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in fact it is the opposite. Society is centered on men and teaches them to use women, since ancient times men think they are powerful for collecting women.
@@Comentflix there are men who use women. And there are women who use men. You are viewing things partial. Even if it was purely as you say, how does degrading the woman, makes her as powerful as the man. Two wrongs don’t make a single good. It’s addition of wrongs. Not minus multiplied by minus makes a positive. That’s not logic, but rather emotion taking over while loosing logic and congruence. Thinking nonsense out of desperation. Make women better. Don’t destroy them. They are irreplaceable.
@@waynegoodman3345 WELL THAT WAS THEIR WHOLE MISSION IT IS BEING USED JUST TO FEEL GOOD. THEY DONT EVEN USE THESE THINGS FOR THE REASONS IT WAS CREATED, THEY USE EVERYTHING AROUND THEM AS TEMPORARORY NARCO ENERGY LIFE SUCKING VAMPIRES. THEY DONT WANT A MAN, THEY JUST WANT TO FEEL DESIRED, JUST THAT LITTLE VOICE IN THEIR HEADS HAHAHAH
Ive been paying attention to Sadia's work the last few weeks. She is amazing. Unlike others in this space she is not picking sides and she is not about creating a war. Its just facts and solutions.
I said years ago that anyone that looks up the definition of “narcissism” will recognize that those traits are more prevalent in women today than they are in men.
men get off on performative acts of selflessness and see going through struggle as some kind of badge of honor, either way the end goal is getting something out of it for themselves, its a roundabout, back door form of narcissism... Men d not sacrifice from the goodness of their hearts, there is usually something in it for a man...
100% facts. I've always said that I believe that the reason why a higher percentage of men are CLINICALLY diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder is because women are so narcissistic by nature that in order for a woman to be CLINICALLY diagnosed as a narcissist, she has to be EXTREMELY narcissistic, otherwise, she is seen as just a normal woman, lol.
covert narcissism absolutely. I would say 90% of women are covertly narcissistic today. Incredibly entitled and insecure. They gaslight and manipulate to gain control and always need external validation.
I am 71 year-old man who was in a relationship for three years off and on, with a 70 yo female covert narcissist. It was such a roller coaster ride. I broke up with her back in May 2023. I couldn’t figure out how I kept losing myself respect, belittled, and everything else until the last seven months I started looking into the reason. And found out the type of person that she is.
Totally agree with you about the baby not being a body part and it is a separate human. Thank you for your boldness in revealing the false programming of "my body my choice" . It's lie and its also important to not judge those who have adopted this false mindset. Most people do not have accurate information
So we cant be judging men or put them down if they are broke and have money, or if they don’t treat women they way women thing men should, why because they don’t have to correct information, people come on RU-vid and use words but a lot of people’s hearts are wicked and cold and lack genuine love and understanding of people
@@glecservices3114 Wait what, no lol you dont judge a man if they are broke lol the same exact way a women HATES when a man JUDGES THEM BC SHE CANT STOP EATING? Which one do you think has the more moral grown to make changes? You dont think its easy to just stop eating? Do you think a man should be judged if hes 5 foot 9? And to him he makes 50 grand a year but TO YOU , he needs more bc lol YOU ARE A GOLD DIGGER LOL I MEAN DUH HAHAHAHAH
I also agree but then it should also apply to men- like once their baby is concieved it’s not my time/wallet/energy/life my choice anymore-he already has 2 people depending on him at this so it should be seen as just as unacceptable as abortion without father’s consent. Cause I feel like this whole „my body, my choice” is women’s response to men being able to avoid reaponsibility just because it's not them having an uterus. Pregnant woman is not self sufficient, child needs both parenta so a man’s part in the decision should only be taken seriously if he is willing to be a father and a partner these two people need him to. And if abortion which is a huge pain for woman by itself should be punished, so should be trying to avoid stepping up as a father.
After a 10 year relationship with a woman whose father passed when she was 10 and a 3 year relationship with a woman whose father was never in her life, when I finally dated a woman whose parents are still together after 30+ years I have noticed such an extreme yet clear difference. In the relationships with the women without fathers I dealt with them constantly seeking male validation and constantly trying to increase the quality of man they could get validation from. They also felt a need to ensure I knew when men liked them. Then there is a huge difference in argument styles and fight or flight responses. As Sadia said in the video, it’s not everyone but it is generally true MUCH more often than not.
@@GiaDivaful Here we have another red flag walking around willing to take no responsibility to fix herself. Once you see a chick externalizing reasons for her bad behavior, run.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: Narcissistic women 00:00 🚩 Men often miss red flags in women due to societal conditioning, while women are conditioned to be loyal. 00:28 👨👩👧👦 Women with unstable father figures in their upbringing may develop a fear of abandonment and be more likely to cheat. 03:03 💰 Rich men are more likely to be cheated on due to wives having idle time, social circles, and access to desirable partners. 07:01 🔄 Men's preferences in partners may evolve, seeking emotional intimacy and companionship as they age. 08:11 🤳 Modern society and slogans like "my body my choice" contributeto the rise of narcissistic women.
My ex cheated on me and she had a horrible relationship with her father since she was young. I can confirm she was also narcissistic, never admitting she was wrong.
@@ELMagnate581 I blocked her so never had the chance to do that but I can easily see her figuring out a way as to how it's my fault because of all the things she didn't like about me.
But then when a man cheats in marriage, a woman is left without her youth and beauty that she has given to him. Perhaps a career, virginity and a body that she had before giving it away to give him HIS child as well. It’s also more likely for a man to find love after a failed marriage than it is for a woman. Each side has something of great value to lose in a marriage but y’all at least risk mostly renevable stuff so stop acting like y’all are the only ones that could possibly get hurt or get the short end of the stick somehow. This just shows that y’all are struggling to see things from different perspectives.
Men risk far more than women as women have the biased family courts to protect them by way of getting the house, children and there fore child maintenance. 50,000 american fathers woke up in prison today for non payment of child support so not paying it is a jail sentence. How many women woke up in prison today for non payment of child support?... oh thats right... NONE!!! So you stop Inga !!! Stop pretending and stop been so triggered. Men and society are lead to believe women do not cheat as muc has men and they most certainly do and then blow up their marriages and its there in the family courts that men learn it the hard way exactly like Mike said.
Dubai sounds like my worst nightmare plus it’s historically vapid,aesthetically bleak and full of people who don’t know what matters in life or even live unconsciously by it.
Don't think narcissism in women is due to motherhood. Women have been mothers for millenia but it's only recently that women became extremely narcissistic, especially women who never had a baby. It's about the way they're raised, the message they're getting from society, that women are invincible and shouldn't be accountable for anything.
I partially agree with you. I think mothers aren't given as much support as in the past when they do have children. So they inwardly push the frustrations, complications, and exhaustion inward, creating a loathed being. Therefore, projecting that hatred onto their kin. I agree that society has made it to where "women can do wrong," to the point of being believed instantaneously over the man even before the man has had the opportunity to open his mouth and give his side of the story. Moreover, going back to the basics, as the doctor pointed out, having men and women staying committed to their marriage, working together to raise their children, and being in a true partnership, is the best solution for both horrid scenarios, in my opinion. 😊
I think the narcissism exists because it’s more allowed, but it’s probably always existed because of women who have had high ranking in the past it’s just more massive now. I think because men have been more narcissistic in the past far as providing women now are taking whatever power given to them in todays society and that gets turned into narcissism by association. If that makes since but I don’t think every women saying “my body my choice” is inherently narcissistic, but maybe there’s an influx
There is even this stupid song that says it 😂... "I'm unstoppable I'm a Porsche with no brakes I'm invincible Yeah, I win every single game I'm so powerful I don't need batteries to play I'm so confident Yeah, I'm unstoppable today Unstoppable today Unstoppable today Unstoppable today I'm unstoppable today"
this is bullcrap. Humans have been here for hundreds of thousands of years. We have no recorded data on most of them. There is no way that people with npd did not exist in the past. Women are naturally attracted to evil selfish and aggressive men, they are also repulsed by kind selfless good men. Look at how women use "nice guy" as an insult and who they sleep with in their teenage years and in their twenties. If women are attracted to sociopaths, narcissits and psychopats then these traits would offer a higher likelyhood to your offspring to stay in the genepool. I am pretty sure these monsters always existed it is just in the past people did not know what they were so they just worded their condition differently.
Rich people don't have normal lives and that's not to be envied. A whole lot of price comes with a lavish life, it's not as glamorous as we are sold...
My body my choice always made me upset when it has to do with a baby to be killed or not but it’s so provoking to people to say it I appreciate Sadia’ s insights so much, she is not buying in to all evilness in practice, in the world today ❤
one thing I will say is narcissism forms in childhood. someone doesn’t just go from selfish to disordered as soon as they become a mother. whether or not those traits become more apparent when motherhood tests them is a different question
Great point about abortion regarding babies not being appendages of the mother. Fathers should have a say, but because it is a human life they should not have ultimate say as to whether the infant should live or die. Once you have sex, one must be willing to deal with consequences, which includes pregnancy and potential abandonment by the father. It used to be that women didn’t give themselves away because the consequences were understood and society fostered that awareness. Sadia is absolutely correct that society is fostering the complete opposite today and that is precisely why there are many more wrongs being done to all parties involved.
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Sadia, if an above average looking gal with a phd in psychology gets 3 nose jobs, a full face lift, a chest job, lipo suction on her thin hips, and dies her hair incessantly...... do you think that's a good example of a vulnerable narcissist?
There are soo many psychologists that has better content than yours but You’re famous because you’re pretty. That’s good though, people should listen to you instead of Kim K or Taylor Swift or Margot Robbie
@@altustalent410 the context.... ummmm? I am asking about someone with whom I am quite familiar, as it seems evident, right? Not sure what's closed ended from your perspective?
I was married for nine years. With my husband, I had a step daughter through him. Her mother was DEFINITELY a narcissist. She acted like a teenager, and used her emotions to manipulate my step daughter...many times bringing her to tears. It was like torment. Like my step daughter owed her something. It was really hard to witness...the sad part is that I think her dad ( my ex) is also a narcissist: Very selfish and places himself and his needs before anyone.
If what you are saying is true firstly I am sorry you had to go through the narcisstic abuse, on the other hand I need to warn you to get ready to a life of pain. Narcissists are made, but these traits can also be inherited. Similarities usually skip a generation, so if your child will have her own children they might turn out to be narcissists as well and as long as you are alive you will be surrounded by these demons. Unfortunatlly, women are turned on by evil men and they pick narcissits over good men.
I think that cut in the middle of the video that question made her somewhat emotional. It's sad to acknowledge that a person as smart and beautiful has a lot of probabilities of ending up alone in this society (not saying she is or will end up alone... just in general and both male and female). It's just sad how superficial we've become that even attractive people can end up alone cause they don't want to be part of mentality of everything being disposable and the selfishness of today's society
@@exoticindiaa just wstch toxic humor against ALAN " 2 ans 1/2 men" .. where entire series is about us siting in a ROMAN Gladiatorial arena - watching a guy beig systemicsly rediculed and his torn down by brother, mother, nasty ex. Judith and legal system ... ... took him 10 years ... to slowly recover from " therapie seesins" and love of his closest from his past .
The more I hear you Sadia The more I want to hear you And I’ve experienced most things( not all) in the realm of “ love “ I am older and wiser And again alone I expect to stay that way but 12:03 not by choice You permit so much space for men to contemplate his place in this world and to question himself , his choices and the idea of love itself Brutal But you deliver with such warmth and genuineness And courage I am in deep gratitude I do hope you reach as many young men as possible They need your voice
I don’t have a father figure and also I have abandonment issue BUT i am raised by a strong single mom and i am thankful with my mom because no narc in the fam ❤
It’s true! I know a man whose absolutely loaded and his wife was always freezing him out in cold silence while cheating on him with many men! He gave his wife the most unbelievable life! Eventually after many decades of marriage he kind of woke up and got a private investigator involved who obtained pictures of her in sex positions which she forbid him. He was incredibly hurt by it as he just wanted a loyal wife and a little (actually he had 3 big ones) home but unfortunately you can’t choose attraction and he picked an attention seeking one who required excessive admiration and he had to go away for business a lot and outside of Film and media they don’t give you money because they like your blue eyes. I’m guessing it’s the same for women possibly with the exception of narcissists and psychopaths of course they also have to ‘feel’ attraction. Totally agree also with Sadia’s last point also! Recently had a woman emotionally blackmail me after only 10 months of unstable dating to give her a baby right before my Birthday and first anniversary i got the ultimatum and discard at first refusal after a colossal tantrum. If she hadn’t done that and I’d made it to the year i might have given a proposal after a few sensible chats. She also refused to answer questions after she’d messaged another man agreeing to meet up at his flat.
Really clear simple discussion & I see this in society it’s very sad that the system uses us like this & even sadder that we can’t even see what’s going on 💔 & even those that can are choosing to take the false empowerment over being a balanced adult 🤦🏻♂️☯️
I believe Sadia is a blessing and a wise woman. I believe she cares and is trying to teach and educate society. I l only hope she has more discussions on this subject. So many women and men need to hear this. It is a gift to listen to her.
I've diagnosed Narcissistic Personality DX In the 3 maybe 4 women in the past that I loved, maybe a couple were Borderline Personality Disorders. Thank God I finally found my soulmate.
What’s interesting about narcism is that they usually attract each other because a healthy person wouldn’t tolerate narcissistic behaviour so get yourself checked out too while you’re at it 😂
I agree, I have had 3 serious relationships. My first girlfriend came from a good home, a string masculine father figure and her parents have been married for over 45 years and i was with her 11 years. She was easy to get along with, never went to bed on bad terms and communicatedlike an adult. My other 2 relationships they never had a strong father figure in there life's. And they were a absolute nightmare! If you mentioned something that you wasn't happy with I was met with hostility, stonewalling and a ban on sex just because I was communicating. This I believe is a manipulation tactic as it makes you hesitate to voice your opinions because you do not want to deal with the consequences.
Your problematic relationships exactly describe my situation. Her father walked out before she was born and she is a mega-manipulator. We haven't had sex in over a year, I'm constantly walking on eggshells.
Maybe work on healing your gf’s and wives?? Clearly you don’t see that the MEN in their life were the reason why they are the way they are but go ahead and blame them. Idiots
@@thomasczthomash1859 my friend, if she is using manipulation tactics please do not believe things will get better, because believe me, the won't. If you haven't had sex in over a year then you no longer have a relationship, you're in a "friendship.' There are 2 sides 2 every story, maybe you have also made mistakes and in turn, have turned her off. I know I have made mistakes like this. But one of the reasons we all get into relationships is for regular sex, not just for orgasims but to feel wanted, desired and loved. I have been there, my friend. And after my relationships failed I spent alot of time reflecting on myself and why. I came to the conclusion that I was insecure, a giver and maybe to empathetic. These types of people target people like me because I stay and tolerate bullshit that a secure man wouldn't. Maybe you're the same. Maybe you're a lovely person who just wants it all to work out and mildly scared of leaving because you're worried that you may not find someone else. But the reality is, it would be harder for you to find something worse. If you're someone who has integrity, values monogamous relationships and are empathetic, you're actually a high value person and are worth your weight in gold. Because its easy to meet someone who is disloyal, low integrity. The hard thing is to find someone who is a good person. Remember, you haven't had sex with this person for over a year, you described her as a master manipulator, you're walking on eggshells.......what is this bringing you? Its bringing you misery, heartache and pain. Do the right thing for you. "You can ignore reality but you cannot hide from the consequences of ignoring reality.'
Oh my god. Same here. She never met her father - her mother left after the honeymoon. Also, no sex in over a year (when I began to assert my boundaries and disengage from arguments)... but that choice was FAR more mine than hers... I simply could no longer trust her. Constantly walking on eggshells around her since month 2 of our 7 year relationship. When she finally told me she wanted to leave, I simply responded "What's his name?". She denied, denied, denied, until about a week later she happened to have a "realization" that she had feelings for a coworker. He's a sweet boy and she's going to chew him up and spit him out. I honestly feel relieved, yet sorry for what this dude is going to go through.
The abandonment piece is more bpd tendency, also mixed with possession. However, in general women has these traits naturally on higher degree or stronger presence. In fact, women naturally more prone to spectrum of bpd traits simply due the strong emotionality. The abandonment often linked to worthlessness, which then couple back to abandonment. As result, its increase insecurity and the women keep spiral down the same roller coaster
@Anvita444 would take too long my friend, if you re in relationship, make sure you respect boundaries, not promote transactional exchanges with your girl, and tip for tap.
No, she actually starts by saying "There's so many of them" specifically responding to his question about narcissistic women. She then adds the trouble of narcissistic mothers to her response.
It’s called the back up mating strategy (commonly without sex), which turns into the switch mating strategy (usually with sex) if she thinks she’s got someone better in some significant way.
It is the baby's Body. So it should be the baby's Choice. Whether the baby wants to be born or cut in abortion. "My body my choice" holds for the baby too.
Similarly, a man with an insecure attachment style needs constant validation and has a fear of abandonment. When his needs for reassurance and validation aren't met by his intimate partner, he has a back up plan and cheats on her.
Some narcist women who never saw their dad have given up on men & when they have a partner they really don't care if he ever contacts her again or not.
The only criticism I have for Sadia, is that in between her excellent analysis and advice and perspectives, her insistence ultimately, is that EVERYTHING seems to be linked to childhood trauma. Which is an offshoot of Freudian analysis. It doesn't allow for any room to evolve, grow and of course comment upon something that has troubled all of humanity; The metaphysical concept of Romantic Love.
Well a lot of your development does come from your childhood years, so she is correct there. It's hard to recondition yourself especially around years of bad upbringing and influences. It creates a big disadvantage and halts massive character development especially if you're within adulthood and still being raised in such a way. There are many things to deprogram, unlearn and new habits to learn. It can happen but it takes a long time.
I grew up without a father from aged 7, but became so loyal to this day. It depends on what is learned from the experience, as well as genetics. I will always be me regardless. However, whether this is appreciated is another matter.
I didn’t have a great father figure and not a very good childhood. But I have never cheated on any of my partners. I’m super annoyed she says anybody with my circumstance is a cheater.
I know a few women who didn't have a stable male figure, and although they are not happy in their marriage, they don't cheat. Let's not generalise too quickly. There could be a pattern for the cheater. But not all traumatised people are full of daily problems. And some women with stable married parents, surprisingly, I met who put up with a lot and are in unhealthy marriages. It's important to have a good foundation of parents together. But together, it doesn't mean healthy or loyal or good role models for their children. Let's not think that all women of divorce parents have daddy issues. Some had a good grandpa or uncle that fulfilled that role, and they turned out quite balanced.
Absolutely nailed it. You just described my soon-to-be ex-wife in the first 2 minutes. Her father was neglectful and disinterested, which naturally left her bitter. Throughout our 7 year marriage, I repeatedly got the sense that she was building a life raft incase things didn't work out. I chose to ignore the red flags, but they were certainly there from the beginning.
Now if a man had said "Women are Nacissistic" - imagine it was Jordan Peterson, he'd have to report for reprogramming. Good that a woman says it, and that she can say it rather proves the point. And at the same time the very foundations of Narcissistic behaviour *are* present in innate female behaviour, demonstrably and provably.
It's amazing the mental gymnastics that otherwise very intelligent people will fall back to when discussing discarding an unborn child like an appendix. Many men who clamor that women shirk accountability are often the first to speak of getting pregnant as a mistake as common as misplacing your keys.
Regarding rich guys getting cheated on, a BIG factor is whether he had money before her or not. She was attracted to the money, not him. So it's going to be easy for her be attracted to another man since she was never really attracted to the rich husband/boyfriend in the first place. I'm so glad I found my husband when we were both young and broke. He'll never have to worry if I married for money. I'm a very happy housewife and the idea of cheating sickens me. I hate how common its become.
I wish my ex didnt get an abortion. I wanted to be a father and have the baby. She decided to do things based on her emotions. Im forever disgusted and resentful of her for killing my baby.
Oh I know all too well, having married one, who inevitably divorced me whose mother is also, and it doesn't end with them as my daughter is now crippled with the same personality.
