You are a good interviewer with such thoughtful responses to what was said. The interviews with vaknin that i have seen tend to go well or embarrassingly bad based on the host's performance, and this certainly was one of the best.
This is the first time in any interview, that lve seen Dr. Vaknin blush & giggle after the lengthy introduction of the beautiful & intelligent interviewer...thankfully, he is skilled enough to have continued a serious and incredibly informative (per usual) interview 😊 Bravo to both of you 👏
You brought out the very best interview IMHO with Sam, thank you, both of you for genuinely connecting with so many people living and loving "not so quiet lives of desperation".
Wow! The Professor brought it all together. Great interview. I have experienced this in a long term relationship. Still trying hard to "get back to myself". This discussion was easy to understand and in my humble opinion...spot on. Thank you.
This must be why I feel stripped out inside. He has abandoned me after using me, and yet he will tell you I can "blame him if it makes me feel better" as if I am making up being alone and discarded like trash. I am looking around, there is no one else here now. That is the reality. The man with failed reality testing has some nerve calling me crazy. I can see the truth, he cannot and never will.
I have a couple of female friends who are married to men who are narcissists. I remain in a quandary as to whether I should share my thoughts with them. Becoming willfully blinded to a narcissist most likely occurs when very young, or young and divorced with small children. Not all narcissists are physically abusive, just controlling - they will make all decisions regarding your life together. Leaving a longterm marriage in which enmeshment is one's reality would be very traumatic, therefore, I keep my mouth closed. Extraction would require the help of a well qualified trauma therapist. I feel for these women because their private, emotional life must be pure chaos and confusion.
I hear you, though and yes, you've thought of this. Imagine living one's whole life never for one's self, the children too. To plant the seed.... then it's up to them. Isn't that what friends are for? Otherwise, what is the point of them living? Most respectively....
This interview insinuates that "all men are narcissists" and every flaw, behaviour or pattern is narcissistic. He even says 'men who want to choose the restaurant' are narcissists, but women also do not like when men don't choose the restaurant? So if you are nice you are a narcissist, If you aren't nice you're probably a narcissist. This is overkill, he even said it himself that he is a narcissist, from what I gather there are much more narcissistic women out there today. Just look at social media
I’m just curious and don’t mean to be rude, if this man has narcissistic personality disorder and borderline, wouldn’t he have a problem accurately diagnosing someone else with it or studying them accurately if narcissist have a problem seeing people accurately. If they always have their own version of the other person in their head and can’t connect with who the other person actually is.
I understand your concern. I watched Vaknin 15 or 20 years ago, found him interesting, yet I was not interested in narcissism beyond learning about it superficially. Then, he dropped out of sight, or he fell out of my stream. Then 2 or 3 years ago he was back, presenting many new hypothesizes and theories. I've discovered his brilliance! During those years of absence I've done considerable self work, due to getting love-bombed and falling into the trap of a NPD. This is interview is a wonderful introduction to the mind of a verified genius whose IQ exceeds 190. Not only this, but he far exceeds any psychoanalyst I've heard or interacted with clinically. My impression of Sam Vaknin is that one day his clinical research will be known to surpass both Freud and Jung. Sam Vaknin's approach to mental health, and his peers, is cutting edge. I truthfully do not waste my time listening to any other mental health professional on RU-vid.
