I needed to night wean my son (3rd child) last week at 15 months, and had *no* idea how - he's always been nursed to sleep and throughout the night as we cosleep. I watched your last video and was so encouraged, it was literally the only resource I used and just did it. And my experience was so similar to yours. Waaaaay less crying than I had anticipated... Thank you for the encouragement!!
I so appreciate your honesty in the update. Was expecting you to say, “two week update and we are sleeping through the night solidly” I was pleasantly surprise… because we all have set backs and things change when the kids get sick and when the parents do etc. I have breastfed all three of my babies and I’m contemplating night weaning while co sleeping. It’s such a winding journey. Thanks for your honestly, I saw myself in you and isn’t that what we are all on here (RU-vid) looking for.
Omg this was so helpful! I'm currently in this situation. I co-sleep with my 6month old and exclusively breastfeed, and it has been a challenge to get her to sleep through the night without nursing. I spoke to the pediatrician about this and she suggested I put her in a separate room entirely and let her cry it out, but I just didn't feel comfortable with that. I have tried night weaning and have failed, mainly because I gave in to the nursing just so that I could sleep. Lol. But hearing your experience has inspired me to try again and be consistent. I'm glad to hear that you rocked your baby back to sleep. So many people are against rocking your baby back to sleep. I feel like it sets you up for failure if you can't nurse, rock or pick up your baby to comfort them. Anywho, thanks for making this video I feel re-energized and inspired to try again.
Thank you so much❤ thanks to you now I sleep 5 hours minimum without feeding a baby in 1.5 years🎉🎉🎉 before your video I didn't know that it's possible to feed your baby to sleep and for her not to wake up every 2 hours 😅
We recently night weaned and your first video was really helpful to find the courage to do it and know what to (maybe) expect. We also switched baby to his own room with floor bed at the same time. Partner took the night shifts for a week and it went well. It has felt so great to stop bed sharing and nursing through the night, and the number of wake ups were reduced significantly. I'm amazed at my little one's ability to adapt. :)
Thanks for the helpful video! I'm ready to wean my exclusively breastfed cosleeping almost 16 month old son. He's my 3rd baby, we have 3 boys. I have loved our breastfeeding journey but whew im tired! I am missing my adhd meds which i haven't been able to take since i was pregnant with our 3yr old! Even though I weaned my 3yr at 22m while pregnant, I didn't have a plan. It took longer than it needed to. I'm glad I found this video and can now make a good plan! I hope to be done in a month for our 5th wedding anniversary. Our first chance for a child free night since our wedding night! 💜
This is the video I needed. I’m 26 weeks pregnant and my 17 month old still nurses to sleep and nurses frequently throughout the night. I’ve tried night weaning so many times, but always cave because I can’t stand just letting her cry. It needs to happen though because the dry nursing is painful, and I have no idea how I’ll manage a newborn and a nursing toddler
@@kayoss2306 around 16-18 weeks was when I noticed a significant decline. I’m still producing a tiny bit, but it’s only drops when I try to hand express. Congrats on your pregnancy! 😊
In a similar boat. Curious if you exclusively breastfeed and if so, how you knew your milk supply was dropping? I don't know how to tell but have been wondering.
@@oceanbreeze671 not exclusively breastfeeding because she eats solids, but she’s never had a bottle. I could tell my supply was dropping when my boobs stopped feeling as full between nursing, and I stopped being able to hand express as much. As this point when I try to hand express it’s barely a drop, so I know I’m still technically producing, just a very small amount.
@@elizaking5148 oh yes, sorry that is what I meant about exclusively breastfeeding! Didn't put together the totality of what that meant with solids and everything. I meant no bottle as you said 😅 thank you for your answer! That's helpful!
I was waiting for this video! Because I really liked your first. My son is 13 months, we co sleep and nurse all night long. It got too much and I I have been wanting to wean the nights for a while. We started one night not intentionally, when he was just crying for “too” long I couldn’t go back so I said now we start. Tonight will be night 4. It’s going good but not there yet.
I’m also co-sleeping and nursing through the night. My daughter is now 20 months old and my period naturally came back around 15 months. At that time she was still nursing about 4-5 times per night. Currently she is nursing about 3-4 times per night.
Thanks for the video! Breastfeeding is getting uncomfortable at 14 weeks pregnant and I still haven't night weaned our 2 year old, basically out of being too tired to stay up for hours at night. I know I'll have to do it soon though so thanks for the push just to go for it.
I have a 10 almost 11 month old and am wanting to wean her at 1 year and I'm pretty nervous about the hormonal changes. I don't handle my hormones very well. I love getting the quick snuggles from my baby! The majority of the time I pick her up she snuggles into me and I hear her giggle and start kicking a little! Especially if her big sister comes and hugs us too!
I feel you! Do what works for you, as long as you're happy with it. :) When/ if you're ready for a change: maybe you can try and get support for the transition and try it out? We did a week of partner taking night shifts and offering bottles just to see how it went (I stayed with friends at night and pumper). Baby basically stopped taking milk really fast and was happy with just comforting from dad, and wake ups were reduced significantly, so we decided to go for it.
Wantin to write to you a huge sisterhood love letter but havin just a thumb available (baby on the bood is using the second hand). So just lettin you know: thank you for all the sharings and I love you! 🤘💜✊🧡
Girlfriend I don’t know how you kept the co sleeping train going- we forced our kid to learn to sleep on his own since 10 months he’s sleeping 12 hours straight like a champ … it’s painful to sleep train but so so so worth it
My 8 month old wakes up 6 times a night, nurses for 4 mins goes bacj to sleep. Its more of a habit now and im SO tired of not getting enough sleep. Maybe i’ll try this
You mentioned night weaning didn’t help your first baby sleep through the night, did the night weaning reduce wakings with your second? Did people find the night wakings reduced after weaning? I have a 13 month old and we bedshare and have been holding off from sleep training to see if she would grow out of it.
You said you did some day weaning, did you space your nursing sessions or just removed one afternoon session? My 13mo still nurses every 2-3 hours during the day and has a very similar sleep and wake schedule as your baby.
I have stopped nursing during the day except in very rare circumstances where something has her really really upset (not tantrums, but she hurt herself and is sad and not being comforted by anything else), but she just turned 2 and we still nurse to sleep and I am so ready to be done. It feels so daunting for some reason, even though day weaning was pretty easy.
I had no plan to night wean when we sleep trained at 5 months, but babe night weaned herself! I don't remember the hormone crash, though now 5 months later and I still haven't gotten my period back despite full 12hr nights not nursing! Bodies are just wild.
I cosleep and my first she was hard to comfort first tried at day naps and she was so mad but found back scratches or squeezeing her foot or hands and she would fall asleep. So we did that but then went on vacation stayed in a hotel and she was again fussy and I gave in for everyones sanity so it took another month to get fully off nursing. My milk is drying up with my second child at night and she has not really understood can't find comfort so day naps are long and nights she is up every couple of hours I am not ready at 20 months 18-24months was my goal with both but this might be my last baby and I am taking longer realizing nursing is about to be over for good. Also my hormones are terrible prior to pregnancy and now are just as bad nursing helped but also never had that snuggly feeling most of the time it made me want to push away and I just had to ignore this awful feeling. So will be nice to just sleep soon with out nursing. Best of luck❤
I would love to hear about this too! I only have one right now (10 months) and cannot fathom the idea of going through pregnancy and caring for an infant again, even though I would like a second child in theory.
I’m trying to night ween my son and I’m so afraid. Me and his father split up so breastfeeding through the night has been my biggest help but I’m worried about his teeth :/
Worried about his teeth?! No girl don’t do it for that. I know there’s a ton of info saying it’s bad it doesn’t make any sense for our bread milk to cause problems. By design we nurse through the night (all animals do) Don’t let that be the reason you stop. Heyshayla.com/podcast I just did a podcast with a wholistic pediatric dentist and she touches on this! I’m sorry about the split, keep up the bf if you want to🙌
It was all me for the night wean because i felt the same way you did but once we were moving our son into sleeping in his own room thats when my husband took over. It was definitely great bonding for them because he was already used to having us both in bed together so having one of us sit with him, read and comfort him at night really helped that transition. My husband still does bed time with him and they both love it ❤️ sometimes we miss having him in our room but on the rare occasion hes sick and sleeps with us it reminds us why we wanted our bed back 🤣 especially since we will have another baby in our room very soon.
Man I wish nursing kept my period away lol. I got it back at around 6 weeks pp both times. Exclusively breastfed - my oldest til 2.5 when I was almost due to deliver our second and our second is still nursing at 18 months old. I have no idea how and when I’ll wean him since the pregnancy/newborn pushed the issue last time.
Took to my usually trusted FB group about night weaning and was brought here (have been an avid watcher for a whiiiile, so idk how I’ve missed this?!) and I’m feeling so much more prepared to do this. Planning to go with the Farmer’s Almanac guide for weaning - have you heard of this sorcery? 😂 So going to be prepping my guy for the next three weeks or so until we’re ready to tackle night weaning. I personally feel such a connection to him through breastfeeding, but I’m getting so touched out with his night wakings (and the twiddling 🥴). I guess 15mo of cosleeping and nursing on demand can do that to you. 😅 Don’t want to give up milk altogether, but would love to feel like my body is *somewhat* mine again. Thanks for always being such a great resource for all the things I’m into. 🥰
I’m trying to night ween my son and I’m so afraid. Me and his father split up so breastfeeding through the night has been my biggest help but I’m worried about his teeth :/
The body is amazing. We co sleep and i was hoping with co sleeping and breastfeeding that I wouldnt get my period back for a while. However got it back at 3 months postpartum. Hormones' are wild. Thank you for sharing so honestly. I listen to your podcast and haven't been on instagram since your episode with Lynzy I feel so present now and less mom guilt. 🙏💛
11:05 would you be able to do a video on meal ideas please!! I’ll look through your channel in case you did one more recently, but I’d love some ideas like that coconut rice one!
Omg I’m winging it like 100% of the time lol We do a lot nutritional yeast, (and Mayo 😂), avocado, cereal, beans, hummus eggs, I’ll heat up soup and give the baby the contents on the soup, my roasted broccoli Big fan of black berries and pretzels. It’s real hodge podge over here. Try and get a fat, protein, some fruits and veggies.
@@heyshayla awesome, thank you! We also do a lot of avocado. We do yogurt with iron fortified oatmeal for babies, mango, banana, lentil soup with veggies, chicken. And I make a smoothie that my baby loves (plus it helps him poop): prunes, spinach, baby oatmeal, hemp seeds, strawberries. If anyone else has quick meals/snacks, please feel free to add!
Don't be doubting your ability to have a third child while you are in the sick trenches. You and Seth are such a great team and can totally parent as many children as you want. Best of luck in your third baby journey 😄
Thanks for this. So hard to find info bedsharing and weaning. Not related, but when do you think you would put your bed back on a platform vs floorbed. I wan an esthetic bedroom and also want my kids to be safe. Ugh so hard
This helps so much but feeling sooo anxious. Also my 19mo (1st) is still not eating much solids and so picky …and she does not TOUCH a bottle of anything ESP at night. but would love to try for 2n baby. (im exclusively bfeeding and bedsharing).
I know you’re a mom and that means you’re busy, but can you do a video a day? (Kidding) I just love watching your videos. Thank you for being so real and adding humor to it all!
Thank you for the update! It is so raw and real! You can be on a good trajectory and then something happens! I can imagine it is probably hormones and sickness combined- makes everything worse! Praying you can get more stability soon!
Any tips for a toddler that hates cuddles? His whole mood changes dramatically after nursing (SO happy) & without nursing he gets very angry & cries non stop
Have to find what makes him feel comfortable. So challenging!’ Patting, shushing, singing, some space, laying with him, rocking him, football hold, etc. Good luck!
Heeeelllppp anyone my problem isn’t the fact that my lo night nurses it’s the simple fact he refuses to drink from anything else he sleeps through the night and if he wakes up he doesn’t require nursing he’ll just snuggle me to sleep how do I wean him onto a bottle
I appreciate your videos and podcast so much! Thank you. Asking for advice for myself, can you share if/how someone else puts her to bed if nursing to sleep is the typical routine? We do that too ;)
So i currently co sleep/ bed share and haven't night weaned yet. I now have herniated disc's and severe back pain. Baby is almost 9 months and may have to wean soon because laying on my side is killing me. Your video is gonna def help me. Btw... Do you use any specific kind of mattress to protect your back while bedsharing/ feeding
Going to try this with my 18months old. She bottle feeds, not breast feeds, but I’m 37wks pregnant and cannot fathom still getting up for her bottle and feeding a newborn every 2hrs in the very near future.
I co-sleep with my 11 month old daughter and she’s breastfed but her doctor says it’s time to ween completely and start her on whole milk because she will be 1 in 4 weeks and me and hubby are trying for another baby . But idk how to ween without the engorgement and her screaming and crying 😭 it’s really hard and I always give in but I wanna stop so bad idk what to do
Thank you. When did you wean your 1st? My boy is 25 months old. We have managed to get him from a sidecar cot in our room to a floor bed in his own room. I'm 27 weeks pregnant. He still wakes up at night then about 3 or 4 times atm. It would be the dream to get him from what he is now to going to sleep with boob and only having cuddles during the night until morning. I feel more motivated to try this. Did you ever end up mixing it up with your partner? How did shared responsibility go for night wake ups? Would you say it worked well for you to keep it consistently you initially for the weaning?
What do you do about your other daughter in bed with baby is crying? That’s what always messes me up. My son screaming to nurse wakes up my daughter in bed with us.
Mine sleeps like am absolute log unless it’s morning time. If we all wake up early bc of it it’s not ideal but it’s part of the cisleeping package. Could consider trying to get her in her own space? We sleep trained aj with bedrocksleep.com between 18-24 months and is recommend her IF that’s what you want to do
If you weren’t trying to get your period would you wait longer to wean? I have a 6 month old and would like to get mine back before a year, but know he isn’t actually eating his solids yet, more just playing so I’m thinking about nutrition. I’d like to breastfeed as long as possible, but eventually, yeah, need that period! Just curious if you wait until a year for that balance of nutrition and wanting another?
