Narcissists False Self 

I feel like I was the fantasy, what he wanted me to be that I couldn't measure up to.

The worlds top authority on this subject Sam Vaknin confirms every word of this....

Thanks for your help! To understand the narcissist better imagine yourself as being a child, we all were faced with shame and guilt but most of us could grow out of it. Narcissists are stuck. Feeling what they have gone through helped me immensely. Theoretical understanding is not enough. Understanding comes with empathy!

Addicted to your channel Ben. Your explanation of shame induced manipulation is terrific. Love the book you recommend. Really enjoyed the 3 videos on grooming. My advise "don't react". F60.81 narcs get reality and fantasy confused. The people fighting in their head and then they say you did x you never did x. Self state #1 at 9am self state #2 at 9:15. Gaps in memory. The fantasies that come out in communicatíon and your like what. Make a mental note. I know a narcissist whose decompensating. He has locked himself in a room and dissociates in fantasy for prolonged periods of time. Just a matter of time before he's hospitalized.

God will judge

Fascinating explanation. Thank you

This was so interesting and helped me to make sense of my past relationship. When my ex’s parents confronted him about the terrible way he was treating me, he responded that he wasn’t in a relationship with me. I had been with him 17 years and we were engaged. I caught him a few days later texting his new supply. When I confronted him, he acted as if he had done nothing wrong because he thought we were just friends. It was crazy because he thought I should have just known we weren’t together anymore and we’d never discussed it. 😒

They carry the dark and light within them, that makes it more difficult. They switch between the light and dark.

This makes me want to cry. Probably the trauma bond kicking in

That was very helpful. Thank you❤

I totally didn’t but did understand everything you just said.🤪🤪🧐🧐. Sooo I’ll just drop a like, n try again later.

3:00+ Yes as you are aware everyones --- not just your 'suspicions' (lived, real life, documented flesh & blood experiences, totally obvious life experiences, unless someone is an intentionally oblivious criminal) are confirmed with ongoing (sometimes decades of pile up crimes) criminal behavior & records

I know you already know this but a lot of these criminals don’t know that you’re a scientist and a reformed narcissist you are entitled to check up on people because we all need names and addresses and records to have legal employment and to safely be around other people so that means now you are entitled to find out the victims are 100% correct and that you are justified in your physics This is just one way to describe how amazing and important your work is in the contributions of people who have proof and evidence that you are correct because we live in the real world and we all breathe oxygen and there’s something called law and professions and careers and facts all things you already know I just felt I needed to post this run-on sentence because it’s all true we have to all check up on things in order to make sure that we are in the same situation or that our rights are not going to be taken away or the law is it going to be broken is it broken already we’re all entitled to know what’s going on same way as anything has structural integrity like water like no one should ever listen to someone who tells you to drink water and then you test it and it’s poison is another out of countless examples as to why we are alive so we basically all keep each other alive yes it’s interesting too because if you go in the dark Knight and find out that all these crimes happened and you know it’s true then you’re not even allowed to contribute to that problem only to a solution and there’s even more reasons for a living that you could unpack in this one run on sentence that I just wanna post here like a footnote and then something about me and a lot of people who listen to you is that we believe in science and that it can treat all of these conditions including our own conditions which are not brain disorders but like other things like cancer or how to get criminals with criminal records to leave you alone and how to work with law-enforcement and other people to do that etc. etc. whistleblowing etc. email leaking etc.

Wow! I’ve never heard this before!! Whoa. This is deep!

Is this when the collapse happens? When they can’t lie there way out of both realities?

I always had this feeling that I was a replacement fantasy of his dead Girlfriend who died in his arms. They were still together at the time so every woman he's come across since have either been similar in appearance and ethics. Was he like the way he was with me because he was angry at her for dying, or angry because he couldn't have her to control anymore? 🍒

It's an emotional Circus!@@..let go!

So narcissists are people with cptsd. If you have cptsd you have narcissism?

Thank you for your honesty 💯❤️. When are you coming to San Diego?

Whst r narcissistic looking for go to bext suply

Is that a baby on the background 😅