Relationship & Trauma Coach Sadia Khan on Untempered Podcast: WE NEED TO KNOW THIS ABOUT TRAUMA! 

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Having a parent watching you in pain and not offering a hand is a trauma , I felt this 💔

As a man I don’t see many women on these podcasts admitting her faults, trauma and being accountable. Very courageous!

I think this was a therapy session for everyone. Thank you so, so, so much for this.

This is MIND BLOWING. I went through almost the same childhood. Please have her again someday and talk about those who are still struggling to get into a safe relationship. Because they they believe they are hard to love and always sabotage their relationships in the first place.

This was the most communicative, bonding, revealing and in the end healing of all Sadia's interviews I've ever watched. This woman is beyond exceptional. Sadia sees people. That's not skill. That's a gift.

Sadia always delivers. Its always a pleasure to listen two well-spoken women, no interruptions, straight to the point. Love it!

We need Sadia to be a recurring guest for a series on this podcast with Naila. This has been beautiful, enlightening, informative, all of the good things about learning about the Self and healing.

Childhood trauma is the main reason what we faced in our adulthood

Single mom here with a traumatic childhood. My mother was traumatized and passed it down onto me. She used to tie me to the lemon tree in the front yard when I was two years old because she was terrified to hold me in fear, she would hurt me somehow. I just went into survival mode and raised my son for the last 17 years and never focused on myself, only him and made sure he had everything he needs! I got us Disneyland passes when he was little, and we went almost daily. One day he looked up at me and said, "mommy, can we just go home?" I realized in that very moment that I didn't want to go home. Home for me was a place of fear growing up, a place I spent years trying to get out away from. I knew at that moment I needed to stop running. The pandemic lockdown forced me to stay home for two years and in those years, I created a beautiful, safe environment for the both of us. Today, I love being home and I am now becoming healthy, focusing on myself again...thank you both for this podcast and video!

I liked it when she said “we live in a world where entertainment rather than improvement is what’s we’re focusing on “ ,, so deep ✨

I cried a lot at the beginning… then I wiped my tears, opened my notepad and started taking notes 📝 thank you so much for this conversation 🙏🏿

I've literally been crying through the whole thing. This is so healing, thank you for speaking about it. I've experienced similar situations and was always ashamed of sharing this with people as what you mostly hear from guys is "these are damaged people, stay away". So so healing. Thank you.

Sadia described my life and psychology so accurately in the first 16 minutes... wow. I'm working so hard on healing.

I wish I could get a therapy session with Sadia.I need her in my life right now! My boyfriend of 4yrs woke up and went to work one morning last month, and just never came home. There was no discussion, there was no argument… In fact, he was intimate with me the morning that he left. We had just signed a lease together in this apartment, and we have been living together already for over two years. I found out that he quit his job and he moved to another state. I am devastated. I was completely blindsided by this. And it brings back all of the trauma and abuse issues from my childhood. I don’t know what to do to make this pain go away . 😞

I often have that feeling.... feeling lonely in a crowded room even in my marriage....

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, I am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, I love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.

The hosts childhood was my exact childhood, and im only now realizing how many of my friendships and false start relationships were ended because of my avoidance. I mistook so many trivial situations as confirmation that the person didnt actually like me. The rough part of that is I caused my own anguish. Had I just known I was misreading other peoples actions, I wouldnt have cut so many people off and I wouldnt be feeling so alone. I dont blame my parents because Im older now and know they were just flawed and didn't know the impact of their actions (therapy was not a thing back then), but Im not sure why I can't grant the same empathy for myself. I too was doing the best I knew how. Theres this thing I heard a psychilogist say once but its something like 10% of our brain is conscious thinking, while the other 90% is subconscious. I dont know if thats actually true, but what i do know is theres a part of me im not able to tap into that doesnt believe people will love me no matter how much i try to fight this belief

Wow this really opened my eyes to how much childhood trauma I actually have, I'll be working to fix that. I'm so grateful for this podcast for making me aware

I felt like Sadia was talking to me personally. This hit me right where I live. Amazing interview / therapy session.

Man.. if this isn’t a fact. 2 broken parents. Looking for love in all the wrong places. Education is priceless. We got to start breaking generational curses and healing.

I now watch a sadia post almost daily to help with my innner work . She is so incredibly experienced in emotional and social psychology. It has been and does give me greater understanding and so much more hope so thanks ❤

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RU-vid channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 381 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

This is the weirdest podcast I have ever randomly found myself watching. I have never even heard of your podcast. How did we have the same childhood AND the exact same postpartum experience? 😅 I relate to you so hard, the way you cope, the wosdom you've gleaned, and the woundology you carry. ❤

Tuning out is a trauma response.. wow, been questioning this from a long time.. makes so much sense

Wow really love how sadia described childhood trauma and self soothing. Neglect causes trauma. This is such good content! And being a tramatised child I found this so helpful. I've been learning that you attract what your familiar to but what can you do to overcome this and end these patterns, I have abandonment issues too but have become as independent as I can and think I may also be avoidant, how can I make myself feel more safe and secure?

So much hitting home! Thank you 4 making this episode!

I can relate so much! It takes a lot of courage to address that inner child that needs our attention in order to grow and be open to authentic love. Thanks for sharing!!

Thank you for speaking out about this. Great questions and answers

This was the first time I watch/listen to your podcast and this was an amazing episode. It hit ALOT of things. Thank you so much for doing this. Please have her back for part two!! I have officially subscribed to your channel.

This is the best thing I have seen in a long time. So simply described, all just makes so sense. Love it!

I am so grateful to have found your podcast. Gratitude to Naila and Sadia. LOve Tasneem

This is so incredibly important and powerful! Thank you so much!

This was probably the 1st podcast I’ve watched in full in a long time. Was so good!

I love this podcast . You’re so honest and vulnerable.. thank you!!

Thank you so much for this conversation. Everything makes so much more sense.

Thank you so much for this podcast! Please continue to do more!

Such a valuable conversation, I wish I could have heard it 20 years ago.

Wow. This is so good. Thank you Sadia.

What an amazing conversation . Thank you !

Thank you soo much for this conversation. You both are awesome! God bless you!

Thank you! I needed to hear this 🙏🥹

Set healthy boundaries, for oneself and become aware of the people who will Respect & Love one for been themself. Hell they might even apologize if they accidentally cross the line. So, it is very important to clear;y communicate ones needs and then the lines do not become blurred. Triggers : Save One Self from quickly finding one self crossing into the more dangerous territory of getting burned out. This even includes the fact one could feel they are been taken advantage of and so neglect own needs. Tips on How to Communicate Boundaries ... ( Ten as follows) 1. Time Boundary “I can only stay for an hour” or “If you’re going to be late, please let me know ahead of time.” 2. Energy Boundary “I don’t have the energy to help you with [their request] right now, but maybe [this resource] can help.” 3. Emotional Dumping “I understand you’re having a hard time and I want to be there for you, but I don’t have the emotional capacity to listen right now.” 4. Personal Space Boundary “It makes me feel uncomfortable when you [touch or action]. If you can’t respect my space, I’ll have to leave.” 5, Conversational Boundary “This is not a topic I’m willing to discuss right now.” 6. Comment Boundary “I don’t find those types of comments funny.” 7. Mental Boundary “I understand we see things differently and I respect your opinion, but please don’t force it on me.” 8. Material Boundary “Please ask me first before borrowing my [possession]” or “I would appreciate it if you didn’t touch my [material thing].” 9. Social Media Boundary “I don’t feel comfortable with you posting that on Instagram.” 10. Reiterate and Uphold the Boundaries ...

I cried the whole time… I relate to this so much it opened my eyes a lot thank you for this

Excellent content! It really helped me go deep inside of me and literally look in a mirror of what I've gone thru without even knowing where it comes from

Amazing interviewer and resource person! Thank you so much for helping me understand me and others at a much deeper level.💕

Loved it ❤ One of the best I have ever watched. Thank you! 🙏

Bring her on again!!!! This was amazingggg

Magnificent talk, magnificent studio/sound/picture. A very promising channel is born! Congrats! We love Sadia!

This is what i needed today, thank you for this conversation

Wow! Thank you so much for being so true to yourself and authentic - best podcast/interview yet with Sadia. Amazing host! Xx

This conversation is like a therapy to me. Deeply thankful for your effort you put in this podcast and sharing the experience.

Thank you all very much, this was so helpful.

I was so afraid that taking medication would make me worse until I tried it and in the first week I experienced such calm around my brain, I could focus and be more present and it gave me an advantage in my mental health journey and it certainly helped with unwanted thoughts. I definitely sleep better. I feel much less anxious. I take 50 mil of Zoloft and I’m so glad I took a leap of faith to try it. ❤ It can definitely help in your trauma healing journey. I suffered for so many years with complex trauma from a child to 48 years old. I finally reached out and tried something different at the urging of my friends and family to see a doctor. God uses doctors to assist us! Don’t be afraid to see a psychiatrist and get some therapy! Sometimes just sharing the stuff that were so afraid of what people might think to a complete stranger (therapist, doctor) can bring freedom and a level of healing and deliverance. Get that stuff off your chest with someone skilled to help you.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

It explains well all those patterns I have in the past. Thank God I did break that pattern. Thank you for this video. It’s like a therapy session for all of us. ❤

Really nice, genuine conversation and topics. Thank you!

What an episode ❤ This really spoke to me in ways I didn't even know it would. Thank you both, specially to Naila for sharing and being so vulnerable

I recently found Sadia and IT have been amazing conversations every single time. This is my favorite interview so far. Keep spreading the love Sadia!

Thank you for bringing her on this podcast and thank you for this platform….. something I really need…. Time to heal 🙏🏽🙌🏽🫶🏽🤗

Just found your channel and I couldn’t have related any better. Thank you for being very open 💖

I loved this one, it was so educational, please bring her back again

Thanks a lot it was an amazing podcast, it definitely deserves more views !

Thank you for this podcast! Deep respect! 👏🙏

This video just changed my entire life. Thank you for blessing me.

So glad I came across this Chanel. I’m learning more and more. Thank you Sadia

I love what sadia said about seeing ppl love your child as a reflection of love for you. That is such a positive perspective.

Thank you Naila for putting this out here, you're courage to do a public therapy definitely helped all of us

What a amazing conversation. I am one of those people who always questions myself if I ever going to be ok or not!! Thank you for being so brave and courageous to share your struggles with others like me ❤

Well now! A podcast that doubles as a therapy session. I love it

I really like this podcast. Specially the part when she is asking and explaining to you as a interviewer about your traumas.

This is so helping and so eye opening it was a rollercoster just watching this but I’m glad I watched it and I felt everything she said I think this will help alot of people 🥰

"They grew up with the knowledge that people who love them come back" wow that hit hard. As somone diagnosed with bpd, now 34 and in recovery, abandomnet issues have been a living nightmare, especially prior to diagnosis and self awareness of my disorder and thinking patterns. This really sheds light for me and think this is gonna help me. Thankyou!!!

This podcast deserves the world to anyone

Wow just wow. This was absolutely so powerful, so overwhelming, I went through so many feeling during this podcast its unbelievable. I truly needed this. Thank you so much, means so much to me that you've used your platform for such a tough topic. Absolutely groundbreaking. THANK YOU 🙏🏼

This video is such an amazing therapy for parents, kudos to the creater

Soothing is a real thing... I love what you said about anxious people. He trusts you are there so he doesn't call tons and we take it as abandonment..... "trust the process". I love that! Thanks so much for the clarity. I feel I understand my reactions when this happens to me.

There is so much wisdom in this video it is almost too much to process !

this i truly a therapy sesion. Thank you both so so much for being vulnerable and bringing so much helpful infomation

I truly loved this session, What makes it so genuine is that both ladies are so open and vulnerable

Omg within the first 5 minutes I felt like this was my story !!!!!! Thabk you a million for this so so insightful ❤

Childhood trauma leads to complex PTSD in adulthood , neglect , abandonment, abuse manifest itself in emotional desregulation - as a 63 year old male I can attest to everything shared here, on behalf of others like myself I thank you from New Zealand 🤎

Wow I think this is the best interview/conversation I've seen with Sadia Khan. Very good!! Its very difficult to use your own personal experiences, particularly with trauma, to get solid, helpful information across to an audience so thank you for allowing us to learn from this! This is top-tier content.

I loved this, great courage and a great expert combined together, beautiful conversation. Thank you ❤️

This interview answered so many personal questions I had for myself. I am so grateful for you women. Thank you for giving me closure & knowledge.❤

I am truly grateful for this. Really unpacked most of my traumas! I will sure work on myself!

I appreciate how honest you were. I really loved this. I think many people need to hear talks like this.

Wow this podcast really hit home in every way! Thank you so much.

But this video is a gem when it comes to mental health it's like a therapy session to many who hear this so valuable

This is such a great video. I've watched a fair bit of Sadia lately and this is far and beyond the best most interesting, informative podcast/interview I've seen with her. Well done to Naila you set the tone through your openness in the beginning. Well done to both of you. So good!

I'm lucky to say that my both parents loved me as much as they could in their capacity. My trauma has been formed as an adult from my X husband which had triggered fear and low esteem .

Thank you soooo much! The best information in the right time 🙏

So happy the algorithm brought this to me and that I clicked on it. This is a beautifully insightful and helpful conversation.

Yours and Sadia’s candor makes this podcast episode! As someone who’s lived the nightmare of CPTSD and trauma bonding as an insecurely attached person, finding authorities who speak from the “ I” position is critical to building trust -Sadia is amazing and so are you! Love you two brilliant beauties! ❤❤❤

This was amazing thank you!!

This podcast is awesome! Thank you so much 🎉

I’m so grateful to learn from Sadia in this season of my life. Thank you!!

Honestly your vulnerability gave this podcast so much depth- you have a new subbie. Sadia Khan is absolutely amazing.

Love podcast set. Love it. And The content has been very educational and eye opening.

I got here to learn about my trauma responses, and as a new mom i have learn so much more! Wow. Thank you ladies for this! Fist time ive heard both of you.

13 min in and im crying 🙏🏻 the best raw and real podcast !