New Parents React to James Blunt The Girl That Never Was 

James admits he has trouble expressing in words how he feels so he puts it in his music. He is an extraordinary human.

He has such courage to be able to express his sorrow through his music. Maybe that’s his way of dealing with it and helping others do the same

My wife and I lost our second child to still birth, the pain never goes away, you just learn to live with it. This song hits so deep and the memories came flooding back 😢we have 2 more kids now and another on the way, but I always think about my little guy in heaven.

Having a baby is both beautiful and terrifying at the same time. My wife and I had 3 babies lost to miscarriages and with the help of an amazing doctor finally had a healthy pregnancy, then all of a sudden chaos ensued at 25 weeks and our little fragile boy was born at 27 weeks 6 days and weighing only 2 pounds 5 ounces. He’s 7 now and the smartest kid I know. He’s very healthy considering all he has been through and although he does have some ongoing medical issues that likely won’t go away, they are all manageable and now just part of the daily grind. This is a beautiful song and such an important subject. So many good through miscarriages in silence and never tell a soul. That’s too much of a burden to carry. We need to talk about the hard stuff so we can all help each other get through it.

Something happens to me when I listen to James Blunt and I can't explain it. I'm tough, I'm sporty, I listen to hip hop. I almost never cry. I only cried when my father died. I can't listen to Monsters without crying, I thought it was because of my lost father. But why the hell am I crying at this song too? This man is terrible, he takes your heart and breaks it into pieces.

This one hit home 😢 my first grandson was still born. He lives on through dreams of what could have been….

Went to see him in concert last week in Leeds. Absolutely brilliant. (This song had the whole arena silent)

When I lost my first one I kept having the same dream of a little girl with long blond hair running outside in the sun. I never saw her face but one day I will when I get to heaven and Jesus introduces me to my babies. Jesus is keeping them in his arms until we are united and I can hold them in my arms

My husband and I lost a premature son. We lost him at 10 hours old. I never got to hold him or see him. This was 17 years ago and this song just completely destroyed me.

Lost my Girl 2 days after she took her first Breath....❤

The Girl That Never Was, which he penned after he and wife Sofia lost their baby daughter. The song includes the lyrics: "We never should have picked a name, 'Cause now she has a face, And now no matter what we do, No one will take her place.

Love that James Blunt can sing such personal emotional songs, his songs have such meaning

I bawled honestly, i lost 7 babies and had a hysterectomy after giving up. Its so hard and im still broken from it all. This hits so hard.

James Blunt is one of most underrated singer/songwriters of this generation. He uses music to heal trauma Another amazing one you could do Is: Carry You Home. If you don’t know his full background James was a decorated military Captain that led troops in various conflicts. He writes songs that resonate and connect so deeply with people.

We suffered from 5 miscarriages over the last few years. We have a daughter due next month and I am still hesitant to talk about baby names with my partner or even tell many people about the pregnancy, I think I need her in my arms safe before talking about anything. I didn't know about this song till now.

I saw James at the Royal Albert Hall in May and when he sang this and the video was played there where a lot of tears in the audience, me as well.

Brilliant song Mr Blunt, such a writer of emotional lyrics

My little girl would have been 20 years old this year. This song kills me. My ex didn't deal with this loss very well and I lost her too. I hope they are together now, I pray that they are.

He’s one of my favourite artists. Beautiful ❤ This song makes me sob. My first baby was stillborn and that pain never leaves you. You do wonder what kind of person they would have grown into. Lots of what’s ifs. Congratulations on your little boy, enjoy. My youngest is 11 now and he’s still my baby boy 🥰

The power of his story telling. Did anyone notice how he started out singing to his wife and then the song shifts and he’s singing to his daughter directly. He begins by trying to comfort his wife but when he sings to their daughter he is deeply addressing his own grief. It’s so exactly true to how I’ve witnessed good men face grief!

The song was written about James Blunt and his wife losing a child through miscarriage. James can write sad, emotional and yet beautiful songs. It's definitely not the song to listen to when you're pregnant.

He writes about his time in the army as well . Things he had to do he struggled to deal with. Hes a born storyteller ❤

I love the chorus - she's dancing in heaven

To loose a newborn child will never give you total peace inside again. It will always stay with you.

Watch the interview with James about this song. It will surprise you. It just gives insight of how he can relate to others and write and convey.

It's been over 20 years. I still miss you Hannah. Daddy loves you.

During the Brussels live show, just before starting this he looked at someone (no idea who it was) and said "this is for you" proceeded by starting this song

The girl that never was, Where to start...? The theme is extremely delicate, rare in music, and interwoven with perhaps the greatest human sorrow, the loss of a child. This time, not only did James push the boundaries of writing with the text and bring an incredibly serious text full of life and thought, but the video is incredibly vivid, perfectly tuned to the music and lyrics. His voice lends itself beautifully to this elegy, as does his British accent. Now a little about the text. The text is actually about a girl who was not born. Whether it was a miscarriage or a stillborn child, I didn't understand or the songwriter left it up to the listener to decide. The text has two climaxes, both beautifully emphasized tonally. The first: "First casualty of life is a plan!" is a philosophical review of the song's theme and the very meaning of life, and the second, in my opinion, is both wonderful and creepy, sensitive and tragic: We should never picked her name, cause now she has a face, and no matter what we do no one can take her place'' is that moment that causes immediate braking of the organism, the culmination of sadness on a completely different level. Parents who had to replace all their wishes and best intentions with sadness and tragedy that they will struggle with on a daily basis. And finally, I would like to emphasize the relationship between the stanza and the chorus of the song, both textually and tonally, and visually (video). The text of the stanza, which in a subtle, lyrical manner gradually intensifies the listener's empathy and sadness, is the complete antithesis of the chorus. The chorus describes what their little girl would be like a wonderfully idealized, real princess placed on the pedestal of parenthood. The music along with the rhythm gradually accelerates from the stanza to the chorus and culminates here, which is James' way of showing that hope and love always overcome sadness and pain. Visually throughout the stanzas, James and the actress playing the role of the wife pack away unused items and wardrobe for the baby, and the chorus is visually warmer with a shot of a smiling blonde girl running freely through fields of wheat bathed in the sun. Also, great contrast that is meant to enhance the message of the text. All in all, The Girl That Never Was is one of the best musical achievements of this century, a song that breaks even the hardest hearts into pieces and puts them back together with the hope that everything will be overpassed with hope and love!! It's my humble opinion...

Me and my husband lost a girl in 2014. 7 weeks old borne premature. ❤️Mathea❤️

How can anyone not be moved by this song 🤷‍♀️

Such an amazing song writer, so emotional 😭. He's a poet. I know this song will touch you as new parents. Thank you for your reaction ❤

I had listened to this song a bunch of times. Really liked it… One of my favorites off this new album. Exactly like you said- I was with Taylor- casually listening.. I thought it was a breakup song. But then one of times through I REALLY listened to the lyrics… And got hit with the We never should’ve never picked a name because now she has a face line… And it clicked I never thought he could ever break me as much as he did with Monsters. But.. THIS. James is such an amazing songwriter.

I think the depth of the emotions on watching this is fascinating and, mostly positive. Because of emotional acceptance and growth.

I kinda hear similar tunes like Ed Sheeran's "Photograph" and "Small Bump" - definitely different between the two singers with their originals, but I guess, this is how British singers sing, the vibe are soothing and chill - in a sad way ❤️❤️❤️ Ty so much for the reaction S&T. Have a great day for the three of you. Blessings ❤️

Love your reaction,so real .

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Blunt is a modern day pop music singer and writer with a Country music writing ability.

Well CONGRATULATIONS 🥳🎉 Been checking out these later MONSTER reactions from James. AKA the BLUNT Force Trauma!! Not knowing he put out another heart ripper. I think he feeds on broken hearts. Typical Brit! Just Kidding!! Great Channel Guys!! Peace 🕊️☮️♾️😎

You two are going to be such good parents. Be blessed.

It took my wife and I years to have kids, with monumental obstacles. Very relatable, even if we eventually prevailed. Many tears.

WOW i`m sobbing what a fantastic song ......💙💙💙

I remember the first time I heard this early one morning in the way to work. I cried and cried! Had puffy eyes all morning !

Congratulations to you both. I don't know a more deserving couple. Just love that child no matter what and you'll be successful as parents. (Mine disowned me when they found out I was gay at 21. I'm now 56 and nothing has changed.)

CONGRATS WITH YOUR NEW BORN ENJOY LOVE FROM DENMARK

Oh shit, James blunt always gets me right in the feels.

I think this song will take on a life of its own moving forward . Most people that find themselves in this position will find comfort in this song.

Having lost a child like this and giving her a name it absolutely destroys me listening to this song if you have never been through this you will never know the pain

What deep emotions disguised and in feelings runs

sweet couple... Buddy its ok to cry

my father would tell us stories of his youth and war escapades and he'd say they were before we were a twinkle in his eye so before we were a possibility but love that term xx

Brave to write and release this ..not sure if it was a personal thing but how sensitive good to be real in this world .

I'll never forget that day. We went for a regular appointment and the heartbeat was gone. The first song I heard in the car after that was Beautiful Day by U2. I still can't listen to that song. I wonder what couldn't been

Congratulations on the new addition to your family! Carry You Home is another one that is really good. It relates to his time in Kosovo where he met an American female soldier.

As someone who has suffered miscarriages and still birth, this was so hard to listen to 😢❤ xxx

She's in heaven dancing with her blonde hair

Older lady here, they're was a saying," you were a twinkle in your daddy's eye".

His new album Who we used to be is sooooo good. Listen to Dark Thought and All the love I ever needed ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

This really hit home for me. I've had three miscarriages I am grateful that I was able to have three children in the long run because so many don't have that opportunity, and my heart breaks for them.

Idk what’s worse, I can’t IMAGINE getting that close then losing one.. as someone who has to have similar conversations with my wife because we can’t have one… it hurts. And then I have to tell people who do have kids “no it’s okay, talk about your babies because it’s not your fault you have one to enjoy” but I have to sit there and desperately want one while other people have one and get to have that love. I’d give another one a chance, it’s country and I know a lot of people don’t care for what they think is country, but Craig Morgan “the father, my son, and the Holy Ghost” is another one about a dad writing songs about a child they lost.

I have a new found respect for James Blunt after this song. It broke my heart the first time I heard it. I have a daughter with dirty blonde hair and this song instantly made me feel so lucky and humble to have her when so many parents miss carry or have still born. It's heart rending but beautiful at the same time. How a new parent, and a mother at that, didn't feel that pain immediately is beyond my comprehension.

❤❤❤most beautiful song iv been there.god bless you both ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Congratulations to you new little darling. My sons are adult now and my first and only grandaughter will turn 3 year 20 february.

The lyrics here are really sadder than Monsters, though the tune is more lilting. As hard as it was for the family to prepare for Charles Blount's imminent death (staved off by the very late transplant), at least they knew he had a full life and left behind a heritage in his children and the military men he had guided and led. A child lost, whether in utero or after birth, never has the chance for that, and the parents cannot help but feel they did something wrong.

This is such a good song. I believe I heard an interview where it's about a friend of theirs experience. Andy Brown has an amazing, def heartbreaking song called 'Hollow'. it's much more personal to him and his wife though, so you may not enjoy it (as much as you can such songs) as much.

This song is so painful to listen to. I miscarried my first baby 27 years ago when I was 14 weeks pregnant. I still blame myself. That pain doesn't go away.

As a parent this song is one of the most powerful things to ever hear. Crazy how good it is.

People really give James a hard time about his abilities I think he’s amazing 😮

this song hits hard because me and my wife never have kids, because I found out from the doctor I could never have kids,my wife said before I found out she was to blame ,I told her she wasn't to blame it was me , so now I will take the blame to the grave.

Song hits hard, I have a son, love him, would give my life for him, he's 26 now, but always would have loved a daughter, but wasn't to be. Another great cover artist is Dan Vasc, metal singer actually, but sings almost everything, he has a cover of Elvis's An American Trilogy, sung 5 days after his fathers death, as a homage to his father.

Wow ... i bet he explains a lot. God Bless him.

This completely broke me. My wife was going through depression and miscarried and ultimately ended our marriage, anything like this just brings back the pain and loss.

Before our unique son, we lost a baby after many years of trying, it was a terrible moment in our relationship, then we were blessed by God with a beautiful boy who changed our lives. But as they say, after the storm came the calm.

34 years ago my wife gave birth to a beautiful baby girl but 20 weeks later i got a call at work to say she had died in her sleep and it broke me to bits,but to compound things my mother then committed suicide 3 weeks later we tried again a year later but she had a miscarrage but we got lucky a bit later with a son and then twin boys, however when the twins were 3 months old she walked out saying she couldn't cope and then told a councillor that she had smothered our daughter because she wanted me to stay at home that day.....later when the twins were 3 i met a woman with a daughter the same age mine would be and it scared the crap out of me...somehow i was being given the chance to bring up a daughter and she always had more leeway with things than my sons did...earlier this year i was a proud stepdad at her wedding but songs like this still reduce me to tears ....every child born into our family since my daughter has been a boy so ive never held a baby girl for over 30 years

I love James Blunt's music

Gary Barlow wrote a song about a similar circumstance ( Let me go) but deliberately wanted to make it an upbeat song. It is written wrong the perspective of the child. Similar to this in that until you digest the lyrics they don't hit you.

Man this one hits hard, no need to say why, it hurts too much, but you all know why. I wasn't ready for this song tbh.

Thanks!

The discussion of stillbirths and miscarriages is still a fairly taboo subject even today even though it affects a large number of couples. We have 5 grown up children, but in the corner of our hearts is the sadness of the one who never was.💔

I lost my daughter at 15 years old and so while I didn’t lose her as a baby , there’s so so much she never will get to experience and stuff and this song got to me

James was a captain in the british army. He served in bosnia in the balkans war.

I have never seen your channel before. But I'm glad you didn't see this until after your child was born.

My sister lost her son at just 3 months he was born with a severe heart disease an passed right after his second surgery smh soooooo hard💔💔💔

I have two babies in heaven. It was devastating both times. I know I will see them one day. ❤

This is the first time I heard this song A few years ago me and my partner lost our child in miscarriage So ohhh boy it hits hard Always loved James Blunt But this song and monsters I hate you (not really) but man He ripping our heart strings with these two songs

Damn, I cried. My take away from the song is that when you stand from afar looking at other people's lives, seeing this beautiful, perfect fairy tale, it never is. Nobody in the world is spared hardships and loss. Life isn't easy and yet we all, me including judge so easily not only others but ourselves too. When I was younger I wished many times I lived other people's lives. Expecting my first and only child, I was completely oblivious to the fact that I have lupus,. I came very close to losing him, barely survived myself. I'm glad I was spared the knowledge, until the day he was born ( emergency cesarean) of knowing how close I came to losing the most important person in my life.

Maybe it’s an English expression’ you were just a twinkle in your Dads/mums eye, when..’ ie before you were born. So more than a twinkle means very much there.

You can tell from the beginning of the song it was about lost for a baby

It's called baby brain ❤❤❤

He's talking about a miscarriage and the way he found to describe and to comfort themselves through this painful event on what it could be anyone's experience expecting a baby 😢

I lost a beautiful baby due to a Placenta Abruption. I had to go through the longest night of my life delivering a stillborn baby!

I’ve lost a lot of people in my life over the years including my husband but I imagine nothing is quite as painful as the loss of a child. My heart goes out to all those who have suffered such a loss.

We lost our little one in early pregnancy 43yrs ago and still think what if....we did fall pregnant again soon after now she is 41....but you still remember.

Next carry you home

I lost 2 babies to miscarriage and watched friends lose babies to stillbirth...this one hit....when I thought I dealt with the trauma of it, got past it...hearing this I realize the ache is still there...I tried to ignore it it happened....but what if? I go back to my Catholic roots....things happen for a reason and maybe I wouldnt have the kids now if the others would have survived well dammit that makes me mad....why couldnt I have all of them??? Why? I wamt to know WHY??

This hit home as me and my wife went through 3 ivfs. We were lucky onnthe 3rd attempt which gave us our beautiful daughter. But this song makes me think of the failed 2 attempts where we had very early miscarriages. And what would they of been like. Left me in tears watching this.

Him and his wife lost their baby daughter it was a miss cottage he spoke about on this morning television❤ he said it was a devastating loss for him and his wife so it wasn’t dead about a miscarriage. It says no she has a name because of his song.

Congratulations on the birth of your baby x You will be fantastic parents. Not perfect (none of us are) but fantastic. I wish you and your family all the best. Take care xx

Wow this songs hits so hard 😭wife and I lost our second child at about 5 months along.

Hold close your loved one. Babies are angels ❤️

I have 2 daughters and this song really hurts my heart.