so real and I relate to every episode you had....so catchy..... I've watched to the very end! Already subscribed!
Mine is tough had a good one and she raised my kid till 2 years after that it has been ups and downs and pure drama.... thankfully we are growing now at 4 yrs old and I keep praying for a good one but never had any as good. Anyway the kids keep growing and soon we might outgrow nannies 😊
Ati 'pambana na hali yako'? Surely! Nannyworld was a piece of work for me at the beginning! Our last one then stayed for 10 years. She had a good heart, took good care of the girls and cooked descent meals. Wasn't super tidy buy that was fine. That was my compromise. We think about her often. She became one of us. 😊
Thanks for sharing. Kindly guide us more when you become a professional on dealing with our domestic workers or nannies. Have actually been checking around for any Kenyan researcher who have written something about this to no avail. Balancing between being human or godly, professional while dealing with unprofessional people, patient and wellbeing of the children and entire family is quite a task.
Loving loving the new intro❤️So good to see you grow and not sit in your comfortable zone.Also great story too.Am not yet a mother but I always say when I have kids nitawapeleka day care pap!It's just 100 Bob per day penye naishi.mambo ya house help,Sijui house managers,nanies sitaki!!!
I so related with you especially on the part of being ready for the nanny. Ive also had nanny drama... weuuh! I felt the same. I look forward to your videos.
Guys stop complaining about nanny's... they are good gals out there....pay them well... treat them well.... don't take a nanny as if....sio binadamu.....I personally am a nanny... have stayed with my boss for 6yrs....she has triplets...ad am alone...ad am happy....for my job....now they are big gals....wako shule......I love this family.......mama shiiii you are the best boss have ever met.......
New subbie alert!!❤️🤗 Great content Margie👏very insightful..as a mom of a 6mth old I'm fairly new into the nanny world..been having one for about 3 mths and so far can't complain I hope it works,,🙏
I've employed more than 20 some of them I don't even remember them.So much drama but luckily I landed on a good one and I thank God it's almost 2yrs now.
I had a daybug for the entire first year. She was a lifesaver for me. Now I am a stay at home mum running a little #bag_kiosk business on the side 😉 because I just didn't want the nanny drama.
Gosh finally someone that feels like me. I don't know how to share my space with non family members,like maids. Resorted to have atleast even the slightest family relationship
The story of your Nasty nanny is what I'm going through right now. You've made me realize that I need to release her asap.. She's disconnected with my 4yr old kabisa. I'm never at peace when I leave them alone in the house I always feel I should take my daughter with me. Every time I ask my daughter if she likes her she says she doesn't know. Or she's not sure weh . Its timd
Has anyone had a nanny that's a bed wetter and so unapologetic about it. goodness 😀😀 i Lost it totally after treating her of numerous STI 's on arrival coz I desperately needed one. A med check up shd be a must otherwise some of them can really mess u up. Nannies I rest my case!!!
Everytime I hear about nannies stories my skin crawls literally 🤣 yaani zile drama nimeona especially with young kids from kukuliwa fare to watoto kuachwa peke yao to the latest wa kutoa mitungi ya gas akiuuza waah 😡
I avoid bureaus kwanza za Tao like a plague. Got one when son was 7months. He cried too around her and she came back ati amesahau towel found my mom who allowed her in and she stole my phone. It's a common trick they have.
Have learnt a lot as I am planning to get one along the way motherhood can make you forget yourself hence got the courage to accept I need the help. Help keep God
I have a nanny that l wanted to hire but she told me her previous employer flew out of the country ndio job ikaisha ... ulisema that's a red flag right?
@@margiemuga6868 one of these days you should do a video on verifying the references / former employers we are given when hiring these people. The clowning on both ends is too much 🤣
Wow,what a story, sorry mammy for what you went through,I can relate to your story am also a nanny in my place of work and it's my first job as a nanny and I remember I got two chances at the same time and was confused where to go but after ignoring the first boss who got me first due to him delaying to call me, I felt guilt when he cried over the phone that I can't just leave him like that for another,and for sure today I am turning exactly one year old in his house and what he told me is that he is looking forward to stay with me for even over five years and an like really 🤔🤔🤔🤔
She wants you to remain a nanny for another 5 years?? Well, these are your days of humble beginning don't despise them but just serve her faithfully as you trust God to open better doors for you and in a short while He will take you to your destiny. I believe your dreams are bigger than just being a nanny for 5 years!
@@caroline-ji5kz You don't know how old the youngest child is. In five years they will have already started school and this nanny's job will be lighter. She could pay for a course and attend it while still having a job. It's not a negative thing for your boss to give you job security for at least 5 years. Btw, being a nanny is a very respectable job. I salute all good nannies out there. If a nanny comes to my business looking for a different job with a good reference from their former boss, I will employ them.
Weh!!!that scenario of a chocking baby reminded me how m son once chocked on a mandazi at 8months in my presence. Sijawai acha kujiblame mark you I did not know how to administer first aid. Niligonga mtoto mgongo mpaka nikaskia kulia. Nannies are something else, finding a good one issuch a task.
Nannies have weaknesses bosses too have weaknesses that can't be narrated in public coz some of their mistakes are so embarrassing. All in all it's good to have boundaries 😉☺️. As a Nanny I have learned so many lessons that when I come to your home to work I'll focus on that no stories having goals. Your child is my priority coz I also have kids and it's somebody else taking care of them back home so I always think that if I mistreat your mine will also get mistreated. We'd rather colide on the house chores and not the baby . I love my boss Soo much coz she understands me. Ofcourse no one is perfect when she comes home and finds something not done but the baby is fine she'll pick it from where I left and not making noise. When I go to someone's house I don't care about tv I have my phone , it's not a must I ask you for the password I'll connect to the internet myself by going to setting then push button 😂😂 while long pressing the WPS button on the router 😂😂😂😂😂 I don't even know how knew these. Though even if I have the internet connected I know when to use it of course I would not let my boss know that am using it.
Weeeeee!!!!……I love that you prayed for a better nanny.Am also praying for mine too🙏🏾. Lovely introduction and keeping us first time mommies engaged in your journey. It keeps me in the know how and motivated.More blessings Mama.
I am a first mom too ... This has taught me alot soon i will be needing a nanny i know what to consider, what to be vigilant about and how to handle them . Thank you this was really helpful. Just bumped into your channel.. You just earned yourself a new subbie
@koshalnsight hello madam,am a nanny by profession worked in Saudi Arabia /baharin but currently in Kenya am looking for a job ,could you please/kindly give me the job?
The heartbreak nilipata after kukubali arudi job tena siwezi sahau.This nanny left at 5am while we were sleeping kuamka nijitayarishe niende job msichana ameenda zake juu i delayed to pay her on date 2.Bcos i was used of paying her on date 31😁😁😁
Malenge kwa menu hehehe, waa dealing with nannies can be hectic. Sasa sisi who have not been through that journey, at least we know what to expect. Thanks Maggie
Listening to the last Nanny after watching about why you released your nanny is funny..... having prayed about it then she turns you into cash cow. Mungu atusaidie.
My baby is two months, wangu alipack nguo juzi and we were not in bad terms or anything.. She packed at night without my knowledge and left 5 in the morning.. Machooooos tu 😭😭😭😭
I'm so grateful for these videos. I have really been feeling guilty. we have had one nany for 2 years. she came in once a week then when my baby was born she became full time. its a mess she is not coping but for some reason i feel guilty to let her go 🤣 i fept better after watching your nanny videos
Ooh may God I can relate to everything that you are saying,it's like my earlier me talking in you,I was not ready and they were also not acomodative,wacha tupambane na hali yetu
Never ever treat a maid like your sister. don't take them to visit your friends or in-laws, or watch tv with them all the time. familiarity starts there. TELL THEM EARLY ON THAT THEY ARE THERE FOR STRICTLY WORK WHICH IS PAID FOR. PERIOD
Hahahhaha I can relate. I got one from 2 months roll four months. I was afraid of letting her go, I used to express milk and every day I get 3 packets used. I thought my baby was well fed, I let her go especially while she began being silent with me and not responding positively, I let her go and when I got my current she has been a blessing, a day burg and my baby likes her alot and cries when she leaves. I'm praying we can go on very long aki🙏🏻
I could relate tho this story , I had my fair share of nanny drama. It was the first time coming across your channel but the title caught my attention. I enjoyed everything but I kinda felt lost as I couldn’t understand certain phrased ( which I assume would be your native language). I love the content and therefore I’m subscribing. BEST OF LUCK WISHING YOUR CHANNEL GROWTH AND SUCCESS
I had a nanny who never clicked with the baby, my son would cry once they set eyes and It was bad. I was really uncomfortable and one day I woke up and fired her (hakumaliza even a month)
Aah Margie I have learnt so much. Sorry for the experience. I'm happy you currently have a good nanny. I have had mine since my son was 2 months. He's now 8 months and the nanny is still great. I am guilty for treating her like a sister but deep down it's not as a bribe to keep her but generally just trying to "mentor" her. I keep it very professional whilst also being open to banter here and there. I pray we keep it together at least until he's 1 year but I'm keeping an open mind just in case she leaves us out of the blues. I say a prayer for my son before I leave for work and call in randomly to check on them. My hubs works from home so he let's me know if there's sth not working and if I talk to her about it, then she gets shocked that we coordinate and that just because I'm at work doesn't mean that I don't know what is happening at home. I'm thinking of fixing cameras but my son likes her so much. He prefers her to me which feels bad BUT makes me feel at peace because babies' energies do not lie. Thanks. God bless 😂😂
Kenyans ur lucky overseas no nannies tunapambana na hali yetu"2 babies under 5"na nimelea mwenyewe na hubby kusaidiana we swap akiwa job niko home nikiwa job ako home,so far so good,i thank my hubby for the full support n help!!how i wish i can import a nanny😩😩
Yes, so true. Hata mimi nilipambana na hali yangu, nanny not an option. I think I would have the exact problem too, I can’t live with someone that’s not family even if I had the choice to have nanny. My son is 9 now and we did it!!
"Mwenyewe na hubby kusaidiana" that's the major difference between abroad and here. Locally you know most men don't even want to take their used plates to the kitchen, let alone sharing childcare and house chores. With 2 of you working together it is very possible to run your house perfectly with no external help. Here the nanny/ househelp is like a husband, together you take care of the house plus children, and your wedded husband is child number 1.
You nailed it with that accent 😂😂😂😂😂. As for me I will speak about my experience with nannies in my old age. Wueeeh I suffered. I remember praying for a good one and she stayed for one year. I had to release her because she had to go back to school.
Pole sana 4 all tht.am a nanny. grtfl to God 4 connecting me with th best.niko mwaka wa saba same same house.my madam nilimpata mara ya kwanza na mtoi wa 6months nikamlea .mwingine na mwingine.....yni watoto watatu kazaliwa nikiwa apa na yule niliyempata kadogo kijana kamegrow.mwenyewe twapendana sana sana.yni ni mungu tuh ukiwa na roho ya kupenda mwenyewe utaishi vizuri na watoto.yni ni God tuh