Ua tsaug rau zaj dab neeg no nawb. Cov lus no yog ib co lus zoo heev yog ib co lus nyiaj lus kub yog ib co lus khaws coj los ua lub neej. Peb ua neeg nyob yus hais li muaj, muaj li hais xwb nawb mog. Qhov zoo qhov phem nyob hauv yus lub siab yus yuav tsum paub yus tus kheej os.
If I owed someone $20k they don't have to say anything to me n I would be having nightmare until I pay it off. Wow! Now shes playing that "no receipt" game! Oh omg now she's going to get in a big way.
Even if you're the Oldest, only help out as you can! Like in this story, if you help out too much, you will be taken for granted!!! Karma is bound to happen to those that disrespect!
Can’t blame no one but yourself for trusting ppl too much! They didn’t force you to give it to them, you willingly gave it to them without setting a timeframe to pay you back. Never borrow anyone cash, write up a contract and have it notarized no matter how close you are. This is to save all the headaches and kev tu siab. Hope this is a lesson learned for you. I understand you’re a kind hearted person but don’t trust ppl too much. Glad you’re willing to forgive your kwv and Niam ntxawm. Hope they learn their lesson and be better people
I married the oldest son too and we helped the younger brothers out when they got married. Nowadays we can’t even call them to come over just to eat. I could never rely on them for help. I rather rely on my husband’s cousins because they are always willing to come help us.
That's right. People need to recognize and stop being so generous when they can see how others are being ungrateful and disrespectful. Also, the nerve that those people have who ask for loans in the thousands and tens of thousands and don't repay, yeej xav kom lawv npam tiag!
Yog li hais lawm tabsis tus ua tsis yog tus txiv tab sis thaum yuav thov thiab yuav pe no ho yuav kom tus txiv zoo li no tus niam yuav tau mloog tus txiv hais thiab yog hais rau qhov yog tab sis tus poj niam no nws yeej tsis hwm leej twg li nas
Tus viv nvcaws aw, txais nyiaj rau luag los luag tsis them yus ces muaj chawj chim thiab. Yus tsis txais nyias los luag muab yus hais rau ub rau no tias yus twb yog kwv tij tsis hlub lawv twb tsis kam txais nyiaj rau lawv thiab. Kuv tus txiv ub ces tau lub npe qia dub siab me thoob wb cov kwv tij vim wb tsis kam txais 10k rau nkawv yuav tsheb. Txawm nkawv coj wb mus rhuav los kuv tsis chim nkawv ua rau kuv kawm thiab txuag nyiaj kom ntau ntxiv kom tas kuv tiam neej tsis txhob tau mus txais leej twg nyiaj xwb.
My mom always told me to never lend money like that. Just give what u can but don’t lend bc when they ask and u give it to them, it’s easy. When u ask for the money back, it’s hard. Something I live by. This story has words of wisdom.
🙏 🙏 🙏 do NOT borrow $$$ to anyone, I don't care how close you are to someone. There's something called a bank for them. If they are not qualified for a loan that's their problem not yours. Only borrow money if you want an enemy.
Some people have a lot of nerve to ask for that much money. I don’t know why some people think it’s ok to borrow that much money. Go to the bank and get a loan! I never even ask for $20!
Use your judgment wisely who and how much you lend money to. Sometime learn to say no. No doesn’t mean you don’t love them. It means I don’t trust you paying me back! That’s two separate thing.
I don't believe all your story. No one borrows any one..even for family, $20,000.00 and say that they don't have to pay it back. Only parents can do that for their children. This lady tries too hard to sound like she sooo good hearted.
To me, the younger brothers wife knew exactly what she was going to do right from the start. She already planned that if she got the 20 k, she wouldn't pay it back. Remember, no matter how much money's involved, remember to have it with paper trail....Cashier check, money order etc
It’s good thing we have equal rights these days but man some of us women are just using it wrong! I understand if a family member repeatedly trying to wrong you all the time but you shouldn’t be trying to stop him from seeing his family! If a man does to this a woman we woman would be saying he’s controlling etc and telling her to leave him. But when a woman does it then it’s ok “happy wife happy life” 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ He misses his family just as much as you miss your damn family. He wants respect for his family like you want for yours. He wants you to love his parents like how you would want him to love yours.
Kwv tij tsis zoo qiv nyiaj nawb thaum nyiaj mus mas nyiaj luag ntxhi hos thaum nyiaj rov los mas nyiaj dub txig xwb mus lawm 1000 thaum los txog yus ces 500 xwb
Muaj ib co neeg mas nws tshuav luag nqi es nws tsis xav them mas nws ua txuj mus cem yus rau ub rau no kom luag xav tias nws zoo zoo no tab sis qhov tseeb yog nws. Tshuav luag nqi xwb mas. Kuv tsis to taub cov niam tais ua nws tus ntxhais tshuav luag nqi es nws tseem qhuas thiab xyov yog niam tais dab tsi li lau.
I learn only give what you don't expect back and give only what you can. Know that once you "lend" out to someone, look at it as if it's not coming back. If it does, then be thankful. If not, then so be it.
you want to know a easy solution to that? tell them to go borrow at the bank thats what it there for. you have no money. maybe 500-1,000 is doable but 20k sorry no have.
Koj twb tsis sib haum nrog tug niam ntxawm ntaw es koj tseem koj tug niam ntxawm pub cov niam ntxawm yau los nrog tug niam ntxawm nrab nyob thiab thiaj li muaj tej npa ham no yog tim koj pheej kom sawv daw nyob ua ke nev.
Tus niam tsev aw... koj tus niam ntxawm uas phem2 ko ces xws nkaus li peb ib tug niam tij tsis txawv kiag li os. Cov neeg uas siab phem mas nws twb yog tus txhaum los nws tseem ua cuag li yus tub qaug nws thiab, vim nws yuav ua kom luag leej lwm tus uas tsis paub nws lub qe ces xav tias yus yog tus phem.. tab sis mam cia lub ntuj txiav txim...
Let's be careful here too if this scenario happens....Let's say you have the notarized contract but then the borrower is unable to or doesn't want to pay then he/she files for bankruptcy. The borrower is forgiven by the law. Now you have nothing to say; should or will karma get him/her....hahaha.
Cov neeg uas tshuav yus nqi lawv tsis txaj muag rau yus kiag li nawb. Kuv muaj ib tus khwv es tshuav Kuv $3500 xwb es twb tau 15 xyoo es twb tsis them tau Kuv. Ncawv twb mus ua teb xas muaj Nyiaj heev tabsis mas $3500 twb them tsis taus.
Uacas nej cov tub hmoob ameka es tsis hais tus ua hauj lwm thiab tsis tau ua los pheej yuav tos niam thiab txiv them nqi poj niam rau nej ? Peb hmoob Fakis peb tsis coj li nej as.. Yog tus tub ua hauj lwm muaj nyiaj hli lawm ces nws yog tus tawm nyiaj ntau rau nws lub tshoob niam thiab txiv yog tus them tsawg xwb laiv. Peb coj li Fakis txoj cai. Uacas nej lam nyob america xwb nej coj li hmoob nplog xwb.
Twb tsis muaj nyiaj es cas pheej xav sib yuav ua luaj li mas. Yuav tsum khwv kom tau nyiaj mam yuav tsis lig nas. Ntshe maj maj yuav tsua ntsuag xwb paub😂
It's not your husband and your responsibility to care for his siblings after they turned 18. Everyone need to be responsible for themselves. Your husband and you should have taught them responsibility by paying for their own wives then moving out but instead you two hand the brothers things freely. It's no wonder they are not grateful and cheated you two. I am glad karma caught up to them. You have a very big heart. If it was me. I will just say screw them lol.
Ua neeg zoo ces yog neeg ruam xwb. Ua zoo ray cov ua zoo rau yus xwb. Tus ua phem yuav tau ntse es hais kom taus. Neb on niam txiv ko yog tiam tas los neb ua txhaum neb tus kwv nkawv es tiam no neb thiab los them nkawv. TOS neb ob tug niam ntxawv nkawv tsis sib haum los yog tim koj yog tus rau Tswv yim kom cia lawm los nyob ua ke. Tim koj xwb. Yog siab ruam npau ko no qhia es kuv tuaj noj koj zog thiab seb.
I don’t understand why these young men who are over 18 years old, living in the US cannot afford to pay for their brides. Go get a job and SAVE. My son work part time at 16 and one year later he was able to save $8K. Smh. If you can’t afford your wife that means you are not mature and responsible, especially, if you are living in the US.
Brother DDP, back in 1980s our young men still cant even help themselves like your kids now, even a family man can't find a job in McDonald or Burger King. Don't compare those 80s teenagers to yours now.
May koj yuav hais koj tus tswb hawj ko mus txog thaum ntuj tas teb kawg tso mam li tsum lov ? muaj ib txhia neeg tsis xav hnov lawm. Neb ob tug hlob xav tau ntsej muag kawg tab sis nkawd muab tawv dev los looj kiag ntsej muag tuaj ces neb poob kiag 6000 $ es leej twg yog tus ntse ? yog neb tus niam ntxawm.
What? Oh meb muaj nyaj zog lawm xwb! Muaj qaab hau dlaab tsis es yuav txais $20k rua meb 2tug loser nam txawm hab txiv ntxawm quav dlev ntawm mas. She try to keep the money n did not want to pay you back so she made up story!! Yeej yuav npam xwb mas...
It's suck when it come to family borrowing money..my first blood cousin own me my wife money when I lend it to him during hard time n now that they back on their feet my cousin and his wife been dodging us whenever we see each other...so scare to talk to us like we going to ask about the money but it been over 6 year and I haven't say anything but already know they never going to pay back..what suck the most is they own people money but use money like they rich n own no one..but it's Kool bc deep down they know as long as they jot scare of losing their faces than that it..so don't lead no one a amount of money without knowing they won't pay you back
You can give someone who doesn’t know how to manage their money 1 million dollars and they will still blow it within a short period of time. You have no power to bless them with wealth lol. Ps, are you sure they are the ones experiencing “kev npam”? They gained 20k while you lost 20k 🤭 karma right?