Shared fantasy and especially idealization defense against triggering of early childhood traumas (hurt aversion, dread of intimacy and love): she is ideal, so will not hurt me, I am perfect, so above reproach and invulnerable.
Recreates secure base and symbiosis (back to womb).
Shared fantasy differs from infatuation and limerence:
Anomic (antisocial)-rigid delusional kingdom
Intensity (controlled dysregulation, like addiction)
Addiction
Immersion
Resonance, instant recognition
Divinity (invincibility)
Wholeness
Inexorability
No plateau, only transcendence
Impaired reality testing, fantasy, paracosm
Attribution errors, projection, splitting
Mutual infantile regression
Anxieties (loss, abandonment, rejection), catastrophizing
Negative affectivity
Anxiolytic control
Sublimated aggression, frustration, abuse
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