Ngugi, please bring tata wa Murio, Carol, so she can explain to us why a man marries a second wife. Is it because the first wife didn’t bring 100% Murio, or what’s the problem? This is a question I expected you to ask this man. Are women different kwa bedroom? Please have a follow up show. 🚮
Another question you needed to ask: What security does the 2nd wife have? 1st wife has a marriage certificate, and this is her house. 2nd wife does not have a marriage certificate, and does not own a house or any property, because she hands over her paychecks to the man. Would would prevent her from being kicked out one day, especially if mzee dies first? 😏
This guy Muchoki was my teacher in primary school. What a nightmare he was. He used to whip us mercilessly, for even the most trivial of mistakes in class, add the occasional verbal abuse. Imagine as a 13 year old kid and your biggest bully in school is your teacher. Some of us whom he mostly picked on--the ones not in his list of favourites--used to tremble in fear when he came in to class. I was one of those he liked picking on and he absolutely degraded the little self-esteem I had at the time. And that is not all; he used to hit on young women and fellow teachers in school while being married. Ofcourse as the bully and fear-inspiring man he is, he brainwashed his family into accepting a second wife. I'm not going to dive into all the details but let me just say this guy is a massive red flag and full of crap.
This is pure betrayal. No woman would want a second wife to be brought to her home. This is infringing on her privacy. She had worked so hard for her property. Her space has been interfered with. This is beyond sadness. The man is selfish. Will there be trust again? Can they allow him to assist another needy gal? Or they'll feel he's going to marry her? This is unchristian 😢😢
The first wife is hurting.the facial expression tell it all infact it's like she was forced to come onset coz I don't think there is any woman who would like this, especially ukijua umeletewa mke mwenza ..the ma is a real narcissist and a dictator.
My observations too..afadhali amuite mama flani* she's struggling even blow-dry ya nywele ni tall order😢😢😢..may we never experience this kind of humiliation and betrayal
If a man marries a second wife, he does not love the first wife anymore, the way the man is sitting closer to the younger woman says it all. There are soo many single men.
While love may be the biggest reason people marry, it's not the only one. In general, people make the commitment to spend their lives together for more than a single reason. Every couple chooses to commit to marriage because it serves their needs and supports their values and dreams.
Working in several Muslim countries have proved men as young as 30 live well and longer in polygynous family. Most of those complaining r selfish and controlling!
Wewe Njoki rudi kwenu. Wacha, wacha kabisa na boma ya huyu mathe. Plus hiki ki-baba ni stress , kubonga mob, Control issues, pesa anatumia zenu, tiga urimu kiura ruga. Haha nigutee 😢 Walai, unajiwaste. Body na doo
Great advice to the young and pretty lady. She doesn’t even have security in this home. First wife has a marriage certificate, and this house is hers, so she can easily throw Njoki out one day, if this kamzee goes to heaven.
The sitting itself can tell the story!!! Men are very selfish and they don’t care who they hurt!!! Njoki you’re a Hippocrate and very selfish too!!! The marriage covenant is till death do us apart!!!! Njoki you’re death period 🙏
@@waridim9249 Imagine when he is in one woman’s bed, the other one sleeps alone, thinking about what is going on in the other bedroom, and yet she is married. ☹
I really dont understand why men are trying to lie to us that they are champions of marrying two wives. My late dad had two wives, but there was no peace in both homes. What is happening, the first wife is forced to accept the plan or she will be sidelined 😢. I will never be anyone's second, always first or never. Period!!
1st wife (Secondary teacher)2nd wife (Clinical Officer Nurse)Husband (Primary teacher)All properties kwa jina ya husband, Salaries under mzee. 2nd wife he came in the name of asaidiwe ,anyway i salute the wife she's a hero for the sake of her children.
This man is using this ladies and mostly the second one!! They have better job than him and again living in the same house , how ?? I can advice the second one to get her own house and her account alone.He is using you and I think the first wife knows what is cooking .be careful not to be the loser please. Thanks.
@@rosemarykirubi3167 I agree with you. And the second one does not have a marriage certificate. If things go south, she has no legal grounds to claim anything.
Gaka gatheeee nigathenge,the first wife got disappointed and that man has no respect .l respect madam teacher....she is wise and this man should not cerebrate
But she made a tepid decision of sticking around. The husband knew she is.old snd would never go anywhere. He diminished her chances of getting a partner by dragging along for years..then bringing a new one...men are heartless....and the young wife.is enjoying all the labor....if we here deaths happenings its out of poor choices people are making
I see a lot of bitterness in the 1st wife. If this man died today, would these two women live together?? You remember what happened to the Dematthews??? Something is not adding up in this story. ............ ...THERE IS A LOT OF SUGAR COATING IN THIS STORY!!!!
This "threesome relationship" seems very hypocritical. Nobody here seems happy. Mzee anawacontrol hawa wamama kama gears za ghari. First wife seems sad with a sense of betrayal. 2nd wife seems fearful and anxious. What is happening to their children only God knows. May be the big ones are angry and bitter. This guy could also be a narcissist. Oh God please help our families.
Na ngugi akasema we do not judge. Nikii murata wahinyia ciene ogwo nahauishi nao? You don't know them,id want to ask if you know your husband too well bfor knowing their story too well
@@reinsky9772 Everybody has an opinion and i have given mine. As you you, you have said what others have said and supported the "threesome". That's your opinion too na ni sawa. Hata wale saba wameni-thumbs-up are expressing their opinion na ni sawa. Any problem? Reke twarie na tuge uria turona.
The way they met is interesting...she knew what she wanted very well when asking the guy to be a guest of honor. Haki lifeee!! Njoki...dont u think u betrayed the first wife??
The 1st wify doesn't look happy with the arrangement. The body language speaks it all...and he sits closer to the 2nd wife away from 1st wify. Anyway I wished them all, the best.
I have seen another video similar to this,they also live in the same house and they're young. The first wife was dark and the second was light skin. The first wife wasn't looking happy she was so much like in this case. I'm not judging coz I'm light skin na watu huku nje they assume lazima niko na mtu na niko single. Nikipatana na mtu wa wenyewe ani dickmatize pia ntakosaje kuwa 2nd kama 1st amekubali. I'm not sure if i would be happy though I'll feel like i ruined the 1st wife's happiness.
Two women cannot live in the same house. I see a lot of pain in the first wife heart,she didn’t have a choice but to accept the kacungwa,this man is a dictator ati all the properties are in his name why ???? The first wife is the one suffering huyu mbaba ni fisi!!
The body language of the first wife is saying volumes ........alaafu Ngugi go on supporting 107% mali safi is on the way coming for you utajua hujui😂😂😂😂
@@sarahgacheru3867 Even now I don’t think she’s getting enough. Imagine being that young, and you have to be alone many nights, waiting for your “turn.” She will start looking for a Ben-10 soon.
What a wonderful man?? I like your understanding coz I have seen my two grandmothers being two wives of my grandfather and they lived their whole lives in togetherness in everything. They lived as sisters with loving and caring for one other even when they were dying they didn't accept to be separated coz one died and the other followed after one week following their husband who had died an year before. "Whatever the couples are saying, I know its possible" but, Jelous cannot allow us....... like myself............
the only happy person in this relationship is the man. He has all that he wants, and controls both wives with everything including their salaries. The first wife seems to have condoned the secon wife for the sake of her children especially her daughter! when a man goes for a seond one, there is always a void he feel with the 1st. In this set up, with both women being very independent, am left speechless at how both agree to be controlled by Mr. Muchoki, according to my own observation is every egocentric. Everything about this relationship is just about his satisfaction!
It's good to read and understand the Bible well and not replying in one verse. Read the same chapter verse 6 - (6 Lakini nasema hayo, kwa kutoa idhini yangu, si kwa amri)
N which Lord are u referring too??The white Jesus from Nazareth who was brot to us as Africans or our creator Ngaaii witu??We must agree first that before the European bible arrived we the Africans believed in our creator n we had a good way of living n customs.
You have opened wounds of betrayal the first wife has been nursing for years. She is unhappy but very accommodative.Thats what has kept her going. Stano si umejitetea? Justifying your selfishiness. God bless you ladies.May that unity prevail.
First wife clearly is hurt its all over her face as a woman I can tell...second wife anxious because in her heart of hearts she knows its wrong thats y her mother refused the idea...the husband leaning on the 2nd wife bcs thats where his heart is also he calls her by her name which is great but refers to the wife of his youth as "ùyù" or "this one" polygamy is trauma to the first woman and her children ....maoni tu ..its their business
Lust and unfaithfulness is the key word here however sugar coated it might be. The first wife had no alternative but to agree in order to give her kids an atmosphere to grow. Sharing a husband openly has never been a cup of tea to any woman. Cheating took the day here and it might go down to their kids also because this poligamous alter might take roots.
@@Njitagwo_Shiro who wants shared intimacy if not for convinency? If the first wife has given him all he would want why have an eye, a thought for another woman.The body language from this man towards the younger woman speaks it all. First wife is always convinced through negative thoughts of “ if I don’t accept, he will still go out there or how about the properties acquired together?, how about the kids growing without a father and my parents were also polygamous. Truth be, “ I don’t love him anymore so I don’t care or I don’t feel a certain type of way when they are together.
The man is so selfish he prefers the second wife by his body language. There is nothing great about living together. God is not happy second wives side chicks have destroyed.many home period
Nii ndingithinjira ngoma na ndimiingirhie aca nindarega...... Huyu mwanaume hapendi the first wife, angekuwa anampenda hangeendea student. If nitakuwa mzuri juu ya kukaa nyumba moja tukiwa wanawake wawili wacha hiyo kihiko ikufe kwani iko nini.....Kama unataka kuoa the so called second or third wife mununulie kwake na umjengee heshima idumu.. Am single but siezi olewa nipelekwe na jimwanaume nyumba ya bb yake pthoo 🚮
Jesus,ici ni pepo,I love this 1st wife,anajua Huku ni kwake na utamuacha tu..na utatoka bila kitu...noanga Ishmael....note my words babygirl... anything that comes between two that God has brought together is just but DEATH.
To me if he requires his two woman to bring in their money means he cannot maintain both of them.. Be the King and rovide everything and let your wives contribute willingly.. Where each woman comes from their problems are not the same..
Even the first wife vile she is holding herself tells it all. This is a very selfish man, na huyo second wife haki, another woman sacrifices her finances usome then you take her hubby...only God is the judge
First wife welcomed the young girl into her home, thinking they are just helping her, but I think the man had other plans, and he wanted her from the time he met her. He probably always wanted a second wife. He is just sugar coating the story.
They look unhappy 😢😢the presence filled with still motion,this women are been used by this man, manipulating them n controling them,I feel sorry for second wife,nikama hii Mzee ili lipa chuo
It's how ngugi is happy about which bed the man sleeps... All was well untill they had to give the man all the money.. The man should be the provide r as he said.. Otherwise companionship n sex can shared to avoid boredom. Moral of the story never bring a woman in your house even your sister
Maybe the man and 1st wife hatched a plan to take the 2nd wives money. She is a clinical officer, so she makes more money than them (teachers). She doesn’t have a marriage certificate, while 1st wife has one. She has no security and she can be kicked out easily, especially if the man die.s. Mjinga…🤨
The first wife would not be happy with her son marrying a second wife, yet she is here telling us how happy she is with sharing her husband? Someone make it make sense.
It doesn’t make sense. She does not even look happy, and she seems depressed. It must be humiliating to have your church wedded husband, bring another woman into YOUR house. But as a high school teacher, she could have easily walked away and raised her kids alone. So wote wako na shinda.
@@blessedwachera7133 this man is very selfish ati he married two wives ndio afunze men something. What can you possibly teach any man here? Ati hakuwa na tamaa ya wanawake but yet he basically lured this second wife by promising to pay for her education only for him to follow her behind his wife’s back. The wife got played and she won’t say it on camera but the hurt shows . I’m sure she felt betrayed by both of them, I would never house another woman in my house hell no. They will find a way to turn against you. Mwanaume jiheshimu ujengee bibi wa pili her own house. Women please stop allowing these men to disrespect you all in the name of being married. Wanaume ni wengi kea hii dunia.
Ngugi has done it well...Ngugi uhinyagia uhoro baranginyo...hii imebamba ..handu hothe hens gitio na mundurume mugima maisha makoragwo me mega muno...congratulations to this family
A man making his first woman feel at peace and happy for his compromised behaviour..her face is telling a lot...atleast she has a job..I wish her well in this African culture..where it seems a woman has to agree with everything coming frm his man.
Wacha haka kaschana kazeeke God is very patient katalia msichana wake ataolewa na guka kuliko huyu bwana yao ama akuwe Lele coz roho ikifika kwa mtoto it multiply
2nd wife hear this" My son,keep your father's command n do not forsake your mother's teachings.Why? When you walk they will guide you n when u sleep, will watch over u, n u awake they will speak 2u.
This stano boy🤔🤔veeery selfish, veering controlling 🙆♀️🙆♀️mtu anatengemea mshahara ya bibi,mwanaume bonko acting perfect man🤔i wish wagekaa wawili bila this so called second wife ndoa ingekua👌👌but saa hii hakuna ndoa hawa ni sponsors in the name of wives. Ngugi 🙆♀️don't try that nonsense ati first wife ako na roho kama ya bibi,imagine betraying your wife in this manner, please don't even imagine of trying.
