When Kate Wakefield found love in her 50s with Adrian Prout, she thought she had met the man of her dreams. Little did she know, she was deadly wrong. #Atruestory #NightmareinSuburbia
@@tantalize5795 I wonder about that. But damn, I am so set in my ways, I am probably no prize, lol. I still seem to get a fair amount of attention which I don't understand. I'm certainly not putting out any "vibes", pretty much the last thing on my mind! I'm not sure I could take on somebody else's... Well, everything.
@@forgiven5919Wonder what you'd say once you go through the comment section and find out that this tantalize character you're responding to is actually siding with the ruthless murderer and running down Kate, her looks and all!
Exactly 💯. Same thing if he shows signs of coercive control-being jealous, trash talking your family/close friends, or telling you how to dress. I kept running into these losers in my 20s and they always turned physically and/or emotionally abusive (when I immediately left) It isn't easy with children which I don't have, but you might be escaping with your life and theirs. If I were still dating, I would also do background checks.
Why would you give up your independence in your 50s? Why shackle yourself to a person who brings their issues including exes, children, mood swings with them. No lows, no highs. Keep it like that.
*someone* has never felt love and doesnt understand how imperative it can be to human thriving. human beings are social, yearn for that kind of acceptance and comfort. so much so that we can overlook red flags if they are present. no need to have that tone when the woman is dead.
@@colorblockpoprocks6973 Not everyone is as you describe. I can safely say I wouldn't miss the red flags. I don't need someone else to justify my existence. My opinion.
I personally thought the house sitter was a lier because it was obvious they were involved because you would have walked away before now if nothing was going on! She had the cheek to lie and act all moral, knowing what she was doing! What a nasty woman. He was an asshole who had got bored of his wife! He wouldn't have that farm without her! I hope he never gets out!
He was with her because she was the means to get his farm, now she was spare. Kate was obviously hurt and acted accordingly but she did not read his behaviour despite having suffered physical agresion from Adrian in the past. Women don't put up with anyone who disrespect you in any way RIP Kate
TS-rd7oy: No its not best to remain single. It's safe to remain single. No risk in being single. The two became intimate too soon. Neither were mature. Expectations of each were not the same or aligned......different goals. Unwillingness to participate in the activities of interest of their partner. Single or married, each have advantages.
I agree Have friends and social networks, family and date if you want but DON'T go in debt for someone, give them money or access to your assets. Date people who have their own money and home.
Yeah...if my bratty stepdaughter decided to "bail" with the boyfriend, after I'd put in a wholehearted effort into providing a lovely home-cooked meal and then buggered off, never to return, I'd be pissed off too. Just saying. It's just disrespectful no matter how you look at it! They could have eaten and then left. Disgusting.
Exactly, it was appallingly disrespectful behaviour by the stepdaughter, and the fact her brute of a father wasn't angry with her, and didn't defend his wife but instead physically assaulted her, was the time Kate should have seen the light and left him.
He wanted HER farm, HER money, he wanted everything and to out her out of her home. I would be difficult to live with as well if my husband was spending alone time with another woman in MY house and spending MY money under my nose....then treating me like a piece of garbage and putting me down. Thats not high maintenance or difficult. Its wanting human decency.
Exactly! There was no house or farm without Kate! Meanwhile his spoilt rude daughter and mistress are living like leeches off Kate! And expecting Kate to leave them with HER farm!
@@ileanamuntean7338He was a leech - gained a huge farm thanks to Kate and her inheritance. He was a nobody who started strutting around like the Lord of the manner as soon as he got his hands on that huge holding, and then pushed Kate around because he was working and financially in control. Chip on the shoulder turned 'King of the Castle' = a dangerous place for the classy Kate to be in. He was going to try & bring her down , whatever', and he was dead sure that he was keeping that farm.Being the owner of that farm was all he cared about. Kate was just a means to that end, and he soon discarded her in his mind, before eventually discarding her altogether. Horrible man with a social complex. Trailer trash.
From start he was narcistic opportunists, he didn't contribute towards household, he moved in his adult daughter without any regards towards his new wife... All this red flags, she really should walk away , regardless of the money !!! Sometimes less is more...
Given they were married you can understand them buying a home together. But Kate had no children. So clearly Adrian was going to leave the farm to his daughter. They should have had a pre-nup written by lawyers to say how the farm will be sold and split on the event of divorce. And no, the sister-in-law was wrong, Kate shouldn’t have told Adrian where she was when she left the first time. Given the violence they should have been telling her to stay with them and they will protect her. Help her sort things out in privacy.
A lot of lonely people looking for ‘someone’ to be in their lives regardless who that ‘someone’ is, tragically that’s when they are being taken advantage of or even be killed by the desperate decision they made! Adrian is one of the unworthy ‘someone’ Kate refused to open her eyes to see the truth. Adrian showed Kate his true color and who he REALLY was from day one but KATE still refused to see it so ultimately lead to her untimely demise! So many red flags here in this story was ignored by Kate. Not to be victim blaming but to learn from this tragic true story for all of us.😢
@@hirainawhaanga6253 I never understood why women bring in some nanny or whatever into their homes, and it’s always some attractive young thing, that is way too much temptation for a man, the wives are really stupid. Mrs Doubtfire is the limit of what I would trust there, lol.
The Sister-in-Law has done Kate proud here with her clear, concise articulation of the events leading up to her death. This murderer was a ‘nobody’ without Kates money which he knew about when he first met her. He got comfortable and no doubt walked the land like he was something special. He wanted to have his cake and eat it too, she may have been ‘difficult’ at times but then aren’t we all, no excuse for what he did and the mental cruelty he put the family through.
Exactly, he is the perfect example of the worst type of parasite. His only recreational activity was to shoot poor innocent animals, eliminating any form of life. When this kind of people get some power they become SCUM. She was no dumb, he knew how to manipulate people. He made his daughter believe that K was well and alive, that this was all a scheme to frame him.
If you're living with a complete POS, you become difficult. When I left my ex, I hated the person I had become while I was with him. Towards the end, I got annoyed and even nauseated every time I saw his face or heard his voice, and I couldn't stand watching him eat.
Once, a boyfriend slapped me, and then and there the relationship was over. He was the first and only boyfriend to put his hands on me, but I knew had I continued the relationship, he would've eventually seriously harm me or taken my life. This woman was much older than me, but much less wiser.
The daughter is a scumbag too, the apple didn't fall far from the tree! Kate was kind enough to let her move in with them, and she treated her stepmother like dirt.
This man is a narcissist. Asked her to come back only to torture her, then tried to make her look like the instigator. Half the fights he claimed are strangely NOT mentioned in her diary yet everything else is. Hes a bottom feeder that would not have had that farm without her. He lived in a Caravan when they met
I will never understand why people think its a good idea to murder rather than part with money in a divorce. Due to his greed, he wont be running his precious farm anymore anyway since he's now in prison. Greed was his undoing.
Funny you said that, Because I was thinking along those lines. " Oh. I want to keep this farm.......Maybe I can kill her and hide the body.......". When one is evil they do stupid things thinking they are so smart.
People who have never been in a narcissist relationship have no understanding of reactivate abuse, trauma bond or narcissist abuse and flying monkeys. Everyone should educate themselves. Those who have survived, know exactly what im talking about
I expect she does but he was her dad & she loved him Her own brother didn't believe his best friends guilt even taking him in while the police searched for her body... None of her family even those who say they suspected something "bad" had happened went to the police to report her missing... The whole thing is strange
It's a very dangerous time when a divorce is on going, best to go and stay with family or friends. Especially in this case where he is facing losing the farm.
Although in most cases there is no violence and if you leave you kind of prove you are housed elsewhere and often get less so lawyers would say don't leave. In fact as he had been violent she was a very good case to get a non molestation order and exclusion of him from the farm pending the divorce I would have thought.
Abusers sometimes hide their violence, some recognize them straight away, but other's could never even realize. That poor poor woman. Kate - you did not deserve this outcome..
@@steviboyy Very much so. He may have hid a violent streak, but she certainly didn't bother. Launching plates at him and battering him around public houses. I suspect if this had happened the other way round the woman would get off with "self defence" as a "battered woman".
@@Stephanie-zd5im In the case of female abusers it's interesting to note that they often don't even feel like they have to. She was battering him about in public.
Ah - ha ha. Man, don't you just love the psychology of putting him in that huge, gigantic pink couch. The cops are masterminds. He looked like a pimple on a pumpkin and this would have made him feel small, diminutive, timid and scared. One of the best interview settings I've ever seen after watching hundreds of these kind of things!
So Laura had problems getting used to her father's new wife - who invited Laura into her home...what a brat! As to her rude behavior towards Kate and all the preparations she had done for their holiday meal, Laura's biological mother didn't teach her any manners.
Thank you so much for posting. In my opinion, this is one of the best created & produced crime series. It's the perfect mix of recollections from real people involved and actors' reconstructions + good narration that's not overly dramatic. I'm also quite partial to UK programs 😊 *Please keep posting Nightmare In Suburbia* ~Thanks again @A True Story ~Greetings all from across the pond 🇨🇦 😊
@@janesmith9024 There's a 2023 version of this series? Do you know what network/channel I can find it? I have VPN so I have access to other countries other than where I am in Canada. ~Thanks for your response if you know. Btw, I've searched for seasons 1&2 and can't find them anywhere.
It's pretty hard to actually cook a delicious soup then to also cook decent tasty food for a large group. Kate only wanted a little appreciation & respect.(Love ) Kate was a beautiful lady especially for her age. Quality time for busy spouse's are meant to be shared together not with house sitters male or female (we see how that one turned out).Tragic loss. Many condolences to Kate's family 😢
Narcissists enjoy provoking a reaction from you-be that attention from you or anger. They revel in controlling others. Also people notoriously argue with siblings. If you took the husband out of the equation she'd likely be described as laid back! Many people describe narcissitic on-off relationships like rollercoasters - it's him not her character.
Poor Kate she had all her life to live just what to say I hope they never let him out of prison and throw the keys away xx sending love to her family xx bless her xx😊
After Googling this story, he later confessed to the murder and led police to a spot on the farm where human remains determined to be his wife's were found. At least she got a decent burial.
I always wonder what the actors doing the reconstruction think. RIP to Kate. My sympathy to the family. Getting a man with so much emotional baggage was a bad idea. Also he sounds like a leech.
What a sad tragedy! 😢 She was a beautiful woman, why did she not listen to her own advice. She wrote down what was happening to her, the abuse, he told her that he didn’t love her. Why would she stay. I don’t understand why we give so many chances, when everything around us is broken. I pray they find her body and justice will be done. 😢😢😢😢
@@MariaArmendariz-nt8bj 🤣😂. She seemed to always start something that she couldn't finish, then cry foul - like most aggressors. No wonder he fell out of love. 🤷🏽 Lesson: Be careful who you push around and do not underestimate just how far that person will allow it - because it may end in m...... At least her family could give her a final farewell. 😌
@@tantalize5795 No reason to kill some one. Be man enough to walk away and leave everything behind. Or split everything in half, by law. Not take the law in your own hands. This would be the right thing to do.
He tried to run her down but she was a good looking woman; nothing to run down there. I would say to the sister in law and brother you took Kate in no matter what, you treated her with kindness and stood by her, you will have some rewards come to you in life for that; he confessed and I hoped that means you got the farm; a little piece of Kate back
To any man who is pushed around and publicly embarassed infront of friends by a so-called "good-looking" woman - those good looks diminish very, very quickly and so do any romantic feelings. SIDENOTE: I understand everyone has different eyes when it comes to attractiveness, however I do not think she was a particularly nice-looking woman. At her age she was very basic. IJS. 😊
I believe under English law you cannot profit from your own wrong although perhaps he keeps his own half of the farm as I expect the owned half each. I hope even if they held it as joint tenants he did not get her half - any solicitor newly involved in potential divorce should tell the client to make a new will and also "sever the joint tenancy".
@@tantalize5795 in this case: to any man who is provoking your wife to make her seem like the one at fault by bringing it into the public eye-- cut that shit out. then you'll stop being so embarrassed.
The guy is a narcissist - he is only interested in sex, money, power and control. That's it. No empathy. He got her back to have sex and play his power games. He displays clear narcissistic rage. 95% of killers are known to the victim. Most will be laying next to them in the bed either now or before. Divorce fuels the rage, the money resentment and this power dynamic. So many murders are down to divorce resentment.
*_>Domestic violence (BOTH sides in this case) >Financial gains/losses >Greed >Revenge >Jealousy (real or imagined) >Desperation_* .... Pick any two items and it could be easily be a mess. In this case, it had it ALL. It was never going to end well. The only 'good' thing was there were no children between them to suffer this ordeal. ~Ladies and gentlemen, go through lawyers and end things as quickly as possible.
Women never stick to their guns - Kate should have gone forward with divorce proceedings, instead of allowing Adrian to lead her on. I cannot imagine tolerating a "husband" who treats me so terribly. smh
Based on my 45 years experience with my marriage, I will never marry again after my wife leaves me or dies. I have lost a lot of myself.But I will never hurt my wife.
Why don't you leave her? You sound very resigned to having less than what you feel you deserve. You may be doing her a favor by leaving too, in the end.
I have a problem with the detective's almost justifying the husband's stresses therefore motives for his actions. Although Kate may not have acted well at times, she was definitely put under huge stress by the husband, daughter and house sitter - they were culpable. Adrian was a bastard
I agree. They made it sound as if she were the culprit by annoying Adrian and that he was almost justified in killing her. If I were the family, I’d be very unhappy with the way this story is portrayed.
Maybe the officer is divorced himself or was going through one and has a certain view, this is possibly what appears to be his sympathy towards the husband.
Agree. She was under enormous stress and the only way she could express it or have an outlet was to drink too much making her appear the unreasonable one, when the true abusive partner was keeping his narcissistic treatment of Kate well hidden.
UPDATE since this aired: Human remains have been discovered by officers searching for Kate Prout, who was murdered by her husband in 2007. November 24, 2011: On Friday, Adrian Prout took police to Redhill Farm at Redmarley, in Gloucestershire, to show them where he had buried his wife's body.
I love how everyone in her life are forcing Kate to apologise for his manipulation and unfaithfulness. Seems like they are more worried about appearances than her safety or well being.
I'm not sure if it's true in the UK, but not in the US if you are in the middle of a divorce. Joint marital assets must be agreed upon when divided, no one person can take them, spend them or hide them, and I believe at that time they were already moving forward with divorce proceedings.
Well, I guess it might apply in war or for police in certain circumstances, but lawfully killed is ridiculous otherwise. There was a young man here in the UK who was executed by police on a London bus the day after a terrorist attack. He turned out to be totally innocent.
I'm 42 now and I view relationships, women, and all that very differently now. People get married as if something substantial will fall out of the sky for them but.... the days, months, years, are all up to them and how they make it. I'm single and I think I like it. I feel like another human hanging around is only to get something or cause trouble.
I'm 59 My late husband died Christmas Eve 2017. I've met quite a few men and realized, almost everyone has an agenda. My home, property and vehicles are paid off. Men who don't have their own.....want MINE. Always remember Noone falls in love faster than a narcissist. I enjoy being alone. I have friends, family, church a job and my pets....im happy with that. Peace is priceless. You can always have a relationship and not live together or shrink your life
Spouses don’t understand that when they don’t do anything together why be married other then needing a housekeeper, cook and sex but who wants that when you’re unhappy.
Yup. Same can be said about having kids. Don't even think of having them unless you're willing to give up a lot. Some couples go ahead and live their crazy lives without a hitch, until the wheels fall off.
The adult daughter should never have moved in.Also, a leopard never changes its spots. How could she trust him after experiencing domestic violence? And as for the devious 'house sitter'.....very manipulative.
That’s why I just walked away from my house after big arguments with my husband. I decided not to fight. And to have my life instead of half of money from our house. I just walked away.
TRAUMA BOND Everything should study it because noone is immune. Our kids, grandchildren, family and friends or ourselves could easily fall into the abyss
I would not dream of giving a home to any grown up child of my husband .... inevitably, or almost inevitably, they always want to poison your relationship.
@@doriellesoler7502 With that attitude of yours, I wouldn't want one of my parents to get into a relationship with you. Inevitably you would try and destroy my relationship with my parent because you are negative and mean.
The sound went on the last few minutes - I don't know if anyone else had the same thing. So annoying. I'm glad this man got his comeuppamce, although he really deserves the death penalty: being back hanging for murderers!. Kate was a bit of a fool, I think, deliberately yanking his chain, but he was plain evil. He murdered her because he wanted his cosy life, built on her money - it was said that he never gave her any money, but he was obviously making money in various ways - farm, pigs, pipe-laying with his own heavy machinery. Also, he'd already started up a relationship with another woman, and had his daughter. He just wanted poor Kate out of his life. I couldn't hear what his daughter said, but it sounds as though she thinks he was innocent. Definitely not! Kudos to the Police for all their efforts in searching and in getting the case through the Courts and to a guilty judgement.
OMG. Surely no-one bought that chair? As my dad would have said, Jesus - it looks like an afterbirth. He only met Jesus at the pub, and although there were six of us, he had never seen an afterbirth.
A good crime story, but probably could have been condensed into around a 20-30 minute documentary. Having said that, there is an epilogue to the story, which can be easily found using an internet search engine, if anybody's interested.
Materialism destroyed both these guys - the lady and the murderous hubby. Had either of them been a bit less concerned with matters of money there probably never would have been a crime.
@@damienluxford7482 Marriage is between people who love each other and also have a deep friendship. The lady lusted for the younger man and he lusted for her money.
What's that got to do with being murdered? She was murdered for her money, not sure age had anything to do with it. Ageing can be really liberating any way
It was all her money anyway and she had a right to withdraw whenever she wanted to. Who win the God's green earth would have a $15,000 bill for berries that were planted
What's the point of the loud music throughout thr video? I want to understand what's being talked, but that is very difficult and stressful with the loud music at the same time.
@@charlottebruce979you are blessed. My late husband was that way....he was my calm and comfort. Since he died...... The more men I've met, the more I want to be alone
How could she not realise he was only after her money & go back to him? Her diaries reveal she knew nothing was " Normal" between them & she suspected him of having an affair... He had only ever been interested in the farm & the business & he hadn't been afraid to be violent with her in the past... It wasn't a "tradegy" it was a murder waiting to happen It seems as though everyone was aware of exactly what was going on in this toxic marriage...a loving husband would have reported her missing straight away but family & friend's didn't report her missing & tell the police of their fear's for her. I think it was entirely preventable, if she herself had stopped hanging on to a broken marriage & thrown him out weeks/month's before Even her brother & his wife took him in after the police started searching his house looking for evidence of him have murdered her.. it's all very, very strange, twisted & phone predictable
I agree. I was thinking "what kind of people are these?" Then I realized there is definitely more to this story. We are only told two sides of this story. I believe the police. But I have my doubts about the family -did they actually liked Kate or not? There is definitely a lot of baggage we are not privy to.
You have to recognise red flags in a partner's treatment of you, and act on them right away - not ignore them and hope the relationship will get better. It was a hugely bad sign that Adrian took his adult daughter's side over his wife's - your partner should be your priority once your kids are grown ups. What woman wouldn't be annoyed at cooking a meal for her stepdaughter and boyfriend, then watch them rudely walk out the door? A decent husband would have been angry with them too, and defended his wife. Violence is always a clear and unambiguous signal to get out now! Stay with a man who shows you any kind of physical violence, and you might not live to tell the tale. Tragically, that's exactly what happened to poor Kate.
