Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
@@brian5682 women naturally seem to learn it or get it at a younger age than men do, or maybe not even that, this is something I heard somewhere: "And here's the thing.... women are wired to be social... it comes naturally to us! That's how we are biologically... men have to learn that regardless, it typically doesn't come naturally! So you are definitely not alone!"
Seems people respond to how you make them feel. They remember how they felt last time they were around you. And if its plus its good and a minus its not. And a zero in the middle is blending in and probably forgotten, so you have another chance later. lol And it would seem if you can make them feel good about themselves, without false flattery, they will naturally want to be around you. But don't talk too much. Be genuinely interested makes the connection. Telling stories is far better than an interrogation. Let people talk and ask relevant questions in response to what they say, as a genuine interest. Make it a good feeling all round. Feeling is leading the next moment. If you can control your feeling and direct theirs, the natural happens. At least that is my research ;)
My girlfriend said, "You're such a good listener" when I would repeat the last part of what she said with agreement. When she caught on, I had to watch this :)
@@JoshuaMNielsen She saw through the fakeness. Though repeating the last parts is a good strategy, it's so basic that after a few continual uses, the other person catches on and feels used. The execution of many well-employed social strategies makes for many succesful conversations with many people.
Oldie but a goodie. Always good to get reminded of these simple but effective tidbits that are so easy to forget. I have learned to stop and remind myself to not act as if I know about a subject she talks about just to pretend to have something in common. Like you said, you will just look like a fool in short order but it also gives you a chance to find out more about her and make more conversation if you show genuine interest.
As I heard the second suggestion on the "where are you from" conversation of saying "I can just see you walking by X..." I thought "This will not go well... Don't do it." It sounds rather presumptive like you are putting them in a box, and could honestly go badly. Especially if you just idealized or characterized them in some way they don't find amusing. Everyone's personality is different, so yeah you may find some who find that endearing, but I can say confidently that not all will. If you want to retain this approach with a sense of playfulness, but not come off as presumptive or weird, I would frame the "imaginative" phrase negatively as a question: "I don't imagine that you regularly walk by X and do Y... do you?" Or "You wouldn't happen to be the kind of person who does X... are you?" You still get to say whatever you like, but it allows her to gracefully challenge or alter the 'imaginative' statement, and you can save face if you actually went "over the top" as Hayley says. In that case, the woman could say "Oh, that's definitely not me" and it leaves space for her to lay out a counter-picture of how she sees herself. Or maybe she agrees and the conversation goes that direction. Either way, worth thinking about.
Maybe I'm weird, but I actually don't enjoy guys (or girls) who are too fake-cheerful and a bit too good at having a conversation. It makes me feel like it's a rehearsed attempt at trying to sell me something. A bit of awkwardness is fine, as long as it's genuine.
That’s true but it shows they care. You can’t just follow a script but being nervous before a first or second or even third date just shows you like the person. Kinda like a job interview. It definitely helps to be genuine and real but some preparation is always better than none
Relax, be yourself, say what comes naturally to you. If that's not enough to interest her, you're not a match. Women are like buses, another one comes along every 15 minutes. Keep looking until you find a good match.
I'm not convinced it's a good idea to suddenly start talking about your own background and place of birth if you don't know anything about where someone is from. You can easily probe for some details about their life and background and then start an interesting conversation from there.
It's impossible to have a conversation with a woman your seeing .when she quiet. I met her she said I'm quite shy until I feel comfortable. That's bs. 8 dates 3 months I get more sponce from my dog.3 last 3 months I phone conversation. Lol.... it was all a game .I wasted my time and money . I hear from most dating coaches. No contact rule. Lmao. That doesn't always work. My last text. I'm done.. I feel so much better my blood pressure went down 50 points lol.. excuse after excuse I'm busy, my job. It's not you it's not you. First date in few yrs. I meet a headcase.
It seems like a lot of the advice I see requires secure income. "tell stories"? Telling stories requires experiences and experiences require money. All while the Job market shrinks year after year...
Experience comes from doing things. Doing things doesn't always cost money. You might even be making money while experiencing something extremely interesting which someone else might find absolutely fascinating.
I am no expert. I recently became interested in the idea of "The Great Conversation" and its lists so I decided to start with the ancient Greeks. Presently I'm reading the Histories (it's full of amazing little stories) and before that I read the Iliad. Next, I will continue in ancient Greece as I believe their themes are now more relevant than ever. Maybe Plato and anything to do with the trial of Socrates. I'll definitely continue with The Great Conversation but I won't chain myself to it. Have fun!
If you want to create interest in women build yourself as a man. I mean socialy, at level proffesional or in the way to, have some hobbies and do exercise. Then aproach then only as a friend with all women and you've gained confidence to talk about everything.
Lying puts you in a weak position, because 1. you have to remember a lie, which is basically just a sentence and not an experience that you really had, which makes it harder 2. you have to make up for it in the future. You constantly have to build around that lie
Lol, keep getting lost in those eyes buddy. You'll be paying child support for 20 some years. And you'll wonder what happened. I'll tell you what happened you listen to her. It's better to go mgtow. Men Going Their Own Way.
I notice lots of people keep on speaking about Badofintao Secrets. But Im uncertain if it is good. Have you ever tried using this popular dating course?
And dont forget, girls like positive jerks. Never say anything you dislike. As soon as you mention something you dislike - she will say or think - YOU ARE SO NEGATIVE!!!! So whatever you speak - keep repeating Awesome, Cool, yes, great, fantastic bla bla bla...
