Negative Sentiment Override can be overcome! The ratio of 20:1 positive to negative interactions is a great place to start as something to tangibly try and shift. (The ratio changes to 5:1 during conflict, Based on research by the @gottmaninstitute) The tricky part will be training your brain to ✨let positives be positives✨. This means if your partner gives you a hug, THINK OF IT AS A HUG and not as some twisted power move. If you partner asks you a question, THINK OF IT AS CURIOSITY and not as them trying to annoy you. You have to actively re-condition your brain, but it is possible.
How to do this? Write down a list of 5 interactions. Next to each interaction, write down a positive interpretation of why the behavior occurred. Repeat every day for a week.
Another tip, APPRECIATION. We assume the negative when we feel under-appreciated. So, this week, verbally appreciate your partner for 5 things every day. Out of the blue. Maybe this will turn the tides and they will start to see you as well.
You have power to make a difference by changing your perspective.
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1 июл 2024
