Narcissistic Traits vs. "REAL" Narcissism 

I find that I’ve been an “opinion bully” not as a narcissist but more as a disregulated trait. I believed that I was “helping” or “educating”. Now that I’ve started to work on myself I see that my behavior is very inappropriate. I’m working on this issue as I hadn’t stopped to care that it really changed the vibe and left people feeling drained and that it’s actually controlling and arrogant on my part. It touches on some anger I have Im sure. I think I’ll have to write this stuff down in order to not be so intense with opinions and being pushy about it. I thought I was getting a handle on it but I see it is like a muscle and I have to keep working on it. Apologies to those folks whose vibes I’ve affected.

I just found you by accident the other day, and have been watching quite a few of your videos. I’m way too far damaged I think to even get into any type of therapy, any recollection of my past or my emotions sends me into panic mode, but I’m listening to your videos in my own time, and I just want to say, I think you are one of the nicest, most sensible and sensitive, tactful, and kind people I have ever listened to, and I am so happy that you are here to help so many broken people. What a wonderful world this would be with more humans like you in it.

I think it's easy to confuse being self-focused with narcissism. But the difference is really in callousness or maliciousness, wherein a true narc will always be those things. A borderline or a CPTSD person may lash out, but it's not out of callousness or maliciousness. When you are trapped inside your own head, it's quite difficult to break out of that, especially if you've turned to self-isolation as a form of self-preservation. Put yourself out there and be more social, and those tendencies will go away very quickly.

Thank you for clarity here as I spent 38 years in 12 step recovery. 10 rehabs ...I was sexually physically and emotionally abused and abandoned while in the care of narcissistic parents. I was lost until I found these videos are saving what is left of my life. My parents death was a blessing in so many ways because they made me feel like the abuse was my fault. I was punished for being abused and I was suicidal for most of my life. Now I listen to this and try to move on.

People I know who got trapped into controlling and cultlike groups tend to be intelligent and sensitive, but in a vulnerable point in their lives. So they get exposed to “new knowledge”, and get love-bombed (“these people understand me”).

My heart really goes out to Rose. Her mom really does sound narcissistic. I know that I'm not a professional, but I saw narcissistic stuff even before Anna said something.

Thanks for your comments on cancel culture. You've made the distinction between legitimately standing up to real injustice, or just bullying people for ego massage, better than anyone I've heard.

You can vacillate roles even within the same long relationship. I like the saying “ If we live long enough, we play all the roles”. Learning to not get stuck in the drama is the solution

You're an angel Anna

Oh yes, I've been in those "my past is worse than yours" competitions, & lean it's best to let the other person "win." Yay for you! You focus on the solution rather than the problem! Einstein said that! You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it!

So Sorry you did go through horrible experiences having c-PTSD and more than one PTSD 😱 Amazing how you Heal!! Thank you so much to share in it, it means a lot too me, I heal when I lissen to you. I trust de you, your an exemple for me 🧚‍♀️ and Thank you so much for YOUR DAIYLY PRACTICE, in a monthe I changed more than in years on my own and that far I coulden't do without your teaching and the daily PRACTICE ❤❤❤❤

I am still not sure which I fall into the most but I am at a point where I’m open to finding out. I have the humility to go there and be open with myself and others. But oftentimes when I’m triggered I get wreckless and I can say some stupid things. And then I realize how awful I am for not regulating first. I’m tired of hurting and disregulation and hurting others and the patterns etc. I’m currently getting professional help and am looking forward to getting more to the bottom of this for the sake of myself and definitely for the sake of others. A sidenote worth mentioning is that I went through family therapy with my kids a couple years ago. I’m a single dad and it’s just been the three of us for almost 9 years now. For five or six years I was not the best dad in the world. I was reactive and there were times that I treated them like a burden and they didn’t deserve it. Family therapy changed all of that. Our communication is healthy to the point where we still reflect very openly and honestly about those times, and the contrast between then and now. I think the three of us are very proud of our progress and how close we are for it. I want nothing more than to be able to unlock whatever that is and be able to apply it in other parts of my life because others deserve to have me doing my best for them as well

I am so thankful that my daughter in law sent me a video this morning. I am, now, subscribed. Thank you a million times.

I used to talk about my Traumas while I was helping but I hardly talk about my Traumas at all anymore..

That second letter could have been my mum, minus the molestation. Your anger is reassurance that actually, she was abusive and manipulate and still is, and I am right to be wary of her. Nothing she does is without an ulterior motive. My counsellor suggested that she has narcissistic traits and recommended that I seriously consider cutting her out of my life, my partner can't stand her because of the way she treats me and I often wonder what it is I actually get out of the relationship with her - certainly not the love and acceptance I have craved my whole life. Isn't it funny how we can see things so clearly when its another family rather than our own. Thank you to the writer of that letter for sharing, I can relate so much. Wishing you all the best 💜

My mother went through a phase of asking if she was just like her mother who is likely borderline. Which I do believe my mother has borderline personality disorder but when she did that it wasn't to get an answer it was to Garner attention in sympathy and have people tell her that know you're not like her.

Within the first 5 / 10 minutes you explained -me- my Mother passed completely sending me over the edge along with two uncles then my home had mold I had to leave my home then two beloved pets died my health was deteriorating surgery diagnosis I went full insane. My Niece (who's Father is a true narcissist) had somewhat insinuated I was sounding narcissistic and it really threw me and it hurt but I had hurt her not with intentions to do so I had a tough year no doubt and my boiling point was taken out on her. I've been watching your talks literally morning noon and night and it was this talk tonight that has also hit so so hard - although I'm hardcore listening to your talks I'm taking "healthy" breaks eating walking caring for my current pets spending time with friends and keeping a healthier distance from my Father - thanks to you ! Also I'm sleeping for the first time in seriously many years it's nothing short of a miracle also Crappy Childhood Fairy you are waking me up to the co-dependecy I live with that sadly regretably I stopped working on in my 20's when I was attending coda groups just simply, your saving my life and thank you. I have been in therapy most of my life on and off nothing has made me understand or given the tools you do to even closely break my cycles actually it's as if my therapy was making things worse as you've mentioned (helped in some areas definitely but wasn't helping me with my repeated behaviors) as horrible as it sounds your Trauma is saving so many - I'm facing myself along with all the shame sadness anger guilt pain you name it I'm bringing it forward....I'm so relieved that I'm not an actual narcissist by the way and thank you thank you for really explaining this topic - wounded people wound people and I don't ever want to go there again - I believe I'm going to finally live in a world without daily anxiety trying to navigate life continually blaming the world and my parents for my shit now as a 58 year old adult. Being able to really breathe in years is an incredibly wonderful welcoming calm experience that I was desperately seeking for so long.

Re: my problems are so bad you could never understand… I have found that just about everybody feels this, CPSD, narc or not. There are always people who have it worse. I spent 10 years counseling and supporting people whose lives had been destroyed by Toxic Injuries. None of us wanted the title “Queen (or King) of the Sickies.” But by the very nature of our injuries we were propelled into the position of talking about why we couldn’t just do X. People we encounter are full of “helpful advice.” Typically its stuff we can’t access/do because of our disabilities.. Most often we’re accused of making excuses. The depth and all encompassing nature of the condition is beyond most normal people’s understanding. Truly. However, there are people so much worse off. I find it therapeutic/balancing to learn about those individuals. Some things I’ve studied: victims of islamic extremists, “Foxe’s Book of Martyrs,” homeopathic medicine journals, history.

SO MUCH THIS. Thank you, Anna. This hit home and reaffirms things I've rooted out in myself over many years. 💌

1:20:14 - Sabelle, you are not alone! And your finally recognizing how your "friend" was abusing you after only 5 or 10 years? Lighting-fast, IMO, as it took me literally decades to recognize and withdraw from "loving" abuse of a family member last summer. CCF is right: we were primed for this in childhood. Bottom-line is that we escape, no matter how long it takes! BRAVA! 💓💐🌸💮🏵🌹🥀🌺🌻🌼🌷💗 a Freedom Bouquet!

My Narc mother would give me ( as a small child thru my teens) give me the silent treatment. For the first few days I’d try desperately to get her to interact with me but then I’d stop trying and THAT would INFURIATE her. She wanted me to continue to beg her to talk to me…

The mom talking about the husband and putting down her daughter is completely odd and messed up. That mom is def narcissistic. It hurt me too!

My mother was a narc, my grown daughter too. Today Im not afraid of beeing one :) . I broke up with my daughter 2 years ago. So sad but I have to work with my CPTSD. I found you now Fairy

I agree with just about every thing you said except one. Sometimes we can see traits and habits in others that they can’t or don’t want to see. I think we can bring these to light using caring and supportive language. It’s viewed negatively by how and when it’s delivered. People only want to see their true self if they are ready too. If they are ready and ask for help then you should, in a caring and loving way, state the negative trait they have and if you suggestions on how to change it, offer it.

Is there a video of just the first portion of this where Fairy is talking about those tendencies? From the beginning to 24:26 ?

For The 6 Month Thing I've Noticed That 6 Months Is About How Long It Takes For The "Love High" To Wear Off From A Borderline Entering A New Relationship Or A Narcissists New Source Of Supply Starting To Grow Stale.

Thanks for this. I had a therapist I saw (as a requirement of obtaining medication from my regular person) say: “Or you could just stop doing that.”…. I was too flabbergasted to speak. Figured it was a ‘different type’ of therapy until I left the office. Then got mad, told my regular therapist the other guy had no business in the business. Oneineverybunch.

Please proceed. You are the best ❤️🌹🍀

Yes everyday 😅

Really good video. Thanks

Typical narc...love bomb -> abuse->discard->hoovering -> repeat

I'm watching more and more. Thank you!

Amazing.

People can have both PTSD and NPD. I've known a few.

Very good part about cancel culture!

Yes its true .

That letter sounds exactly like my own mother

I'll diagnose (though I'm not qualified), this letter screams NPD.

I'm hurting more now than in my past. I'm hurting so much it hurting right now. I need someone in my life who understands me. I'm wondering if I should leave my phone number here?

I can guess what the dwindling sex is about, this man sounds exactly like my ex right down to the make up thing.. it's all about supply and control, the sex doesn't mean the same thing to a narcissist as it does a healthy person.. it's a performance, simply a manipulation.. supply. stopping the sex is designed to traumatize you , make you want them more, trauma bond.. there's no real connection with them even the staring into your eyes is an act.. they just love the power they have over you

Narcs are narcs all the time.

Blue is a great color on you😃

I have a friend who went through childhood being abused by her father. She has only just told me about this several months ago and very few people know. She is 62. Just from becoming friends with her at work 8 years ago, she has taught me, by example (probably unknowingly or maybe in a subtle, intentional way), how to not always focus on myself, how to listen to others and truly care. I add, that were it not for you, Anna, I wouldn't have picked up on this and put two and two together. She is one of those you mentioned here, went through a childhood of trauma thanks to her father, and yet, did not emerge with CPTSD. She is the most loving, giving, doing, caring, concerned friend....to everyone. I taught her a new phrase...(she is from Ecuador; moved her as a child with her family). I told her "you love the unloveable". Don't get me wrong though, she knows boundaries and has them in place...She has stuck with me and not abandoned me as a friend, which is worth her weight in gold, for as we know, those of us with CPTSD often struggle in the friendship department. I told her, I was one of those "unloveable" people...lol, to which she responded, "you are not!" Thank-you Anna and thank-you my friend.

I love how you share a bit of your own life experiences. It definitely sets you apart and relating to you gives me comfort when I can’t relate to anyone in my life.

I’m SO glad you debunked the whole “If you think you might be a narcissist you’re not” thing…. Like it seriously helps to wrestle with yourself instead of fallback on a platitude that convinces you that thought alone is sufficient to create positive changes in your relationships…

I used to be quite self centered but through therapy and aging I'm a lot less self centered than I used to be...

"Healing makes faking stop working."

It took me years into adulthood to understand and accept that I come from a toxic home (narcissistic mother and enabling father). And I've only started accepting that I'm codependent and trauma-bonded to a narcissistic, emotionally unavailable man. (Expressing the difficulty of my marriage to a girlfriend brought this to the light). I'm so hurt and ashamed because I brought two beautiful children into a rocky home of my own making.... Couples counseling is a fail, so I've decided to start therapy on my own. Just the thought of it makes me anxious though, because I've spent years being invalidated by my mother (and spouse), but I'm hoping to break the trauma bond, to put energy towards my kids and myself alone.

When you said "i believe you Rose, i believe you," it had an effect on me that was almost as powerful as if i was being addressed personally. The comfort and relief your validation brought me (and hopefully Rose!) felt like a warm hug. Thank you!

I got disregulated today and tried the airplane visual. I kept saying to myself keep it on the ground keep it on the ground and it worked. The plane did not fly and I did not fly off the handle. Thanks so much. You’re the best

I am honestly blown away by Anna’s life changing wisdom. I had given up.

I never thought I was a narcissist, but for a while, thought I might have BPD. That was before I found your channel; CPTSD really fits my symptoms much better. After trying for so long to figure out what's wrong with me, having a diagnosis is such a relief! (I think I scored 13 or 14 on your survey.) Time now for the scary part - doing the work. (I have a crippling fear of failure.)

Thank k you for making this video. I was raised by two narcissists (not diagnosed) and it took me years to be able to see the way I had absorbed their behavior in really unhealthy ways. It was straight up narcissistic acting, and so defensive about looking at any possible flaws. About six years ago I got out of a relationship with a narcissist who was a con artist, like at her core, like it was a real relationship but she was in a constant state of the con. It was traumatizing in an extremely deep way and leaving her caused me also to cut ties w my family, and I was drowning in not knowing who was who in the relationship I was trying to save myself from. I was horrified looking back, which I did alone, and realizing that I thought I might be a narcissist, and that if I cared about people at all I would never involve myself in their lives again. Anyones. It took several years of deep therapy to understand I’m not a narcissist and to slowly lay my weapons down, becoming undefended. I still have the traits but I catch them and I know it’s a signal I’m afraid, like I know what to do about it. I’ve found that when I’m in that mode it’s a sign I have to basically find the time at some point soon to treat myself like a kid. Literally order pizza, watch toons, hum to myself, stim, connect to the Abandoned Child so that they’re secure enough to not try to protect me when I’m near another person.

I really love what you’re doing, but the crappy parents are also seriously traumatised as kids and that’s how it was passed on, so having contempt for the mum doesn’t feel good, she’s just as damaged as her daughter, and deserves as much compassion. I am that mum and I’m also that daughter, and it’s incredibly painful realising the damage I’ve done, I’ve tried to run away from it my whole life but not any more so that’s why I’m doing your process, because it has to stop with me.

I love who you are. I did not have a traumatic childhood but I do have terrible clutter problems. I just discovered you today, and I relate to so much you are saying. I was raised by a motherless mother so I think some of the trauma was passed down to us - her children. I will watch more.

You are amazing. I have adapted and healed in similar ways. I don't need to talk about the past details but I still have things to learn. I feel so excited that my toxic traits can be improved. You are explaining so much .

Thank you so much for this video. I feel like a monster most of the time but I’m slowly trying to unpick how my responses were normal because of my mother’s narcissism. I’d rather blame myself than admit it was that bad. Hopefully I’ll get some healing soon 🙏🏻

The victim complex is real. It is one thing to be victimized at one point, or even for a span of time. BUT it shouldn’t become your identity because identities are static and inflexible. That means that even if you have now erected defense mechanisms and offensive measures that have turned you into a bully or aggressor (to avoid being victimized), you still identify as the victim in every situation… and that’s what narcissists do! In adulthood, it’s important to evaluate every situation objectively and see your own contributions to it. There is freedom in this approach!

Richard Grannon is fantastic! He was the first Cptsd coach i found online, and he has some really great programming. Highly recommend. i actually found this channel through the recommendations on his, for which i will always be grateful. i've often wondered if you were familiar with him, good to know you have a positive opinion of him, somehow that reinforces my belief that i am on the right path ;D

I had a shocking realisation today that I had gaslit myself into thinking I was just a ‘a really good person’ and that’s why I keep being excessively nice to people and wanting to help them, when the truth is that I’ve been using that image in order to gain validation and be seen as ‘useful’ to others so I can keep their attention

Thank you. ❤️ Specifically for sharing your experiences. I've been diagnosed by my psychiatrist with C.P.S.D. I am feeling like I have narcissistic qualities. I was sexually abused for years by my uncle. 1-7 and raped by two men as a forty year old woman. I do Not feel targeted by everybody. But I do by my uncle and those two men. Thank you for all of this information. I want to grow. I have started a painful journey of looking at myself but I need to go to a therapist for deep help. I've been so confused after my last relationship. I would like to write a letter to you. I want to be happy or content without someone else making me feel that way. x

Hi Anna, just stopping by in the comments to say thank you and to tell you I'm still following you after years and learning from you with each upload. I'm currently homeless after leaving an abusive situation, living in emergency accommodation, but things are getting there and I'm going to be ok. I hope you and the whole CCF community that we are together are doing well ❤

You are seriously so helpful , your channel is so rich and dense with helpful info

Narcissists need to appear as the better person in all circumstances there is no personal growth with them or insight or self reflection, go full “grey rock”, plan an exit strategy and run like hell !

I wish there weren't so many cruel and broken people in this world. 😢 I'm glad I'm learning about it and hopefully can choose healthy people in the future!

*YOU'RE SO AWESOME. LUV YA.* *Your input on cancel culture... just wow.* 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

What can we do and see from an objective perspective for triggers of “ not being heard” in a narcissistic family system??? Narcissistic people/ behavior is a common occurrence of not hearing with compassion, listening ,understanding ( lack of empathy) or even caring ( lack of communication with empathy as well as denial) about others as an individual and whole person.

I came upon your video accidentally yesterday. I've been following Prof Sam Vaknin and he was viewing your channel. I'm 70 and the Professor and Dr Ramani has helped me deal with the middle part of my life. I'm so greatfull to find someone who can help me heal from the beginning part of me also. I'll be watching to heal the end of my life! Thank you!

Rose's mom sounds like a friend of mine's mom. When we were in high school, every few months when she wanted pity, it was that she had cancer and needed surgery. (It's been 20 years and she's fine)

“It’s alll *dramatic gibberish* blah blah balah” 💖 I’m glad I’m not alone hearing it all I could do is roll my eyes and groan like OKAY MOOOMM

I've been working in therapy to lessen the "victim feelings" as well...

Shit... It's like you are talking about me. This has me written all over. I am 47 just came to know few months back that I have cptsd. Can not get along with siblings as its triggering old wounds. I take a flight whenever triggered. And most of all I was asking exactly the same question to myself. Am I turning into a narcissist....a lot like the ppl who did this to me? Many times I think it's only me.. I also struggling with the friendship part of my life. I pity my kids who have to put up with me and my anger and outbursts. Feels like there is no escape. I hate myself and what I have done after my "angry mode". Hmm. Trying to figure out this shit and you are helping me loads. Even more than my therapist.

i always feel like i am a bad person and everyone better than me😢

Wow, thank you so much for creating this video! I have been following and watching some of your videos for a few months now. Lately, I have been feeling like I am on the path to becoming a narcissist and have wanted to somehow "stop it." You breaking down, explaining and sharing your own experiences is very helpful and eye-opening. Freya's situation sounds exceedingly similar to my own trauma bond and toxic relationship with my ex. Your videos are informative with helping me be more aware of my own behaviors and tendencies.

That Gemini comment is amazingly revealing and puts a giant "L" on her head not on yours... I have CPTSD and, at 67yo, still working on my symptoms. I am also a double Gemini and proud of it! I had many similar bullies to deal with and I just shut them off. It never helped the relationships but I did not care. I was a bit of a workaholic so I just kicked the dust off my feet and focused on my customers who loved me.

Totally appreciate the crumb and cake analogy. I would be emotionally starving for acceptance and validation from my narcissist father and my shame and self esteem were just awful. Lots of work to be done now in my 40s.

This video helped me take accountability for some narcissistic tendencies I had but didn’t notice. I’ve been in psychotherapy on/off for over 18 years (I’m 30) and felt like I was going in circles, reliving my past all over again. Your videos help me getting out of the victim mindset and to stop making my psychiatric illness/suffering my whole identity. Your channel is a very important resource for me and I just wanted to express my appreciation. I’ve had extreme problems with limerence/love addiction all my life to a debilitating extent and was never able to put a name on it cause most providers aren’t familiar with it. Thanks to you, I finally understand this trait and why I have it. That I’m not „bad“ or „broken“. Thank you so much!

One of your best videos.

have cptsd due to my traumatic childhood but i don't recognize myself when she talks about people who are "traumatized don't let others talk because we do all the talk". For me, it was all the opposite, i didn't have my place, I wasn't seen or heard, they talk non stop without giving space to express my feelings etc. It was the same with my narcissist mother, she didn't care about me, about my feelings, my thoughts, the only thing she' has been caring about is her needs, her desires, all about her. So all my former relationships were the same. I was only important when they needed a therapist, otherwise my life was irrelevant to them..

There can be forgiveness without reconciliation. Keep your boundaries and don’t feel the need to let them hurt you again if they are unwilling to respect you in the ways that you require.

Still recommend the book: “He’s Scared, She’s Scared.” On why we pick unavailable but blame the one WE picked. Very good explanation of dynamic.

You dont have to forgive ANYBODY! and you dont "have to love them" just because they gave birth to you! You could say "let god forgive them" not my job as i walk away and rightfully leave

This is a funny one because as you individuate and reassert your independence you will be accused of it. If you were raised by a narcissist, too, you are like an ACA/COA person raised by an alcoholic you are likely to mirror those behaviors because that is all you experienced but that doesn't make you an alcoholic. When dealing with family, it's clear I don't mind being alone. I don't have thoughts of self-hate in my head for the most part and if I do it is after being with the narc family member. I'm not concerned about controlling other people or my personal image. I don't do personal attacks. I'm not concerned if I have a lot of friends, etc. I listen to people and consider what they say and react.

Yes! On the ex cool girl tshirt !

I do, because I talk a lot, and feel the need to fill in the silent spaces..

"What's with all the phones ?". Well my dad did this when I decided to go no contact with him and told him so. He bought another phone and left messages as if I had never warned him : "I don't understand, I couldn't get through so I changed phone". Everytime I blocked the number he would buy a new card. To me it's a hoovering technique. It can last a very long time, because if he's really narcissistic that's all he knows..

Very much appreciate your use of the word mindf*ckery - accurate!

Sometimes, if you're not sure, it's best to allow ppl at work to warm up to you first. Youll find out a lot that way, you'll see who is and isnt trustworthy without risking as much.

Sounds like Freya is dealing with a malignant narcissist 😢

"Mindfuckery"!!! Priceless ;) Thankyou Anna, for all you do ❤️

People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

Also, this is one of the best pieces I have heard on cancel culture. Thank you for saying it.

This reminded me of a friend i had. I was lonely and she was intense and made me her best friend after just a few weeks. My body gave me signals that something was off about it but i didn’t listen. She would soon begin to say that i was toxic, unstable, that people could see i was a wounded and broken person and that i was a alcoholic. She said she said these things to help me grow and heal. She would ruin my relationships with men by being cruel to them and saying i was toxic. Once i talked to a man at a party and she screamed and pushed me because i didn’t notice her standing there alone. However when she found someone to talk to she would leave parties without telling me. I finally had it one night and told her to f*** off, she threatend me to never talk to me again and i said thank god. Then she started screaming that she would kill herself. She went to a doctor who said she had borderline PS, she then went to another one who made her a victim of others and it made my exfriend even sicker. I later talked to friends who met her and everyone said they were a bit scared of her and that i’m a calm and healthy person, it took me some time to realize i’m not sick and toxic like she said. I’m glad both me and the woman in the video broke it off, i guess even people with CPTSD have a line in the end

Hahahahha I was laughing when you suddenly said “like catching an STD orgh!” Lololol

Or she experienced a Narcissistic Injury where they literally cant move . They mistake it for being sick. A major blow to the ego

I was married for 18 years to a narcissist and have two children (now adults)with her. I divorced in 2009 Sadly the courts ignored warnings signs and granted custody of the then children to her. Years of substance abuse and involvement with law inforcement and court appearances my Ex finerally gave custody back to me however the damage was done. . I've worked hard and will always do anything for my kids . In contrast to this video it's been my experience that Sadly the only way to control her narcissistic behavior is incarceration. Narcissistic behavior is a choice not a medical condition. Not all narcissist cross legal lines with their behavior but because of my experience i know first hand that there are some people who try to hide behind the narcissistic label. If you watch a recent interview with Michael J Fox .it becomes impossible to have any sympathy for a narcissist. My prayer for my ex is that she remains incarcerated. . I also hope family courts will take a closer look when red flags are presented Thank you for your time

Thank you so much to Anna & the team for putting this compilation together. So helpful & so valuable.

Wow i've been struggling with this thought for a while now.❤

I'm still watching but I'm confused what causes CPTSD from being abused by a narc? So we get narc tendencies ty

This was an excellent video. To Frea, this guys seems to be a narcissist for sure. The 6 month mark is VERY significant. My once perfect relationship went up in flames around 6 months when his other girlfriend reached out to me to tell me I was sharing a boyfriend. That’s usually about how long someone can hold their mask up!