We are very broken Sis. Shu, I am still scared to share my own. I am afraid of what it will do to her, the way I have had to learn to manage her emotions all my life, I have made mine invalid. Hearing you share your own experience, even from the other videos, has made mine valid. It's a brave thing to do. We barely speak about how this kind of relationship with our mothers can create complex relationships with your siblings especially when they've only been dealt a more gentler and loving hand than you've been. I relate to you on siblings having a different experience than your own, I feel I would be ostracised if I were to share. Thank you for holding a safe space for those ready to speak. You are going to help heal so many women who don't talk loud and open about this mother and daughter wound. I am glad God found your heart for this brave assignment to tell the story for all of us.
Said a mouthful even without the specifics. But I believe that because unlike them, we can acknowledge there's a challenge/invisible rift, we are in a good position to do better and heal the situations.
This makes me appreciate my mom even more, till this day, she pushes all 4 of us to greater heights and celebrates our wins. But with my mamazala I got the shock of my life as it didn't make sense how can a mother be so cold to some of her own children and love and spoil others, no sign of emotion, no support, just demands money that she doesn't even know or care how these children get it. I've been married for almost 10yrs with 2 kids (age 6 and 3), mamazala has never bothered to visit, has never met my kids and tried to destroy our marriage by forming relationships with hubby's ex and announcing her as the makoti to family and neighbour's in the village, all this done without hubby's involvement. I'married to a son she never loved, but wanted money from every month. we stopped visiting before we had kids after we noticed we were not welcomed. the eldest daughters are treated the same way as hubby and the younger kids she adores them. Looking forward to the show, I have to share with the Big sisters, praying it will help a lot of people to heal ❤
The most painful part is when you are labelled; a rebel, illmannered, ungrateful and a LIAR. Toxic mothers have a way of recruiting a team that makes it a full time job to turn against you "enablers". Then people throw around blanket statements "no mother will ever do that to thier child" my only hope is now left in God and judgement day, until then I am mothering myself and I've been doing a good job with little me shem. I've become such a brave and focused girlie ❤
" There's something about being a first time mom that makes you reflect on your childhood" I relate so much it hurts It was only after I gave birth that I got angry at how my mother raised myself and my sisters I was so tired of being angry, I spoke to her when my daughter was two years old All I wanted was an apology and for her acknowledge her mistakes Instead she made herself a victim This topic hurts so much. I've accepted that andina mama, ngok ekhona ephila. Living her best life eGqeberha I don't talk about this to anyone, I only opened up to my partner 8 years into our relationship. That's how deep it is
I think this show will heal so many relationships in some way. I pray God guides you in this journey. I pray that the mothers and daughters that come to or watch this show will be open minded and understand that they are human and the aim is restore peace and heal. We love you sis Nozi❤️ may God continue to use you as a vessel❤️🫂
So true...I agree with your sentiments.when you say may God guide her in this ..may the almighty truly truly guide Nozi in this... Amazing show concept
Very emotional topic Nozi 😢 However, we have to learn and accept our broken mothers as our parents. We can't change our parents. Being born again helped me a lot in dealing with my toxic mom because if it wasn't for the guidance and comfort of the Holy Spirit I would have handled her differently. May her soul rest in peace. Congratulations for the new journey 🎉🎉
Yhooo Nozi I'm in tears as I watch you talking we are very broken cc just recent my mom took me back to those emotions i shaved under the carpets. Big up cc this is very powerful than you think.God may continue gives you the wisdom.
Beautiful thing I've learnt is, as siblings we are all raised by difference parents. Who your mother is with you will be a different woman when raising your siblings years later, firstly are grown and have learnt different ways if parenting.
I think our parents were raised in homes of no showing emotion or love and it’s very sad that they also took upon that road, I’m glad sis’ Nozi you’ve learnt from it and you’re a very loving person beyond the experience 🫂
Yhooo...I am just getting emotional myself watching and hearing snippets from your own experiences with uMama. We really, really have/had serious challenges as daughters with our mothers. Without it being an excuse, we see our mothers' different traumas and life challenges through how they are with us.I always say ke transference that have to take place, but unfortunately, we are the punching bags and recipients of all this hurt. My prayer always:may we do our best to detox the hurt ourselves by using different platforms that we know and have access to. And work on our healing because, we cannot continue the vicious cycle. God be with us, our moms and continue to walk with us 🙏 🙌 ❤️ Thanks Nozi for accepting this opportunity and doing something about to help change the narrative ❤
I nominate uSamke from this body works for me nomamakhe because that relationship alone can teach a lot of mothers and daughters a lot. Im sure some relationships are bad but leya yona. It needs the nation to intervene
You actually told us the story of the bursary money🥺 I wish parents understood certain things. I have a question when do you know that you should go to therapy? Childhood trauma or memories are so daunting and painful sometimes, especially if you are person that sweeps things under the carpet😭typing this makes me so emotional😭
My mother is like your mother she doesn't show emotion 🙄 vele akubuke nje athule yoh and ubaba ❤ yoh God bless this man....he even jumps and hugs abe nale joy....mama is like yours uyaphoxana .
Zama, ideally it would be easy to bash and see how wrong that is especially from a Mom. But mina it makes me wonder what happened for her to get to that place where her emotions are unreadable. That picture nje sounds like that of a person who continues to carry her own demons from the past and they are interfering with her present life and that of being an incredible mom. We say we need therapy, but in reality our mothers need it the most although a lot of them won't agree because of the world they are trapped in!
I appreciate you for sharing your own story, thank you. Healing one mother and daughter relationship at a time. UThixo ahambe phambi kwakho ❤🙏🙌. And congratulations 👏 on the new Show.
We can`t wait to watch that Show of our favorite one and only Sis Nozibele😊 the excitement i have right now knowing that something big is coming from you 🤩2024 is Already showing us good things that he has stored for abantwana bakhe, may you shy and be that Lighting Star to many☺
This makes me so happy and so emotional at the same time. We are indeed broken, and I feel like it has stopped some of us to become mothers ourselves as we don’t want to repeat what we had to go through as kids. Thank you, Mrs M, for saying YES to GOD to use in anyway HE wanted too. 🌷🌷🌹🌹🌺🌺💖💖❤❤
OMG you reminding me of my mother if it wasn't for therapy I don't know where I will be. During a day like mother's day it becomes worse as people are talking beautifully about their moms it heartbreaking for me because I don't have that relationship with my mom.
Go for it Sis Nozi! Very Necessary! Though it hurts keh sana know that God is the one that has appointed you to be who you are,even before you entered her womb! God decided qha! Be encouraged!❤❤❤❤ God is very very proud of you,in the end that is all that matters.
U a praying woman, let God guide u as this is a very sensitive topic. Remember God wants familieis 2 b united & joyful. Satan wants the opposite,so this program will b actual tearing his kingdom. Pray mo harder ke cc, lachap dsnt wanna b touched in his kingdom. Thank u 4 availing urself 2 b used by God. God is with u cc,Emmanuel!!!!!
Wish you'd have the tine to see a counselling expert who will give you pointers on how to not get triggered or choose sides as a presenter. That will be very important because when you start to see yourself in some situations it might be q problem that you don't even hear out the parents because you want them to be apologetic something you yourself have not gotten. I don't want to shock you but there might be alot of non apologetic moms who believe they were doing their best.
The truth of the is their upbringing that end up affecting us they didn’t go for concealing. My mother will always talk about her past but it very hard for her to forgive. While she is treating me the way they treat her before without her acknowledging that she is hurting me God made a way for me cause I don’t kneel and pry I just tell him about my situation. He spoke to me about forgiving her and leave everything to him he will take care. I am so great ful to God slowly she becoming a better person day by day but God is not finish yet
Thank you so much Nozi for this and thank God for you indeed you're blessed to be a blessing. My mom passed away when I was 14 years old. This show will help me to be a better mom to my 3 beautiful daughters. Looking forward to the show.🎉
Sana am so happy for you I could not hold back tears 😭🙌🏽. Thank you so much for always being so real and vulnerable and relatable. You are brave. And sibonga umamakho for not asking you to stop talking about her 😊.
I stopped expecting an “I’m proud of you” from my mother or dad. I just distance myself now. We speak once a month. I go visit once a year. I like my peace.
😢😢😢 you are so prophetic Nozi I was thinking about this for long and it's painful, I wish oomama bangayazi indlela abasibulala ngayo emotional uzame yonke into tjoooooo uBawo akusikelele sisi le Topic very sensitive I support you ❤❤❤❤
So sorry for daughters and mothers' relationships that are broken. I pray for healing. It's so sad to have such a mother. Your mom sounds so jealous of you! The fact that she wanted to switch opportunities between you and your brother. Wins must be celebrated and we need to teach our kids that even if you're not yet where you are, if other siblings win, you celebrate.
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉congrats Mamaka Lumz the way im so affected by this topic but yeeeeey im not ready to open that door yet , but i have a feeling that this show is going to heal a lot of us ❤❤❤❤
I'm so moved just by the intro of the show. This will bring healing to many people; the guest, viewers and hopefully for you too sisi. May the good Lord give you strength. Enkosi.
We are proud of everything you have achieved so far mama kaLumz🥰🥰.. Looking forward to watch your new show, I know it will be triggering for many including myself..
Yhoooo sis Nozi this is really going to help a lot of mother's and daughter's. I myself have some experience's with my mom where she was so hard me to a point that I thought something was wrong with me😢. Yhaaaa ne !!! Inkosi ibe nawe sisi akuphe amandla for this show🎉❤🥳🙏
Yoh we really need to heal from the toxic relationship we've had with the moms. Sometimes u can't even tell whether like for real she's ever loved you, cos it feels like we owing them a lifetime debt, and they are never appreciative. That's why I ve automatically become my fathers daughter. When my friends would talk of their moms I would always b talking abt my dad.
Hi Nozi haven't even hear what's this vlog about, but on reading some of the comments I think it will hit home in a big way. Don't think I comment enough on your vlogs but the end of your cousin's child matric farewell, I was gobsmacked with the honesty you spoke of on the same subject, which is of taboo in nature. Therefore enkosi cc, ewe uzakuhletywa ecaweni as before that's okay, you're healing us, go on with all taboo subjects especially as black community we go through the most, especially women kuthwa ncuma noba nyembezi ziyehla, bazakucimba zezovuyo🥺🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ well done nana❤😊🙏🏽😢
Just by watching im in tears. Im so broken and not ready to share in public. Good show it will be. I would like to watch everyday but ill skip all the episodes because im not emotional ready, tears will overflow i know. I dont think ill ever heal
Hey sana jonga!!!!! I resonate very well with your story. its a pity my mom and sister are both no more but ke sana i have alot to tell shem struu bob🤞.
You are so brave for sharing your story. I'm just tempted to know how sis Fez takes it if she is aware of you sharing about your personal experience. Please do share.
Let us pray for her and this program...whilst she's also still healing 🙏 from her childhood but yet she is strong enough to help other mothers and daughters ❤
When you spoke of your mom alluding to role switching between you and your big bro,copy and paste sana.... unfortunately my mom is now late! I had such a complicated relationship with her but by grace I got the apology I always longed for a few months before she passed in 2022.
Yooh sesi..mother and daughter traumas.they are for real .im currently going through it as we speak.its been a month not calling my mom coz im being accused of stealing something for her during the christmas holidays,not the first....this mothers they mostly choose their male kids .it really hurts deep..we are broken sesi
Hi Nozi, I'm definitely with you in this journey, unfortunately my mom has passed, and I understand that, this is all about relationships in general, they are difficult. All the best sisi
Eish I'm going through a lot. I'm mentally affected. We experience our parents differently. I have done everything under the sun to provide for my mom, I don't think anything will be enough.
