“You can have 6 pack abs, 6 inch D, you can be the Sultan King.” -Casey Zander Dude makes me die from laughter when he always talks about that: “It doesn’t matter if you are 6 foot five, drive a Lamborghini, and own the Houston Mavericks” 🏀😂🙂 K? Key? K?
Casey in my opinion you should show whatever! Wherever it’s vulnerability or annoyance or something else. Think about it is it really worth keeping all that shit inside you it will make you mentally ill. Far better the girl sees what you really are than some fake ass wannabe macho guy! Even if you don’t keep her and have to go from girl to girl that’s a lot better than staying with one and feeling the need to put an act on.
Honestly I realized that I really like theater girls. I am a sensitive guy and bullied in the past fittingly for it. Now I have a lot of anger and desire to go to full out on mma. I realize now that at least for me... those girls with stunning looks are nothing compared to girls with passion who are "kinda pretty'. Thats when you realize beauty is inaide and most of these women are not even worth bothering with.
This is so true. My sister dated a guy for several years before he past away. There was many things about him that she didn't know the answers to. The storyline in their "relationship movie" continues as a mystery novel for her in her mind. Wishing she knew more about him. She is devastated by his passing, but even in death she still loves him.
@@benjaminrennicke i have seen this crap first hand. shit from my family and past...hurled at me..at our lowest arguments.... and most of what CZ describes is like a play by play as things turned sour in my last relationship.
It's crazy how they are all just copy pasted. There's so little variability or individuality in them. I think dudes have a misconception about women cuz the way dudes make friends is very natural and honest, and what you see is what you get you know? So you can immediately be like yep that's my dude right here. So we try to apply the same logic to women. But they're designed to be smoke and mirrors and not have higher order brain function. Not that they aren't intelligent, they just seem to have almost no meta-cognition or moral compass whatsoever. And their personality is just a superficial amalgamation of what they've been exposed to. The more I date them (after a decade long relationship), the more I learn, the more I lose respect for them. And the more free I feel in my life as I realize they're just a pretty little aside from real life. A piece of candy (with some razor blades in it but you stop before you get to the razor blades). I still wish they were everything they were chalked up to be, but time to live in reality and not fantasy. I'm grieving the loss of the sunshine and roses conception of femininity.
It’s so hard to stay disciplined about not telling unessesary things! I believe Robert Green wrote that it’s a natural human tendency to actually share things and that we are not very good at keeping secrets, it’s a weight we want to get rid off.
You definitely need some kind of outlet. I would suggest some online male or female friend that lives far away from you and is not part of your normal social circle.
Best analogy for this is it's like a magician who has an incredible stage show. You are the magician, and she is in awe of your magic. A magician never reveals how he does his tricks...but if he does...watch that interest and wonder of his fans and audience immediately disappear. That's what it's like for a girl when a man she is dating reveals his tricks of how he came to be . She doesnt want to know.
@ZeroBudgetDude agree completely. Another analogy I didnt put in that comment was James Bond. Almost everything Casey can pretty much be summed up by James Bond's deamenors and behaviors. Does Bond go spilling his feelings to the sultry woman he met at the hotel? No. Does he tell her about his whole past? No. Does he worry about any of her emotions? No. The list goes on.
I don’t know men. I’ve been around some chicks who never STFU Last week I had a girl on blue tooth was having a few beers in my car. She could talk for 5-8 minutes straight without me getting a word in. I fucking just let her go, go outside to get another beer, took a piss, got back in the car opened the beer and she never knew I left 😂
Yup, happened to me, all of it. Scars and all. Believe what he says gentlemen. Be very vague and don’t offer too much to her. Don’t over extend your emotions and invest too much either or you will lose your frame. Your awareness of her subtle seduction will keep you alert. Read up on the betaization process and don’t let it happen to you. Sometimes you do have to get beat up to learn the hard way. But if you can avoid it, you’re ahead of the game.
You basically need to be like a mysterious sailor who comes home every once in a while without talking of your journeys but keeping her curious and her imagination running wild.
This is a terrible strategy. The more the man I love tells me, the more vulnerable he’s willing to be with me, the more I love him. He is strong, and his strength IS WHAT allows him to be vulnerable… Do men only see strength as like, muscles and being silent or something? No wonder men like this have 0 respect for us.
That's so true. On one hand you need to stay like a mystery - that's why woman like surprises. And on the other hand - you can't show struggles, don't say how hard your day was. It can be told very limited, in a positive way. You always need to enjoy life, show how much fun you have. Sad story, because you really expect them to help you and they do if they are in love, but it's like a fuel and it will run off, if you will be using it constantly.
It can depend on the woman. Some are truly caring and want a best friend to settle down with. Some don’t like guys that never open up. Depends on the age, background, what you’re each looking for, etc but I agree to be as stoic as possible
@@mohegansonAll of the good women - do care and do want oppennes. Or even if they are bad but in the passionate state. But what I meant - in a long term it will do bad for you no matter how good the woman is, and Casey is describing it here. You just better know this before the relationship will go south, if you really care about that woman. And handle your openness with care. There are some instruments to "repair" relationships if they did broke. Because once again - woman are emotional and can react on your new behaivior, forgetting what was before. For example you can be separated for some time, gain "point" in her eyes, etc. Anyway, you must remain strong all the time preferably, women ain't logical creatures, you can't just explain to them something, they need to actually feel it.
Yes, don't. As much as you want to tell personal info because she's a female, she's going to tell others about what you told her. I've heard from females I met from online chat talk about other guys she heard personal things about. Things like the guy saying he's still a virgin. Another is when he was crying on the phone about his GF. Even girls from overseas has shown me messages on what others guys has messaged her. Stuff like perverted messages.
Casey has mentioned this in other videos. This subtle and tangible piece of advice can be immediately implemented and is pure gold. When women ask me about how I started my business, I reply back with something along the lines of "Its a long story and not that interesting" followed by changing the subject.
I like that but I feel like if I’m too vague or a mystery constantly they’ll think I’m shady or something. It’s my natural personality to be open and honest and have good conversations after being exclusive with someone. Do I have to be an actor basically? How do you train yourself to talk less but still not fret about losing her cuz you never open up? Any advice is appreciated.
@@mohegansonyeah same here… I’m just naturally talkative and open, and I enjoy sharing things about my life. so what should I do on a date? just not talk? I want to implement this advice but I honestly don’t get it
@@Fred-zt5ky It's a mindset shift, you gotta realize no one actually cares about things you do or what goes on in your life not because they don't want to, but literally because they have never felt or experienced your life, so they can't especially when they have their own shit going on. they just ask things just to make conversation. So when you talk about yourself, keep it brief, add some flair, and change the subject to something fun. Ex: Her: "What do you do for work" Old Me: "Yeh I'm a Software Engineer for XYZ, I do this this this,etc" New Me: "I wake up every morning to a warzone, saving failing machines by writing code, I never know what's gonna come next, [Changing subject] does your job make you feel like you're in a movie sometimes?"
Daaaaammmmn... Find some new honeys 🍯 once I ran my first wife off I just replaced her lol. I literally hit up & made friends with like 10 girls with her same name and same race lol.
8:40 Too true. Dad died when I was 18, freshly out of high school, left me completely emotionally destroyed and lost in life. He was my best friend, I was the only son. Had a full ride to the University of Michigan, now 23 about to graduate, I feel like a man amongst boys, I see grown men twice, 3 times my age and a fraction of my maturity. Keep going boys, keep pushing. It gets better. Like Uncle C said a few videos ago - nothing can replace the reps, that shit can’t be faked. Put in the work consistently and you will achieve anything your mind can conceive.
All facts, lived and learned the hard way. Everything will be used against you from your past. If you treated a woman well, and you tell a new girl. you better treat her better than the last she will expect.
@@moheganson Obviously, never talk to a woman before. They will ask you questions when you’re half asleep, they will ask you covert questions, they will ask the same question five different ways, they will ask the question five different feelings, they may even try asking question through tears, of course you don’t tell her about your past they pry it out of you. All men make this mistake. Try to learn from other peoples mistakes is what the messages.
I think you can talk about trauma and struggle but put a positive spin on it, how it’s helping you grow and how you’re grateful for it. It comes down to HOW you talk about the past. In fact, it may deepen the respect, attraction, and love you both feel for each other. Just don’t cry about it or get overly emotional when talking about it. I’ve shared traumatic things from my past with my girl and in reality she cares more about where I’m going, my future, my vision.
He's the GOAT hands down! This brother knows female psychology and behavior on a Grand Master level. Everything he has ever said I have either knew to be true and have come to the same conclusion as a 44 year old.
Great points, as always. The Stoic philosophy teaches us never to talk about the philosophy, but to live it. Thereby showing the world what we are, not trying to convince others by talking about it. So we show her what we are and never utter a word about it.
One of my ex's was an absolute nightmare for this! Eventually I gave in and told her everything about my past. So we could finish the movie (relationship)😊
Once again appropriate video for where I find myself in my relationship with my girl right now. The sparks aren't there from the first weeks anymore, she's not into the sex anymore and it's starting to go stale. We burned too fast. I think I shared too much about my past with her too soon. Lesson learnt.
Casey I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart😂I'm glad I discovered your channel. I grew up watching romance movies and I used to think that's how women fall in love but noo, love like those doesn't exist in real life, it's a hard pill to swallow but after watching your videos I abandoned my former understanding of the concept of love and now I got bitches left and right🤣All these girls are the same man
My Dad said he worked multiple jobs while dating my mom and even after i and my siblings came into the picture and never gave her a company name or location just
@@ayiltonpalate9217 honestly been loving being separated. I feel kinda bad like I’m not allowed to be me anymore. The girls can continue on but we are suppose to be rented mules and don’t miss a day of work!!
@@dreambeliever3652 i felt the same, the problem is, that all this primal stuff about emotions and programms are mostly true but it is not that simple because we are way more complex and smarter these times....in the redpill space, woman are often portrait as evil robots who just follow their primal programms and patterns... woman are also able to learn, trying to understannd their partner, figure things out and selfreflect on their behaviour, dont forget they are humans too and want a happy life most of redpill stuff works for the attraction phase but not for a long term relationship. all these things are so generalized and extreme...no nuances. a lot of redpill stuff suits just immature and shallow woman if a normal woman really likes you, she is not gonna run away when you have a bad day, struggle or tell something about your past...because everyone has their problems, concerns and struggles, thats real and human... its okay to open up to a woman in a serious relationship (you dont need to become a beta for this lol just own your sh*t)....thats how it supposed to be. if you plan to create a family, you are gonna be together for decades, you cant keep up this redpill bs mask for that long. (woman are testing you, if you are your true self or if you are just pretending) you are supposed to know every little thing about your partner after 20 years. theres not gonna be mystery left anymore and ITS OKAY...guess what...people are still happily married or in a relationship. listen to real married man who have a family. they know much better than some young youtuber who makes a business out of lonley man.... look up Ryan Horgan unfiltered, maybe he helps you more
@@racinggames1 I agree with you totally. I’ve been married for 16 years. The mystery is pretty much out of the bad. Lol It’s been a rocky road for sure tho. A lot of toxicity was brought into our marriage. We’ve tried to fix it for years. When you have a very emotional and combative pattern… all this red and blue pill stuff doesn’t really pan out anyhow, does it. But to the point: Im 50 now and I’ve done tons of research and have tried every tactic, in hopes to rekindle what we had. Woman still want tho authentic you, rather than all the shallow pickup moves. Man… I had to find that out too. I stupidly gave it all a shot to see what sticks tho. 😂😂😂 But todays woman are very shallow and spoiled. It is well noted by so many men dropping out of the game. Woman despise men and call them “the ick”. Most of them you could never satisfy anyhow. But yes… there still are some out there.. if they keep their heads on straight, that could make a good partner. Not many tho
#1 Take-a-way: If you want to keep the flame burning, tell her as little as possible about you. Never be vulnerable about your past struggles. Maintain the image of strong masculine man that attracted her, opening up will change that image and cause her to slowly lose desire.
Wow this guy is on point with everything he says. Woman say to be vulnerable but will think your weak and lose attraction over time. Never listen to what women want only listen to your brothers.. .
Wise beyond his years. Unfortunately, it took me much longer... And looking back, it took a lot hard lessons to get to this point (the point of this video). Nontheless. The lessons were learned and internalyzed now. Women ONLY have the power you give them. And that is that. They are as transparent as clear glass now. Your most important tool is your frame and your ability to maintain it.
What is the difference between a woman and a police officer? Police officer, at least, tells you in advance that anything you say will be used against you.
I absolutely agree with not sharing info and especially losses from past but this video also infers a long term relationship is impossible in this day and age.just something to think about
Facts! I recently met a woman and immediately things got heated. Amazing chemistry! And what did I do? I said to myself “this girl is different “! And I opened up myself to her. What a huge mistake. Almost immediately she started pulling back. Way back. You live and learn I guess. I won’t ever make that mistake again.
Somehow we promise to not make same mistake but they have a huge manipulative arsenal man! As much as you try you still dump some personal shit to her bin.. otherwise she becomes emotionally unavailable asap
I've deliberately trialled this in a few relationships over the last 5 years: giving info, giving less info, expressing current issues being faced and not, etc. Everything you say is 100% correct, and it doesn't matter what type of girl you date and what they tell you and ask you to do.
Alot of this is certainly true especially for short term relationships, but long term often require different approaches depending on the woman. I honestly think a lot of those habits that you mention about women are more applicable to immature women who aren't in tune with their own desires or subconscious thoughts. A good relationship should have vulnerability and emotional openness as well as a degree of honesty about one's past, otherwise trust becomes shakey. But depends on the guy and the woman and how they interact.
If the woman chose butterflies then it doesn’t matter as the attraction will fade anyway, but if the woman chooses you and doesn’t l look for the Perfect Man then open up more. Not ALL, but sufficient.
Trust me, I used to be very secretive with women then I got into a long term relationship with my ex, let my guard down and got a little TOO comfortable. And it ended in a complete disaster as she threatened to ruin my life by telling people certain things (seriously, this girl was actually planning on teaming up with some violent drug addicts I had a spat with online after accusing me of cheating on her - it was scary AF to be honest). I was so overwhelmed by this i havent even gone on a date in 2 months, and i used to be a serial dater, but now i will try to take steps. What Casey says here is 100000 per cent the truth and I can't give him enough props for providing information, not just for men who are single and dating, but also for men in long term relationships or even marriages.
Hes right, once you open up, they lose interest. I ask myself if I want to do this? I rather be open and honest but then they walk. Seems like a crap life.
I don’t regret anything I say or do, but after discovering these videos, I wish I knew some of this stuff earlier on. Not just this one about your past but the numerous times you’ve talked about not talking serious stuff with women. I’m thinking back to a girl I was talking to and how the vibes were good until I tried to get deep and introspective with her and somewhere along the line I did kinda share some part of my past.
In philosophy, the definition of wisdom is experience without emotion. So healed pain like Casey says, or else it would be emotional. But when healed its easy to talk about as you don't give a F about the judgement. I guess I should tuck my tongue
This was another brilliant video. I have had exactly the same experience myself. A good rule of thumb is to never talk about the past, nor the future. And only joke and talk about sensual things in the present, never about deep thoughts. These are very basic rules, so they are easy to follow and make a world of a difference.
This only works on Western(ized) women. If you don't create a bright line of where things are supposed to go if you deal with a woman from say a Middle Eastern country you're done.
Really good video…basically make the girl crave your story/book by creating mystery and not damaging yourself by revealing to much. 🤐 I think 48 laws of power might be a good book
Only just learning this lesson, and not yet learnt. Tricky being courageous and authentic sharing truth, but not exposing too much.. I think we all have different values in this space, but certainly less us more in the long game.
This is absolutely true. I lived it. They always use it against you. People got mad at Shaq for recently saying not being too open with women you’re with but he was speaking the truth. It’s a trap.
They will find a reason to dump you anyway when the next better man comes up, no matter if you are too emotionally available or unavailable they will still find out a reason or invent it.
I like the analogy represented about the woman finishing the movie, and on her way to the next cinema which is, " A new man. " Or like a novel that she has read and she is on to the next book to read. We must keep the proper amount of mystery to keep them hanging on so they can never completely figure us out. For those who do not agree with Casey well Weird Al Yankovic once said, " DARE TO BE STUPID. " :)
Woman dont care about your struggles , they stand at the finnish line and pick the winners , its the same talking point in the manosphere the last decade
Completely agree on the point regarding anything/everything being used against a man by a woman during times of woe and/separation. Completely disagree that past scars would create a negative connotation for a woman (with a brain) it’s all about how the story is told
Every word is so true... Fuck.. I wish that i would have known this shit before.. Well i have scars, deep scars but i have managed to get over those shitty things. But listening this man makes us more intuned of how much of the game this is. I hate games, womens emotional shit and the sudden ways they poison us. I am man that feels very deeply, regardless of my stoic presence. My character has been build up by sports, fighting sports. I am 171cm guy and always had to fight bigger and stronger men and that has made me hard as a nail. Women just don't feel it and never guess that they would actually be pretty safe with me cos i am friendly, easy going and not revealing the potential i really have. I have been living with the dog some time and i think that it's better that way. My boy is more of companion than any lady i have met ever.
Some of this I don’t personally agree with saying woman “can’t help it” super hot take but “can’t is for people in wheelchairs” people are the masters of their own reality, I believe you can tell woman about ur past and they won’t automatically want to use it against you, i also I understand the mystery of your background is good, but you might find yourself acting which makes you fake, just stay conscious and remember you control your reality, pain is an illusion, you don’t have to let it control you.
6:25 this only "issue" i still have, is being present in the moment when a female is around me, because my mind is constantly on the future and planning things out.
Oof..... I made this mistake about a month ago. Needless to say, there was only one date. Just found the channel, and I won't be making that mistake again.
In my experience it pays out very well to have a girl completely figured you out and then deeply respect you for the battles you overcame in the past and see how you became the real man you are today. She will see that you can overcome any hardship, you got reason and stand in for your past decisions. If you have to hide anything about you or your past in the fear of beeing regarded as less valuable, then you are not the strong man you pretend to be. Nobody is born as a badass and she knows it. The moment you completely drop your pants is the moment when she decides if you are the real deal.
It took me unfortunately probably 20yrs too long to understand this: If a woman says that she wants you to open up, share your secrets, your past and the dark places of your mind, because she wants to really know you... It's not because she wants to know you so she can fully embrace you whole for who you truly are.
i ve watched you for a while and your advise work but for like low level women. im not talking physically, physically can be a 10, but for mentally basic women. tested
I would agree to this to an extent... the low level women it works great but the women with values and let's say a good Christian woman it doent work so well so you have to approach it different. The end game is the same tho.
Casey is exactly right. Think about how these women are always reading mystery novels growing up and are constantly watching murder mysteries on NetFlix. You have to continually be their mystery they are trying to figure out otherwise you are boring. Women will throw away their marriage for guys they don't even know because they crave this project of solving the mystery so much. Also the hotter the flame the faster the burn analogy is such an unfortunate fact because those are the women we are most biologically and pheromonally compatible with and then these women will throw it all away for a new mystery guy. It's a brutal simulation out here men. 😂
@@vladonutueu I reread my own comment and laughed but yeah.....this is one of the reasons a lot of these guys having kids aren't even capable of lifting their own body weight. Poor breeding selection by these women. Olympus Has Fallen 🇺🇸🦅
This reminds of the predators movie. At first they have no idea what they are up against, the predator with it's invisible cloak, it's technology, hidden weaknesses comes across as more God like than a creature. The humans bait the predator to attack, in doing so they see that it uses tech, bleeds, and can't see if you are covered in mud. Once the humans discover that it's basically game over for the predator. It's advantage lies in keeping it's mystery and leveraging that advantage. Imagine the predator coming down from the tree and revealing it's weaknesses, not very smart. You can almost say that it's greatest weapon is the fear of the unknown, your mind exaggerates and magnifies the power of the predator twenty times over. When you observe it up close you find it's more human and vulnerable than you ever imagined. So lesson learned keep your invisibility cloak on, don't reveal your true self it's a liability.
@@moheganson that would turn her on especially if u have looks , norhing more rebellious and i dont give a fuck attitude than killers, this how they see it , that danger dark triad turns her on if u are go9d looking not if u are average or below an 8 in attraction
