I used the energy of anger to withdraw from a relationship that was harmful to me. There has been the emotional fallout of letting go of this person. But knowing that it's over and having no further expectations of this person is a much more comfortable space than never knowing if he was going to be there or not. I feel relieved and have more energy to get things done and to be more present to myself and other people.
If we dwell in the mental state of experiencing an emotion we deprive ourselves of the visceral experience of our feelings. By overthinking our bad experience we cringe and shut down our ability to let the feeling happen. Running from pain is suppression, the realm of toxicity where the unresolved festers and explodes upon triggering. Once we get that cringe instead of running away we should lean into visceral lane by letting the feeling happen and process pain, parse out the lesson and release the negativity. Feelings last for minutes but if we hold on to them in our conscious awareness we’ll get stuck in this addictive/attached replay loop. By practicing going towards the pain, over time managing our feelings becomes easier, quicker and less intense. Thank you for allowing me to share.
I used to do this. I kept quiet and held my peace when i was clearly being baited by a colleague with malicious intent into reacting during our meetings. I saw my non-reaction as maturity, stoicism in the face of a storm. Our manager saw it as weakness and passivity. I found myself without a job a week later. 😅
When I stopped reacting with defensive play and just started listening, letting her finish her tyrant speech I was then called "cold, most mean spirited person they'd ever met." Then came..."you're a narcissist."
Boy oh boy did I need this video.😂 for a year I put up with my boyfriends live in deadbeat son ignoring me. he had like a 42-year-old 12-year-old he was able to make me feel like I do not belong for a solid year. I did my very best to process it inside myself and I did well for a whole year and then one horrible night it all came out in a rush and he got me with the gotcha game. So now I live alone and my boyfriend and I are trying to see each other. It’s if the son is the father and my boyfriend is the son. We are in our 60s but still plenty healthy. I loath being treated like a child like this. but still like my boyfriend quite a bit anyway great video
