Prior to his Conversations tour in 2019 , I wrote to Nick on the Red Hand Files about the recent loss of my beautiful partner , asking him to play Love Letter for me . Not only did he play it , but he even mentioned her by name..still brings me to tears . Such empathy for others is rare 😢
I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you are coping OK. What a great story, thank you for sharing. Also, I love that song, I listen to it with my little kids before bed.
I am so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your story and hope you are feeling better now. Nick and his songs helped me in so many different situations and timelines in my life. Each time I hear him its like an escape from ordinary life to a better place where people care and respect each other.
He suddenly woke up to the truth that we are all stuck together. Forgive mistakes, but hug everyone around you all the time. The world outside is full of murder and tossing aside.
While watching this interview you say Mothers go thru a different thing “a hell on to itself”….I grasp with relief because I lost my daughter’s 2 years ago and am still struggling to find my way. She was a great admirer of your music and she introduced me to it. She also saw you in concert at a venue in Boston, MA. I still have the ticket stub she saved. My daughter was not a believer in religion even though she grew up in a catholic family. As she grew she went her own way and I understood that this happens. So her service was simple but full of music. Hearing “Into My Arms” beings me back to that moment. My heart, my soul is lost without her. The world I see has not been the same….she is gone. Thank you for your insight and this interview. ❤️🎶🎶🎶☮️
Don't know, never had or lost a child, but of course mother is a mother, but father is still a father... I think it is an actual job of the fathers, like Nick Cave in this instance, to somehow manly carry his grieve inside and aside, so that the mother can have more space to grieve. Just a thought, from a man. That's how we kind of tend to operate, at our best.
I Lost my Son last june2nd 2023 ..yesterday was 15 months ...and I am opening to recieve him in s whole other way ,because I refuse to let him go because I refuse to let myself go ..he is with me often and more profoundly than I could EVER ever have imagined...learning to pick up my often unbearable grief ..return to gratitude ,and move forward with it all.🫴✨️💜🕊🙏bless your heavy heart mama 🥹
When did you last see a person of his stature be completely authentic as a mere mortal like the rest of us. When did you last hear of someone like Mr Cave read all the letters sent to him on the Red hand files? This man is our national treasure and we are the richer for it. His humility rises above any other trait he may have and he lays open his frailty like I have never seen someone famous do. He is real ,he is human and he is authentic. Thank you for a glimpse into your world and please keep inspiring us by walking amongst us as we deal with our grief, our gratitude and our wishes. You do this with your music and your website. You are the coolest
The only other famous artist, I have seen like this is Gary Numan. I wonder if it has something to do with their style of music, never happy songs, yet very powerful?
I had no idea this beautiful artist lost 2 of his sons. That's just unbearable, and yet. How do we live on as ghosts of ourselves too in such tidal wave loss 😢 for awhile. What's even more touching, is how he just, embraces and understands even in his own pain, what his wife what a mother may feel and have a different depth of grief journey. That just brings me to my knees, that level of empathy and awareness is simply put, beautiful and rare. A lovely elegant interview. Thank you.🫶🏻🦋💙✨
My son died 15 years ago from an illness during his senior year of college. Something that absolutely rocks a person's world. We get over things in time, but my heart still aches, sometimes as intensely as the day I buried him. It's agonizing, I cry and ache so deep for him. My baby, my boy, my favorite person on the planet, my best friend, my strongest love, my joy in life, now beyond my reach. God, please let me be with him in death. Reuniting with him in death is what I live for.
Greetings from London. Ah God love ya. Sending love and prayers. Just a thought from my own experience: while i still feel the pain of their loss, I hold my bereaved loved ones in my heart now, so I don't need to wait til I die to be reunited with them again. But yes, of course I think we will be reunited in the next dimension, whatever that is. But we can be with them now too. Hope that helps a little bit. A big hug from across the Atlantic.
I saw the Birthday Party '82 live ! they were great. But after that he turned his back on rock and became a folk singer. Now he's become an elder Stateman Bank Manager. Embarrassing. Always preferred Public Image Limited. Always true to their roots.
Grief never really goes away, it sits in the pit of my stomach until a memory or a favourtie song comes on the radio and I am transported back to a very, very sad time. I am still me, but I am different and as I have become older, I reflect on those that I have lost and have found as the years haved passed, not only their voices, but also their faces have become blurry in my mind. My Labrador, Lucy helped me so much through my pain, when we had to say goodbye, I noticed a smudge mark from where she rubbed herself on the living room wall, I never wiped it off. Even when the room was painted, that area had to be left untouched. Those of you who have been touched by loss will understand why I left that smudge on my wall. I wish Nick well. An excellent interview. thanks for uploading
I met and saw Nick Cave in the times I was living in Holland. As a Brazilian, it was an all new world opening in my heart. Straight into my belly. Brazilian Music is quite brought, and even thought, listening and seeing NICK CAVE 's and the Bad Seeds, had expand breathing spaces inside. Thanks for this great conversation and this amazing divine life of all of US. Nick Cave, you are just music that breaths. Love, Eveline
This was a very moving interview. I'm 53, but I only got into Nick's music the past few years. I love his new songs, they make me cry, in a good way. And that song he did with Kylie Minogue (and the video!) was so beautiful, that made me cry heaps. God bless you Nick! And I think he has an amazing smile, his affections really shine through his face. A very authentic, genuine and sensitive man.
I was at a gig in Perth a couple of years ago and I met a priest named Chris. He was Nick's first choir singing teacher. He said he had a letter for Nick. I remember he was really nervous. Nick walked straight to his van. I said to Chris, get up now or you will never forgive yourself. So he jumped up and quickly walked up behind Nick and saw them hug. Lovely moment.
Wow. Cannot imagine being that priest and finding out that the little kid that you taught so many years back is now a global mega rock star (well, not Taylor Swift level, but still pretty famous). Super awesome, might I admit.
He is that really rare individual in today's world - a nuanced, authentic original thinker. I'm grateful to be on the planet at the same time as Nick. His Red Hand Files is not only inspiring (and often witty) but must have saved the lives of so many around the world.
Perfectly said…not a second wasted. Tears as he found a way to express how it feels to grow older, to survive unimaginable losses, and to continue to find depth and beauty in life that our youth had prevented us from seeing. ❤☮️💜
Thank you Nick. Your honesty, your reality, is a beautiful thing to share. I'm 63, how do you look so good in your sixties?! And thanks to Leigh Sales. One of our greatest interviewers.
I've been devoted to this man's music for at least two decades - and I was compelled but a little cooler to it for the two before that, starting from around the time when he was living and working in Berlin. This interview is a worthy tribute to how much he's grown as an artist, and how much he's evolved as a human being. He remains an inspiration, even more so in the latter sense now. The interviewer has done a wonderful job in bringing both facets to the foreground with this conversation.
Thank you Nick for being part of the soundtrack of my life. Thank you for generously talking about some of the toughest times, and thereby helping me understand that I have never been alone. Chapeau ❤
What a beautiful outlook and quiet strength you have Nick ❤ you have embraced your tragic loss and grown from and with it, I do not know what made me choose to watch this clip but it left me touched and changed. Thank you for your profound openness to share your most intimate, personal and painful journey with the world, we all have different lives and pains and struggles going on, we must love enough to share our experiences as there is always someone out there who can benefit from our story, so let’s all keep on sharing and growing in love and in God. Bless you Nick I am now a Nick Cave convert ❤🎉 I love your authenticity, I love any person who can get in touch with what really matters to us all (The Truth) ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
My wife is slowly dying. She has been my reason to live for over 25 years. We live every day. We have no control. I could go first. We live. Every day, we live.
Ghosteen is truly one of the most life-changing, brilliant albums ever created by anyone. Such an important album for those of us who have lost a child. It doesn't avoid the difficult emotions, but it somehow gently guides the listener back from the dark hole of grief into the the lightness and beauty of life.
I was never into Nick Cave years ago but now in my 50s i appreciate his music and the person he is. He has been through so much, like most of us have. He is definitely talented and gifted. Warren Ellis is definitely this also.
1986, Nick, Mick Harvey and Blixa Bargeld in the back of my car, screaming around empty Brisbane streets trying my hardest to get an interview for triple Z. Certainly you've travelled a long and often torturous path Mr Cave only to emerge as a gem of rare quality.
Good old triple zed ❤. That would have been before Double J became Triple J radio too, yeah? Haha it was such a big deal. The Aussie subcultures were the best, because we were all so fierce but in such a small population, we all misfits and rebels had to hang out together, or there only would have been 5 people at anyone’s show. I really miss the mainstream/rebel divide, so full of energy and creative output
I was really impressed with this interview, and it's heartening to see him reach out. I'm a professional therapist specialising in grief and trauma work, people don't realise how widespread this kind of distress really is. Also a part time musician - that pursuit can be very healing and sustaining.
This conversation was beautiful. I’ve been a fan of Nick Cave since I was a teen. My two best friends died, 3 months apart, 20 years ago. The first lost her 2 year old brother when we were in school. Time heals, but music helps and consoles. Thanks and so much love ❤
Who would have thought that Nick Cave would become the best commentator on the subject of grief and perseverance. Very open and raw interview for him but I definitely feel there's therapy there just by hearing his take on it. He's a legend either way but hoping he'll revive Grinderman for a final album to make a trilogy... a wiser slower but still very garagey and snarly finale to an excellent side project.
I met nick in brighton..with his older son...and nick stood and chatted...had a photo with me...was an gentleman....and as a hero of mine...made my day... i often look at the pic on the wall and see him and his son and think how sad it is too lose 2 sons.. i dont live in brighton any more...but i sure did love the feeling of maybe bumping in to nick walking about ...at the time with a big handle bar tash.....sharp suits ..he just got that presence . One cool ass ozzy
I bumped into him too at the airport and he so politely obliged to taking a pic w me and mr bro and my dad. I always treasure that memory. And drove past him another time I think near s yarra!
an iconic figure in rock n’ roll, to still be so creatively energized at this stage of his career, while also managing to be a genuine human being, and ultimately a story of success and triumph (which is so rare in rock and roll) nick cave deserves his flowers, and to be regarded amongst the greats, with the likes of dylan, cash, and elvis.
@@Her.Serene.Feline.Cuteness. I'm sure he does something where wearing a suit and tie would be strange. How about working on his car? I want to see mechanic Cave.
Absolutely incredible interview, i was not expecting that at all, it was sent to me by a friend, i opened the link thinking it was an article of some sort. I cried, i cried a lot. And it was so beautiful. Thank you 🖤
Seeing Nick say in 1997 how easy it is to be a good father brings back memories. I felt the same way for a very brief period. I think fathers often neglect just how much of their slack is picked up by the Mothers of their children or in a worst case scenario, by nobody. I had absolutely zero male role models growing up, I had a father but he wasn't a role model and I didn't like or love him. I didn't particularly like men or myself. Being a good father is not easy for me, but it is everything for me.
I am a father of a teenage son and appreciate your comment. We raised him free range, un-schooled, and in that way I spent a lot of time with him, and those themes of being a role model and growing to love and accept myself, as a man, were very important, and are ongoing. Source be with you, may your heart continue to grow open, fellow!
Love you Nick Cave. My fave song is Shivers, written by Roland S, Howard at 16. But there are many great songs.Thanks for this wonderful interview Nick and Australian Story.
He's been through a fair amount of shit. I love hearing that's he's going okay. He's looking great too 🔥 The fact that he's got so much insight makes him even more legendary.
He had a very high quality hair transplant which has made him look great. I actually think he'd look good bald/shaved clean too. Check out photos of him over the past few years... And his hairline.
The dyed black hair transplant the two sons who died, a vain and egotistical indulgent dracula vampire if he had any dignity or respect for his two deceased sons, nick the neglectful dad should do the whole world a favour an go and live in a cave away from humanity!!….most over rated jerk
You know, I’ve never really thought much of Nick Cave. Not to say I dislike him, he’s just never been on my radar. This interview has completely changed that. That was powerful .. and really great to watch.
I didn't know that Nick lost 2 sons. I've been a fan of the music for a long time, and the music has been a gift. I wish I could do something in return. My heart goes out to him, and all of us who deal with grief. Heard a great quote once, "grief is just love with no place to go." However, we learn we can still love and strongly for those no longer next to us. Keep that love alive.
He still keeps his Poker face so well . . . That even his Audience couldn't tell . . . There's Pain , thrs suffering, but thrs Hope & humility , thrs Nick Cave
Glad Rowland wrote it, glad Nick spoke it...even happier that we are all big enough fans of music to recognize that such a song or quote can still touch different people enough to comment on it regardless. Thanks 😊
Love Nick Cave, saw him at an amazing concert in Brighton in 2010. But this is an amazing interview. Fantastic viewing. I love it. Thankyou. It was a very deep moving experience.
He and his music are constants on my playlist I’ve been a fan since being introduced as a teenager 40yrs ago. Some songs resonate with me while others not so much and others well the message or the darkness are too much for me to deal with in one sitting let’s say, but works in progress. Thank you Leigh for your direct and poignant style which allows the subject to interview themselves at time. Nick is a fascinating character and an Australian music icon. Breathless is very much a favourite I happen to find myself singing along to quite regularly.
I had no idea he had lost two sons. I didn't hear about the one in 2022. That's so sad. This man is the embodiment of strength. And the fact that he's allowed his grief to become a way to help others heal is inspiring and commendable. Great songwriter too.
After this interview, going to look up his music. What a thought provoking interview, I heard Tracy Braxtons widower, has been using his podcast to discuss grief and I'm impressed as I think it is needed to support and help others going through trauma and loss, imo. My mum 93 yet don't want to think about it.
I went to see him as a teenager, The Birthday Party was his band back then. I'm still listening and reading his words, his perception and understanding of lifes experiences. Thanks Nick ✊
It seems to me that Nick (if I can take that liberty) has known a profound grief from his original being. It has been his duty to share that with us in a way so intrinsically and directly that we can feel that pain and know we are not alone. His vibration resonates with a higher power.
Nick is so eloquent, and his utter humanity shines through. I found Leigh’s line of questioning a bit too obvious though, going straight for the grief angle and staying on it. It left little room for manoeuvre, the interview with Stephen Colbert was a real lesson in how to approach the subject.
I was fortunate enough to see Nick and Kylie do "Where the Wild Roses Grow" at the BDO. The emotion put into that performance was amazing. It was like they had been lovers in real life, not just in the song, Still one of my favourite duets ever.
What a journey it has been - about 40 years of my life enriched by this one of a kind musician, poet and human being... I'm so thankful for all the inspiration, the beautiful and/or heartwrenching moments...Thank you, Nick🖤 for your music, your spirit, for the last concert in tuesday and all the years before and for this interview, also 🥹
I saw the Birthday Party live ! they were great. But after that he turned his back on rock and became a folk singer. Now he's become an elder Stateman Bank Manager. And now he gets 'God bless' on youtube. Embarrassing. Always preferred Public Image Limited. They always stayed true to their roots.
@@Albert_Br He's grown as a person... life changes us all... but you're still stuck in the same mind set and judging him for moving on... I've seen him a few times... I think he's great... and God Bless him for giving me and others pleasure in songs that resound in us...
@@thetheraine That's nice he has made you happy. He was good live in the 1990's and I love his writing. But he's not for everyone. And is something of a disapointment in the last decade.
@@rulnacco No its Cave thats become one note. Just folk music with indulgent lyrics. Thats my point, you would've hated early Birthday Party when they stood for something. But now that he dresses like Prince Charles mainstream Oz thinks he's ok.
This interviewer was extraordinary. Cogent and engaging on top of the material, funny and intelligent and still able to ask questions in a manner that engaged the interviewee, drawing him out to open up without seeming intrusive.. We have no one like her here in the US. Very refreshing.
In 5 days of my posting this, it will be 3 months since my mother died, both suddenly and unexpectedly. I am a devout, practicing Greek-Catholic, to the point of my even spending time living in a Ukrainian Catholic monastery for a period. With that said, while mine and Nick’s approaches to and identification with the Christian religion is different than my own, I find such peace and solace in this interview within my own current state of grief. I remember when Skeleton Tree first came out, I immediately found great peace and beauty amongst the despair, and I still do today. I remember being blessed to see the accompanying film, One More Time With Feeling, while visiting a friend in Prague; and, how, upon the conclusion of the film, my friend and I sat there in near total silence, both just contemplating the various losses that we’ve dealt with in our own lives.
1988/89 NYE, I was at a humungous Sydney dance party on the really good extasy of the time. I believe their was 6000 people. At dawn break a DJ played the entire mercy seat album outside. We danced in the rain. It was a peak experience in my life. Nick has been a favourite my entire life. I'm 53 now. Xox thankyou Nick xox
I saw him smile! I will always be a birthday party fan. Nick has finally got to therapy. I loved the confrontation he had with us. I now embrace how he nurtures us.
it's good to keep an open mind. he's been rolling right along for over 40 years and there's very much to admire about him. i couldn't wait to watch this and wasn't the slightest bit disappointed!
Dear Nick, from Monday morning drinks at our local pub in Nottinghill in the late 90s. Your jurny is a twist of love loss and a better understanding of being. Friend be well. Utter respect from me, Kiwi Joel on the Gold Coast now.
Many many years ago I was working for my Uncle who is a bricklayer / builder to earn a bit more money on my school holidays to buy my first car. He had an apprentice at the time who went to Caulfield Grammar high school and he was also a bit of a troubled youth. He told me he had broken into the principals office and stolen some student records. 1 of which belonged to Nick Cave, he told me there was some wild stuff in that record, but never did elaborate on what was in there. I wonder to this day if it was true. But I do recall growing up in Elsternwick in the 80s/90s there was some graffiti scribbled on the bridge of the train station that read "I love Nick Cave" for some reason it always stuck out. I always wonder who wrote it.
I first met Nick Cave in 1994 and he was such a total different person. His ego then was monumental that people closest to him were having a hard time staying friends with him. I witnessed him being very belligerent and confrontational if he was merely just bored. Still an interesting and at times very funny guy. I think when he married Susie he became a different man and seemed more humble and kind to his fans finally as he could be snarky in the past. Beautiful how a beautiful spirit of woman can make the most stubborn men be humbled by love. He is almost a total opposite of 70s to 90s Cave it’s actually pretty remarkable. Instead of kicking people in the face of people of the front row he now hugs and makes kindly contact . Susie is an amazing lady.
